RP books on fatherhood

Father of 7 -

CR Wiley's "Man of the house" is pretty good on a lot of this. It's from a Christian standpoint, but I wouldn't call him blue pill.

Some other advice:

Lift.

Talk is not only cheap but worthless... Unless it's the kind where you're connecting with them on a deep level. Often. Can't even count how many times my eldest daughter and I were up until 130 talking about life. I'm gonna miss that next month when she moves out for school. But she's got a good head on her shoulders, and can discuss philosophy, theology, logic and rhetoric with a clear mind. Not that this is the benchmark; but I don't know many 19 year old girls that are actually interesting to hold a conservation with.

As others have said, set the example. Don't go telling them what they should do, YOU do what you want then to learn to do.

Memories. Make memories doing things together, yes do the big camping trips and stuff but do something EVERY day, if you can. Your car broke down and you have to fix it? Do that, do it together with joy and an upbeat attitude and frame and emotional stability, because you're family, you're a tribe, and you get to spend time together. There's a time for video games, yes, but you want to raise men and women that can stand by you because they are competent and masters of themselves. Dangerous people, who are also self controlled.

We love to sing together.

You are responsible for everything in your home. That doesn't mean it's your fault, but YOU are responsible. That's what red pill men do. We take responsibility for ourselves and our ship, and we're raising up captains and XOs.

You set the tone for the house, and likely their lives. Do you sluff off responsibility? Plan on them doing so too. Do you own your stuff? They will be more likely to if so.

Master your emotions.

Only make rules or limit kids if you have to. Don't tell them to do stuff you don't need to. This will prevent you being forced to discipline kids for stuff that didn't matter to you, but you must always back up your words when you actually do say them. Your house should be a garden of "yes", so when you say "no" it matters a lot and it's taken seriously. That isn't to say raise undisciplined brats with no limits; instead of having to constantly steer them away from degenerate garbage fill their lives with good stuff.

Some family events are just required because that's what our tribe does. For me that's dinner together, and church. They don't have to believe it but they can sit still for an hour a week, politely listen, and humor me. Pietas was one of the chief virtues of the Romans and for good reason.

Cicero describes youth in the pursuit of honour: “How they yearn for praise! What labours will they not undertake to stand fast among their peers! How will they remember those who have shown them kindness and how eager to repay it!”. So look for a hundred praiseworthy things to praise your children for, for every one thing you criticize them for.

Discipline your kids. That doesn't just mean punish them, although there is a time for that. No, discipline is based on the word disciple. Look that up.

Develop gravitas. The essay is really good, and it's an excerpt from the book I mentioned.

Hopefully some of that is helpful. You'll have to find the tone you want for your house. It probably won't look like mine, but it might be even better.