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Question about handling a woman when she vents

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June 23, 2019

I just watched the video "Don't try to fix it. I just need you to listen." where a woman has a nail in her forehead but she does not want the man to remove it or talk about it but just listen to her venting about the pain.

So this is about fixing the "feelz" rather than fixing the problem for her. This got me thinking about below type of scenario and I am looking for some clarification on this subject and hope you guys can provide some insight how handle this type of a situation.

When we listen to women who are venting (or how things are not fair/ office problems etc.) without trying to fix her problem or giving any solutions, to what extent should we put up with her venting before that can eventually lead to an emotional tampon? How to make her stop without appearing as inconsiderate about her feelings and handle the situation effectively.

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Title Question about handling a woman when she vents
Author mahathun
Upvotes 15
Comments 18
Date 23 June 2019 11:28 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]itiswr1ttenRed Beret19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

Basically women need to take shits. Emotional shits. This is venting.

While it's fine and necessary to help her by being in the bathroom when she shits SOMEtimes, you want to make sure she is neither shitting on you or associating you with shit.

Also, you need to do this or she will shit all over the floor, then blame you for it.

Excuse yourself occasionally when the smell is strong.

[–]JudgeDoom694 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

you want to make sure she is neither shitting on you or associating you with shit

This is where the line is drawn between listening and being her emotional tampon. Great reply.

[–]cpotpie10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Also, you need to do this or she will shit all over the floor, then blame you for it.

So fucking true

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.05 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I come home from work every day with a smile on my face. I walk in the door, my wife smiles, gives me a kiss and asks me how my day was? I say "good". Even if it was total shit I say good because she doesn't fucking care or understand the shit I do and go through at work. After I finish doing what I need to do when I get home I will ask her how her day was. Typically this leads to her "venting" about dumb shit that happened. The horrible life and times of a middle-class white woman. I will nod and boo the villains and yay the heroes for about 15-20 min. After that, I find a break in the conversation and simply give her a kiss and either tease her to get her out of her stream of thought or I will flat out interrupt her and say we can finish this later, I need to xyz. She is typically a happy camper the rest of the night cause she got out all the feelz.

To add to this, I don't act like one of her girlfriends when she is telling me her shit. I don't get all emotional and flamboyant with the stories she tells. She didn't marry her girlfriend.

[–]FoxShitNasty833 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

When your brain starts to melt after a while.... "that's great you'll have to excuse me I need to shit" replace shit with lift, or do that important thing I need to do in relation to my mission.

There are other methods that involve fixing her feelz but I'm not there yet.

[–]plein_old4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

You can listen and be compassionate. But you don't have to encourage endless dwelling on problems. After a while you can say "hey that's too bad; well, I need to go handle something now."

I think a "tampon" is someone who is a pushover, and who is very emotional himself. Rather than someone who is like a "rock", sturdy, strong, erect.

Sometimes guys on reddit are like tampons - they get super emotional, and use a lot of strong, shocking language. If someone says something they disagree with, they get all bent out of shape, and they want to create drama. Acting that way with a woman is probably of no help to her at all.

[–]arm_candy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re not describing an emotional tampon. You’re describing a drama queen.

An emotional tampon is someone who listens to her bitching endlessly and soaks up her bad feelings. If you’re listening to someone complain all night, you’re an emotional tampon. If someone telling you that they are upset gets you upset, you’re an emotional tampon. If you get pissed off about dumb shit on Reddit and create drama, you’re an idiot and a drama queen.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I listen for a little bit, but I am not really listening. I head nod here and there and then usually change the subject with a shiny object. Women are easily distracted and you can move them from emotion to emotion very easily if you know how to do it. I have taken my wife from crying to cumming minutes apart.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thats a good daddy

[–]MrTrizzles4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn't vent to me, she vents to a girlfriend/family. Now if she's frustrated with a problem and she would like my counsel, that's something else. Or needs actual comfort.

But just to express some negative emotions? Nope. I don't want to feel bad for her. And she doesn't want me to. She likes me to think that she can handle her shit.

[–]Questionnaire71 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My ltr is on a 2 week vacation with her family. Shes sent like 3 or 4 nudes in 8-9 months & is very resistant to doing it. I got her to strip in a vid. Next day began moving towards something similar after not texting her all day and got: "If you are wanting a sexy vid you aleady used your card for the week."

I owned my shit and admitted that was what I wanted. She asked what I had in mind & I replied "yea you would like to know" and tapered off the convo.

Next day shes venting about family crap. Her dads immaturity. I worked her through the correct mindset of looking at it in about 3 sentences. She immediately asked when I became so wise & then what I had in mind for a sexy video. Insisted on pleasing me. Unfortunately I was actually busy so I said we'd do that another night.

I know the trade in an ltr is validation/attention/security for sex. But I like it a little less overt haha.

[–]helaughsinhidden1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I see myself as a guide for my wife. Like she is actually unable to navigate herself through her drama alone. When men have issues we are quietly thinking in our heads, but I don't think the hamster let's them work quietly. The brain seems directly connected to the tongue like a bike pedal to the chain. I see my role as the one to move the story along and kind of coach her venting. As if she doesn't know how she even feels yet or how to process it until she speaks the words out loud. Lol, almost like Steve from Blues Clues pointing things out that are in plain site but maybe not to a child.

Almost all her drama is people, so phrases I'll use are;

How did that make you feel? And then what happened next? Did you actually say it out loud?
How do you see this getting resolved? You think they were actually trying to be rude?

It's funny, there's been a few times she's come in mad saying "I'm never talking to her again" and after a bit of venting she gets over it and calls the person to "make sure they are fine too". This is also a good reason to never jump too hard on the bandwagon and disparage who she is mad at, because it can change quickly and when it does you can't take back your words.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I really hate that video, "it's not about the nail".

It wasent about the nail right up to the point where the man leans in to kiss her and his head hits the nail, and it hurts him.

So the nail is actually real, and has mass, and can cause physical pain.

So it is about the fucking nail then isnt it!

"Bitch, you have a fucking nail in your head"!!

Blue pill garbage.


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