How do I make what I say more persuasive?

TyroneTheDriver · 2019-06-28T11:51:57+00:00

Don't touch your face when you speak to people. Speak calmly and plainly. Maintain eye contact. Smile. Speak as little as possible.

Also, you're requests have to be reasonable for the current situation, dynamic, and exchange. If you're looking on how to persuade a car dealership to give you a car for free, for example, give up now. If you're looking to persuade your boss to promote you, first, lay a concrete foundation of reliability down, and then through your actions, persuade them you are reliable and trustworthy.

After they know you to be a good worker, you can work on communicating asking for more responsibility. The best way to be persuasive is to already have the power and be willing to walk away. The one who has the power in any relationship is the one who needs the other less.

If you're looking for human tips, touch, eye contact, calmness, all matter. You have to be confident in what you're requesting to the point that getting a no isn't in your frame of reference. Specifically with women, your frame has to be already established, and you have to be willing to walk away.

There are methods of selling over the phone and in person to make your argument more persuasive, and mostly its let the other person talk more. Become able to empathize with everyone. EVERYTHING is grey, there is no black and white (besides AWALT), and you can and should be able to put yourself in the shoes of each and every person and be able to rationalize their positions enough to understand where they're coming from. When you can make the other feel as if you understand them, they are more easily persuaded to follow you.

Basic leadership takes on certain forms. In the military for example, leadership comes with a lot of responsibility. The basic mentality (of a good leader) should always be to lead from the front. Pull the sleigh, dont ride in the back. Naturally, your position as leader will emerge if you always attempt to take on more than your cohorts, routinely succeed, and offer your assistance. Never ask someone to do something you wouldn't do yourself or haven't done yourself a thousand times. This is all a part of empathizing with ones experience so they realize you have their best interests at heart.

Stand tall. Speak slowly and confidently, and know your audience and dynamic. Speak from experience. Speak from the heart. Look men and women in the eyes. At the end of the day they know what you're requesting of them needs to get done, if you've laid down the foundation beforehand.

cpotpie1 · 2019-06-28T13:13:18+00:00

Way of the Wolf- by Jordan Belfort (talks about how to sell things. A lot of story telling in the book and I wish he would just get straight to the point but overall, useful information, especially about the goal oriented communication)

Influence and Persuasion by Cialdini (already mentioned in the comments. Just talks about the universal pieces of influence)

Dictionary of Body Language by Joe Navarro (helps you see how people are reacting to what you are saying so you can adjust)

acp_rdit · 2019-06-28T13:07:05+00:00

Add "motherfucker" to the end of every statement, motherfucker

Fuktiga_mejmejs · 2019-06-28T18:57:36+00:00

As top comment said, the most important thing in conversation and bargaining is to be willing to walk away, as soon as you show that you don't really care the entire conversation can flip on its head.

[deleted] · 2019-06-28T19:53:00+00:00

Persuasion Principles by Robert Cialdini

JoePants · 2019-06-28T20:16:39+00:00

Look up "Sullivan nod."

vandaalen · 2019-06-28T12:36:01+00:00

Wiggle a $50 bill in front of their face.

uptimex · 2019-06-28T14:59:49+00:00

Start from strategy not tactics. All the non-verbal part is tactics. First learn "what" to say and after "how" to say. It would be much easier.

Capt_Am · 2019-06-28T18:30:53+00:00

Do things you said you're gonna do, that's the ultimate.

WIA20XX · 2019-06-28T12:23:24+00:00

Influence and Pre-Suasion by Cialdini.

That's the start, but you'll see how persuasive techniques are used throughout human society and find it everywhere and in everything. From interface design, to menus, to books, to the news, with animals, within your family.

redblueninja · 2019-06-28T17:38:55+00:00

I found "Never split the difference" to be a great book. Go with the audiobook. You can find it on any torrent site.

___Lana___ · 2019-07-04T17:37:24+00:00

Less talking, more action.

aucunejus · 2019-06-28T12:45:26+00:00

Speak louder

[deleted] · 2019-06-28T19:35:43+00:00

Flash your breasts. This works if you're a man too, but not effectively.

Aesthetic_God__ · 2019-06-28T19:50:55+00:00

Believe the shit you say. Congruency, remember?

[deleted] · 2019-06-28T22:58:24+00:00

Well, what are you trying to say, specifically? This is a vague question. Because I think it stands to reason that no matter how persuasive one is, if you say something like, "Hey, will you eat this bowl of dog poop for me, please?" You're probably not going to get many takers.

Title	How do I make what I say more persuasive?
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Date	June 28, 2019 10:54 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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