I’m angry with myself for being such a blue pilled through college despite being attractive. How do I overcome this phase?

s3lcuk · 2019-05-11T16:15:29+00:00

You’re on stage 2-4. Initiate stage 5 by forgetting your blue pilled past and continue to swallow the red pill with self improvement and becoming the best version of yourself. Increase your SMV, muscle gains, fashion sense, work ethic and improve eating habits. Months-years down the road, you become more attractive, your chest is getting better and more women are starting to give you IOI’s. You’ll slowly start developing an abundance mindset as you realize you are a desirable man to attractive women and accept female nature for what it is. Now, you’ll love being in control of your own life and have more confidence in yourself and you can reflect back and laugh at your blue pilled past self!

Stages of the red pill

Denial: "Women aren't like that! They're people just like everyone else! Treat them all as individuals, and you're sure to find the right one!"
Anger: "WTF! Bitches are all like this! They have no honour, no loyalty, and they don't really love anyone but themselves! Fucking cunts!"
Bargaining: "If I work real hard and learn all the pickup moves, then at least I'll get laid."
Depression: "Getting laid by shallow, obnoxious women has become dull and unrewarding. And there's no sense looking for a unicorn. Maybe I'll just be MGTOW for a while."
Acceptance: "Women aren't bad. My expectations of them, and theirs of me, were based on faulty premises. They are creatures of instinct, just like I am... but of different instincts. If I learn what those instincts are, and teach them about mine, we can develop realistic expectations of each other and get along just fine."

MattyAnon · 2019-05-11T18:22:00+00:00

So many missed opportunities that I can’t comprehend now

Look to the future only

SelfUnmadeMan · 2019-05-11T19:36:10+00:00

It isn't your fault. Why be mad at yourself? If anything, be mad at society for lying to you.

Instead of self loathing, take what you now know and use it to improve your life. There will be MANY opportunities in the future. You wanna miss those too?

SalporinRP · 2019-05-11T22:24:36+00:00

If you depressed you are living in the past,

If you are anxious you are living in the future,

If you are at peace you are living in the present

Lao Tzu

You cannot change the past but you can make the most of the present and the rest of your life. If you let the past continually drag you down you will find it hard to improve. Relish in the fact that you realized your problem early in life and not when you're 50. Take action now and live your best life.

vullnet123 · 2019-05-11T16:19:46+00:00

You can't change the past. All you can do is learn from your mistakes and improve. Could I have made some more friends in my 1 semester of college before dropping out, or stuck with college? Yea I could've but I didnt. All you can do is move forward and not dwell on it, because dwelling on the past is gonna cause you depression and just won't help at all.

mallardcove · 2019-05-11T20:37:53+00:00

Take it from me, I was a player on a division 1 college football team that competed for the national championship my senior year. I had the status, body and looks and got tons of girls interested in me. But since I was such a blue pilled faggot, I was stuck in a cycle that lasted all 5 years of college for me - a girl would be interested in me, then I would reciprocate, be a total blue pilled loser and scare her away. I would always wonder why this happened to me and why girls would be interested in me only to withdraw after getting to know me. It was frustrating

Of course TRP helped me understand why, but I didn't come to TRP until 3 years after I graduated. The silver lining for me is that I escaped college without getting married or locked down. I have so many friends and teammates who got married during college or right after. That could have been me. I am thankful I scared women away when I was in college.

The future is still bright. I'm 31 now and doing better than I ever have.

TerminallyChill94 · 2019-05-11T20:47:56+00:00

It's so funny to see this posted. I was having these exact same thoughts earlier today. In college I wasnt overly popular or sociable, but I could at least get attractive women interested enough to approach me and I would completely bomb it bc of lack of game and being so nice.

The lays i missed by not knowing how to handle a shit test or lmr makes me cringe. I even tried to hit up some of these women like a year post-college when i got some red pill awareness but it rarely worked out. It also showed major scarcity mentality. Don't be like me, just focus on the future

TopofToronto · 2019-05-11T19:39:23+00:00

Happened to me too, as well realizing how I had ruined a good relationship by being in love and giving in to her when ever we fought because I thought it was what she wanted and another because I had no clue what a shit test was..

It will pass, go out and do stuff.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-05-11T21:36:14+00:00

Why aren't you worried about creating new opportunities?

The past isn't a missed opportunity. It's not any kind of opportunity at all. It's really just masturbatory self-pity and self loathing. These habits are ways people deal with cognitive dissonance when they're still invested in seeing themselves as helpless children.

This is the only thing you're not comprehending. There are no opportunities in the past, just information you can use to improve your present game.

Quit mentally masturbating and use you mental energy to create new opportunities.

HumanSockPuppet · 2019-05-11T21:18:40+00:00

Fucking get over it. You're wasting even more time sitting there feeling sorry for yourself.

BigGucciGuwop1017 · 2019-05-12T01:34:29+00:00

I'm about to be 30 and Anxiety has screwed me out of so many opportunities.

jenovajunkie · 2019-05-11T19:53:41+00:00

Just go out and fuck.

rijeka1 · 2019-05-11T23:04:35+00:00

Talk about it, well improve from today on, forget about those regrets as best as you can.

throwawayg76 · 2019-05-12T08:58:33+00:00

Judging by your post and comments I’m in a very similar situation right now bro. PM me if you ever want to talk about it.

MentORPHEUS · 2019-05-12T17:46:20+00:00

How do you overcome anger over past missed opportunities? Succeed in the present and become even better at life for the future! Like me, eventually you'll find yourself casually chuckling to think back at your youthful naivety.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-05-12T09:12:33+00:00

You get over it by stop living in self-pity over women. You have a whole future ahead of you. Seriously, who gives a fuck? College you should have been on a mission.

MobilePenor · 2019-05-12T11:40:14+00:00

I was thinking that since I started to have to take care of myself (when I was 15 or so), I made a lot of bad choices when it came to women and social life.

I was really depressed about this, I thought about the fact that I wasted 15 years of my life on nothing (I'm 30 now).

But thinking about it again, if everything goes well, I have another 15 years of great erections in front of me and maybe even more. So, there is still time.

In the end as long as long as you are relatevely young, there is still hope. Maybe you'll enjoy it even more since you understand the true value of what you'll get, if you get it.

Sylvester_Sterone · 2019-05-12T23:01:03+00:00

Bang some college girls when ur 30

FereallyRed · 2019-05-12T00:47:53+00:00

So get busy on that time machine.

Title	I’m angry with myself for being such a blue pilled through college despite being attractive. How do I overcome this phase?
Author	rijeka1
Upvotes	140
Comments	49
Date	11 May 2019 04:06 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/238041
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bndou9/im_angry_with_myself_for_being_such_a_blue_pilled/