Background, I've read the whole sidebar except WISNIFG and I'm halfway through MMSLP. Been lifting for 2 weeks, and doing my best to STFU, AA, FOG, DARE, etc. Getting a lot of great advice reading these forums.
I've tried searching these forums for an answer on my question but haven't found anything explicit. My wife often asks me to do small things like:
"Can you carry the laundry basket upstairs? It's too heavy for me."
"Could you get X off the top shelf for me?" (Wife is only 5 foot)
"can you please walk the dog" etc.
Little things. My response has been blended. Sometimes I've used the "Are your legs broken? Do it yourself." approach. Other times I've given her shit for being short/weak while I comply. Sometimes I help sometimes not. Before rp I always said yes. What rp theory has helped me notice is just how constantly she asks me to do things. She's busy herself too, not like she's giving orders from the couch.
Basically I don't want to be taking orders from her, but I don't want to be unreasonable if she legitimately could use a hand. Should I aim for a certain percentage of tasks? Refuse all? Only help if I want to? Curious what the general consensus is.