I’ll keep this as short as possible.
I’m a longtime lurker of this sub but this is my first post since I could do with some advice.
As title suggests- one of my closest friends I have known since childhood has got himself smitten with a much older divorcee single mother. He met her at his new job around 5 months ago. She was his manager but he has since moved to another job with a higher position.
He is by no means unattractive. He had his finances in order, had a great physique, and had just finished his university degree before finding his new job. (He has since stopped lifting because ‘she misses him while he’s gone’).
She is fairly attractive for her age and she’s well off in a high paying job and generally doesn’t need anyone to provide for her financially. She has two kids from her previous marriage- ages 13 and 12 whom he takes to school every morning.
Their relationship has progressed at a rapid pace and her intentions were made clear from the start. It’s almost as if she was the predator and he was the prey. She captured him into her web and he didn’t even try to escape. I am fairly certain she was his first sexual experience. They had a pregnancy scare 1 month in. 2 months in and he’s living with her and paying half of her mortgage. And now here we are at 5 months in. I would be lying to myself if I said I didn’t see it coming.
He has proposed to her. Knee down, ring up.
It happened over Easter and I’m the only person he has told. He’s the ‘happiest he’s ever been’ and ‘it’s meant to be’. How fucking depressing. I had warned him at the very start not to get serious with her. We all know exactly how this one will play out, don’t we?
What if he asks me to be best man? How can I support something I know is bad for him?
So fellas. Where do I draw the line between being a supportive friend and being redpill aware and being against marriage- especially to a divorced single mother 20 years his senior?
Edit: he has just asked me if I would attend. What would you do in my position?