I’ve been listening to The Science Of Trust by John M Gottman lately and it occurred to me that the reason MRP works is that it’s about building trust. Of particular interest in the book is that they found in their studies that men and women both are happier in relationships where the woman trusts the man.

Drunk Captain = not trustworthy of family leadership.

Doesn’t clean up after himself = not trustworthy of family leadership.

Fat and lazy = not trustworthy of family health leadership.

Finances a mess = not trustworthy of financial leadership.

Oneitis following her everywhere = not trustworthy of her leadership.

Not growing or developing as a man = not trustworthy of family growth leadership.

Not owning your shit = not trustworthy of leadership period.

Whining like a bitch = not trustworthy of leadership period.

Not setting or maintaining boundaries = not trustworthy of family safety leadership.

Can’t pass shit tests = not trustworthy of her leadership.

Can’t identify shit tests = not trustworthy of her leadership.

It goes on from there, we all get the idea.

Women want you to be a man she can follow. When she sees she can trust you to be that man she is free to give in and let you lead. All the things we do here are ultimately to build trust. This is why MRP addresses the man and not the marriage. Be the man her hind brain can trust.