My wife of 15 years, 41yrs old, is having some minor health issues. Nothing major. Things have been great between us. I've been lifting, we've both been eating better than we ever have. I'm 43 and in the best shape of my life. Anyway, So last night she's telling me how she got her period and I'm helping calm her down about other stuff (she's high anxiety,) when she finally throws the "will you still love me if I get fat." Now I gleam a lot of wisdom from the sidelines of this subreddit. I'm reading the sidebar and actually am entertained by a lot of the problems some of you folks talk about. "sucks to be you bro" I say, and I carry on with my day. I'm by far no pro at shit-tests, but the long pause before I said what I said was worse than what I actually said, which I can't remember exactly. The question completely blind-sided me. OH yeah, I said "You're my girl or something, doesn't matter. That's not what set her off.
She was fine now, back to baseline, but she was very upset, saying things like "I guess I know my place here, I'm only useful around here if I'm fuckable." Now I have nothing against over-weight women, I'm friends with some, but as far as my dick goes, I'm just not biologically attracted to them. I told her that to ask me that was unfair because she's not fat, I don't find fat women attractive and if she was to let herself go that much it would be a sign of disrespect. She said now she's worried that if she gets fat and I leave her for a younger hotter woman she'll be alone the rest of her life because no one wants to be with a fat single mother. Like I said Things are fine now, this morning she asked me what I think of her outfit, do her shorts make her ass look nice, so I know she's still seeking validation from me, which is good. Admittedly I don't know much about Dread yet. (There's so much sidebar information really, you can't just know everything immediately, it'd be nice if we could!) But is this some level of dread I accidentally entered here?