I make six figures, have two degrees, net worth close to $1.6M, own my apartment in NYC, am in excellent shape.
But I’m also 5’3”, ethnic, am in my mid-40s, and am thinking of quitting my miserable job.
I don’t have much of a relationship history. My longest was in my mid-30s for three years. I have a decent circle of acquaintances and am ok being alone.
But I’ve had some people close to me die lately, and I’ve felt the tug of looking for an LTR and maybe kids.
The problem is, most of my married male friends don’t speak highly of marriage. I know everyone dies alone, and you could have a wife and kids and still feel desperately alone.
I’ve lived most of my life blue-pilled. My parents have a decent marriage. But there’s always been a sort of MGTOW/red pill undercurrent to my life too.
I understand women are hypergamous and status-oriented, and that people in general operate on the basis of what they stand to gain. Love and loyalty are rare, and for most people, you should only rely on your parents for that.
I’m in NYC, where women outnumber men, and I’d love to spin plates like a lot of the dudes tout here, but I’m not some 6’3” life-of-the-party alpha male.
I know am ok looking. I get matches online. But even then, I usually can’t be bothered to go past the first date.
My age-equivalents are not hot enough to sustain my interest, and the younger ones aren’t interesting enough to do the same.
My age and wealth also means I’m not chasing women for sex (I can buy it) and I can’t realistically engage in an LTR with the fantasy that I’ll achieve the American dream of a wife and kids to accompany me into old age.
I’m interested in guys in my circumstances that have reached my stage and older. What do you recommend? What did you do?
It’s crossed my mind to move to Asia or South America, but the culture gap doesn’t really appeal to me. Eastern Europe is a possibility though, or even a smaller town in the U.S. or Canada.
EDIT: I've gotten a lot of responses to that say "travel and live!" This is why I wrote "I’m interested in guys in my circumstances that have reached my stage and older." I have travelled and lived and fair amount. After seeing some loved ones die, I've been seeking stability, and that's why the nuclear family fantasy seems much more powerful nowadays. I know the adventure mindset -- I had it a lot when I was younger. But not so much anymore, and it makes me fear the red pill endgame.
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