This phrase is very important, true and helpful. I am really good at ignoring words and tuning her out. At some point in my BP career I really started tuning into what she was saying and analyzing it to try and improve myself and my life. Everything got worse as I engaged on her playing field and got ripped apart while I DEERed like a faggot. So this is clearly not what you want to do and I have abandoned it.
I am wondering if you can take this idea too far and what the repercussions are. Recently I have been getting a lot of morning / day sex. We are both fixed so I typically cum inside of her because it just feels better. Before we fuck she will say "Don't cum inside of me, I don't want your cum dripping out of me all day while I am trying to do homeschool." Those are very overt clear words, they aren't about our marriage and I don't "think" it is a shit test because she has continued to say it for a while now. I ignore her, cum in her and she bitches at me. I smirk and say it was an accident and move on with the day. Silly example, but I am ignoring her words and her actions say it's fine because she keeps fucking me. Is this just a shit test that I should pass by cumming in her regardless of what she is "saying" or should I respect her wishes?