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Girlfriend lost her virginity at 14 - is my relationship doomed?

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throwawaythequays
June 7, 2019
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My girlfriend lost her virginity at 14 and has been having sex consistently since then. Her first time was actually her cheating on her then boyfriend, and she's cheated since that as well. She's had sex with I would say around 20 people and she's 25. We've been dating for over a year now.

Not sure if I should break it off as these details have come to light. I'm finding it hard to look past them, wondering if I'll get over it with time.


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Title Girlfriend lost her virginity at 14 - is my relationship doomed?
Author throwawaythequays
Upvotes 137
Comments 151
Date 07 June 2019 09:30 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/241050
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bxsjbw/girlfriend_lost_her_virginity_at_14_is_my/
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[–]CharlesChadworth197 points198 points  (18 children) | Copy

If she can jump ship with someone else, she will jump ship again with you. Find a captian who goes down with her vessel.

[–]ChefCremeFraiche 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

She’s probably already cheating.

[–]omega_dawg9320 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

no doubt.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Like right now, while he’s typing the post.

[–]Walkerstain12 points13 points  (13 children) | Copy

Kinda confused, people in this sub keep saying that this behavior is AWALT. So why should someone care if a girls jumps ships since they all do it?

[–]TFWnoLTR49 points50 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're misunderstanding AWALT.

Not all women are the same. Some are sluts and some aren't. Sluts make terrible LTRs, but are what you go for when spinning plates. This guy's gf is a slut who will ride the cock carousel into her 30s and probably later.

The point of AWALT is that women all rationalize their behavior in a certain way that is different from men. It's more in depth than that but that's the jist. There are always exceptions when speaking in generalizations, but you should never assume a woman you know is an exception. You also shouldn't have so much ego that you cant handle the thought that a woman isn't excluvely yours for life.

Read the sidebar.

[–]StopGaming123415 points16 points  (6 children) | Copy

AWALT = All Woman are the same (Under the right circumstances)

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She is never truly yours. They will all cheat / leave you under the right circumstances

For example:

- someone more attractive comes into her life

- she gets bored of you

- she "feels" like it in the moment

- many more...

[–]Walkerstain2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

So if a girl who has a boyfriend decided to leave him for someone else, who's more attractive, meaning jumping to his ship, should the attractive man consider this a red flag for a potential LTR?

[–]StopGaming12347 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

Yes absolutely. A cheating girl is always a red flag no matter the reasons. But he shouldn't really care, because the attractive guy should know AWALT and doesn't want to LTR her anyway. He should be fine plating her, knowing that she'd cheat if an even more attractive guy comes by.

[–]Walkerstain0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

AWALT for these kind of women, right? Not all of them?

[–]StopGaming1234-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

What part of "All Woman Are The Same" do you not understand?

[–]Walkerstain1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

That all women would leave you or cheat if a guy with a higher SMV comes along. There will always be someone with a higher SMV than you, so in my example, why would it be a problem to LTR a girl who does it since all will do it anyway, under the right circumstances?

[–]StopGaming12341 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

why would it be a problem to LTR a girl who does it since all will do it anyway, under the right circumstances?

What kind of logic is that? Why are we not all doing drugs and enjoy the moment since we will all die some day anyway?

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Not every woman behaves the same, but all are capable to do the same. AWALT also means to be aware of that. "Why did my GF do XY, I thought she loved me?" "Why did this girl lie about XY to me, she has always been loyal?" - AWALT, there is no flawless unicorn.

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A LTR get's your attention and comfort. Why would you LTR a girl that doesn't respect that? You can LTR a girl that doesn't show a lot of redflags, but be aware of AWALT. You are no exception of getting lied to, cheated on, mentally abused etc..

[–]okuli10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

keep saying that this behavior is AWALT

All women could do that, but not all would. It depends on many factors, but in this particular case - she absolutely will. She's not a GF material. Pump-and-dump is her level.

[–]omega_dawg932 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

all will do it... all of them.

it just depends on the guy, circumstances, and her feelings... at that moment.

knowing female nature is hard... accepting it is even harder.

vagina muscle >> car tires. she has some tread left.

[–]ImNotSue1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Other replies here are apt. It is smart to expect any woman's behavior to be in alignment with the trend of all women's behavior, and in accordance with how evolutionary psychology explains their reproductive goals and motivations. This is a statistics thing, a trend, and describes groups better than individuals. Women don't always follow this perfectly, some screw up harder and some play nicer, that's just how statistics are. The few and extreme outliers and the massive bulk of the average don't disprove each other. It's just a successful strategy to assume things closer to the average than not. Act accordingly.

[–]Farseer1502210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe it's a learned behavior and when you do it once you don't stop

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

At heart all women think like that / would do that. The reality is that only a certain subsect are attractive enough to actually do it

[–]Epicoslander410 points411 points  (5 children) | Copy

She has more red flags than soviets man.

[–][deleted] 105 points106 points  (1 child) | Copy

Cyka Blyat

[–]obey_kush2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Totally agree with your statement.

[–]markyp123434 points35 points  (0 children) | Copy

More red flags than a soviet AND a Nazi parade combined.

[–]locomotronn2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah not sure how you can cognitively write that out and still look for answers. The post answers itself. Denial is strong on this one

[–]ghjklzxcv123181 points182 points  (12 children) | Copy

Why are you in a relationship with a hoe

[–]babybopp147 points148 points  (11 children) | Copy

Funny thing is that OP believes the number is 20.

She started fucking at age 14. 11 years man.

Say she fucked a dude once a month. That is 12×11 which is 132 dudes.

Say she fucked a dude once every two months that is 66 dudes. Now if she was a whore and fucked say 2 dudes a month, that number is 264 ish dudes in her illustrious 11 years of fucking.

Lol 20. That means she fucked one dude a year. OP, Do you honestly believe that.

[–]Gordon-G68 points69 points  (7 children) | Copy

Always 3X what they claim

[–]gainz7437 points38 points  (0 children) | Copy

And that's still low balling it

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

What about when your ask how many women they have been with? Is it 3x as well?

[–]yungplayz13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

No, then you have to triple down

[–]D4rkr4in1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

you mean like divide by 3? lmao

[–]Ill_mumble_that11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women dont seem to mind talking truthfully about lesbian experiences if the number is higher than 1. Unless they are a lesbain talking to another lesbian, then it's just a clusterfuck of bullshit.

[–]Gordon-G2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

No, it’s not the same.

[–]OldManGoonSquad0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I had one claim 200+

Would you think honesty? Or still 3x?

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pffft 20

[–]Tidalnightmare2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely this.

[–]D4rkr4in2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

not even a cock carousel, this is a cock amusement park

[–]he-is-the-one125 points126 points  (1 child) | Copy

You LTR’d plate material. ABORT BRO, ABORT!

[–]beachbbqlover23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Baby out with the bathwater.

Demote.

She's still a plate. She's just not worth your commitment.

[–]bostezo2259 points60 points  (11 children) | Copy

Go for the threesome with such a slut.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas-2 points-1 points  (10 children) | Copy

LTRs don't do threesomes?

[–]bostezo227 points8 points  (9 children) | Copy

It depends.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas3 points4 points  (8 children) | Copy

On?

[–]bostezo2213 points14 points  (7 children) | Copy

If you wanna keep her or not. I think it's time for OP to push boundaires.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

If you wanna keep her or not.

What does this mean? That girls who are down for threesomes are or aren't LTR material?

[–]bostezo226 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy

If a girl wants to please you so bad she finds another girl to fuck you, why punish her?

[–]Project_Zero_Betas1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Just making sure we're on the same page.

[–]bostezo223 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Do you wanna ask me out?

[–]Project_Zero_Betas2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Are you an actress/model/SM influencer?

[–]MarioBuzo50 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy

STD test then plate.

[–]BlueWhiteImposter44 points45 points  (1 child) | Copy

Judging from this post and your previous one, you have let yourself become comfortable in a relationship with a questionable person. You've lost your abundance mentality and now you hamster away things she does and ignore red flags because you are too lazy to get back on your feet and put in the effort again. She doesn't even have to make her own excuses, you make them for her and delude yourself into thinking that now that you know these things, you are somehow on top of the situation, that things are still operating in your frame.

Ask yourself, what would you tell a friend who came to you with the same issues offering the same explanations for staying with her you do?

[–]Tidalnightmare6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

The painful truth.

[–]StopGaming123420 points21 points  (5 children) | Copy

That's basically half of the girls I know. I thought these are positive stats? oh..

[–]Gordon-G6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cull the herd

[–]BuzzLightGear321 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly. 14 is first year of high school where guys with cars flirt with you. Many girls got knocked up in gr 9, so a lot more are fucking. 2 guys a year is 20 men. Is that a hoe? Imho depends if relationship or mostly hook ups.

[–]dynospectrum71 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If the question at hand is whether or not she is LTR material, she isn't. Women with higher numbers don't bond well with men.

[–]whiffofass 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly.. I don't understand the point of this thread. It pretty much sums up all fuckable girls. How is it such a surprise to some people here? 20 guys at 25 is nothing. That's like 2 guys a year. That's how a good girl behaves. Actual numbers are probably much higher. Especially in the early twenties when they discover the power of their cunt.

[–]depressedfuckboi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'd guess closer to 3-5 every 2 months or so. After being friends with girls and seeing how they truly operate it was enlightening to say the least. I know one girl who was a catch, except for she was a huge whore. Her bf broke up with her and she fucked 4 dudes over the next month. Now they're back together and she's mad he fucked one girl during their break lol. Just how they are I suppose.

[–]yungplayz11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

  1. Plate her
  2. Always wear a condom

[–]Greaterbird1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Possibly two

[–]winefox1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

pls don’t

[–]ChemicalGiraffe36 points37 points  (6 children) | Copy

Lol everyone here is looking for this kind of woman. Marry her immediately

[–]Ill_mumble_that24 points25 points  (5 children) | Copy

Skip marrying. Just sign your house, car, and bank account over to her immediately. Also, put on a chastity cage and give her the key. Get her name tattooed onto your pelvis right above your dick. And tell her shes free to bang who she wants as long as you can watch and lick up the sloppy aftermath. When she gets pregnant with some other dudes baby, be sure to sign the birth certificate saying you're legally responsible for that child even though you haven't banged her in the last year and there is zero chance it is yours. Next become an unwillingly gay prostitute to pay for that kids college.

Happiest life ever!

[–]fangisbak7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Y’all niggas disrespectful but it’s funny af😂😂

[–]Yashugan001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

well, it IS quicker that way. like ripping of a band-aid

[–]DBOLsinyourmouth1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Does he need to take off the chastity cage for the gay prostitute stuff, or does that stay on? I'd imagine it could have a hole in the back to get the job done.

[–]Ill_mumble_that0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Male chastity cages just cover up the penis. They dont go all the way around. Much more convenient.

They even make ones that tie in to a Prince Albert penis piercing to make sure you can't take them off by pulling the securing ring off from around your balls.

Source: I'm bisexual and have fucked some traps (shemales) that wear these. I find it erotic being the top, I'm not sure what they get out of it but I'm not one to judge a gay guy for being a gay bottom, I enjoy them. I've been the "holder" of chastity keys for a couple passable traps and it's fun having them beg you for stimulation.

Coincidentally I also like fucking women in the ass probably more than the vagina. Women have a more appealing shape. With men it's the dominant side of me enjoys being the top male, I treat them like the girls they wish they were.

[–]DBOLsinyourmouth2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Coincidentally I also like fucking women in the ass probably more than the vagina. Women have a more appealing shape. With men it's the dominant side of me enjoys being the top male, I treat them like the girls they wish they were.

I relate to that, but not in a sexual way.

[–]kamarovone12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Whatever you do, get yourself tested for STDs, seriously.

[–]mleko697 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is this a troll post? Have some dignity...

[–]Noctis_Cloud9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Cum on her face and then dump her

[–]yallareweak0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lmaooo

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

This bitch should not be your girlfriend.

Go read my Guide to Managing Bitches.

[–]yettymonkey6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

There are so many red flags in this it would drive a fighting Bull to madness. You need to next her. Read the sidebar, hit the gym, focus on increasing your finances/status in life. Sounds like you are in captain save a hoe mode.... I would bitch slap you if you were in front of me right now for being such an idiot.

[–]markyp123412 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Break off immediately. NEVER EVER trust ANYONE who cheated, let alone be in a relationship. I personally have no respect for people who cheat. Just leave her, ghost her immediately with no reason, she may as well be cheating on you right now. Get away. There are plenty of better girls than this thot.

[–]maljo244 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Spin the plate. She is probably not yours forever, though some change, some grow up. I say spin.

[–]Gordon-G4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only Your Turn

[–]--Kamikaze---1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

“He was never hers it was just his turn”

[–]TheCamelRustler5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

P&D

[–]nateydanger2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"A smart person learns from his mistakes, but a truly wise person learns from the mistakes of others."

First, sidebar. Second, soft next, demote, plate.

[–]tampajim4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Enjoy the ride. Use her love of sex to try some new things with her! Maybe she just gets bored in traditional relationships. She told you this about her past, so she is trying to be as open and honest with you as she can. Explore! You might discover new kinks that you share together! Trust me on this...you will appreciate this advice if you take action!

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (6 children) | Copy

Its not so much that she lost her virginity at the age of 14, its the fact that she cheated. Thats fucked up, and should be a deal breaker for any man. Her n count is 20, which means just under 1 guy per year since 14, which isnt terrible. Id say next her though due to the cheating

[–]0io-3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

2 guys per year

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh shit sorry im mathmatically challenged

[–]JJ9OO8KK5II 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

She also cheated at the age of 14... that's scary

[–]Walkerstain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's not scary if she's this young, it just means she's immature. The older she is the scarier it is.

[–]Gordon-G2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

No it does makes a difference when they start and how many in past...

https://youtu.be/um3EmS9DKsI

[–]GooeyLoveJuice2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let's get real for a second.

You have willingly given her your time and commitment without making her earn it. This shows in you not knowing her past prior promoting her to LTR.

Start fucking other girls, stop seeing her 3 times a week and texting her for anything other than fucking.

[–]idontevenlift372 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

How did she seem when she talked about it? Did it seem like she regretted her past actions? Regardless, she will probably do the same thing to you.

[–]Pooddit2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

God just image all the different chad types just going at it and her loving it. Flat billed hat on backwards. Drugs guy. STDs. Stupid tattoos. Homeless guy. Guy that steals from walmart. Crossfit guy. Guy with long hair who drives a motorcycle. Imagine the teenage phases of fucking hot-topic guy. Or that guy who was head cashier and 35 and drove a 1994 camero.

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It's like that movie office space where the main character thinks his girl fucked his boss. Now that I think about it. SHE DID and lied it was someone else! Of course she would. He was a chad. Repulsive. Do you know what makes chads so repulsive to us? They are the opposite of what men want, they are our competition, which is why women are attracted to them. I lift weights and get a tan and talk smooth to women now too, and sometimes I find myself repulsive, but it works for a reason.

[–]cracksniffer6662 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's 20 people you know of. My ex lost her vcard when she was 13, and dear god how many red flags I skipped. I don't know her personally, but my ex was trashy, and a hoebag, and I think part of it was not being able to enjoy your early teens as a kid... There might be other stuff going on, underlying things...

[–]Chadster1132 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit. Never make a girlfriend out of a girl that cheated in previous relationship. what the fuck

[–]my_mix_still_sucks4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Loosing your virginity at 14 is not really a red flag imho but cheating definetly is

[–]Project_Zero_Betas2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's middle school. Certainly questionable. Normal seems to be around 16 17.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed[🍰] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're an idiot if you are estimating her n-count and applying any value whatsoever to it.

[–]Gordon-G5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get educated grasshopper...

https://youtu.be/um3EmS9DKsI

[–]VigilantSmartbomb1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

End it now so you save yourself time and her heartbreak.

[–]Beegoop1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"20 people" lmfaoooooooooo

[–]F_Dingo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

20 people... Since she started at 14 you need to multiply her fake figure by at least a factor of 4, maybe even 5.

[–]_Ulan_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go cheat on her, and demote her to plate

[–]Snowaey1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Common sense bruh... Don't u have any dignity?

[–]curiousboiiiii1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I may get downvoted for saying this but if her notch count bothers you, move on. You won’t be able to get it out of your head.

[–]Buchloe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

By 20 she means 40

[–]Red_Pill_Brotherhood1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Never make a cheater your gf. Now that you found out(should have vetted her better in the beginning- lesson learned for ya hopefully), I would either dump her OR demote her to plate and meet new women. You do NOT want to be with anyone who cheats, and that it was more than once just makes it even worse. If/when you get complacent/act weak for a while/go out of town for a while/etc, she likely will cheat. She is NOT LTR material.

[–]doctorlw1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

None of this matters. If you have strong frame a girl won't leave you. The vast majority of attractive girls have had sex with 15+ men by the time they are done with college.

I'm not saying you shouldn't look at her cheating behavior with a cautious attitude, but rather than it's not something you should waste time worrying about. Just enjoy yourself, you're both young and you are unlikely to stay together anyway.

[–]omega_dawg932 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP. grow the fuck up.

her past is her past. she can't UN-FUCK any of those guys.

if you would have vetted her properly upfront... or not been fooled by her lies, you would not be invested emotionally after a year.

you're insecure... worried about all the dick she's seen and if she will cheat. and you're probably wondering how you stand up to all that experience. if her actions aren't showing you any signs of this, enjoy her while you can and pass her on.

it’s not your pussy, it’s just your turn... you're just #45-50. you should at least double any number she gave you and add 2-5 randoms in there. just know it's not what she says it is.

if you're walking in circles... huffing & puffing... thinking about fighting all the guys she's fucked, crying over her fucking them, or worried about all that DNA oozing out of her, you're losing.

get over it. you're in for a year and having oneitis symptoms. just stop.

[–]IFuckingHateAllergy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Some people just can't accept the fact that their LTR isn't the unicorn she is. The amount of people here that is deeply concerned about her past bothers me. If you can't accept the fact that she has a high N count and it bothers you, then leave. If you couldn't care any less, just enjoy the ride while it lasts. That shit will probably not last forever with a fuck ton of red flags.

[–]goomerall31 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Ditch

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Why ditch if you can use her as a plate?

[–]_Last_Man_Standing_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

the OP is probably emotionally invested in the slut. he's been dating her for a year.
why risk drama when you can ditch and get some fresh pussy as a plate??

[–]goomerall31 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds good

[–]neveragoodtime1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You might get over it with time, if you swallow the blue pill. But that doesn’t matter because she won’t get over it. She has a pattern of fucking 2-3 guys a year. Most likely she’s already cheated on you with a one night stand or two. She just hasn’t found a guy as secure as you, yet.

You can’t change her behavior, she won’t change her behavior, the relationship is doomed.

[–]ksilvia121 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Man don't break up with her over this, none of that means she hasn't grown and become a different person. Just keep your eye on things and continue to grow yourself. It really isn't that big a deal, there are women out there who've been promiscuous when they're younger and then are loyal to their guy. Don't take this redpill philosophy in such absolutes.

[–]kaolin2240 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gross.

Cheaters cheat, it's what they do. When people say they've grown up and turned over a new leaf don't believe them for a second.

The second the opportunity arises and they think they can get away with it, it's on. Past experience has taught them it's a viable plan, and what you don't know won't hurt you.

People are insane getting into relationships or marriage with these types, not to mention staying in them, after they learn these facts.

Then they're surprised when their partner does exactly the same thing to them.

Ditch her and find a good woman. Have higher standards for yourself.

[–]Redditgoodaccount0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Keep as plate there's not even the option for a LTR .

[–]0io-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldn't expect the relationship to last for more than a year or two.

I would expect her to continue the pattern of picking up a couple of new guys every year unless you can keep her really busy. I would go for threesomes with her, since you know she gets bored easily. Here's your chance to try everything sexually you ever wanted to without a lot to lose.

At least she's honest about cheating. Most good-looking single 25 year old girls you meet probably have similar body counts and have cheated before too. (They wouldn't consider it cheating because the guy they cheated on made some mistake.)

Certainly you should get STD tested.

If you're having a good time with this woman, keep having a good time. This is the classic "it's your turn" situation. You want to be the guy who was a little too wild for her that she couldn't lock down. You don't want to be the guy who fell in love with her that she cheated-on because he was too boring.

[–]_Last_Man_Standing_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

demote her to a "plate without promotion privileges"
or if you are too emotionally invested just run while you still can brah...

[–]Matthias_Foley350 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s the high sign to bail. Ghost it, man.

[–]Irtotallynotrobot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's probably in triple digits by now

[–]tardiswho0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yea I see red flags, I would say move her to a plate.

[–]xabl000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's an overall sign of inherently promiscuous behavior. I would not expect an LTR with this person bro. Sorry. She'll probably swear on her grandma's eyes that she isn't cheating when in fact she is. You can't un-learn that behavior.

[–]SalporinRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would never date a girl who admitted they were a serial cheater lmao. Mate, get a hold of yourself and dump this hoe.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thot demoted to plate.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure if I should break it off as these details have come to light. I'm finding it hard to look past them, wondering if I'll get over it with time.

This doesn't sound like LTR material, why are you still in a LTR with her?

[–]OkCellist20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oopsies

[–]opper-hombre10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

20 people at 25 but started when she was 14? I expected a much higher number than that

[–]ugluk10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Could be a shit test, though. On the positive side, you have a living sex doll.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Short term relationship only.

Thats my opinion. Make your own.

[–]boom_bostic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Work on yourself & stop worrying about your woman.

If you do this, things always work themselves out.

Besides, even if you tried, you can’t change her or anyone else.

[–]quercusp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What do you want in life? Be the judge of her morality and sacrifice your relationship if necessary in order to give her a lesson in morality? Or do you want to be happy yourself? If the latter is your primary goal, then simply ask yourself whether you feel happy with her and love her for the love she gives to you. Life is complicated enough, do not additionally complicate it with moral shit and in advance jealousy.

[–]DonJuan_690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ask yourself this man: “ Do I really want something anyone can have?”

[–]AceMav210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

On the contrary you should save he from her ways and put a rock on her finger. She’s worth it brah

[–]DeadHeadAhead0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Simple. You gotta sleep with that many guys to even it up.

[–]128bitworm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you have to ask, it's already too late for you.

[–]menial_optimist0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Some of the conclusions made in this thread are retarded. Your talking about actions she took 11 years earlier. That's like judging someone for being an alcoholic 11 years ago who's been sober since.

[–]lilsproutnigga0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

lol its more than 20 dude, try 50+. anyways, please demote her. make her your main side bitch or something. im sure her sex game is pretty on point, but you're a sitting duck giving exclusivity to such a blatant dog of a woman.

[–]Radinax0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Its your turn.

[–]redbananaboard0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure why you're asking this homie...NEXT!

[–]yuktone120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Seems pretty beta to care that a girl has sex had with other people before you.

The cheating is a seperate issue though

[–]SpecialistParticular0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's a freak. Become her suitcase pimp and make some money on her before she slams headfirst into the wall.

[–]GetMeLaidAlot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yea, there's no way it's only 20 people in 11 years. She could have at least made it an odd number to make it seem slightly more believable.

[–]lostandfindingmyself0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m gonna give you some advice that runs contrary to almost everything anyone so far on this sub. The most important part of any relationship is communication and trust. If you don’t trust this person, don’t be in a relationship with them. Communicate if you’re having issues and if you think you can’t be in a relationship with them, don’t be. But don’t let other people tell you if you should break up with her.

[–]SpinPlates0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

20 partners at 25 years old is really low for today's women.

Probably more like 40 or 50

[–]Sendmeloveletters0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is a great opportunity to practice dumping a girl for being unworthy even though she’s hot, you’re attached, and you like her.

This is your life you’re talking about. She is a burning building and you are trapped inside. Escape to safety before you get permanently disfigured.

[–]PolesWithGoals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Abandon ship

[–]virtualvirgincake20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is a train wreck. Get out of there

[–]JxRomeo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think you can't deal her past. Just break up and move on. Its very hard decision for a man but there is lots of girls around

[–]morebeansplease-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Virginity doesn't work like that, go watch some Adam ruins everything.



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