I've been at it since January 2018. I'm as happy as I've ever been with my life, my marriage, my family. I never expected following MRP to turn things around the way it has. My wife has submitted to me by most any measure (besides anal). She initiates regularly and I haven't gotten a hard no in probably 6 months. Having sex about 3 times/week. The starfish is long dead...or so I thought...
Once, the night before I was leaving for a business trip, I turned her down when she offered the starfish. I just told her that I don't have sex with women who don't want to have sex with me. The thought of sending me off fully loaded must've sent her hamster into overdrive, because when I got home there was a different woman inside my wife's body. That was the last time she offered anything less than enthusiastic sex.
This week, my parents were visiting. Having free babysitting one night, wife and I went out - we had fun - live music, walked and laid on the beach, had drinks and really enjoyed each other's company. We were all over each other like we were kids. Once home, we made our way to bed, where I initiated. She stopped at one point and said "I don't feel comfortable fucking with your parents across the hall." Figuring it was basic ASD or LMR that I typically just swat away, I just carried on and said nothing. I started fingering her, she seemed in to it until she jumped out of bed like she was angry, went to the bathroom, came back with her pants off and said "alright, if you have to I'll let you, but make it fast and be quiet." Aka, she offered the starfish.
Drunk and completely caught off guard by this, I froze like a noob, before saying "I don't want you to do anything you don't want to do, but I'm not concerned at all with the possibility of anyone hearing something in my house." She said "you know that I want it, I just can't enjoy it with them here." I knew it was over the minute I engaged in this discussion. I lost the game, and didn't want to continue playing. My dick went soft and since there's no point engaging, I decided to cut my losses and get some sleep. I just kissed her on the head, told her I love her and went to sleep.
I reset the next day, at one point, I pressed against her from behind while she was doing laundry, grabbed her neck and kissed her. Smacked her ass & started to walk away and she said "mmmm, I may have to rethink my no sex with visitors in the house rule" I just laughed and carried on with what I was doing. That night, she initiated, nice bj, great sex. She had zero reservations about our house guests and made no effort to keep quiet
Two reasons for my post: 1. Reminder to everyone getting results - stay sharp, I thought the starfish was dead, so I wasn't ready when it reared its ugly head again. This was a good reminder of why my foot needs to stay on the gas.
- Any advice on what I could've done differently? She obviously didn't have a real concern about our guests. It wasn't a hard no, but offering me starfish is the same as a no in my book - I won't accept it. I know some would recommend accepting the starfish, then caveman her, but I want nothing to do with a woman that doesn't very clearly want to fuck me.