It's been a while since I posted a question. Just for background - been at MRP for nearly a year. Relationship with my wife is the best it's ever been after months of self-improvement on my part, but there is one final shit test that I can't seem to get through - or captain the fuck up and lead. I could use input. My wife has generally fallen into her feminine frame most of the time and enjoys being lead.
Wife loves RP marriage. She is also RP herself quite a bit. I have a son from a previous relationship (12yo). She has slowly grown to resent him. For the same reasons that a cucked stepdad would, plus the fact that she can no longer shit-test me about anything that I do for the most part because my SMV is far above hers, and I own my shit. I don't get shit tests about me anymore.
She has never once lashed at him, but expresses being cucked often in private to me. Things such as: I gave up my career for him (she did not), he doesn't talk to me ever (she doesn't inititiate any conversations), he is always up his mom's ass (BP behavior).
Son has no ill-feelings at all towards my wife. I think he actually likes her better than me to be honest.
Relationship between wife and I is increasingly better and this is the last hurdle to overcome, if it's possible. She regularly brings up leaving now because she can't handle being a stepmother. This is vastly different than when we got together 7 years ago.
How does a captain deal with that one? She has put in no effort to read books about being a stepmother even though she bought one, and refuses to let go of any resentment or anger at all about the past. I ask these questions because this is the one thing holding back my marriage from being exactly what I want.
Edit: One more question - what is MRP's stance on counseling or therapy for this topic of blended families only and stepparents? I am apprehensive about suggesting so given the "well we went to therapy and tried to work it out but it didn't" statement that most women would give.