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I get girls I don't want and don't get the girls I want

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June 11, 2019
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Title basically says it all. It becomes extremely frustrating when it happens over and over and makes every sexual experience pretty lackluster if you're not really into the girl. They're not really ugly or fat, but they just don't give me that feeling of accomplishment and passion because I'm just not that into them.


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Title I get girls I don't want and don't get the girls I want
Author boredathome19
Upvotes 175
Comments 128
Date 11 June 2019 04:54 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/241599
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bzez26/i_get_girls_i_dont_want_and_dont_get_the_girls_i/
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[–]dani098174 points175 points  (25 children) | Copy

Man sometime I think it’s the fact that I try to hard with the ones I want

[–]iwviw49 points50 points  (13 children) | Copy

Yup. Gotta keep that abundance mentality

[–]dani09818 points19 points  (12 children) | Copy

Fuck I know. Really it’s after I get to know them snd I let them soften me up. Then I fuck up

[–]hrm089420 points21 points  (2 children) | Copy

They're all whores who don't give 2 fucks about you. While you have your crush on your mind, she's thinking if you're the best she can have (while comparing you to her 20 other options).

Once that reality sinks in your head, you'll stop catching feels and letting these hoes turn you soft.

[–]dani0981 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well you’re about right. But really that’s how we all think

[–]777views-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck ‘em all

[–]Ill_mumble_that9 points10 points  (8 children) | Copy

Just picture all of them as if they were naked. That's a confidence builder. At least that's what my public speaking class taught me.

[–]dani0984 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

They not reall the issue though. They open up to me then I open up to them. I think that why they fade out. I go out with them and fuck them. I don’t go no where emotionally till we fuck

[–]furcryingoutloud0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Women don't open up. They tell what they think you want to hear. It's a shit test, if you open up, you failed.

[–]dani0981 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

So a long-term relationship is one big shit test. Interesting to hear you got there mm OK

[–]furcryingoutloud0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Have at it dude. Good luck with that.

[–]dani0980 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I’m talking about girls opening up from the first, second, third, or fourth date over the span of days or weeks. Obviously when I said a long-term relationship I was being facetious

[–]furcryingoutloud0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I'm talking about women opening up during any time of their life or relationship. You're going to save yourself lots of heartache if you take everything they say with a grain of salt. Also, this not only applies to women. But women are more emotional animals, they thrive on emotions. So it is more likely that their stories are embellishments of reality.

  • my boyfriend mistreated me, probably bullshit
  • I had a bad father, likely bullshit
  • I've only had 3 boyfriends, surely bullshit

Watch actions, ignore words

[–]StoneHurk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't know if talking to them with a boner would help

[–]PM_ME_CHILL_MUSIC22 points23 points  (5 children) | Copy

That but also the fact that women date upwards the hierarchy while men date downwards. Treat all girls the same while you work on your SMW to stay at the top of the hierarchy

[–]dani0982 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Yeah you are right you should always be working on your self. As far as quality of woman that not my biggest issue right now (not saying it is not) but rather keeping the good ones or ones ok like after the first few dates. I think because they really like me then I open up and lose them. I lose the ones they were giving me attention. Lol

[–]PM_ME_CHILL_MUSIC14 points15 points  (3 children) | Copy

Your attention is valuable for them, so spend it wisely. Avoid texting as much as possible unless it's for logistics and don't open up so easy. Be mysterious and unpredictable... so unpredictable that you even surprise yourself at times

[–]dani0982 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is where I go wrong.

[–]PM_ME_CHILL_MUSIC3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Now you know what to improve on. Step by step, you gon' make it brah

[–]dani0980 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks dude. I need that right now.

[–]gluten_free_soy_boi6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is me. I think what happens is that i subconsciously categorize girls as potential plates or potential LTRs. The ones I see as potential LTRs (usually hotter and more interesting) haven't been coming back for the 2nd date. I give off too much investment and am less relaxed. I revert to more beta ways and try to "connect".

I wonder if I should stop seeing plates and invest that time in energy in self-improvement and approaching.

[–]EvolvedVirus2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wait what do you do with the plates, you don't try to connect at all? You just say "here's where we bang, here's the address" ?

[–]dani0982 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes this is bout what I do. I am really a soft person inside so it’s hard to stay closed

[–]SICFJC1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Too*

[–]dani0980 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Fuck it.

[–]gjproflip144 points145 points  (3 children) | Copy

Bet if you treat the girls you want like the ones you don’t want you’d see a change

[–]dadfrombrad28 points29 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is why I always chase a girl above the one I actually want. Even better if she is friends with the other girl

[–]babybopp13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly fucking her friend when the other one is playing hard to get works for me. I titrate up. If it doesn't work out, I move on. I don't emotionally invested in a woman ever.

[–]duta21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What I noticed I did/ do is not apply the same rules of waiting and playing abundance cos I want it faster. I don’t wanna wait. Then I say fuck it. Go too ham. Go too single

[–]SwoleyMoleyFrijoley65 points66 points  (3 children) | Copy

Call the smart ones pretty and the pretty ones smart. Treat a whore like a princess and a princess like a whore.

[–]ZeppKfw5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Forgot who originally said that

[–]BrodinsOats8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Was it Patrice?

[–]StoneHurk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I understand all those except for "treat a whore like a princess". Isn't that just being a orbiter?

[–]redalterego92 points93 points  (25 children) | Copy

Emotional investment. You get the 4s and 5s (or whatever number you rank them as) because you treat them with indifference. An 8 thinks the same way as a 5. Good luck.

[–]NikeSigma2330 points31 points  (24 children) | Copy

This is not true. 5 game is not the same as 8 game. With ugly girls, you need only give them a bit of attention and they will be all over you. The same bit of attention is completely normal to a pretty girl, because they are given it by numerous men on a daily basis in real life and on social media.

[–]furcryingoutloud47 points48 points  (19 children) | Copy

Those 8 and 9's will respond the same to a man with high SMV. If you're not getting the same attention, it's your SMV that's failing, not your approach.

[–]Skylights100011 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly

[–]Tousen717 points8 points  (13 children) | Copy

Yup. Raise your SMV.

[–]tallwheel1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Not necessarily. It could be either or both. He could be just coming off as too desperate and invested with the 8 and 9's because his abundance mentality isn't there yet.

[–]furcryingoutloud2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Abundance mentality goes hand in hand with SMV. It's part of knowing that you have high SMV. You could go through life having high SMV and if you don't finally figure it out, the result is the same, you'll be acting like an idiot in front of high SMV girls. Wasted SMV.

Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos and many others. Extremely high SMV, but they have no clue. So they are acting like a fake 8 is doing them a favor by looking at them. Their SMV is shit because they don't recognize it and act accordingly.

If you don't know you have it, it's useless. SMV not complete.

[–]tallwheel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

True.

[–]AdamNJH0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The only correct answer here.

[–]1redhawkes9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

Learn reading comprehension. He's saying no to put their ass on the pedestal.

[–]NikeSigma232 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm aware of that. I'm responding to his (awful and inaccurate) point that a 5 and an 8 think the same.

[–]1redhawkes14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

AWALT in the hind brain.

Yes, the game ain't the same, you need to calibrate aka tone the assholery down with the more introverted/insecure chicks and up with the entitled bitches. It depends on your SMV tho. If your SMV towers hers, all you need is Amused Mastery and not being autistic sperglord.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Amused Mastery?

[–]Hot_Pink_Knob60 points61 points  (4 children) | Copy

Your SMV isn't high enough then, instead of wasting your time gaming average girls put all your energy into raising your SMV.

[–]Tousen7115 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy

This guy gets it. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. Hit the gym, work on your fashion, and approach upper tier girls that give you choosing signals.

Do this enough and you’ll learn how to handle yourself around high SMV women.

(Still working on this myself actually)

[–]777views1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

What are your tips to improve smv? I’m working on this too

[–]Tousen716 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read make fashion magazines (esquire, gq, etc.) and look at their style. Eventually you’ll get a feeling for what looks good and what your style is.

Hit the gym and learn the basics of nutrition and weightlifting. Tailor a routine that works for you and get in there 3-4 days a week.

Read red pill and other self improvement books to give you the initial confidence that you somewhat know what you’re doing and approach the girls who give you choosing signs. You will likely never see them again and you’ll rest in inertia if you don’t create action in your own life.

Don’t wait for a girl to come to you or you may be waiting forever.

Aside from that, be disciplined and ambitious at your job and develop real hobbies to become a more interesting person.

[–]RedVelocitiy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read Dale Carnegie how to win friends and influence people

Lift

Fashion/Trend

Network more friends

Hobbies

[–]bakamoney12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Might as well cross post to twox.

Pretty sure they get this one every hour..

[–]dani0982 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Twox?

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (8 children) | Copy

It's all about the SMV, which unfortunately can be extremely difficult to raise.

[–]Tousen710 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Not difficult just time-consuming.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'd say it's a bit of both; sure you can lift, dress better, etc. but a huge chunk of smv is preselection and getting out there / improving social skills, which can be hard for introverts and/or latebloomers

[–]Tousen712 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed but those skills are learnable. You’re just starting from behind the curve. Take on Nofap during your self improvement binge and the rest will come easy. You’ll create real urgency to getting your shit together and getting more women because you won’t have any other outlet for a release.

[–]EvolvedVirus0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Making muscle is an extremely slow process. It's not that easy.

[–]Tousen711 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Time is relative. Spending a year to get the body you want for a decade or more of higher SMV is a worthy sacrifice.

[–]EvolvedVirus0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah but you can work out all year long, and every 1 year doesn't add that much muscle.

[–]golgynat0r2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

first one is what counts the most, others are just maintenance

[–]Tousen710 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well that depends on what whether you know what you’re doing.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Story of most of our lives

[–]dani0980 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck. Right. I do well but I always chase off the ones I like. I like them because they like me. Then it seems , I open up and they are gone. Lol.

[–]NikeSigma235 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have this same issue. It's because you want the higher caliber girls, and the lower and medium caliber girls want you. The answer is to work and raise your SMV

[–]Narcissist4565 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

The idea that you’re not getting the hotter girls because you’re not “confident” around them is likely not the case. Women fuck up. In fact, they almost always chase and fuck dudes out of their league then cry when those very same guys won’t commit. The ugly/average girls are fucking you because your SMV is higher than theirs. It’s that simple.

Get better looking or get more affluent and the hotter girls will fuck you. You can be “dgaf” and “cocky-funny” around the hot girls all you want, it won’t make them chase you.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed[🍰] 2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy

Easy to have outcome independence when you're truly independent of the outcome.

[–]boredathome19[S] 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

In the end you and me do want to fuck that one hot girl. How to enter that outcome independent state of mind if you don't have an arsenal of already hot women you can fuck instead?

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed[🍰] 5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

Who's the prize here?

That's how.

[–]boredathome19[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

That helps with going on with your life and not clinging to one girl that doesn't want you, but said girl (that sees your SMV as way lower than hers) won't chase you all of a sudden just because you moved on with your life.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed[🍰] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

If you could fuck HG9's weekly as a HB7,without any effort, would a HG5 even exist as an option for you? Would he even register as a sexual being?

That's what being an above average girl is like.

As others have said, SMV is your primary issue. Why are you special? What makes you stand out in a sea of average? Average just doesn't cut it when you raise your sights. You're competing not only with your peers, but higher SMV guys that will bang a girl 2 places lower on a slow night with no effort if they need some pussy.

If you can't answer that with a reply that women care about, then that's what you need to work on.

Don't forget SMV is sexual market value.

[–]dani098-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Would gh5 be an option? Yes Something differ by is usually good. Well sometimes

[–]EvolvedVirus-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Therein lies the problem, the game is a bit rigged like those lubed machines with the cranes and you keep trying to grab the prize and it slips.

It's a slippery uphill battle and the guys with much higher SMV are likely being chased.

Girls are rejecting guys left and right like a fly zapper. They compete with each other about how much better they think they deserve or they'll brag about what they reject.

Difference is, a guy who say took out a girl who is only a 5, would still pity her and have sex. A girl wouldn't do that.

[–]Tousen711 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You’re already not fucking that hot girl. You’re at zero. Outcome independence is recognizing you aren’t losing anything from not fucking her. You’re still whole and have whatever 4s, 5s you’re already fucking for sustenance.

[–]boredathome19[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Tbh currently I'm not even texting with a single girl. Last plate that was kinda okayish broke and I'm not the guy to meet new people every week.

In the end I should not care if I get to fuck or not for some time?

[–]Tousen71-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude that’s where I’m at. I hit a point where I was fucking with 6s and 7s I wasn’t into. Every time we went out I was looking at other girls because I knew I could be doing better if worked on my approach and close game.

Got off dating apps and now I’m only fucking girls I meet in real life that show interest. It’s tough but it definitely teaches you self-reliance and to be proactive in approaching. Couple that with Nofap where you’ve got no outlet and you’re golden.

[–]Throwaway5hfy88k994 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is normal. The fact that you want them and try is the reason that you fail. Abundance.

The ones you don't want starts chasing you (the hamster spins) and it becomes easy for you.

I have the same experience.

[–]boredathome19[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I feel like if I don't actively game women (no matter how hot) I'm just another part of the group to them (sexually invisible) most of the time.

I'm 6'3, 200 lbs and have a kinda attractive face, but the amount of times a girl actively came onto me are very very rare.

[–]EvolvedVirus2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are still probably lightyears ahead of others bro, don't feel upset about it. You are 6'3", that's like striking oil in terms of SMV.

Even if you were a male model, being say 5'6" would still hurt you A LOT.

You still probably pull women. Some guys haven't had sex in years (based on talking to some friends, I think that's the norm).

[–]Throwaway5hfy88k990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There's a different between gaming them and wanting them (putting on a pedestal and investing emotionally).

[–]Gordon-G5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s good to practice on the ones you don’t really care abt., however you likely are not treating them all the same. You need to treat the 4’s and 5’s just like the 9’s and 10’s. Always be aloof, indifferent, and have an idgaf attitude around all of them. If you place one above another like you’re worshipping her, she will have less respect for you, you’ll get friend zoned or worse she’ll cheat on you with the bad boy who dgaf.

[–]Casanova-Quinn2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

First, your SMV has to be high enough. If you're getting rejected quickly in the first interaction than that's your problem.

Second, you need to be confident and care free with the hot girls the same way you are with the average ones.

Third, you should compliment the hot girls less and tease them more. They're use to most guys treating them like princesses.

[–]the13thmonk2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

pretty common occurrence until you figure it out

treat all women the same. Plates, LTR's, old women you meet in a grocery store, moms, co-eds.

[–][deleted]4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Same... except they are actually kind of ugly and fat haha.

Truth be told I think it’s also my confidence. I have huge body dysmorphia. I hate the way I look. I’m 100% convinced I’m ugly despite the fact that I was able to match with a HB7-8 once on Tinder and actually go on a date with her.... only to ruin it by being very socially awkward haha.

The best we can do is raise our SMV. Someone here said that you should focus on raising your SMV instead of focusing on girls. And I feel that’s the best for us: Right now I’m doing a routine my dermatologist gave me to get ride of my acne, going to the gym, and I go to Dillard’s and Macy’s often to try out and buy new clothes.

[–]svdk0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I don't know how old you are but just ask your doctor to prescribe Accutane to get rid of the acne. I was in the same situation when I was younger and it cleared it all up in 6 months and I had a lot of acne..

[–]Twenty_league_boots0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Accutane can have some very negative side effects hormonally, unfortunately.

[–]svdk0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

First time hearing about this.
I know it has some serious side effects but never knew about hormonal ones.
In my experience it gave me some dry lips and eyes and clear skin.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

First and foremost, stop fucking girls that you don't want.

Second, you're likely treating them substantially different, and if you fix that, then you solve your problem.

[–]Gordon-G2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wrong.. practice is always good but you’re correct abt treating them all the same... badly!

[–]0io-1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you're able to consistently pull girls, instead of going for a new girl a couple of times a week, just set your bar much higher. Then think more in terms of dating than hookups. If you hook up with just one hot girl every two or three months, try to keep her in the rotation. If you don't genuinely like a girl and wouldn't want to be with her for a while, don't try to hook up with her in the first place.

Having 2-3 plates and a main girl for a year or two can be a much happier situation than an endless stream of hookups with random girls that aren't all that.

[–]Greaterbird4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's the problem isn't it? Girls only date up, so men have to date down. Find your accomplishment elsewhere. They're just women.

[–]BusterVadge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Push away the ones you don't want and try to set up your life and social circle so you can be around the ones you do want.

[–]CrimsonShiv1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get more experience with attractive girls. All it takes is one hottie to be infatuated with you like some plain Janes are for your brain to realise you're on that level; sure maybe not every one of your favourites will be down, but some will and that's enough of a bone for your brain to start moving down a new track of entitlement.

Just make sure that you're maximising your own attractiveness however you can:

  • Clean foods / Juicing for good skin & an UltraMind, this will contribute to...

  • Present, steady, unreactive eye contact indicating you're totally ok with yourself and they should be too.

  • Mewing / FaceBuilding

  • You can look up the rest, Fashion, Switch up your Lifts, Teeth whitening/Straightening, Showers (lol) you get the gist.

Things like this are extras for you really. Don't get caught up in them because 80-90% of attraction is being generated by your behaviour and sub-communication.

On top of all this try treating your ideal girls like the plain Janes (aloof & a little stand-offish(?)) eventually you'll get comfortable with it but just make sure it's the comfort of confidence to move things forward and not the comfort of accepted incompetence.

[–]FUCK_YEA_GLITTER1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This isn't surprising at all, most guys are in the same boat. The girls that are lower SMV to you want to get the best they can get and look up. It's the same thing to the girls you want. They don't percieve you as on their level. You need to up your SMV, through the many ways the sub repeats over and over. Work out, improve your looks, being more socially connected, etc etc.

[–]red_philosopher1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Why are you gaming girls you don't want in the first place?

[–]TFWnoLTR16 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy

I'm not OP but I've fallen into this pit a few times and I think I can explain:

I need to get laid. I need pussy. Therefore, I'll go after a few women below my SMV just to satisfy the urge. It will boost my self esteem and confidence, and then I'll be able to game hot women.

That's the thought process. The reality is that taking the easy lays makes you a lot less likely to work on yourself and improve your confidence and game. You become complacent and instead of working you sit back and wonder why the hot chicks dont put out like the ugly ones, not realizing its because you're confident around the ugly ones but not the hot ones.

It's a hard cycle to break. I wish I had good advice for OP but I am just turning the corner myself.

[–]red_philosopher5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

That's actually really true. I used to adore less attractive women before I found TRP (still do to an extent, they tend to be more realistic and less entitled), though now I just look for women that aren't fat, look like they take care of themselves, and aren't broken in the head.

Sticking to the low hanging fruit really retards your growth.

[–]Tousen710 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Factory. You can’t play in the minors forever just because you’re afraid to be a rookie in the majors.

[–]yrn_donno2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Raise your smv

[–]dani0980 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah you are right you should always be working on your self. As far as quality of woman that not my biggest issue right now (not saying it is not) but rather keeping the good ones or ones ok like after the first few dates. I think because they really like me then I open up and lose them. I lose the ones they were giving me attention. Lol

[–]NabroleonBonaparte0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Question

Which one behaves the most similarly to how your mom behaves?

The ones you want? Or the ones you get?

It may be because the ones you get react better to your personality that developed as you were a child.

My oneitis behaved like my mom. Once I realized that, I knew I had to gtfo because my mom has issues haha

[–]MajIssuesCaptObvious0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Story of my life

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

whatever girl you actually want probably has a more intricate SMV screening process. don't settle

[–]adeptintact0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The key is to treat the hot girls like shit, as if they are a lot lower SMV than you. Then it'll work out.

[–]jenovajunkie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Diamonds have to be mined for though.

[–]dijinee0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Treat the ones you want like the ones you don't want.

[–]ChemicalGiraffe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pussy slaps the same anyway, just have it in abundance.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm just not that into them

You're meeting girls and some like you, this is good.

Two things:

A> Be more attractive, obviously.

B> Are you acting all needy when you like a girl? Is something you're doing putting women off when you like them?

It's A or B. Work out which. Fix it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Simply treat all girls like you dont want them and boom! problem solved.

You are clearly acting differently to girls you want; hence the change in results

[–]stare_at_the_sun 1 points [recovered]  (6 children) | Copy

I need to stop reading these. I am a female and while it is interesting to see from this perspective, it is really disheartening. Is there a forum like this from a woman’s point of view?

[–]DBOLsinyourmouth2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

What's disheartening about it? I've noticed women tend to develop this mindset that when they get a guy that's an 8 or so, they think, "Wow, I guess I'm an 8 afterall." Nah, you're still a 4. Guys will fuck literally anything. lol. Guys spread their shit out far and wide, women are the ones constantly trying to swing upwards.

[–]stare_at_the_sun 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Swing upwards?

[–]DBOLsinyourmouth0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Aiming for a dude with a higher SMV than themselves.

[–]Nergaal-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe try NOT getting the girls you want, and make yourself not want them. Then the girls will come by themselves.

[–]Nighthawkdragon8-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

You shouldn't be getting girls as an accomplishment.



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