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"He is gay" is it often defense mechanism from women?

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May 9, 2019

I was thinking about this while talking to my friend who is actually not gay. He is what women call asshole. He is Cocky. Funny and with that i don't care mindset. But he told me many of his female friends. They often say he is gay to their boyfriends. when they get jealous on how much time they spend with him.

Is this like a defense mechanism from women? when they are intrested in a guy or hopefully looking to branch swing. But wanna make sure the boyfriend doesn't ruin everything?

added: Ya'll guys are awesome. Thank you all for the responses. I see there are many different reasons for why woman would say this. All of these respones are true in one way or another. Guess it depends mostly on cirumstances.

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Title "He is gay" is it often defense mechanism from women?
Author BraindeadIQ
Upvotes 114
Comments 54
Date 09 May 2019 09:11 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]boredrandomguy157 points158 points  (26 children) | Copy

Women also use that same defense mechanism when a guy isn't interested in them.

[–]BraindeadIQ[S] 46 points47 points  (1 child) | Copy

Makes sense. Like lying to themselves that he is gay just because he doesn't like them.

[–]Scorchyy31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yea, it’s cognitive dissonance, much easier than to admit that not all guys want her

[–]CosbySauce 1 points [recovered]  (16 children) | Copy

I was in class overhearing 2 girls who were 7 and a 9 talking about an ugly they work with. They were so upset that he wouldn't give them attention and came to the conclusion he must be gay but they were still going to flirt with him to try to get validation. It was so gross that I decided not to give either of them the time of day either.

[–]Speedracer1111 1 points [recovered]  (14 children) | Copy

in class overhearing 2 girls who were 7 and a 9

I read this and immediately subtracted 2, so a 5 and 7. See this all over the place lately. Think about it, would a 9, which is super model quality, be attending class and not out modeling or acting?

Most women (and men) fall somewhere between 4 - 6, standard Gaussian curve. The highest level is a 9. You get to a 10 based upon a personal preferences. Say you like big tits or a certain ethnic group that I am indifferent to. Your 10 would be my 9 and my 10 would likely be your 9.

/end rant.

Only reason I am pointing this out is then I question the validity of the rest of your story.

[–]RedKepler12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dw, I interpetted it first as ages and thought 'tf'.

[–]GreatMenderTeapill4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

8 year olds dude...

[–]MGTOWMODSSUCK13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

the REAL problem is that the whole "rating" system is bogus since sexual attraction amongst men is SUBJECTIVE.

I have seen many "9's" modeling who look way less attractive than (what you would probably call) many 7's to me.

Not all 9's are models and actresses.

[–]FatmanO0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There are diffrent phenotypes preferences, but there are universal attraction symbols such as jaw and muscle height etc..

[–]StellarMemez8 points9 points  (6 children) | Copy

Most women (and men) fall somewhere between 4 - 6, standard Gaussian curve.

Dead wrong.

And it's not like OP claimed he's banging them, so who cares? 9s exist in normal life.

A 5 and a 7 would behave exactly the same anyway, which is even more pathetic.

[–]FatmanO1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

You woudnt say that most men and women are 4-6?

[–]StellarMemez0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

No, because it is empirically false.

Male attractiveness is more normally distributed, but females are skewed and are generally rated as more attractive.

This is well known and is an established fact on TRP. The 80-20 rule should come to mind. Sidebar, and 'Sort by: best'

[–]FatmanO1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Its only cause womens sex drive is lower. Still objectivly most women are average

[–]StellarMemez0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Okay. Well a man who is an objective 4 isn't getting laid any more than a subjective 6, so your point is moot

[–]FatmanO1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Id agree with that yeah, altrough objective 4s are pretty rare or are mostly fat

[–]StellarMemez0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And the average woman is somewhat attractive. That's the whole point.

Attractiveness is not an objective trait.

[–]FatmanO1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Finnaly someone with some common sense

[–]MantogeMan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Many models, in my opinion, would not be a 9.

They are too skinny for my taste.

[–]Microman6661 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]momomotorboat6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

I stay away from women I work with. Too risky, especially in my line of work, where people are hooking up left and right. Once they start asking if I'm gay, I know I've done my job. Would rather let them think that than me get ensnared in some bullshit.

[–]BurningOrangeHeaven6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeh this chick tried to spread the rumor that im gay at my last job cuz i didnt want her. She had a really nice body but was annoying as fuck + its at work. She also tried to say that i liked her when she was obviously the one dying to get with me - how can i be gay anddd want you? These hoes are so dumb.

[–]dtyler865 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep, I love the world we live in. Women get upset by guys that Catcall with no awareness of how fucking ridiculous it is that when A guy is not interested they assume or loudly proclaim that he must be gay

[–]Snowaey3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

that's what I thought he meant initially when I read the title

[–]128bitworm2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This happens to me so often I just agree now and move on. I have completely stopped arguing my point.

[–]Andgelyo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is true. Girls will think you are gay if you’re a handsome, well dressed, and a popular single guy especially if you’re still in school. Used to get called this by females who had boyfriends at my undergrad. Lmao women

[–]Ohboohoolittlegirl112 points113 points  (4 children) | Copy

Plausable deniability. this way they can hang around Chad and get fucked, without the other guy being too suspicious..

[–]Speedracer1111 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly. Thus why we say, trust but verify.

I was in a plate's phone with a girl's name.

[–]TehJimmyy49 points50 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was in a plate's phone with a girl's name.

What a good day to be alive.

[–]KaiSmashSmashSawmash14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

It could also be a defense mechanism when chad doesent want to fuck her

[–]Ohboohoolittlegirl6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Could be, to save her own face.. More likely though Chad will be available at SOME point and then above applies

[–]FlyingSexistPig24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women can't handle rejection. The problem isn't something within themselves, it must be because "he is gay".

But this situation, I'd say that the women are all interested in him, and so they try to put their boyfriends off the scent by claiming he's gay.

It's just another one of the many ways women lie all the time.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I'm super gay, I'll only take home chicks that love blowing me and go strait to anal"

[–]Hambone_Malone13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

In my very personal experience. The guy she tells you "not to worry about, we're just friends" or "he's gay" is the guy she is fucking on the side.

[–]binrobinro9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Women can say or do anything with no repercussions.

[–]inittowinit7773 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

THIS. 100%

[–]civilizedfrog8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Men who let their women hang around "gays" are super naive.

[–]mnsmon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This comment made me think about all the girls in school who said every girl should have a gay friend.

[–]chickenpthrowaway123[🍰] 39 points40 points  (2 children) | Copy

They could also think he's a pussy beta and assume he's gay because he gives them so much non sexual attention for nothing in return.

[–]ZabuzAli13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think we can assume he errs on the side of “alpha” more than “pussy beta”.

He is what women call asshole. He is Cocky. Funny and with that I don’t care mindset.

I personally agree with the other commenter about plausible deniability. She definitely knows what she’s doing.

[–]LordLoveRocket0010 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is what pisses me off about this sub. "pussy beta" You should be thankful that they are loads of men in this world that dont qualify as 'alpha'

This subs gone downhill in content and the comments from daft teens.

[–]blewbluw5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

Do you know what a defense mechanism is?

[–]okuli5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

By lying to their guys they are trying to put their guards down.

[–]blewbluw3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

What are you even talking about kid

[–]okuli4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Read the sidebar, bitch.

[–]blewbluw7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do u even lift bro?

[–]rnsbrum1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Onidramon5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

They hope that by framing a potential branch swing candidate as non-sexual and non-threatening, their boyfriends won't be as suspicious about their contact with other guys. With the main guy's guard down, it's easier to keep backup dick on the backburner. They effectively "defend" their access to the current boyfriend's commitment while freely maintaining their other options without getting dumped prematurely.

In other cases, such as simply getting rejected, calling an uninterested guy gay is good ego protection defense for a woman who looks like a foot.

For most women who live and die on their social ties, rejection and the loss of validation practically register as equal to physical pain. So this could basically be classified as a defense mechanism for survival just like those toads that shoot blood from their eyes

[–]2319Skew5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

When I was 16, I worked at an amusement park. This was a big and well known place so it got a lot of international exposure.

We worked by the water rides.

That amounted to 9s and 10s in a highly sexual attire.

Well after awhile you get numb to it.

So this 8 came by offering a BJ for some bullshit prize bear and my friend just laughed in her face.

Her ego was so crushed (probably not used to that reaction) that she became so verbally offensive. She kept calling him gay.

Women hate rejection.

[–]the13thmonk2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

It's disqualifying those men from the SMP. Women do the same thing to women for different reasons. "She's a slut"

Read rational male

[–]BraindeadIQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Already read it. My understanding of it is limited due English being 2nd language. But atleast i got the audiobook on my phone to listen to it from time to time.

Thank you!

[–]jenovajunkie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a protective term to seclude guys from engaging in relationships with other girls, so they can go around and have relationships in private with guys they don't see a LTR with.

[–]vullnet1231 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I remember trying to convince girls that I'm gay at my old job so they could leave me alone, it never worked lol

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is this like a defense mechanism from women?

Yes, often. When guy doesn't escalate "he must be gay" rather than "I'm not attractive". They always blame the guy.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the red pill.

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