The Red Pill changed one of my endgame goals: Marriage. Yet, there are times when I romanticize about that Blue Pill life. What methods have helped you move on form your deeply ingrained Blue Pill mindset?

notdoreen · 2019-05-08T12:24:54+00:00

Getting cheated on was my method. You should try it. Works wonders.

whiffofass · 2019-05-08T12:29:11+00:00

I have been with several married women and heard their perspective. No thanks.

UEMcGill · 2019-05-08T14:46:35+00:00

There's nothing wrong with having it all. The benefit of being a man is there is no biological clock that is ticking away. You have the ability to research and live a life you want, trying many iterations.

Your anger comes from the fact that you put a woman first as your purpose. Then when that purpose suddenly disappeared, you were left empty and unsatisfied.

Instead, find your purpose without a woman being the focus. Build a business. Save rhinos in Africa. Become a master sword maker. Then with regards to women always ask "How does this support my mission?"

Put hard and strict filtering in place for the women who get to take part in your life. Set the bar extremely high. If you do want a woman to have children with, that filtering should be very hard to get through. After all, she's the one who will bear your kids and stand by your side when you march through the gates of hell.

I have a wife and kids, and I love life. There's something to be said about watching a little me learn things for the first time. But my mission is first and foremost. They are here to support that.

Jampak_5000 · 2019-05-08T14:42:33+00:00

there's a website somewhere called; "married men post here if you hate your life" - anyway some guy collated and put together a summarized version of the best posts. I say "best" they were horrific. Anyway, once a year I'll re-read it and it does the trick. Its all dead bedrooms, wives that get fat and lazy, and divorce rape. I think I'll have a look for you. Yeah its easy to find, you're not allowed to post links here anymore but just google search the title I quoted. You're welcome

MattyAnon · 2019-05-08T15:08:00+00:00

I feel the draw of the Blue Pill side

What about it is appealing? Dead bedroom, being taken for granted, being with someone who doesn't respect you?

This isn't rhetorical: find out what the BP life gave you, or what you thought it gave you. You need to know this about yourself to prevent backsliding.

What have you done to help you stay The Red Pill path when The Blue Pill beckons you back?

I remember the reality of longterm dating and monogamy. I remind myself that "this too will change, just like they always do". I tell myself that was is true today will not be true tomorrow.

Female feelings are selfish and transient even when honest. Not a good idea to sign into law a contractual financial obligation to her.

biezpiens · 2019-05-08T15:49:17+00:00

I still do want a ‘wife’ (non-legally) and kids. The difference post-TRP is I understand I’ll have to vet pretty intensely, which to some degree I already knew. I also won’t legally marry as I see no benefit. I also don’t expect a women to ever be 100% faithful, so I have my own side projects at all times. If I fuck 100 girls and she fucks 1 guy, who cares?

VigilantSmartbomb · 2019-05-08T16:30:14+00:00

I think red pill only scratches the surface of the human male archetype. If we look at males throughout time, only the most successful ones mates with offspring, which is likely where the alpha male was bred in our past. I don’t think wanting to be with one person for an extended period of time is necessarily blue pill, there’s just a red pill way of going about it. And I don’t think the idea is to RED PILL ALL DAY BRO, but more so learning enough red pill to know when to use it.

This sub very often misses the king archetypical male for the knight or prince archetype if you’re into archetypical psychology, but none the less the king archetype is the end goal, and the king is besieged with a queen.

Ime

I say besieged because there was a dialect between Socrates and Plato at some point about how pussy corrupts men and holds them down. A queen can hold that aspect of you down, while promoting your endeavors elsewhere in your life. & I get this sub was probably meant to help dudes game women, but there’s so much more to life and the red pill lifestyle than just gaming women lol.

You could be king, is what it eludes to imo

Poltergeist-God · 2019-05-08T11:34:46+00:00

The moment you slip the ring on their finger , they already start to plan the divorce. Understand this , if nothing else. They all leave eventually , since their attraction is always time limited. And the more you tie your life with them , the more they will destroy you. Commitment is always a one way street. Nothing will stop them sleeping behind your back with other men, not marriage,not kids. Either they will walk out of your life , or they will do something so horrible that you better throw them out.

Don't be Mr Right. Mr Right is just a weak willed schmo with a fat wallet that they plan to suck dry while screwing behind his back with losers.

Things weren't always like this , but they are TODAY. Marriage and commitment are a scam to make your powerless(powerless as in , police comes in throws you out of the house , hands everything to your wife and shoots you in the face if you say boo about it- type of scam).

rnsbrum · 2019-05-08T15:25:05+00:00

Its all about you mindset. Build a strong stoic mindset, meditate and reprogram your thoughts.

I too struggle with the BP side of life, but that only happens when I'm purposeless or not winning. Once you start slaying life and conquering the rewards, it goes away pretty quickly.

Stop feeling guilty for yourself, thats the way of the weak.

RStonePT · 2019-05-08T18:27:39+00:00

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No1Buck · 2019-05-08T12:55:02+00:00

Examine your motivations and why you want those things, learn about evolutionary psychology, study the stoics and pessimists, take a more realistic view about what is possible to achieve in life.

FereallyRed · 2019-05-08T13:00:25+00:00

Overlay the pussy of the one with the pussies of the many.

Enzuq · 2019-05-08T14:44:36+00:00

Very good, so you have read and studied redpill, but have you applied anything?

Also for me, its gym

Quo210 · 2019-05-08T17:36:30+00:00

Look around you how 9 out of 10 men in marriage are miserable little things with shriveled masculinities that can not even talk with freedom because they fear the wrath of the hag they chained themselves to.

Women are uncapable of responsably managing authority and power, and marriage grants too much to them. Marriage is a suicide move for suicidal men, remain observant and you'll overcome your indoctrination.

Scribblerg1 · 2019-05-08T21:31:04+00:00

I hate admitting this but one of the only things that keeps my Red Pill fangs sharp is juggling multiple plates. Also, be in aggressive male hierarchies, playing team sports or somehow competing in that rough and tumble way men do.

[deleted] · 2019-05-08T21:46:07+00:00

Hey new guy, there is an entire section of the red pill devoted to married life.

Many of us are happily married.

Whisper · 2019-05-08T18:24:13+00:00

Remember that the Red Pill catalogues tactics, not a lifestyle.

These tactics make women adore you. What you do with that adoration is entirely up to you.

I have lived with my LTR for many years, spin plates on the side when I feel like it, and am now in the process of promoting a second LTR who looks as if she is going to prove worthy, with a little polishing. She might get to move in with us if things work out.

So if you thought the ability to consistently pull chicks from nightclubs was the endgame, you were sadly mistaken. Did you think you couldn't have love? Of course you can. You just have to practice your game and improve yourself, until women start seeing you as a god.

Then they will not only go along with any type of lifestyle you want, but be deliriously happy to be included in it.

There is nothing in the Blue Pill fantasy that you can't make attainable with Red Pill reality and a metric fuckton of hard work.

dorgan64 · 2019-05-08T12:22:03+00:00

spinning plates

sebastianconcept · 2019-05-08T18:02:30+00:00

Having more and better plates will help you neutralize desire and fantasies about her. Specially if you find another woman that’s eventually better for you, even as plate.

BTW, just fo you to know, a crazy plate told me once that after having a 4 days sex marathon with me, 24h later she went to fuck a plate of her “to get me out of her head and it didn’t worked”. I’m not sure if I alpha widowed her or not but geez what an unsolicited truth-bomb she dropped on me.

jbpostv · 2019-05-08T18:40:41+00:00

Tbh sexual non-monogamy is the way to go. You demonstrate abundance and security by fostering this in a LTR/marriage and can choose to include competition in the bedroom as often as you want. When you think about it, it’s that lack of competition, jealousy, mystery and excitement that nullifies attraction in captivity. Spice it up and have a harem. Make your wife your filthy whore again.

[deleted] · 2019-05-08T18:49:53+00:00

Try reading the bullshit men deal with in single/divorced dads Facebook groups. Or even try reading the kind of bullshit MRP (married red pill) have to deal with on the daily.

Think of the cost of a wedding and think of what they money could but you...

Don’t do it.

[deleted] · 2019-05-08T21:01:55+00:00

Honestly gentlemen --

I have a mid-salary. Living on my own, I can work out and improve a little in my career, but at 44, I cant bank on changing career or making way bigger bucks. I missed that boat. I dont want to be married, if youre honest for a minute few men really do. A lot of them get married in order greatly reduce expenses...with someone who they get along well with and can trust (and fuck). It's about expenses. Way harder to support a child alone and pay your mortgage etc alone. If I was a made man, say a hundred thousandaire even, I would never marry. Of course not. But at 44, thats not an option I can bank on. not on my salary with a kid from a previous marriage and child support. if I was 20 or 30, it would be possible. but reality doesnt afford that to everybody.

im talking about finances/career. now fitness i fucking own, no question there.

Noctis_Cloud · 2019-05-08T23:36:49+00:00

Here’s my advice, it might get downvoted to hell but either way here it is:

Talk to almost anyone married. Male or female, doesn’t matter. When you think Red Pill, you always think from a male perspective, but it’s good to hear from women, because it all rings true.

Being tethered to anything is not a pleasant feeling. Being somewhere because you want to be there is great. People get sick and tired of the same shit every day. Imagine eating the same food every single day. Imagine watching the same movie, every single day. That’s marriage and kids. It sucks. That’s why I don’t have a anger phase with women. Not anymore. They get sick of the same shit just as much as we do. Being red pill isn’t about treating women lesser, or creating some invisible barrier to protect yourself like a weird incel. It’s about understanding the reality of human nature and exposing the programming society does to both men and women. Life isn’t about constant, life is about change. If you try to force a constant, it’s just going to fail. Till death do us part? Yeah I guess if I was actually held to that there’s a good chance I would kill myself.

dukes1998 · 2019-05-08T16:59:23+00:00

Nothing wrong about wanting to have kids and be married. TRP is about doing whatever you want, because it is what you want. Lots of people have very happy and healthy marriages.

macheagle · 2019-05-08T17:01:35+00:00

OP, may I ask about your relationship with your family or specifically your parents? Did you come from a broken home by any chance? As you remind me of many of my friends who come from certain environments that caused their BP tendencies. I can explain more about that if so.

Ivabighairy1 · 2019-05-08T17:55:37+00:00

Women don’t marry for money

They divorce for it

tony8832 · 2019-05-08T21:23:58+00:00

New pussy.

prodigy2throw · 2019-05-09T14:31:46+00:00

Tbh you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. The best way to do it is marry a girl who lets you fuck other bitches and holds down the house IF you want to get married. Also, always be ready to walk out that door or anticipate her doing some fuck shit one day.