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Navigating RP with Medicated Wife

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June 30, 2019

As the title states. My wife has been on several antidepressants over the years, some better than others. We are both 27 and have 2 kids under 4. Sex life is super Meh, it seems like wife is just kinda checked out of sexuality and the relationship and nothing seems to work. Any advice would be great.

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Title Navigating RP with Medicated Wife
Author Ralberta
Upvotes 8
Comments 24
Date 30 June 2019 11:08 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/243955
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/c7bwja/navigating_rp_with_medicated_wife/
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[–]0io-Tsundere8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

There's an antihistamine called cyproheptadine that can help with SSRI induced anorgasmia. It's super cheap and you only need a tiny amount. That's one thought.

All the usual rules apply, keep working on your own SMV until you look like a male model or movie star and all the girls will want to fuck you, depressed wife included. If she doesn't, you have your choice of countless other women.

In general with RP stuff all the work you do goes into fixing yourself, and the wife either comes along or not. You're not trying to fix her, you're trying to fix yourself.

[–]Ralberta1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks. Definitely not trying to fix her, I'm just invested I guess? Not getting any returns on that investment, so it's frusturating.

[–]AdorableHyena4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

[–]Ralberta2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thank you. My frame is clearly lacking.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes, it is.

I wrote that post for guys exactly like you. Because at one point everything you're writing about... been there. Thought that. And it was fucking frameless

It's all your fault.

Accept it, and lead your wife elsewhere. There is a part 2 to that post as well, but you're nowhere near making your frame a place of escape for your wife. It takes time, lots of it, and patience to transform your frame.

One day though, if you can accept responsibility and take action your wife might be begging for your frame everyday in ways you never thought possible.

It's all your fault.

Now get to work, faggot.

[–]Ralberta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fair enough. Will do.

[–]SepeanRed Beret2 points3 points  (13 children) | Copy

nothing seems to work

Nothing works? What have you tried exactly? How is your SMV, frame, dread?

Has she tried regular exercise?

[–]Ralberta-2 points-1 points  (12 children) | Copy

Smv is fair, frame needs improvement, dread has like a reverse effect. I'm excelling at work/income/ dressing and grooming better, need to lift more. Truly, Im half-assing it. I work a physical job. And then come home and help with the kids so I'm fucking wiped at the end of the day. We both are. Our kids are a handful. She does not exercise and has put on 40+ lbs so she feels unattractive but we have no time or energy left after the kids are down. I keep thinking in a couple years the kids will be more independent and we can focus on ourselves and each other more.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ha. Nope. Do it now, make the time.

If you aren't leading in this she can't follow.

[–]Ralberta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ok thanks.

[–]FoxShitNasty831 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

When the kids are down for the night I go lift, fatty can just stay home and get fatter.

[–]Ralberta0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Thinking of going early mornings. Have freeweights at the house too, so i just need to quit making excuses.

[–]FoxShitNasty832 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

A superior man has better shit to do than hang around a boring sexless wife. Hobbies? Also do fun shit, invite her along or not... Stay plan = go plan... It's YOUR life

[–]Ralberta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You bet, I'm at my house to raise my kids. We do lots of fun shit as a family on weekends.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy


I lifted at 10 pm a few times this week. Not ideal but I got it done. Just did shoulders in my back yard in between grilling food. Keep moving and find the time. When the gains follow you will get addicted to how good it makes you feel.

[–]FoxShitNasty830 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's a good cycle.... Fucked off angry or in a funk --> LIFT --> Give no fucks --> Sleep + Gainz (repeat or just skip step 1)

[–]Red-Nerd130 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The future thing is just an excuse. I've got a 3 year old & 2 month old, Work 12 hours a day (day job & side hustle), & make time to lift. The working & lifting don't always 100% happen everyday, but the point remains that they both happen the majority of the time. You need to 'make' time for improvement.

I get the handful kids, I do. It doesn't matter, you take care of the kids & make time to become better. My 3 year old is the toughest kid any of my family has dealt with. He's awesome though, and he's a motivating factor to becoming better.

Use the family to be better, not as an excuse to become worse.

[–]Ralberta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're right, no more excuses.

[–]NoCoast820 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Our kids are a handful

I made a lot of dumbass decisions the early years of my marriage but thankfully this was not one of them.

Kids are a handful is such a bullshit excuse, if your kids are so poorly behaved that they run the household from the time you get home till they go to bed who's fault is that? They are fuckin kids!

"When they get more independent" what is the timeline on this? What is your definition? Give them shit to do, kids love to be given tasks... quit trying to be a fill in for Sesame Street in your kids life, you will fail here just like you fail to fill in for your wifes Rabbit.

You dont need frame just to get your wife in bed, you need it to get respect in life, including from your kids.

You obviously have no frame

[–]Ralberta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're right, it's a shitty excuse. My frame needs big time improvement.

[–]Nodeal_reddit-4 points-3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You married a woman who was on antidepressants?

[–]Ralberta2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

In all fairness, I was/have been the faggot on them too.

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