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The Red Pill changed one of my endgame goals: Marriage. Yet, there are times when I romanticize about that Blue Pill life. What methods have helped you move on form your deeply ingrained Blue Pill mindset?

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May 8, 2019

Been single for over a year and a half now. Discovered you lovely bastards just as I was going through my break up. Thank God.

I was saving up for a ring and thinking of proposing when we had the talk and decided to go our separate ways. I was thankful at the time because I knew I wanted to get laid; yes we had a dead bedroom and I knew it. Better yet, I knew I knew partially it was because I was needy and giving attention freely and having hidden contracts, etc.: the whole ‘Good Guy’ deal. Fucking complacency at its best.

Went through the whole anger phase when we broke up. Upset at her and the world and the reality of The Red Pill. But thank God I didn’t get married. I learned a lot about hypergamy, how women love and to read their actions not their words. Which is why I knew she had moved on and didn’t want to make up even though she said she was ‘considering’ it.

That was over a year and a half ago and I have moved on for all intents and purposes. I still have a visceral reaction to her presents so I maintain all contact at all times (the wound is still healing so I don’t touch it).

Anyways, to the question:

I have decided that I no longer want the wife part of the wife, kids and white-picket fence; instead I want abundance, multiple FWB, large bank account, the FIRE SINK life, and maybe if I can figure it out kids down the line. But every once in a while my ex pops in my mind and I feel the draw of the Blue Pill side. How do you push away that side of your self? I only mentally moved on six months ago and seriously committed myself to everything Red Pill for the past three. And yes, I know reading the sidebar and recommended literature is a must, but anything else? Is it just living The Red Pill that will over write the former Blue Pill mindset? What have you done to help you stay The Red Pill path when The Blue Pill beckons you back?

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Title The Red Pill changed one of my endgame goals: Marriage. Yet, there are times when I romanticize about that Blue Pill life. What methods have helped you move on form your deeply ingrained Blue Pill mindset?
Author relationship_padawan
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Date 08 May 2019 11:31 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]notdoreen129 points130 points  (12 children) | Copy

Getting cheated on was my method. You should try it. Works wonders.

[–]Speedracer1111 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Sadly, he was cheated on also and doesn't realize it.

yes we had a dead bedroom Which is why I knew she had moved on and didn’t want to make up even though she said she was ‘considering’ it.

[–]andreas-mgtow15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sadly, he was cheated on also and doesn't realize it.

Flawless. If she's not fucking you, she is fucking someone else. RP 101.

[–]WindIsMyMusic2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Doesn't RP recognize low libido now? I mean, she MIGHT HAVE cheated on him, but after all a low libido, when she doesn't fuck anybody cause of lack of sex drive — that's a real thing.

[–]tefllifestyle7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

My girl says she has low libido and i clearly see it, but i bang her everytime i see her.

He just doesnt turns her on. Cause if a women wants to please u she wont reject your initiation.

[–]2319Skew45 points46 points  (5 children) | Copy

Naw, it's all about the divorce rape.

Being cheated on can still leave you for hope that not AWALT, but it doesn't compare to the magic of seeing your precious snowflake sitting across from you trying to get 50-80% of your shit with slander, and "winning" by keeping it to just HALF your stuff.

Not only does it go towards her journey towards the post marriage CC but if you have kids, that'll continue till they turn 18.

I can't remember where I heard this but it feels like you are being raped in a police station while the police watch. You'll hear the judge, her lawyer and yours tell you it's just how it's going to be, which is as comforting as knowing that yes you're being sodomized by a 10" but at least it's not 12".

If you still want to marry, you're either stupid, crazy or both.

[–]notdoreen6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Holy shit. Did you go through this?

[–]2319Skew29 points30 points  (1 child) | Copy

I haven't been raped in a police station but I did get divorced rape.

See what people fail to realize is that the half you get to keep goes towards the lawyer you need to pay for to get to keep that half.

[–]notdoreen3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ouch. Another reason not to get married.

[–]chaching1316 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Where I'm at child support now goes to age 23

[–]The-Wizard-of-Oz-1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well put.

[–]TheDero10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy


True tho

[–]WindIsMyMusic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's like getting shot to remind yourself to never forget to wear a bulletproof vest, hehe

[–]whiffofass 1 points [recovered]  (9 children) | Copy

I have been with several married women and heard their perspective. No thanks.

[–]jbpostv12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

The sad thing about marriage and commitment is even a SMV 8/9 will get boring for an HB 8 because it’s the same guy. Currently getting heavy heavy IOI’s from this HB8 in a 5 yr ltr with a college athlete all american chad but even if we’re just as good looking and he’s got more invested, you can’t maintain attraction without fostering uncertainty, dread and drama for women. They need the emotional rollercoaster like they’re in some dumb fucking rom com, so she’s ogling me like he’s a nobody.

[–]Fine_Cut34 points35 points  (3 children) | Copy

Nothing solidifies a lot of red pill theories more than hearing what married women tell you about their partners as they're laying next to you naked in a post-coital heap.

[–]rare_specimen_indeed2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Holy shit. How many times have you done this?

[–]Fine_Cut2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

One time when I knew she was already married. The rest they confessed afterwards to keep it on the DL. About half I suspected had something with a guy but I didn't expect them to be married. I work at a pretty trendy bar on the weekends that occasionally gets coined as a 'cougar den' so I meet a lot of different people, including women.

There was one that really stood out to me: an old highschool crush actually, I was in my hometown on a holiday - she added me on fb afterwards and the profile pic was her in a wedding dress with her husband and I was just like oooookay then. We even went back to her house. That's the one that gets me the most - it appeared to be a relatively new marriage.

Also to be fair I'm probably a bit older than most of the crowd in this sub. Your exposure to married women increases a lot more in your 30's.

[–]rare_specimen_indeed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's brutal

[–]Granite_Pill7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

I banged a chick that is married to a tall, muscular, rich software engineer. He bought her a nice car, she lives in a very nice house, wears expensive clothes, doesn't even have to work, and has all her expenses covered. The icing on the cake is she messed around with me while her husband was out of town caring for his elderly mother who is dying of cancer.

[–]WindIsMyMusic1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well that icing on the cake is beyond simple AWALT. Far beyond it. Fucking disgusting as shit.

The dude made two poor decisions. One was getting married at all, the other one was picking HER.

[–]omega_dawg934 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

this all day!

women love a challenge and once you commit and marry, it's game over for you.

if it doesn't work, she will win no matter what... leaving with at least half your shit, the kids, and by default, she gets to keep 100% of the vagina too.

then you'll be in a one br apt... but paying for the house that chad & tyrone visit 3x per week and fuck on the bed that you used to sleep in.

[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill69 points70 points  (4 children) | Copy

There's nothing wrong with having it all. The benefit of being a man is there is no biological clock that is ticking away. You have the ability to research and live a life you want, trying many iterations.

Your anger comes from the fact that you put a woman first as your purpose. Then when that purpose suddenly disappeared, you were left empty and unsatisfied.

Instead, find your purpose without a woman being the focus. Build a business. Save rhinos in Africa. Become a master sword maker. Then with regards to women always ask "How does this support my mission?"

Put hard and strict filtering in place for the women who get to take part in your life. Set the bar extremely high. If you do want a woman to have children with, that filtering should be very hard to get through. After all, she's the one who will bear your kids and stand by your side when you march through the gates of hell.

I have a wife and kids, and I love life. There's something to be said about watching a little me learn things for the first time. But my mission is first and foremost. They are here to support that.

[–]vb1386810 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

But my mission is first and foremost. They are here to support that.

Good post bro, but I take a bit of issue here. Your child doesn't support your mission, your child IS your mission. Fuck the swords, rhinos, etc. Raising a child you can be proud of is a man's most noble pursuit IMO

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey vb123868, i have a kid and my daughter is not my mission. She is a great part of my life that I value, seeing her grow into a decent human being brings me great joy and lots of fun times, however it requires time and effort both of which I create space for. However it is not my mission.

You may take issue with that attitude, that is ok. you do you. If a child is your mission, when the child grows up and no longer needs you, your mission is gone. So back to square one. I love the parent child relationship, it is unique in that it progresses towards separation and independence.

When the child grows up and moves out, the rhino's and the swords will still be there. . . .well maby the swords, im not to sure about rhino's.

[–]PadThai421 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you man... this is a lot brighter than being some 60 year old man with 5 FWB’s. Don’t got time for that shit. At what point do you decide you want to build an empire and have someone build it with you? Cheating sucks and divorce sucks, but like you said FILTER the fuck out of these women and you’d be surprised at the outcome.

[–]rockyp321 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I like this for the most part but I would say both family and your mission should be your main priority just don’t lose sight of your OG mission in the process

[–]Jampak_500024 points25 points  (9 children) | Copy

there's a website somewhere called; "married men post here if you hate your life" - anyway some guy collated and put together a summarized version of the best posts. I say "best" they were horrific. Anyway, once a year I'll re-read it and it does the trick. Its all dead bedrooms, wives that get fat and lazy, and divorce rape. I think I'll have a look for you. Yeah its easy to find, you're not allowed to post links here anymore but just google search the title I quoted. You're welcome

[–]Jampak_5000 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy

omg its better than I remembered. I've really done you a solid here mate; here's some funny ones;

I was driving back from a meeting this morning, thinking about my wife, and I really wanted to go home, and simply beat the living shit out of her. I have been supporting everyone for years, working my ass off, and my wife has not done one single fucking thing to make my life easier, to encourage me, or to help me with anything that’s bugging me. She’s on the PTA, the board of her preschool, she teaches art at the elementary school, is involved in a book club, and on and on and on. Her calendar is ridiculous. But I am some kind of fucking afterthought. I’m the engine that powers this entire thing, and I haven’t gotten laid in months. She takes care of the children during the week, fine. But we have a housecleaner, because actually cleaning the fucking house is beneath her. We take shirts to the dry cleaner, because she couldn’t possibly iron them. Clean laundry is in piles in the garage, because she can’t be expected to fold it. On weekends, I’m apparently her assistant. I can’t wait for Sunday night to come, when I can get out and head back to the office. And every day there’s some new example of truly shitty behavior — a bad attitude for any human. For example, last night she was at her fucking PTA meeting, which ran from 7 until 11. I went to bed, and had just turned the light out when she shows up at the front door, and starts ringing the fucking doorbell. She didn’t have her keys. She then informed me that she never does. I pointed out that having keys to your own house might be a smart thing to do. And she acts like that’s some kind of major insult, and then launches into a description of what happened at this meeting. I stopped her, and said something like “You know, I was in bed and almost asleep, and you got me up.” It didn’t even occur to her that a) I would actually mind being jerked out of bed by the doorbell; b) I wasn’t interested in a blow-by-blow at that moment. Finally, after years of this, the truth is starting to sink in, and I’m devolving into this serious, angry person to be around. All the normal, considerate stuff I used to do I don’t. I don’t talk to her unless I have to, and not any longer than necessary. She catches me looking at her sometimes, and the expression she sees on my face frightens her, I think. Somewhere along in here, she’s going to ask me if something’s wrong, and I’m going to start screaming at her. I’ve tried marriage counseling. I’ve tried listening, and giving, and being nice. Now, I’m going to try fear and intimidation.

[–]Narcissist4562 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]MindFuktd2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hopefully you can reread what you wrote, step back and laugh a little. Because I know I did.

Fear and intimidation.....I understand the want to get an edge up on your SO, but as your prime focus will only lead to sorrow and misery. Women are cunning players of this game, and I honestly don't even think that half the time they know or are trying.

The answer is with You.

On the other hand, I read your story again, and well, you could drop the nuke, and just blow up on her. At least mentally prepare your bullet points, like you're pitching a $200 million dollar deal. Make sure to be really effective and assertive. When she retaliates with her womanese hamster logic, keep aggressively referring back to your bullet points until she's in a total shock, and crushed. One of the only ways to truly reach her imo.

Good luck, man. Take a vacation, solo, too, if you can.

[–]Granite_Pill1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Don't marry "artistic" women or women in the arts. They tend to be slobs. Teachers too. Most of my teachers had incredibly messy desks.

[–]Jampak_5000-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

what great insight, based on a huge sample survey...

[–]apoc20501 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My wife is artistic, she is the sloppiest person I know personally. Sample goes to 2.

[–]The-Wizard-of-Oz-2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you loads.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

I feel the draw of the Blue Pill side

What about it is appealing? Dead bedroom, being taken for granted, being with someone who doesn't respect you?

This isn't rhetorical: find out what the BP life gave you, or what you thought it gave you. You need to know this about yourself to prevent backsliding.

What have you done to help you stay The Red Pill path when The Blue Pill beckons you back?

I remember the reality of longterm dating and monogamy. I remind myself that "this too will change, just like they always do". I tell myself that was is true today will not be true tomorrow.

Female feelings are selfish and transient even when honest. Not a good idea to sign into law a contractual financial obligation to her.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

I still do want a ‘wife’ (non-legally) and kids. The difference post-TRP is I understand I’ll have to vet pretty intensely, which to some degree I already knew. I also won’t legally marry as I see no benefit. I also don’t expect a women to ever be 100% faithful, so I have my own side projects at all times. If I fuck 100 girls and she fucks 1 guy, who cares?

[–]biezpiens9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

guy can fuck 100 women and still love just one, women cannot do the same.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I'm aware. But if I'm with a girl who I deem "wife material" and she's, say, HB7 or HB8, and on the side I'm fucking loads of girls similar tier to her and a model-looking HB9 here and there, you really think she won't love me? If we flipped the scenario and I posted from the perspective of her next guy, people would probably say she's alpha widowed at the end. And you may say that, in this scenario, the girl wouldn't cheat if the guy is that high value. But women are irrational and prone to mistake-making in the moment. Now, if she consistently fucked this guy (as in a genuine affair), your point would uphold better.

[–]biezpiens0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

she doesnt love you if she fucks other dudes cuz if she loved you she wouldn't be interested in fucking anyone else but you

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

By this logic, girls can never love anyone. I think for every single guy out there, there's another guy a girl would cheat on him for. Maybe it's Channing Tatum, Chris Brown, a drug dealer down the street--doesn't matter. And if she was with that guy, there's people she'd cheat on him with too. Girls are just not loyal like men are. I guess, by that thinking, girls can't love anyone.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think red pill only scratches the surface of the human male archetype. If we look at males throughout time, only the most successful ones mates with offspring, which is likely where the alpha male was bred in our past. I don’t think wanting to be with one person for an extended period of time is necessarily blue pill, there’s just a red pill way of going about it. And I don’t think the idea is to RED PILL ALL DAY BRO, but more so learning enough red pill to know when to use it.

This sub very often misses the king archetypical male for the knight or prince archetype if you’re into archetypical psychology, but none the less the king archetype is the end goal, and the king is besieged with a queen.


I say besieged because there was a dialect between Socrates and Plato at some point about how pussy corrupts men and holds them down. A queen can hold that aspect of you down, while promoting your endeavors elsewhere in your life. & I get this sub was probably meant to help dudes game women, but there’s so much more to life and the red pill lifestyle than just gaming women lol.

You could be king, is what it eludes to imo

[–]Poltergeist-God28 points29 points  (9 children) | Copy

The moment you slip the ring on their finger , they already start to plan the divorce. Understand this , if nothing else. They all leave eventually , since their attraction is always time limited. And the more you tie your life with them , the more they will destroy you. Commitment is always a one way street. Nothing will stop them sleeping behind your back with other men, not marriage,not kids. Either they will walk out of your life , or they will do something so horrible that you better throw them out.

Don't be Mr Right. Mr Right is just a weak willed schmo with a fat wallet that they plan to suck dry while screwing behind his back with losers.

Things weren't always like this , but they are TODAY. Marriage and commitment are a scam to make your powerless(powerless as in , police comes in throws you out of the house , hands everything to your wife and shoots you in the face if you say boo about it- type of scam).

[–]PickleWickleton7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is MGTOW talk, take it with a grain of salt and stick to advice from the main contributors, OP

[–]phoenix_md1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

Find religion mate. The good girls are religious and any one of these ladies worth her salt wouldn’t marry a man who wasn’t also religious.

I myself am living the dream. Close to 7 figure salary, multiple kids, fantastic dad, take time for my hobbies. My wife of 15+ years cooks, cleans, does the finances responsibly, and raises the kids as a stay-at-home mom. I did need the red pill several years ago but now with that knowledge my sex life (and hers) have never been better. Sex far more often than most of the folks on this sub. And she’s hot.

Is she a unicorn? No, man, those don’t exist. But if you can submit yourself to God, she’ll submit to you. You can live and love like your heart has always wanted to.

[–]Satanslittlebuddy 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

90% of the sloots I fuck are "religious". Guess what...AWALT

[–]ganz_allein-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

How many are married? To a doctor making a million?

[–]VictorEremitaK1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Imaging thinking you are redpill and still believe in the ultimate blue pill fantasy.

[–]phoenix_md0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I don’t claim to be redpill. I claim to have taken the redpill and applied that knowledge to my marriage.

I’m not living an ultimate fantasy, it’s a reality. And IMHO It’s far better than living with a bunch of STDs or having to use condoms every time.

[–]VictorEremitaK0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I was referring to the belief in a god.

[–]phoenix_md0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So you don’t believe in God. Well let me ask you, how do we know something is “living”? We all inherently know what is life and what is not life. Non-life is matter that which obeys the laws of physics, laws that lead to chaos instead of structure. Life is that which organizes from simple to more complex. Life evolves, thwarting every principle and law of physics.

But you want me to believe that life somehow just happened by chance. Without a cause. Just an accident of physics.

Nope, not buying it. You go ahead and remain a blue pill believer in “science can do anything!”. I’ve taken the red pill and know that a Creator was necessary for life to come about.

[–]ganz_allein-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wonder if that’s a BP fantasy. I did decide very early on that I only want to marry a religious person. But it’s so hard to find one nowadays. But if you’re a doctor making a million a year I hope your wife is genuinely happy.

[–]rnsbrum2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Its all about you mindset. Build a strong stoic mindset, meditate and reprogram your thoughts.

I too struggle with the BP side of life, but that only happens when I'm purposeless or not winning. Once you start slaying life and conquering the rewards, it goes away pretty quickly.

Stop feeling guilty for yourself, thats the way of the weak.

[–]RStonePT4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

deleted What is this?

[–]No1Buck2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Examine your motivations and why you want those things, learn about evolutionary psychology, study the stoics and pessimists, take a more realistic view about what is possible to achieve in life.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Overlay the pussy of the one with the pussies of the many.

[–]Enzuq2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very good, so you have read and studied redpill, but have you applied anything?

Also for me, its gym

[–]Quo2102 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Look around you how 9 out of 10 men in marriage are miserable little things with shriveled masculinities that can not even talk with freedom because they fear the wrath of the hag they chained themselves to.

Women are uncapable of responsably managing authority and power, and marriage grants too much to them. Marriage is a suicide move for suicidal men, remain observant and you'll overcome your indoctrination.

[–]Scribblerg12 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I hate admitting this but one of the only things that keeps my Red Pill fangs sharp is juggling multiple plates. Also, be in aggressive male hierarchies, playing team sports or somehow competing in that rough and tumble way men do.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey new guy, there is an entire section of the red pill devoted to married life.

Many of us are happily married.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Remember that the Red Pill catalogues tactics, not a lifestyle.

These tactics make women adore you. What you do with that adoration is entirely up to you.

I have lived with my LTR for many years, spin plates on the side when I feel like it, and am now in the process of promoting a second LTR who looks as if she is going to prove worthy, with a little polishing. She might get to move in with us if things work out.

So if you thought the ability to consistently pull chicks from nightclubs was the endgame, you were sadly mistaken. Did you think you couldn't have love? Of course you can. You just have to practice your game and improve yourself, until women start seeing you as a god.

Then they will not only go along with any type of lifestyle you want, but be deliriously happy to be included in it.

There is nothing in the Blue Pill fantasy that you can't make attainable with Red Pill reality and a metric fuckton of hard work.

[–]dorgan641 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

spinning plates

[–]sebastianconcept1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Having more and better plates will help you neutralize desire and fantasies about her. Specially if you find another woman that’s eventually better for you, even as plate.

BTW, just fo you to know, a crazy plate told me once that after having a 4 days sex marathon with me, 24h later she went to fuck a plate of her “to get me out of her head and it didn’t worked”. I’m not sure if I alpha widowed her or not but geez what an unsolicited truth-bomb she dropped on me.

[–]jbpostv1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tbh sexual non-monogamy is the way to go. You demonstrate abundance and security by fostering this in a LTR/marriage and can choose to include competition in the bedroom as often as you want. When you think about it, it’s that lack of competition, jealousy, mystery and excitement that nullifies attraction in captivity. Spice it up and have a harem. Make your wife your filthy whore again.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Try reading the bullshit men deal with in single/divorced dads Facebook groups. Or even try reading the kind of bullshit MRP (married red pill) have to deal with on the daily.

Think of the cost of a wedding and think of what they money could but you...

Don’t do it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly gentlemen --

I have a mid-salary. Living on my own, I can work out and improve a little in my career, but at 44, I cant bank on changing career or making way bigger bucks. I missed that boat. I dont want to be married, if youre honest for a minute few men really do. A lot of them get married in order greatly reduce expenses...with someone who they get along well with and can trust (and fuck). It's about expenses. Way harder to support a child alone and pay your mortgage etc alone. If I was a made man, say a hundred thousandaire even, I would never marry. Of course not. But at 44, thats not an option I can bank on. not on my salary with a kid from a previous marriage and child support. if I was 20 or 30, it would be possible. but reality doesnt afford that to everybody.

im talking about finances/career. now fitness i fucking own, no question there.

[–]Noctis_Cloud1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Here’s my advice, it might get downvoted to hell but either way here it is:

Talk to almost anyone married. Male or female, doesn’t matter. When you think Red Pill, you always think from a male perspective, but it’s good to hear from women, because it all rings true.

Being tethered to anything is not a pleasant feeling. Being somewhere because you want to be there is great. People get sick and tired of the same shit every day. Imagine eating the same food every single day. Imagine watching the same movie, every single day. That’s marriage and kids. It sucks. That’s why I don’t have a anger phase with women. Not anymore. They get sick of the same shit just as much as we do. Being red pill isn’t about treating women lesser, or creating some invisible barrier to protect yourself like a weird incel. It’s about understanding the reality of human nature and exposing the programming society does to both men and women. Life isn’t about constant, life is about change. If you try to force a constant, it’s just going to fail. Till death do us part? Yeah I guess if I was actually held to that there’s a good chance I would kill myself.

[–]dukes19980 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing wrong about wanting to have kids and be married. TRP is about doing whatever you want, because it is what you want. Lots of people have very happy and healthy marriages.

[–]macheagle0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

OP, may I ask about your relationship with your family or specifically your parents? Did you come from a broken home by any chance? As you remind me of many of my friends who come from certain environments that caused their BP tendencies. I can explain more about that if so.

[–]ChadBraddington0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'd like to hear more about the link between BP and broken homes, if you don't mind. The obvious one is lack of a father figure, but i had a great relationship with my dad. The issue was my drug addicted mom.

I assume that childhood trauma is at the root of any BP tendencies, but would like to hear about your thoughts on linkages.

[–]Ivabighairy10 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Women don’t marry for money

They divorce for it

[–]tony88320 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

New pussy.

[–]prodigy2throw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tbh you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. The best way to do it is marry a girl who lets you fuck other bitches and holds down the house IF you want to get married. Also, always be ready to walk out that door or anticipate her doing some fuck shit one day.

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