A summary of the most attractive traits in a man?

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June 14, 2019

Guys, I would like to compile a list of the most attractive qualities that a man can possess. You know when you meet a girl and she just blows you away, leaving a huge impression on you? Yeah - that, just the other way around. The traits that leave a girl thinking of you afterwards. So far I have:

  • Confidence in himself, so talking clearly and loudly, maintaining easy eye contact, being relaxed and taking up space, not feeling threatened by anything else.
  • Being non-needy and never clingy.
  • Always taking the lead.
  • Being assertive and not overly agreeable, especially if you don't agree with something.
  • Having drive and passion about most things in your life, talking enthusiastically about it.
  • Having your own thing going, being on your life purpose and always being busy with something.
  • Always being calm and composed, getting the girl to qualify and impress him versus him being the entertainment clown.

I have a feeling that this list won't actually be very long, but if you have something to add please do so!

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Title A summary of the most attractive traits in a man?
Author KBeer01
Upvotes 269
Comments 126
Date 14 June 2019 02:50 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/242028
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/c0kzdf/a_summary_of_the_most_attractive_traits_in_a_man/
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[–]WellShit23139 points140 points  (2 children) | Copy

Have unshakable Frame

Be physically attractive

Participate in something you love doing (some call it "passion")

[–]ugluk18 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't be unattractive.

[–]Deathrow2217 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

Whine somewhere else

[–][deleted] 112 points113 points  (15 children) | Copy

looking like you can hurt other men but you choose not to

[–]KINGCHARDASS26 points27 points  (14 children) | Copy

Simply put and eloquently pieces together. I weigh 220 and am 6 ft 2. I have small arms but a big belly.

[–]Gordon-G54 points55 points  (13 children) | Copy

I read somewhere that women prefer the “dad bod”.. but I’m thinking it is bc she figures you will be safe and not have to worry abt you straying bc other women won’t want non-Chad

[–]Skinnyboiwithadream53 points54 points  (5 children) | Copy


It’s the ultimate ‘beta provider’ look. She knows a man with a Dad bod will be hers forever, she’ll have him locked down. It’s not because that body is inherently attractive to women sexually.

[–]umizumiz9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Remember, men.

Women CREATE the "dad bod" through weak-willed pussy glorification, slowly creating the "perfect"(in hypergamy's eyes) man.

[–]KINGCHARDASS4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

That was a good point!

[–]Gordon-G5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

they’re very sinister overall, always abt them

[–]LethalShade21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just evolutionary psychology/biology bro. They are that way because it helped them survive. Same thing for men, just in different ways.

[–]dusara2179 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing sinister about wanting to fuck an attractive human being.

[–]mrp_awakening80 points81 points  (4 children) | Copy

Women saying they prefer "dad bod" is the same as women saying they prefer a nice, sensitive, caring man. It's them rationalizing they want beta traits. But just like beta traits, they don't respond to dad bod, they respond to jacked and shredded.

[–]UrShadowsReflection-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Or maybe they want an Alpha with a dad bod

[–]mrp_awakening9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lol... let me know how that works out for you.

[–]UrShadowsReflection7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not for me, I'm just being realistic.

You only see the ripped guys pulling all the girls in the movies. In real life, the aloof asshole with the beard and the dad bod is where the women seem to gravitate to the most. Because 9 times outta 10, that guy isnt trying to impress a female with every decision he makes.

Yes, women find men with athletic physiques more attractive, but like most of these guys are saying, being a meathead doesnt automatically make you alpha.

If you're a pussy with big biceps, women are gonna find out. If you're a try-hard beta who will do anything to try to seem tough, women will find out. If you're constantly trying to impress women, they will see that.

Women are observant and analyze how men behave with/around other men and women, they'll see through your front quicker than anyone.

Real men know this, it isnt rocket science.

[–]mrp_awakening1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Still... they dont want an alpha with a dad bod. They want a ripped alpha and will settle for one with a dad bod if they're not too vain and they can't get a ripped alpha then. It's like a girl who's a "but her face" with a hot body... you'll take it if it's the best you can get at the time, but it's not ideal.

[–]failberry2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Considering they have been compared to the Bonobos it makes absolutely sense.

[–]thechaosz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah this is bullshit

[–]tb0n169 points170 points  (31 children) | Copy

Muscles, brah. And well fitted clothes.

[–]lifeisweirdasfuck93 points94 points  (8 children) | Copy

"Get ripped or die mirin"

[–]Pwnishment8733 points34 points  (6 children) | Copy


[–]bigkids8 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy

An angel amongst men, among boys


[–]Aestheticcunt19962 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

He was a god.

[–]RedHoodhandles3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Wow... Never thought I would be reading this chain of comments in an asktrp thread. This place has gone nothing but downhill since the main forum got banned. Kiddie comments and single brain cell oneliners all over the place. And this shit is also getting upvotes.

[–]Aestheticcunt19966 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

u mad

[–]bigkids8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

He’s mad brah!

[–]Aestheticcunt19969 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure if mad or just mirin☺️

[–]fichgoony4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get fit or die trying

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn44 points45 points  (14 children) | Copy

Muscles are good, but it won't mean anything if your inner game is softer than baby shit.

Work on both.

[–]ZeppKfw39 points40 points  (12 children) | Copy

More muscles give you more leeway to fuck up. Seen built beta guys get attention from a lot a girls.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn12 points13 points  (9 children) | Copy

It doesn't play out well in LTR's.

[–]thechaosz3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

I can't imagine any red pill man really wanting an LTR.

I mean, good luck and all but f that.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Why not?

[–]thechaosz1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I find relationships cumbersome and getting in the way of my goals professionally and personally. I enjoy my own space.

I prefer to spin plates, bang exes/random/one night stands.

No matter how good looking you are and how alpha you are, women will begin to nag ,and then she'll want to move in and then she'll start talking about kids and marriage and it's just going to end that way. It's their natural path and looking for comfort.

Meanwhile no matter how much of a focused alpha you are, when you get in a long-term relationship, we all start slipping and eating out more and not working out as much. There may be like a 1% exception to this but afflicts a lot of people including myself.

Those that refuse to compromise like myself start getting in conflicts with the woman because they start pulling your time away from those things and getting angry you're not choosing them over the other.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Vetting plays a big role. The only thing I disagree with is that women will always do that, some more than others. Spinning plates is playing life on easy mode, and some of us would rather have kids than be the opposite of Cool Wine Aunts that sucked and fucked their way to the wall and beyond/

[–]thechaosz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I like easy so to each their own, stress is the number one killer of all. Kids and that responsibility would drive me to suicide. I love doing what I want, when I want, whatever I want, with whom I want. That will never ever change and I'm in my mid-30s.

I have no advice on long-term relationships (trp style), I've been in quite a few from 2 to 4 years, but I have learned my lesson and avoided such since finding trp and my career and life really taking off.

Thank my wits that I never committed to marriage fully, though I was engaged a few times. I would have lost so much of my life's earnings to this point, because there is no way I'd still be married (completely changed blah blah)

That's the best thing about us man, we age like wine.

There are plenty of guys on here with LTRa and many posts wnr articles talking about such strategy if that is what you choose.

[–]ZeppKfw-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy


[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy

Because your girlfriend will catch on quick and notice you're just a meat head with a pussy.

[–]umizumiz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Cazken6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly you become more alpha if everybody assumes that you are one. Similar thing happened to me though I never was a beta.

[–]thechaosz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah it also gives you the power to dread more with woman who just see the muscles and will Fawn in the presence of your plate

[–]Classic_Touch-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I disagree. A man who has a lot of muscle disgust me. I like healthy look but not with all the muscle. Eww..

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (6 children) | Copy

It's possible to be top 10% without being muscular, but I'd argue it's way easier to simply put in the work and get built.

For instance, I do obscenely well with women and I'm definitely not at my peak in terms of physical attraction - BUT:

  • my job is super high profile, lots of public speaking etc

  • I'm very successful

  • I'm a (low, low, very low tier) celebrity

I'm also old enough that I got that natural, legitimate 'fuck you I don't care' confidence going for me (36)

Took me more than a decade to get to where I am and a lot of it was luck. 99% of the time it's gonna be easier to hit the gym tbh

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K182 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

What the fuck is a low, low low, low, low, low tier celebrity? lmao. You either famous, or not.

[–]The_False_Song7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

A local radio show host, or an alderman for your city, etc.

I get what he is trying to say

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah you're in the right ball park

[–]thechaosz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey an edge is an edge. Good work!

[–]throwaway1999131224 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Most of it comes down to independence and frame when you really break it down

[–][deleted] 65 points66 points  (1 child) | Copy

A man with purpose and mental fortitude. He will never be knocked off his path. He has too much integrity and self belief in himself to allow anything to make him falter. He is a warrior, not because he chose to be, but because his DNA demands it. And he will not stop fighting and pushing forwards until he squeezes the last drop out of life.

[–]thechaosz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I need this on my wall

[–]MCFiletMignon39 points40 points  (2 children) | Copy

1) power

The power to live a better life than others. Better life means better offspring.

Everything follows from biology.

[–]CarthaginianSalt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. Nietzsche approves of this message!

[–][deleted] 36 points37 points  (10 children) | Copy

Frame, Frame, Frame, Frame, Frame

[–]krayono6 points7 points  (9 children) | Copy

What is frame, exactly? Example?

[–]ZeppKfw38 points39 points  (4 children) | Copy

Doing what you want to do and not letting other people change that. Wanna go to chipotle but your girl doesn't? You go anyways.

[–]KamelMedia 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

You go anyways and she feels fortunate enough to tag along on such a grand journey. I constantly remind my girl how interested i am in other girls. I love her so i do it on purpose. She argues but ultimately knows i can and will leave her at any time if she fucks up.

[–]Sake990 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

doesn't she freakout? when you say, hey! I am interested in that girl over there.

[–]KamelMedia 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

No because i dont do it like an idiot and say it like exactly how you just said. i just casyally express my interest in other women when the opportunity arises. Im currebtly trying to sell her on the fact that since im in a relationship with her its negatively impacting me in a business sense and i need to go out and do pick up to keep my skills sharp. She understands but hates it, i could push to make her accept me doing it but i dunno if i wanna go there yet. i guess ita high level shot for a lot of pwople, but normal for me. You girl needs to always know she can be replaced instantly and she will only know that if your game is high. otherwise ure subject to her terms. fuck that.

[–]Sake990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How do you say it then, show me an example.

[–]Vikingcel4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

It's just a buzzword.

[–]bigkids7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Buzzwords? My favourite is "the cloud".

Store your information on the internet? Sounds unsafe.

Store your information in the cloud? Sounds safe and fluffy

[–]ixyfang4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

The Cloud: other people’s servers in other people’s buildings on other people’s property behind other people’s locks.

[–]Vikingcel4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Frame sounds so esoteric.

If you want strong frame, basically act autistic minus the rocking when something doesn't go your way. (Edit: If you feel like rocking when your tinder match flakes, you just rock back and forth. Your life, your coping mechanism, your frame. You just dgaf if people think it's weird.)

You want to study the flow of water in a bathtub, but people say that's retarded and weird? Fuck 'em. The intricacies of a bathtub full of water under various conditions is important to you.

[–]Vikingcel15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good looks. Physically imposing.

[–]MetalstepTNG10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Masculinity, frame, and non neediness. The rest just boils down to personal preference and being a girl's type.

[–]failberry10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Are we forgetting sense of humour/sarcasm?

[–]VigilantSmartbomb7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy


A bit of a manic



A teacher (not profession)

Integrated shadow/dark side

Financially free

Owns a business


Well kept

Can tell them to shut the fuck up if you needed to

[–]Sake996 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

what do you mean, a bit of manic?

[–]VigilantSmartbomb2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Look into why girls fall for guys like Ted whoever the serial killer. But like the actual psychological term for it, manic. Manic- “showing wild, apparently deranged, excitement and energy.” This

Edit: downvote because science? Fuck yall

[–]bigkids5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Manic is the extreme opposite of depressed. Those would be the two spectrums of a manic-depressive, or someone who suffers from bipolar disorder.

[–]MetalstepTNG1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No, downvote because you're a fag

[–]SOLODOLOGUY7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

All you need are muscles, height, money, and a great personality

[–]Greaterbird10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

Having a massive cock doesn't hurt.

[–]Khiv_16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

It actually might.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

  1. 6 foot tall +

  2. Have a nice face.

If you are a shy prettyboy women wil still choose you over the strong, assertive confident, 5"8 balding man

[–]Totsean0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]uglytoadinsauce10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

The power to choose

[–]Project_Zero_Betas1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only correct answer.

[–]taketrance7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

On the looks bit - not sure it can be considered a trait, as it cannot be built with effort, unlike all other traits that OP posted (and I agree with)

Yes, a good haircut and clothes will make some difference, but at the end of the day we can’t do anything to have Brad Pitt looks, which is universally accepted as very good looking. It’s either in your genes or it’s not. Same applies to muscles, you can work your ass off and get to a good point, but it’s your genes that are going to determine how your body will look and your natural capacity for growth (not including the case of steroids).

[–]ixyfang0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This and you can emphasize traits that suggest good genes for breeding: healthy skin, good teeth, clear eyes, muscles and symmetry both at rest and in motion.

[–]TheMonsterofNikyTown9 points10 points  (10 children) | Copy

Repeat after me: looks, money, and status.

[–]Sake996 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy

You don't need any of this. Coach has already said it. I say, Personality, Frame and cONFIDENCE.

[–]TopOccasion291 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Coach Redpill?...He's a fraud who lies to his audience.

[–]Sake990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can you give example, where he lied.

[–]TheMonsterofNikyTown0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

kek. Keep believing that shit.

[–]Sake990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I either blindly follow you or him , what's the difference? you've to give proof or nobody will believe your shit too.

[–]Cazken1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

What does status count as in high school? I know a lot of high status people, they respect me, I come across confident and powerful in social situations, but I’m wondering if I’m not truly high status since I don’t bother to hang out with large groups of the “cool kids”.

[–]TheLongerCon3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

The definition of status in a game sense, is others peoples positive behavior towards you. If women want to sleep with you and guys want to be your friends you have status in high school.

[–]Cazken-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Right, I have that. Thanks man.

[–]kingofclubsmorde1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't bother your mind with these, my child

[–]GrouchyCounty2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Being tall

[–]Nighthawkdragon82 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I would add being carefree, being fun, generating good emotions.

[–]thechaosz0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

This is huge. It's good I continue to pull such younger woman.

[–]Nighthawkdragon80 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Ya. If you are just fun and uneedy, your social life and dating life will be pretty excellent. Tons more you can add to that without a doubt, but the most simple things you can do without doing anything else is fun and not needy(being carefree achieves this)

[–]thechaosz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So true. I just was all about going out, drinking, going to shows, don't care she's texting her ex, don't care they weren't talking to me, don't care I rolled in solo on my bike on a Tuesday to a bar.

Ended up smashing all of them. Just all about abundance mentality, talking to everyone, not giving a fook. These girls used to call me "backpack" because I'd roll in , hook my bike up (25 milesand a day from work), and come into the bar with my backpack.

I banged all of them. They were all married school teachers in the same district, and hated their husbands. I got stories for days.

[–]UpperRedSide4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Benevolent sexism.

[–]n3n3r31 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just not too obvious

[–]Sake990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Such an underrated comment.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

A man who stands up for what he believes in and sets boundaries

[–]luc2421 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Money = Status, + looks and good sense of humor.

[–]DANYboy521 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]ReformSociety1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Confidence in himself, so talking clearly and loudly with intent

[–]Aymane2211 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Height and muscles

[–]NordicVikingKing1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Interesting. In all this thread not a single mention of knowing how to fuck women properly. All this other stuff is good, but unless you’re good in bed you’re prone to your women branch swinging. You also get away with a lot more shit if you know how to give them mind blowing sex.

[–]DTron23321 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Frame, and the ability to be cool calm and collected at all times.

Being proactive, instead of reactive. Letting experiences do things for you, instead of to you.

The ability to own up to your mistakes.

[–]Bored1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

  • Status
  • Frame control
  • Have a greater purpose (Women should not be your top goal)
  • Know why you’re doing what you’re doing at any point
  • Aware of actions that aren’t leading you closer to achieving your goals and adjust accordingly
  • Act with direction
  • Humor, but be a self-entertainer, not an entertainer
  • Emotions are self-validated
  • Don’t need to justify how you feel
  • Feeling bad about feeling bad (This is another form of not accepting your emotions as valid)
  • Know who you are, likes/dislikes, aspirations
  • Focus on what you can control
  • Take responsibility for getting what you want
  • Not feeling entitled to anything
  • Don’t rely on others to define who you are
  • Compassion
  • Set and enforce personal boundaries
  • Attuned to emotions of self and others

[–]Sake990 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Compassion, in what sense? many women are turned off by a kindness of a guy.

[–]Bored0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

More like non-verbal compassion - helpful actions that imply the guy must be attuned to people. Does not come off as being nice to get something in return.

[–]LifeIsAdreamGoLucid1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

To break down signs of being physical attractive based on the bases of looking " healthy ". After all that is what mates are looking for in each other.

  • white teeth, preferably straight.
  • healthy hair, shiny, thick.
  • low body fat, athletic build.
  • clear bright skin.
  • smell nice, breath, body odor.

These are attributes that are attainable by anyone. Most of this can be accomplished through a clean, whole food diet.

[–]PolesWithGoals1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Step 1: Be good-looking

[–]Kkiy0M 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy

You don’t need that lol. What do you think a girl would rather go for, a real alpha that makes her weak at the knees ? Or a soft pretty boy ? Looks are for women lol, thankfully men don’t need it. And if you feel you do, you lack the masculinity to compensate.

[–]Aymane2215 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

You Definitly need looks homie. Go to your club all the sexy woman are with good looking dudes. If you don’t notice that your blind as fuck

[–]PolesWithGoals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This guy gets it

[–]thechaosz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly really depends on the broad. Some like big jacked lumberjack guys, and some like more clean-cut pretty boys, I guess it's just how they grew up or in their genetics.

I'm in a city where I went for the In-Shape clean-cut look and pull a lot of tail, but then I also met girls who wanted me to country line dance and have a beard.

Either way they perceive the man as attractive.

Both of these are in shape, confident, social and such. Just different "looks" style wise

[–]PolesWithGoals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Come try with some girls at my university, then come talk to me

[–]FiveStarTendieDinner0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You have to put yourself first in every situation. You have to look like you can fuck someone up whenever you want to. You have to be dominant, threatening, imposing and dangerous. You have to be a killer. You have to be a fucking man and not a pussy ass bitch.

[–]lampshade28182 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is wrong for so many reasons. You don't have to walk around looking and acting like a UFC guy on the 'roids to attract quality women. Most intelligent/quality women like a man who is reasonably in shape, has a good job/career path, has good hobbies, a strong education, and is an interesting person in general.

[–]Notagain63520 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]ReformSociety0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I read that as:

You know when you meet a girl and she just blows you anyway, leaving a huge impression on you?

[–]Aggressive_Beta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Looks, game/frame, social status, good in bed, resources. In that order.

[–]littledevil410 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Does height matter ?

[–]lampshade28182 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sometimes. It depends on the woman and what she likes. I'm 6'1" and my wife is 5'7", so it works. Her best friend is 5'1" and her husband is 5'7", so that works. Some women like tall guys and some don't care.

[–]skunkbear4440 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Emotional IQ

Emotional Control

Vocal Tone and Control

Posture and Mannerisms

Being able to emotionally emote, and emotionally lead women


Not giving two fucks because we are all dead anyways

A dick that works and works hard like a miner

[–]IncelTearsIsLowIQ0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

strong mandible

protruding maxilla

good eye area

large frame


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