As many asked me for an update after going to the date, here it is. Original post is on my profile, can't link it for some reason.
So I've met with this chick at the cafe we agreed upon. I've arrived 5 minutes before the time we agreed upon and order myself some cold water and a coffee and started smoking a cigarette (I know, I know, I will quit after finishing my exams, but this is important to the story). Also important to the story is the way I was dressed. Pretty much like this. This is how I usually dress because it really makes me feel good.
The chick arrives about 10 minutes later and she was all smiling and happy and greeted me with a cheek kiss (this is common in my country between girls and men, if they are close, so this was a green flag for me).
She ordered herself a coffee and we started talking. At first we made jokes about some of our teachers, we talked about our jobs (she's actually working for a big top 10 tech company) and we talked about different approaches to our career. She thinks a big corporation is the way to go, while I like to think of myself as my own boss (I work for a smaller company right now, but it actually pays me really good because we work in cyber security for big banks, and I also have more time than working in a corporate environment, the reason why I just turned down a better paying job just this week) and I want to become the CEO of a startup. After telling her about how I like to be free and not really constraint, she told me that she really liked my style and how I actually looked sexy smoking by cigarette with my sunglasses on, dressed "classy". And she told me that she saw me at a party a couple months ago and that I looked like Tommy Shelby (it's a character played by Cillian Murphy in a show called Peaky Blinders, quiet popular around here) because I was dressed in a suit and my haircut is quiet similar, but styled to look more modern (I have a good barber lol) but didn't dared to tell me anything, but thought I was cute. She told me how she had some small butterflies in her stomach for a moment when she saw me all dressed up, drinking whiskey and smoking. At this point I must admit I probably looked a little nervous for some reason and lost my frame for a moment. And then, when she saw me in the exam hall she thought she had nothing to lose if she said hi. Another thing worth to be noted is she said she liked how confident I looked overall, also at the party and before the exam.
I escalated a little, did some kino, but she still didn't offered me any opening for a kiss at first. Playing back and forth between being really open and reluctant to my touch, probably I need to work on that too.
This went back and forth, until we left and I offered to drive her home. When leaving the cafe she initiated a kiss, but it was a quick, gentle one.
Now, I did a job for a guy a while back, and as payment I asked him to lend me a used Camaro for a couple of months (I just got my license and I'm starting to actually learn how to drive, lol, and the guy was ok with it because he couldn't sell it anyway, and honestly, it was a good deal, I was kind of an idiot proposing it, lol) because I thought I could drive a cool car for a couple of months and don't worry about repairs or something. When she saw what car I was driving she gave me the usual "is this your car?", to which I replied: "not for long, I want to upgrade". After that during the drive I've put my hand on her leg, and she was ok with that, tried to escalate but she stopped me gently. We eventually made out in my car, but didn't fucked her. After I left she told me in a text she felt great and would love to see me again. Will set up a new date with her.
What I did good:
- the way I dress
- money is impressing
- being confident
- the way I talked with her overall
What I did wrong:
- still bad at kino and physical escalation
- although I'm confident in speech, when it comes with getting physical with someone for the first time, I'm still reluctant and afraid of being a creep
What do you think guys? I feel like I could have fucked her but messed it up somewhere.
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