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Handling wife's bitchy behavior in public.

by BudgetEbb | May 23, 2019 | askMRP

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I'm 37, married for 10 years, two kids. Squat: 265 lbs, Bench: 175, Deadlift: 295. Wife is hot, we have regular sex.

Yesterday I was with my wife shopping some food at a big store. We were late and while she was picking food up and putting it in our basket a security guy come to us and told us that the store is closing now and we have to go to the cashier to pay the money. It really was late, and we really had to finish our shopping and the guy told this to us with respect and in a calm voice. I told him that we finish first picking this particular food and then will go to pay the money, but my wife suddenly turn on bitchy mode and told the guy "Why do you even talk to us in such a nasty tone! Who are you?! How can you behave with me like that..." and so on. It was unexpected and unnecessary. But after she told it she suddenly turn off this bitchy mode and went on with her shopping.

As she was far from me at that moment I couldn't immediately stop her telling her to shut up. For a few seconds I just stood there embarrassed. When I wake up from this it felt to me completely beta to catch up to her and to tell her off.

Now my question is, how to handle this bitchy behavior in public when it is not towards you, but towards completely innocent person? I fucked her the whole week. The night before this has happened I fucked her really hard and she gave me a solid bj. If she was acting like this with me, I would treat this like a shit test, but she was acting like this with a complete stranger and it looks like at that moment she was just being a bitch.


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Title Handling wife's bitchy behavior in public.
Author BudgetEbb
Upvotes 24
Comments 31
Date 23 May 2019 12:06 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/239274
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[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine37 points38 points  (4 children) | Copy

Women are bitches dude. They act like children and filter the world through their emotions.

The gentlemen’s tone felt bad to her, so she lashed out at him. Their feelz is totally fluid too, very present, that’s why she was able to shake it off and continue shopping like no big deal.

No sense of integrity, loyalty, or pride. Men are the real romantics. Women are just grown teenagers, like zoo animals, caged in by their own emotions, basking in feelz, and looking for the next best thing...and an alpha to mate with. You must discipline her. Take her over your knee when you get home.

I’d make fun of her later on in some funny cocky way to her friends: “this one time a mall cop was taking his job way too seriously but she took care of him!”

Keep pounding that pussy man.

[–]lbear1233 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wtf that’s trash advice. Have an adult conversation about what happened, how it made you feel, and what you would like/expect going forward. Making fun of her will do nothing for you except get more “bitchy” behavior. Be honest and direct, validate her emotions and try to understand what her point of view was ( we all have bad days) then explain why it made you uncomfortable and what you wish for in the future. A fool brings others down and plays games. A KING leads and is benevolent. Your choice.

[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret26 points27 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not your problem; don't make it yours.

Your problem is your fear of conflict, offending anyone, or what random people think of you. Work on that, not on training your wife not to trigger your beta anxiety.

[–]JudgeDoom692 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Work on that, not on training your wife not to trigger your beta anxiety

OP this is key. You can't change anyone else's behavior, but you have full control over your response to it. I wouldn't even mention her bitching out the mall cop, just laugh that shit off and move on.

[–]helaughsinhidden9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

LOL, happens to me, but not necessarily dressing people down, but other rude behaviors. Her normal thing is to actually stand in peoples way or push her cart right in front of people that you can clearly see are trying to pass. I don't EXCUSE it, but I do believe that they deserve to hear an apology and they deserve to be acknowledged when they've done nothing wrong. Especially if it was something like what your wife did. I've worked retail in high school and got chewed out before about crap that I had nothing to do with and couldn't fix even if I wanted to and it ruins your day while making garbage money.

My go to is to say "I'm sorry, \smile and shrug** she does this sort of thing all the time". Thing is, it actually started as a joke to tease her and slightly embarrass her. She gets embarrassed for a minute and I have a quick laugh with a stranger at her expense. However, the more I used this "joke" the more I started to realize how inconsiderate she actually is.

She is picky as hell about her coffee too, so when she orders something complicated. She sent back a coffe twice.... to McDonalds once. So next time we got coffee together, with a really exaggerated smug look, I asked the employee "Oh, hold on a sec.... she'll need to taste it. \we both watch her take a drink** Is it GOOD honey? *embarrassed, she says yes* *I turn to employee huge grin, wink* "FANTASTIC, have a great day".

I could be acting petty by embarrassing her in retaliation for embarrassing me, but I am not showing any butt hurt and I am clearly having fun with the person working there like it's an inside joke. I even get her to smile and giggle most of the time.....most of the time. In my own mind anyway, I feel like created a type of dread that if SHE acts up in public now that either right away or in the future I will have ammunition to roast her for it.

[–]Onein1024th4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

So next time we got coffee together, with a really exaggerated smug look, I asked the employee "Oh, hold on a sec.... she'll need to taste it.

*we both watch her take a drink*

Is it GOOD honey? *embarrassed, she says yes* *I turn to employee huge grin, wink* "FANTASTIC, have a great day".

this is Gold

[–]donmcde12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

You have kids. The methodology isn't that different.

[–]Eminencemiddle5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

She is a fine woman, whose studly husband made her feel like a queen...then, perhaps, wife thought that you were a bit subservient to a lesser. She had to restore balance, is my thinking.

Perhaps a nod, and a "Got it" to the security guard was more called for.

[–]Bushpilot8171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agree with this. No need to explain yourself to the security guard. That’s what caused her response.

Now, had you responded with “Got it.” and she still behaved that way, telling her “Shut up” or “Don’t be a bitch” and holding frame would have been in order.

[–]0io-Tsundere4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Calling her out on the bad behavior might transfer some of her anger from him to you. I think STFU is best here. Maybe kind of give a knowing look at the guard like "Must be that time of the month, huh."

If this kind of stuff happens regularly maybe you can jokingly call her out on it, like "OK, if I walk in to this store with you tonight you have to promise not to get in a fight with the security guard. I'm worried they're going to sentence you to anger management classes."

You don't want to seem mad at her, just amused that she's such a goofy kid that she gets flustered so easily...

You're the stable guy who is always in a good mood, she's the psycho who is hot in bed.

[–]arm_candy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Calling her out on the bad behavior might transfer some of her anger from him to you.

So? If you don’t care or don’t want to care, then sure, STFU. But if you don’t like the behavior, then address it.

If you’re avoiding saying something because you’re afraid of having your wife get angry at you, then you must have missed the point of all if this. Her getting angry at you shouldn’t affect your actions.

[–]average_dudereino1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I take it as a shit test to you. Snuff it out as if your teenager talked to a polite stranger that way.

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

In the old days, the proper answer was to redirect the bitch and apologize to the maligned man by blithely telling him she is not usually like that but you will give her a good dicking later to calm her down.

If the bitch refused to be redirected then it was 5 across the eyes....

Today how do you control a raging bitch in public? You don't. You have no power to enforce reasonableness or anything else for that matter. You have the power to leave her at the store and ignore her. You have the power to calmly explain to her that being a bitch is embarrassing and unatractive. You have the power to DNGAF. That's it.

[–]Michelin_Starman0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If the bitch refused to be redirected then it was 5 across the eyes....

Is this what you had to do so your wife didn't notice your Treacher Collins on the first date, Coach?

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No man would ever be with a woman who he had to bitch slap on the first date. That comes later with the uncontrollable, insane, and deliberately provocative behavior.

[–]shouldergirdle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

In the car on the way home BudgetEbb says to MrsBudget: "We are people of wealth and high status in our community. People know us and look up to us. We will always hold ourselves to the highest standard and treat others with kindness and respect, especially minimum wage earners and service workers. This is how our family behaves."

This approach is aspirational. It frames the encounter as if you are on the winning team and you are working from a mindset of abundance. Women like to be on the winning team. If you are not a person of wealth and high status, become a person of wealth and high status. Become a person of high standards. Expect this behavior of yourself, live up to your own expectations, teach your two kids the proper way to behave. Teach your wife the proper way to behave. Lead your family!

[–]JDRoedellRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I apologize, sir... she hasn’t had her afternoon snack yet today.

[–]ExpatRights0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nagging your wife is gross

[–]adeptintact0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Actually in a way, while she was emotional, she acted more alpha than you. A man orders you to do something and you politely comply to him. She says fuck that and tells him off. Betas avoid confrontation while alphas don't.

It is also disrespectful to you because she disregarded you and did the opposite of how you were handling the situation. She doesn't see you as the alpha.

[–]arm_candy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Loosing cool and exploding about dumb shit isn’t “alpha”. Per the OP the interaction was polite until the wife exploded. It sounds like there was no conflict until she created one.

[–]YoureAreAnIdiot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How do you handle a child misbehaving in the supermarket?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

What kind of man puts a 45 and 2x10 on a bar and calls it a bench when they could toss a quarter on there and have a decent bench and look way cooler than a fag with 45,10,10 on there?

An underachiever. Thats who.

And I am well aware that was a poorly composed run on sentence. Fuck off.

[–]BarracudaRP3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe he's on that lifting program where you bench 65% of your body weight. What's that one called again?

Zumba?

[–]screechhaterRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Oh man. I think you need some dick or something.

175 isn’t to shabby. Go out to Walmart and tell me how many you spy could do 105.

175 in today’s vernacular is trying

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Walmart?

What kind of savage do you think I am?

[–]red88lobster1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Having a bad day there princes? :D

[–]BluBlac590 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't grocery shop with your wife. If she neglects to get things you like. Get them yourself. And dont fight about it. Keep doing it until she gets your things. Or just keep doing it without comment.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why do you care? Seriously.

I mean, I get it - her feelz went off and she went AWALT. Whatever.

The only reason I'd say anything is to create feelz again for her.

"I'm disappointed in your behavior". Broken record.

[–]ManguZa-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wait to be alone with her and ask if she's alright, what was wrong for her to act like this and i listen.

Yeah i know total beta. But as she wasn't a bitch with you i think it's better to treat it like a comfort test.



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