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Developing a love for shit tests and results from smashing them...

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June 24, 2019

I post regularly on here, but I'll throw some quick updates on numbers... 42 years old, 6'1" 220 lbs. Over 1000 lbs combo on bench, squat, and dead lift. Almost a year into my MAP.

My wife, like all women, is driven to shit test me from time to time. Before redpill, I was wishy washy at passing shit tests, but the tools of AA, AM, STFU when applicable in combination with stronger frame (I say stronger because I'm not perfect and I still need to improve) have improved my life and my marriage so much.

For all you newbies, the sidebar material and reading the posts on here WILL help you, IF you do the work. Get your mind and your body strong first... (can't stress this enough). This is the thing, you'll get to a point where you won't even have to think how to pass a shit test when you get it from your honey, you'll just be able to do it.

As I progressed on my RP journey, my wife got worse before she got better. We fell into a pattern of her being bitchy most of the time, to her having intervals of being bitchy and submissive, to her being mostly submissive (I say mostly because it's in her nature to poke the bear... she has to... it's countless generations of species survival built into her DNA. Don't hate her for that... embrace it.

Here's my question, and wondering if anyone else has seen this.... sex is frequent and good. However, after a massive bitch throwing shit test, one in which I am able to hold frame and conquer, she ends up floating backing into my frame eventually, becomes submissive, and the sex that follows is the mind blowing type sex we had when we were dating. I'm talking shit in the Sex God Method book. Most of the time, sex is good, but I found this top of the line sex comes after she seeks that emotional rush from testing me, and on some level, she absolutely gets satisfied from seeing me hold frame and submits. It seems to me that this is what she wants and needs. I believe this principle is reflected in the 16 commandments of poon.

What kinds of things (in this context) are you guys seeing in your wives and LTRs?

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Title Developing a love for shit tests and results from smashing them...
Author dll142
Upvotes 16
Comments 25
Date 24 June 2019 08:15 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret15 points16 points  (11 children) | Copy

Women love drama. They thrive on it. Without it, things are boring, and by proxy - you are boring. You have to create drama to make them happy. Or encourage the outside drama and let her talk and get her feelz out.

It's been my experience to have the same type of sex you're describing here after a big shit test and subsequent passing of that test. I'll give you some context recently that happened with me if it helps you.

About a month ago, my wife was being pissy and in a shit test she said "Well maybe I'll just leave this weekend and go visit my father instead of staying here". I said that would be a great idea, it's been a while and I'm sure your father would love to see you. I'll take the kids all weekend - go see him, it could be a great time for bonding! She almost fell off of her chair. Her shit test had backfired on her.

She drove 3 hours to go see him for the weekend. I let her do her own thing, didn't text or call... I would get little texts throughout the day asking how the kids were, "They're great!". I removed my attention from her. At 1:30am one night she texted me a long drawn out text in her own way that apologized for her behavior and said she wanted to do better. I replied the next day "Have fun with your dad today. I'll see you when you get home."

She came home, I acted like nothing happened. The hamster had been in overdrive and she started explaining all her shitty behaviors as of late (womanese for "I'm sorry"). Let's just say she left a bitch and came back a porn star for a couple of days.

What you're experiencing is what I like to call "Frame Reward". Very common, at least in my experience.

I've rarely seen this happen alongside ovulation but I can only imagine what would happen then.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women love drama. They thrive on it. Without it, things are boring,

"I sat in my office working away at a client project while one of my women, a beautiful 22 year old Asian, sat at a desk across from me at the other computer, messing around with Facebook. Soon she was playing a very sad love song on YouTube and slowly singing along with it.

“Someday” she said with a dreamy look on her face, “When some guy breaks my heart, this is the song I will listen to.” She said it with passion and longing. I looked at her like she was insane. She was a very happy girl, yet here she was looking forward to some future day where she would feel terrible. "

Caleb Jones, The Unchained Man

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

How often does this happen?

Her leaving last minute to go see Dad?

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy


And yes, she was there.

Her father is terminally ill... 6-12 months left.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Cold bro. Maybe go with her.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I do 90% of the time. I make it a point to plan trips there for her since she wouldn't normally take the initiative. I do.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck I am so confused. Are you OP or what?

Did you fuck up and post under an alt account?

I suck at reddit.


NVM. Mobile interface jacked up.

[–]tikitheman0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Im with your thought process. That is the exact behavior you get from a woman who is feeling guilty after bangin sone other dude.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, her dad is dying. Not likely. But yea this would be textbook behavior if that was the case.

[–]tikitheman-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dad dying is the perfect excuse to fuck chad

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Back off. He might still be a faggot but she could go down the bar and fuck Chad.

[–]dll142[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Right on! Almost echos the push and pull drama with my wife. When you see it, it really does make you chuckle... great story!

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red6 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy

Last shit test I got was met with “stop acting like a bitch”

Comfort tests on the other hand, I fuck up all the time because I care, but not really.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

When you have serious frame you can call a woman a bitch and have them apologize later.

If you are a bitch, it will backfire hard and you probably won't pass the shit test as it escalates. I found this the hard way earlier in MRP.

Now I can say almost anything I want and get away with it. Usually it's not needed, I just look at her and she wilts. If she is being a bitch she typically is aware and I don't need to say anything. It's only when she has no idea she is being a bitch that I call her out overtly.

[–]NoCoast822 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

When you have serious frame you can call a woman a bitch and have them apologize later.

This is the space my relationship thrives in.... she gets her drama and IDGAF

I do get a thrill from shit tests, it is like new relationship excitement... but I am well over a year into this shit and handling my shit so comfort tests have been coming hard qnd heavy.... I am probably going off script because I have no idea how to handle comfort test, and honestly dont care how people think you should. She seeks comfort, and then comes back soon after apologizing for her behavior. I am the prize... my wife is a great first mate but I think we both know I am getting close to moving on to a more attractive model

I wa concerned about how to handle comfort tests, then once they presented themselves on the regular... I am not so sure there is much point in addressing them. I have read MMSLP multiple times, so I understand the concept and it makes sense... but my own experience is focus on yourself and treat it as a shit test... chad doesn't provide comfort why should you?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Serious frame or a sever case of IDGAF.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Is it fair to say that not giving a fuck is having frame?

[–]RPeed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can NGAF, stir up some shit but then react to the ensuing negative emotions. This is weak frame i.e. you are willing to "do the crime but not the time".

Conversely you can GAF but not react to negative emotions unwittingly stirred up.

This is "being autistic".

[–][deleted] -5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

who the fuck was the spineless pond scum faggot who downvoted you?

[–]dll142[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've messed up my share of comfort tests too. I care too... most of the time

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Her - "DRAMMAAA!!! (titties wild)

You - "No babe. Not drama." (calm your tits)

Her - "You're right." (you big manly oak you)

[–]muzzy_w1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

A friend of mine was very blue-pilled and told me something similar a few years ago. The make-up sex after a fight was just amazing. There'd be so much passion excitement. As much as he got exhausted from fighting, the sex was always good. Fucked his world up when I told him he shouldn't need an excuse to have passionate sex with his girl and he should aim to have that much passion all the time.

She'd do something fucked up to him, go cold for a few days, then initiate and have sex with him. Afterwards she got to pretend like she did nothing wrong (we had sex, what more do you want). He'd enjoy the sex, but feel angry at himself afterwards because he folded. Once great sex was the norm, he had no trouble telling her to fuck off and start holding his ground. Not entirely related to your post, but that's the fastest I've seen a man take the pussy off the pedastal. He's thoroughly red pilled nowadays.

[–]Chump_No_More1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This feels more like a humble-brag than an actual question... you've been here long enough to know the answer.

It. Doesn't. Matter.

  1. If you're solidly in your Frame, then shit tests are just part of the landscape when living with a woman and your bandwidth has better things to focus on... like your mission.

  2. This is RP 101. A woman is constantly testing because Hypergamy dictates she must. When hypergamy is satisfied, the pussy tingles, and fucking commences. Passing a shit test is like a cookie for them. The how and why is irrelevant.

You're making progress, but you're still focusing on her.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

A woman is attracted to a man who can walk away in a minute. Walk from her, the family, the whole thing.

Men build things. It is our work, our effort, our blood that inspires songs, books, sagas, and wars. Nothing else.

Every one here is patting you on the book and yeah, I can the see the humble brag. Except I also see how you are just along for the ride. You then say “here’s my question” but instead of a question you go into a long explanation of how great your sex. life is. Sure humble brag a bit, but there is no question.

Most of the time sex is good....

What about the rest of the time? It’s not?

You only get sex that is equated in SGM after she looses her shit? SGM is HOW you have sex in the first place. Not something because she lost her mind over something.

You keep iterating a few times that sex is good. Why keep saying this? Are you trying to convince us or yourself?

My question to you is the quality of sex dependent on her moods?

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy


A shit test is a like sonar- it’s a ping off the environment - testing to see if you’re still a man. She’s programmed to seek out a warrior thug to mate with and to protect her.

When you pass, she gets a hit of dopamine & gets horny.

If you fail, she getz no feelz from it and gets more pissy (and dry) because there isn’t an alpha to mate with. She knows you couldn’t protect her and her offspring from invaders if you tried.


“Over 1000 lbs combo on bench, squat, and dead lift”

That’s it?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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