What to do when anniversary is coming up?

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July 11, 2019

What should a husband in a sexless marriage because of his wife's choosing do when his wedding anniversary is coming up? Does he go out and celebrate as if nothing is going wrong? It might be childish if he tell her he doesn't consider being a roommate to be a wedding and thus pass on the celebration. I guess this is where "frame" comes into play. I would appreciate some different opinions.

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Title What to do when anniversary is coming up?
Author jockhock
Upvotes 7
Comments 47
Date 11 July 2019 10:34 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/245154
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/cbu63o/what_to_do_when_anniversary_is_coming_up/
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[–]The_LitzRed Beret8 points9 points  (8 children) | Copy

No reference to as where you are on your journey, by the sounds of it.... you haven't started yet.

So with that assumption in mind, you don't do anything differently than you did before.

The roomie statement is passive aggressive and yet another covert contract ( if I tell her off she will wake up and fuck me) from your side.

You get to decide what to do once you become a man of value.

I personally make it a family date with the kids, but not a big deal ($$$).

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red14 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy

Flowers and chocolates.

You might actually get your yearly duty sex if you behave for mommy.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm disappointed I haven't seen skittles suggested yet.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Found the guy that gets anal on date #1

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't forget the foot rub. And not the kind that lasts about 1 minute at the foot and then you're massaging her pussy. OP needs to make sure he's really giving a good foot massage. He may get be privileged enough that his wife depressingly allows herself to be raped by him.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wow, this was disturbingly visual.

Now I am horny?

[–]coinbaserep1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t forget a back rub with oil before bed after a nice dinner that will get her wet

Order her doubles to double your odds of success

[–]simbarlionRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go out. Get ioi's from waitresses. Get wild sex from wife or waitress.

If this is not possible this year, start at the start (sidebar). Don't leave anything out.

Make it happen next year.

[–]RP_PO13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do what the fuck you want to do. Base absolutely nothing off of your wife’s mind.

[–]IncitingDramah2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


On another note. Stop being a bitch and do the work.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

What do you want to do?

I know. Pretty radical idea.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

“because of his wife's choosing”

Bullshit. It’s your choosing.

[–]lololasaurus4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's already been answered correctly.

I also went through this indecision (which, in itself is unattractive) early in my red pill journey. Trying not to be Rambo, trying to establish frame without getting told to sit back down (that is to say, I had no frame still).

Do what you want.

But an interesting consideration...

Do you think your wife is thinking about putting in high or low effort on that day for you "because of your choices"?

[–]HerukaArisen3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

What should a husband in a sexless marriage (because of his wife's choosing), do when his wedding anniversary is coming up?

Well, he probably tries to come up with all the possible overt and covert ways to make her wife have sex with him. What he SHOULD do is the same as what any man should do: whatever fuck he feels like doing.

[–]nantucketghost4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why are you in a sexless marriage? Are you fat, out of shape in a dead end job and deserve to be? Throw a pity party... Or maybe do something about it.

If you are not the above and your wife if just a cunt and you deserve better, well, then go get someone better.

That all being said: It depends on how many years. Just had a big 20 year anniversary. We just went out to dinner. There is no need to do anything special or buy special gifts. I don't do duty gifts. I will surprise and give when deserved but almost never because the calendar says so. It's not cruel at all when you are both on the same page and buy what/when you want. Not going to buy another piece of jewelry that will just go in a drawer (been together many years, doesn't need anything).

[–]0io-Tsundere3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wife isn't choosing a sexless marriage even if it seems that way because she always says no to sex.

The key thing with all forms of redpill is you have to fix yourself. When you fix yourself, lots of women will want to have sex with you. Your wife, who is also a woman, will also most likely choose to have sex with you at that point because any regular woman would.

You need to get yourself in top physical shape through lifting weights. It's an absolute requirement. You have to lift. Do you even lift?

Get a gym membership and download stronglifts 5x5 for your anniversary. Your next anniversary will be a lot better if you stay at it all year.

[–]CrazyLegs786 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Give her divorce papers as a gift.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

What should a husband in a sexless marriage (because of his wife's choosing), do when his wedding anniversary is coming up?

Where were you planning on taking her? You don't have a job or any income.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do something fun, bring kids if you want. Whatever you want to do. If she doesn't want to go along, go do it anyways. Something active, not dinner and goddamned boring movie.

Then fuck her when you get home and not in the "I just did this, you should fuck me" sort of way. Pick her up, throw her on the bed, rip her pants off and fuck her hard. If she resists, then go to sleep.

Oh the other thing you should do is 1) Lift, 2) Read the sidebar, and 3) STFU

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret4 points5 points  (11 children) | Copy

It's the anniversary of you being a tit head. Laugh at yourself first, that adds a bit of levity to your very pathetic situation, you will need it.

Rejoice that you have hit the bottom and seen the ugliest side of female nature. You are here, you at least have a chance. This is easy now because once you know the basic rules of the game (the rational male and the side bar) you can start making better decisions about your future. The hard part is figuring out what you want and the execution, and ownership of the execution.

Laugh at yourself, your a fuckup and a shower masterbater. Most of us have been there. We all have that water masterbating beta badge.

Her behavior is a reflection of you. If you can accept your personal failings and own them, then draw some growth from them, then there was no loss, only growth. There is no resentment, only gratitude for the life experience you have received to get you to this point. This point of truth so you can finally see the world for what it truly is.

This won't be easy, in fact it's going to be hard as fuck. It might not even work. If you manage to stick around and actually fix yourself, then that version of you might leave her anyway.

Make this anniversary the death of your inner beta. Well the start of his death. Give that fucker hep c or something, his demise is coming, it's just a matter of time.

Sidebar, lift.

[–]RoccoPinkman1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Laugh at yourself, your a fuckup and a shower masterbater. Most of us have been there. We all have that water masterbating beta badge.

Aha, so it’s not just me who jerks off in the shower. Where do I pick up my badge? Is there one for odd socks too?

[–]symbologythere0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Wait are we anti-masturbation here?

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

Only if your doing it.

[–]symbologythere1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Well I guess I’m dragging my ass back to the sidebar.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Funny you mention the sidebar, NMMNG actually deals with it.

If it is self love, cool. If it is a crutch, replacing something or an escape.... not cool.

[–]symbologythere1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

That was one of my first reads, I’ll re-read it...I don’t remember that part.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep re-reading until you know something was talked about but forget what book it was since you've read so damned much.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wait. I am not supposed to jack off when on tren?

How many people per day am I supposed to kill exactly?

This applies

[–]ghek110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol. So not mrp

Man up. Take her out the night before in nice public space if you have friends (probably beta cucks) invite them. If not ask your kids (she is probably focused on them anyways). The occasion is your anniversary.

The day of your anniversary stay overnight in a hotel alone and don’t say a word. Nada. Nothing

Spend the time reading the basic books in the side bar.

[–]RPeed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I booked an overnight trip to a city that I wanted to visit myself. Which was prudent as she was being a bitch the day before.

I told her if she was going to be a bitch, she couldn't come on the trip and in view of this and overall performance: she should pack her shit up and be gone by the time I got back. But in that case I also wanted to book an extra night, so let me know.

We both went in the end. It was good but honestly one day was probably enough.

[–]Rifleshoot1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do what you want to do. Do you feel like celebrating your marriage to her? Then do so. If you don't want to, then don't do it.

[–]aggierogue31 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I mean if you still like the woman, do something cool for her. The fact that you don’t want to do anything for your anniversary shows that you completely dislike the woman, which begs the question, why the hell are you still married to her? I guess you could just be a weirdo and take a woman you have disdain for on an awesome date for no good reason, you do you.

[–]Remington-Holmes1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Go-karting or paintball

[–]aggierogue30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great idea. Take yourself on an awesome date and tell her she can come if she wants to. Go skydiving or spelunking or something awesome that you haven't done before.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dunno how you guys deal with sexless marriages id be out or banging 20 something college hoes on the side.

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gift her a handwritten voucher for a one night female escort threesome experience.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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