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Shit test “are we going out as friends?”

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MagnetoWned
June 17, 2019
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I actually never got this before, there’s this girl that used to be a coworker and we had an instant connection. I told her recently let’s go out next week and she said “like are we going out as friends” shit test or ghost her? 🤔


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Title Shit test “are we going out as friends?”
Author MagnetoWned
Upvotes 87
Comments 60
Date 17 June 2019 03:19 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/242279
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/c1inpq/shit_test_are_we_going_out_as_friends/
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[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev290 points291 points  (17 children) | Copy

"No. I have friends for that."

[–]That_Deaf_Guy106 points107 points  (10 children) | Copy

Best thing to say. One girl, who had a boyfriend of 6 years, hit me with a paragraph after she suggested we have a casual relationship. The paragraph was basically "I can't do it, let's just be friends".

Hit her back with "I have enough friends. If you want something casual, you know where I am". Was fucking her a week or so later.

[–]Siccunt9915 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

And the best part is this guy would be cool if she didn't come,this is what its all about.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

A heroic answer.

[–]CasaDeFranco0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Are you concerned about blowback? I've been burnt by women who had a +1. Isn't the risk not worth the reward?

[–]That_Deaf_Guy0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

She approached me. Minimal blowback in this situation. Plus her boyfriend sounded like a bitch.

What sort of blowback have you received?

[–]CasaDeFranco2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Some men, when discovered they have been cuckolded get irrational and angry. Irrational and angry men can be violent.

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It's happened twice, one threatened to break my legs and waited outside my place of employment. Two employees had to escort him from the building, it was not worth the embarrassment. Later he apologised, she stated it was an open relationship, evidently, it was not.

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My point is, there are a lot of single women out there, women who cheat knowingly tend to be too much drama. I don't like drama in my life.

[–]That_Deaf_Guy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My point is, there are a lot of single women out there, women who cheat knowingly tend to be too much drama. I don't like drama in my life.

I agree. I ended up cutting mine off due to her disrespecting boundaries. It's not worth it.

[–]Aesthetik_1-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

“You know where I am”?

[–]That_Deaf_Guy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

i.e. how to contact me. Also saw her regularly on my commute to work.

[–]Jesus-slaves15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is perfect. I've been unsure if a date was a date for the entire date.

Edit: am girl.

[–]InsidiousCurve11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Every time you're with a girl 1 on 1, and you haven't been 1 on 1 for for like 5 or more times in the past without escalating, assume you're on a date. Women understand this and would not be around you 1 on 1 if there wasn't some interest on their side. I look at missed opportunities in the past when I had no idea about anything, whereas that phrase would always go through my head.

[–]Saveurselfgurl2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have a friend that goes to holidays staying in same rooms and shit with a girl and he says they never had sex, she is just not like that, she is a good religious girl etc. I cant explain that shit to him, if you are going 1 on 1 and she didn't fuck you the problem is you and there is no fucking way she is a good girl, she is most definetely damaged as fuck.

[–]LoveLord10002 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I'll have to check with my girlfriend"

[–]TheGoldenLeprechaun0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Aaaand thread over.

[–]CarelessChemicals68 points69 points  (15 children) | Copy

Shit test. Run more game. Definitely do not ghost

[–]MagnetoWned16 points17 points  (13 children) | Copy

Got it, should I just reply with an A&A?

[–]CasaDeFranco0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A&A is okay but with questions like this, be direct. You already have enough friends.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't think this is a shit test, seems too harsh to be one.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

she said “like are we going out as friends”

Just say "no..... see you at 7".

[–]IV-IVm-I7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

"yes, BFFs actually and I'm thinking afterwards we can paint eachother's toenails"

[–]threwitall12317 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

I been thru this bro and trust it’s not what you say but how you say it for sure

[–]Mr_Teutates15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

This isn't a shit test. She is literally asking you in the most overt way she knows how, to confirm this is a date.

[–]no_condoments3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep. I think it's just this. Maybe OP never communicated his intentions and she legit doesn't know.

[–]PincheeWhey7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

you should make it known by your actions that you're interested in her in more than just friends.

[–]tinko2233066 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy

Say: Oh, friends with benefits sound good. And if she says no, just friends then reply: well then if you change your mind give me a call

[–]jamesbond818113 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is not a good answer it’ll get their ASD running

[–]tinko2233060 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

ASD?

[–]jamesbond81811 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Anti slut defence

[–]Madhatter7474 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

That's the right attitude BUT gotta treat this like a shit test even if it ain't.

[–]tinko2233061 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wahmen

[–]1walawalawa5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

A couple of things to consider here. This isn't a "shit-test" she is placing you in the Friendzone. You have THREE choices:

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  1. accept that and go along on her terms and in her frame: if you have not game and no options this is the one to pick
  2. walk away and ghost her: if you have no game this is the option
  3. Reframe in a Hail Mary move: Use these exact words, preferably in person but in a text if you haven't met up with her since said this. Say these words exactly as I've written them. They have never failed me:

"I'm a man, you're a woman. I see you as a woman not a friend. If you don't share that ok, there's no need for us to be in touch." If said in person, look her right in the eye. If it's in text wait for your phone to explode and it will explode.

If she's Friendzoning you, she'll say "Ok". But if this is a shit test she will be wet and respect that you were honest and a MAN about your intentions.

[–]LordFa90 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

A hail mary play can occasionally be good; if played well it'll take you out of ambiguity land

[–]1walawalawa0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It'll also make your intentions clear.

[–]redvelvet_oreo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No as FUCK BUDDIES

[–]The_Lightskin_Wonder0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

there's some people saying this isn't a shit test, when it is. not every shit test, is about testing your manhood, women shit test to gain information. depending on the information you give , women will respond accordingly.

are you a friend? her beta boyfriend or someone she can have fun with.

this is one of those cut and dry moments. if she didn't want to know she wouldn't ask. and if she didn't know it wouldn't be a question.

you've been doing good to an extent if she's in the dark, but depending on the amount of interactions, you may need to turn the heat up on this night out.

[–]theslyraptor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nope. I'm the daddy and you're the daughter. Daddy will buy you ice-cream if you behave like a good girl.

[–]yungplayz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why a shit test? She wanna know what you up to. Good thing she a straightforward one

[–]Malakyas_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I usually say i'm not your friend . I want you as my pair/escort me up.

[–]red2hilt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't have an answer for you, but don't you think she could be asking because she has a boyfriend, or isn't interested in you and doesn't want to be put in an awkward position of needing to reject your advances?

If she's interested, why would she ask that? What does it get her?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Abort / hard next, no girl would say this to a guy she's truly interested in. Beyond a shit test.

[–]hot_soup19-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

that depends on what benefits we have as friends

[–]morescoobysnacks 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

i disagree with every comment in here. this is all bad game. the only answer is the answer that gets her out. whatever she says via txt and whatever she feels in that moment is irrelevant once the game starts. and especially once she gets alcohol in her.

so tell her your friends. sure. "oh what, we're not friends now you fucking asshole?"

who cares. get her OUT.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

TRUE

[–]youcantdenythat-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

we'll see how it goes



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