Divorcing a narcissistic wife with refusal to work syndrome

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July 12, 2019
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I have made the mistake of getting married young (mid 20s) because I hadn't found the red pill and believed blue pill nonsense about life. After marriage, my wife has let herself go. She is not fat, but hates working out and instead starves herself, which results in a skinny fat body and a lot of health problems. She refuses to listen to any advice, I paid for her gym membership and she went a couple of months and that was it.

During the 4 years we have been married she has worked for literally one month. She always pretends to look for jobs and then doesn' show up at the interview, or gets fired on purpose or pretends that she will "focus on being a housewife". Meanwhile, she sucks at housework and the house is a mess unless I do something.

One of the main reasons that we got married is that we both wanted 2-3 children. She has a fertility problem and can only get pregnant via IVF, which is something that we cannot afford with one income, since I am the sole bread winner. I consider the infertility a blessing now, because I don't believe that she would make a good mother, yet feel bitterness and resentment over her for not taking any action to help me.

She is a literal brainless person, her ideal life is waking up, going shopping, playing games on the computer and her phone or watch movies and then call it a day. I have offered to pay for college, but she is lazy and has no real inclination to learn anything.

Her family hates her and they played along and supported the persona she played before the marriage (we dated for 9 months prior to getting married). Btw she is a foreigner.

In September she is going to visit her mother in her country for her 60th birthday. I am not going bc I have to work 7 days a week so that we wont end up homeless.

I want to tell her that we are done and to not bother to return. I am exhausted, overworked, stressed, depressed and feel like a sucker constantly. She always says that she loves me, that she feels sorry for my hard life and 12 hour shifts every day with no future and then...goes back to her game. It seems that she only loves herself. I have separated one more time with her in the past and she turned into a sabotaging demon, destroyed stuff in the house, slandered me to common family members and friends and her mom kicked her out and stupid me felt sorry for her being homeless and took her back in. But not this time.

DAE have experience with divorcing a similar person? Any support or advice will be much appreciated.


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Title Divorcing a narcissistic wife with refusal to work syndrome
Author WittyMuffin
Upvotes 108
Comments 83
Date 12 July 2019 09:34 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]red_philosopher210 points211 points  (27 children) | Copy

Just get a divorce already. Holy shit. How many empty promises does it take for you to get it through your thick skull that she's not going to do anything to improve herself or her life or yours? She wants to be a housewife? Cool. She sucks rocks at it because she's fucking lazy. She gets a job and gets intentionally fucking fired? You work 80+ hours a week and she sits on her bitch ass and plays video fucking games all day long? You separated and her way of dealing with it was fucking trashing your house and destroying your fucking stuff.

Get. Rid. Of. Her. Now. Holy. Fucking. Shit.

[–]WittyMuffin 1 points [recovered]  (21 children) | Copy

Thanks for that answer, I needed to hear it. I feel sometimes that I am in some warped reality, bc every time I get mad bc I feel like a slave or just money making machine, everyone around white knights her and she starts playing the victim and it has gotten to the point of me questioning my sanity about how abusive all of this is.

[–]red_philosopher30 points31 points  (13 children) | Copy

She is almost a perfect clone of an abusive ex I had who was damn near perfect for 6 months. I asked her to marry me at 4 months, and at 6 that's when everything started to get fucking crazy man. Never met a more emotionally abusive person in my life.

[–]Greaterbird26 points27 points  (4 children) | Copy

I don't understand how people get married that early. At 4 months everyone is still infatuated and on their best behavior.

You'll have a much better idea of where things are going longterm if you just wait a couple years first.

[–]red_philosopher-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Thanks for the useless advice. I waited 4 years with my ex wife. Still didn't work out.

[–]Greaterbird0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol, you dork. Of course it still has a failure rate. I bet you saw hints of the problems that ended the marriage long before you got married.

[–]WittyMuffin 1 points [recovered]  (7 children) | Copy

I am sorry to hear that. Did things get insane overnight or gradually? In my case, it took me a few incidents to realize that if she opens her mouth its to lie and tell me what I want to hear and its all verbal diarrhea bc nothing ever gets resolved.

[–]red_philosopher4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

It took a while. She figured she had me on lockdown and let everything slide. Too bad we weren't married yet. She just started getting progressively more abusive, she ended up being BPD, which was my first experience with such an awful mental disorder.

[–]WittyMuffin 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

How did she have u on lockdown without being married though?

[–]red_philosopher1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Nah nah nah, she thought she did. We had a joint account together so we could provide evidence to the feds, and she wanted to start spending my money ;)

[–]Shanguerrilla0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've met BPD as well... it's tragically humorous how much if and when any of us with Cluster B (narcissistic / borderline / histrionic) ex's could swap stories and basically have been dating the same damn women.

I have to coparent with mine and she was NPD / BPD at best. You met BPD, I hope you never do again.

[–]flipdoggers11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

She sounds exactly like my mom. She and my dad went to the same type of graduate school. Then she got lazy. My dad would literally do phone interviews with a high voice pretending to be her, and she'd get the job because of him, and then she wouldn't show up to the job. She ended up being a housewife, playing card games on her computer all day, and beating her children (me!) in her free time.

Btw it's extremely common to question yourself in an abusive relationship. It helps to be aware of the influence a person has on your mind when you spend a lot of time around them.

[–]EnemyAsmodeus9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

I just wanted you to know that thousands of really lonely men feel really good right now all thanks to you.

You're a team player...

Also quick storytime: I dated an American girl just like your wife... She wanted to get married, same exact situation she refused to even apply to jobs (even with masters!) but pretended to, she wanted to be a housewife and be taken care of, she spent 10,000s of daddy's dollars every month, she wanted kids but there were hints she probably couldn't have a baby, narcissistic, depressive, bpd, got very aggressive when dumped... She tried a number of ways to seduce me. I just didn't open the door so she just cried outside, pretended to be sick and homeless to get back inside. I couldn't risk her rich millionaire daddy dumping her on me, I was already tired of her sob stories of how hard her life is (there were hints that she wanted me to take care of her like as if there were threats of being cut off from daddy's luxury allowance)... Her sister warned me about her, in a you know, one of those horror movie ways \whispers softly** "run far away..."

Glad I never found out the real crazy after marriage.

[–]Shanguerrilla1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Glad I never found out the real crazy after marriage.

I don't know you-- but I'm really fucking glad you didn't too.

It may not always be this way, but ESPECIALLY with the NPD / BPD I married.... it was literally the day we signed marriage license the well was dry and she went nuts that night. COMPLETE personality change- a mask I didn't see came off to show a person I'd never known.

Still took my dumbass a few years and a son to galvanize my priorities, trick, or force me to finally 'be a man' and handle that shit.

[–]EnemyAsmodeus1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Woah.. the very night? That's so damn scary... I would think you'd at least get a good year or two.

I felt a lot of pressure to marry since she was a millionaire family and had a masters and everything.

[–]covertpenguin339015 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah dude, quit being a fag and dump the bitch.

[–]Shanguerrilla0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She sounds a lot like my also foreigner wife I also married early 20s (but divorced her when 32 after she got a liiiiiiiittle violent, then made a false accusation and had me arrested).

Divorce her. Your resentment and the injuries and damages to EVERYTHING you are worried about, sanity, financially, social / slandering, emotionally, and even if any of you 'cares' about her.... Time for tough love, in a way on and for yourself and if you like, we both can rationalize how much these women are in a shitty cycle and self sabotage. Do you both a favor, but do it for you. Time to do it, rather than continue to pile shit up by the fan you're about to turn on full blast.

[–]nobody_thinks7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

lol @ waiting for the woman to take the lead

[–]omega_dawg931 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

agreed. he's in her frame and it's all his fault.

dude needs to grab his nuts to make sure they're still there... pull em hard... let em hang low and call the best & quickest divorce attorney he can. now.

[–]nobody_thinks 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

lol wtf is red pill these days. some random guy posts a couple paragraphs complaining about his wife and everyone screams "yeah divorce that bitch! it's all 'her fault".

[–]these_days_bot-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Especially these days

[–]jackandjill220 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

lmao Damn bro you got played OP.

[–]RP_COGuy41 points42 points  (5 children) | Copy

Yes. My first wife was a total narcissist. I was total blue pill then, so I didn't see ignored all the red flags and thought everything would be fine and it would all eventually work out, because isn't that what's supposed to happen?
Much of what you described is just like her. Didn't work, wouldn't keep easy jobs, didn't get fired, just quit on a whim. The sabotage and slander also fits.
You need to play it very cool and don't tip your hand. I would arrange to move while she's gone. Depending on your state, that could be a huge benefit. You should also talk to a divorce lawyer because every state has its particular quirks for property, alimony, etc. Start stashing money away like yesterday. Most importantly, you need to set everything up and get all your ducks in a row before giving her a clue that anything is going on.
Be prepared to flush everything and start over in a different city or state. It also might be strategically practical to move to a different state long enough to establish residency there and file for divorce there. That will depend on various state laws around divorce, dividing assets, alimony, etc. You don't want to be stuck paying for her lazy ass after the divorce. Feel free to PM if you want to discuss it more.

[–]WittyMuffin 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Thanks, I sent u a message on chat.

[–]omega_dawg938 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

good. listen to that guy... he knows what's up.

[–]EnemyAsmodeus2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes you invested too much into her, you need to cut her out of your life as fast as possible.

Girls like her are the reason the "my ball and chain" phrase exists and why it's so common.

[–]Shanguerrilla0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely great advice. I can say that- because I went through similar and 'read' advice like this... and didn't take it to know I wish I had.

It is so much more complicated with kids, that was my only goal or reason I couldn't do most or leave. OP needs to silently and quickly as FUCK and with a lawyer's advice- do everything you said, as you said "like yesterday."

You and I know how fucking hellish his shit is about to get if he doesn't.

[–]kellykebab30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy

You don't have kids. She's a piece of shit. Kick her to the curb.

[–]mismm 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

So your wife

  • is not attractive
  • is infertile
  • is not smart
  • doesn't work, doesn't study
  • doesn't do housework

Did I miss anything?

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (3 children) | Copy

I have tons of experience. You are the problem but you don't understand. Head over to askMRP, read the rules and post there. You will find quality answers. Buckle up buttercup.

[–]RoccoPinkman3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

It will be interesting reading comments

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude, don't ruin it

[–]RoccoPinkman-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Amended

[–]thebadguy8910 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

she seems like an emotionally abusive cunt (judging by what she did while you guys separated).

Agreed with the other guy who said to start saving money and potentially move. You need to prepare for complete and total war. A bitch like this will NOT let you go easy. You are her sole source of income and she will do everything in her power to keep you. most likely she will do crazy shit, scream and cry and threaten suicide, threaten to kill you, and even try to physically attack you if you don't comply with her demands. She will most likely blame you for everything wrong in her life and try to make you suffer as much as possible (since she knows her life is miserable, she will want yours the same)

I'd advise make sure all your valuables are safe in a location she doesn't know about, get a new phone, new address, cut off all shared accounts (phone, bank, utilities), anything she could potentially have access to, BEFORE you give her any indication that you are planning to divorce her. Then you can just try to handle all the divorce stuff through third party and not in-person. Still, she might try to stalk you, at which point you'll want to have a restraining order ready.

good luck

[–]Tact1cal_Pandaz8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus Christ, what nationality is this chick? Sounds like someone from south america

[–]RoccoPinkman6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’d post this in askMRP

[–]volvostupidshit5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need to get rid of her for your own sake. Even if she somehow managed to get a long term job she will resent you for making her do it and will eventually cheat on you. Just get her out of your life unless you want to make your life painful.

[–]Irtotallynotrobot5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

For sure divorce. It's gonna be good for you. Make sure you take every step to protect yourself then serve her the papers. No discussions, no last chances. She's had years to change her ways, don't give her a chance to pull one over on you.

[–]HurricaneHugues6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

What more advice do you need besides get a divorce lawyer?

[–]dynospectrum74 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you don't mind, what country is she from? Probably using you for citizenship.

[–]rockyp324 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Probs a video game addict. I’m one of them and honestly it makes everything in life seems very boring and start to lose interest in everything else so yeah you kinda end up like a zombie that only gets enjoyment from one thing

[–]travlingsomewhere8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP I don’t think this is a good place for advice. A lot of the people here have zero relationship or life experience and can’t give you proper advice. Many people here are under 20 also. You may be getting life advice from a 17 year old who still lives with their mom.

Also people on Reddit always assume and suggest the worst.

IMO you should divorce your wife though. Just build up the courage and tell it like it is and stick to your guns.

I’m in a similar situation with my GF.

[–]_-resonance-_3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Happy happy dance time bc you don’t have kids. Dude. CELEBRATE. This is truly amazing. What an idiot that she denied the college you offered to pay for. She could have bettered herself and then divorce-raped you, but instead you can strategically plan your exit. Congrats!

[–]JedYorks3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

The real problem here is that you have to work 7 days a week not to be homeless.

[–]J-Rezin 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Quit being a faggot and dump this stupid hooker you call your wife. Terrible reflection of yourself. Just man up and get on with it. Pump some weights and slay some strange. Divorce is liberation. There are other women.

[–]WorkingHardAtIt6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

In my experience women need to be forced onto a good thing before they actually realise how good it is.

Sell her phone/laptop/TV. She might protest that she has the ‘right’ to these things, let her know all rights come with responsibilities, and that she has the responsibility to pay for them.

This path has the double benefit of removing pacifiers and gaining much needed income.

Often the told turkey removal of pacifiers is a bucket of cold water over the head. It is a reset button that allows her to finally see clearly. If you manage to do it, it will be a brutal first week but will subsequently get better.

Let me know if you decide to do this.

[–]HurricaneHugues7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

If he sells her stuff it will give her extra leverage in rigor e court and it will make him seem like an "abuser" to other people. She will spin the story and say that the entire marriage has been like this and that OP uses his money to conduct emotional warfare on her. The people will just lap it up and OP will become the incarnation of Satan on earth in their eyes.

What OP needs to do is get a divorce lawyer, move his essentials out of the house, and go crash at a friend's house for a bit.

[–]inittowinit7771 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Did you yourself ever do something like this with a girlfriend or a wife

[–]WorkingHardAtIt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, I have. The two times I did it played out as I described. As I said, I had a hard time selling her (not my wife, a previous partner) on the benefits, but once the pacifiers were removed she actually became proactive in a number of the areas we had discussed (housework/paid work/becoming socially active).

[–]BobbyPeru4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You sound like a chick labeling her as “narcissistic “ and not doing anything about it. You vetted terribly. The fact that you said you can’t afford IVF tells me you would have done it by now or it was still an option if you had $.

STFU and get an attorney: don’t say a fucking word to her until you serve here with papers. Find out all the details and get ahead of the game. Does she have citizenship?

[–]rockyp322 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I hear you man but think about how much ur sacrificing to maintain this relationship she’s not even putting work in for? It’s like she’s ur slave master and ur the slave. I know what you felt for her and how good the relationship might of been but don’t fear cause you can experience that with other woman believe it or not. But now your jsut beating yourself down to support her. Picture your life single you can go back to working less and get more free time and meet new people and new woman. I know you don’t want to leave her in the dust but that’ll give her a wake up call btw after u dump her ignore her cries about here getting her life back together

[–]Senior Contributoradam-l2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

No children --> divorce her.

It's a no-brainer.

Glad you are getting out of this, things can only get better. Do your research on the particularities, and go ahead.

[–]Tiway221 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You will want to speak to a lawyer. It would be wise to get divorce papers and/or a restraining order while she is gone.

Also, do you have any proof of the abuse/house trashing you could use? You may even be able to escape the lease or move without repercussions with a restraining order, as well as be favored in divorce court.

Whatever you do, don’t attempt to do this amicably with her in the house. It doesn’t sound like that will work out too well. She crazy.

Ideally:

She visits her country You file for divorce You file a restraining order You move to a new apt Let her know while she’s gone that it’s over

[–]zxcvb78091 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah may buddy did the same. He tried and tried and tried to get her to take care of herself and make a better life for them. She ended up leaving him on some crazy ass feminist career woman bull shit. He was heart broken, but he is doing better than he ever would have if he had stayed with her.

[–]zxcvb78091 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

At some point you have to take responsibility for yourself and your actions. That includes the actions of people on your team. Your team is anyone you associate with on a regular basis that isn't family IMO. I tolerate family because I think it is important to have some kind of a safety net and for kids and all that.

Since your wife is not performing at a level that you think she needs to perform at, you need to do something about it. You can't control her but, you can control her impact on the quality of your life.

If I were you I would divorce her. The way I see it ( for most people ) you are working because you are to broke to not work. Your 20s are your prime earning age. You can make the most money, it will collect the most interest and you have the most flexibility. If there was any point in your life at which you would want to carry around a dead weight, it would not be now.

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What’s your question? You have a gross worthless wife that brings nothing positive into your life and you don’t even have kids. Why have t you divorced yet?

[–]GoldenHusky1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

They say marriage is all about tolerating each other and working things out together... Not with your wife bro. Not with your wife.

When you look at someone through rose colored-glasses, all the red flags just looks like flags.

You seem like a very good man. Willing to work long hours to provide.

Spend the money on yourself and rest more.

Someone worthy who appreciates your hardworking-ness will come along.

[–]Unlikely_Composer1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude you’re gonna die one day.

If you don’t get rid of her, you’re literally allowing a lazy bitch to fuck your life up, steal your goals from you, and you’re giving her a free ride through life.

She’s not a good person. Get rid.

[–]temerity181 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She might magically be able to get pregnant as a last resort to keep you her slave. Watch your back bro. And your swimmers.

[–]Yashugan00[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, cancel her return ticket.

[–]linkschode1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking hell. Every single person here is saying the exact same thing.

If you don’t do anything you are committing a heinous crime against yourself, your own family, and your future wife who is out there waiting for you.

Think of it this way. There’s a woman out there who is your future wife, either on her own or in a shitty relationship that isn’t working for her. She’s without you every single day, and for what, so you can sacrifice your short life for a disgusting infertile parasite? At the very least a shit Cunt of a woman should be able to birth children, this cunt doesn’t even have that ability. She’s less than worthless as a partner.

All she has are the puppet strings made out of your memories, and boy is she going to yank on those when you try and cut them.

I’ve been in your situation. I’m now with a woman who is unreservedly grateful for everything I do and provide, she does everything within her power to show gratitude in return like cook me dinner every day, offer to pay half whenever she can, regular sex and affection, washes the dishes and my clothes because I’ve been working 12 hours each day.

Sometimes I feel like I’m dreaming then I pinch myself and realise Shit, nah, this is how it’s supposed to be.

Take all necessary preparatory and anticipatory steps for cutting her out. Strengthen your resolve before you take any actions. Have a bunch of affirmations you say to yourself with your voice inside and outside to protect you from manipulation.

Good luck.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re enabling an addict.

You don’t owe her anything, let alone being her Slave.

You don’t think she knows exactly what she’s doing?

She’s MAKING you believe she’s dumb.

Bro jump ship now, it might be the best think you could ever do for her is allowing her to wake up to reality.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah she doesn’t feel sorry or her actions would reflect that. My mom took on 2-3 jobs WITH kids to help my dad.

When she goes back, as soon as she lands, tell her not to return.

[–]furcryingoutloud1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You need to do more than just divorce her. First, you need to move out of wherever you live the moment she boards that plane. Secure your fiances and empty your bank account. Secure your belongings. Put hers into storage so you can give her her stuff back by just handing her a key and an address where to pick them up.

Once all your stuff is secured, file for divorce. Talk to an attorney to figure out the timing. But if you're going to make this work, you need to pull off a bunch of stuff and the timing is crucial. First step is to see an attorney, best money you will ever spend in your life.

If she stays in her country, make arrangements to have her stuff shipped to her. Or not, it doesn't really matter if she stays in her country.

DO NOT WAVER. You are not her keeper.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't divorce.

When she returns, either change the locks.

Or pack up your things, move in with a friend and block her from all numbers. You may lose the house (hopefully rented) but the benefit to your mental health will be much more than worth it.

Men have been dealing with this situation for millennia. Go out for a pack of cigarettes and never come back.

[–]DarthBroker0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Is she atleast fucking you good? Jesus

[–]omega_dawg930 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

in the words of the GREAT patrice o'neal (RIP), i am NOT mad at her for doing what she's doing.

ALL OF THIS SHIT IS 100% YOUR FAULT BUDDY... it's all on you.

you are 10000% in her frame... she knows it, you know it, and the divorce lawyers (she's talked to them already, trust me) know it too.

imo, it will be too tough for you to break her frame and have her enter yours... the one you described above, so you need to take the "L," move on, and find your happiness with someone else or pump & dump like most of us.

life's too short and modern-day life is too $$$ for the "leave it to beaver" lifestyle; those days are o.v.e.r!!!

and for a foreigner to EXPECT that... well, she's been having her "housewife in america" dream for years.

just out of curiosity... you didn't see ANY of this fucked-up behavior BEFORE you got married, or was she just a demon in the bedroom?

[–]nobody_thinks 1 points [recovered]  (19 children) | Copy

considering the typical modern woman, you don't have it that bad.

sounds like she is suffering from depression not narcissism.

if you want to try something before ending it, I would suggest:

  1. getting her off social media and television
  2. eating only healthy food
  3. getting her into some physical activity (bike riding). in the gym she probably just get plowed by her trainer.
  4. working on yourself. get in good shape. lay massive pipe.

the thing that struck me most in your post was:

yet feel bitterness and resentment over her for not taking any action to help me

this is totally blue pill. you are the man. you have the balls. your wife is an empty vessel. you must fill her with what you are. if you are nothing, she will fall into despair and destroy the both of you.

to a certain extent you are just struggling with female nature. the only things that are peculiar about your wife are her fertility problem (could be depression / nutrition) and her looks (maybe you could do better, maybe not).

cheers.

[–]HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Fuck you and all that bullshit. It's not his job to fix this garbage ass bitch. He needs to cut his losses and move on.

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

bro I said

if you want to try something before ending it, I would suggest:

lol

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There's nothing to try. It's already over. He needs to divorce the leech now. There's no other option.

[–]uwotm8910 points1 point  (14 children) | Copy

This is it. Unfortunately, women need to be told how to be good women these days.

Question for you. Do you think it’d be worth it for him considering the amount of resistance he’ll be facing? After all of the shit that’s already happened, I kind of think straight up telling her to get her shit together or get the fuck out is the only course of action aside from bailing. He could start throwing in the 12 levels of dread, but it seems like he’s ready to be done with this one.

Oh, and good luck with taking away her social media and television lol. If only it were that easy.

[–]these_days_bot2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Especially these days

[–]uwotm8912 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the support these_days_bot. I knew I could count on you.

[–]HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

No, unfortunately you retards refuse to understand that most women are garbage and to not take any of them seriously. There's a saying in French that says "On n'apprend pad a un vieux singe a faire la grimace", and it translate to you can't teach an old monkey how to make faces. It's not your job to unfuck these garbage ass hoes out there. Their parents and communities failed them, and it's not your job to pick up the pieces and put them back together. Your job is to secure yourself a woman that has had proper home training as a kid by both parents, good values instilled in her, and a good sense of morality about her. Those chicks exist, but they are not the majority. So whoever it is you're fucking/dating, if she is not up to standards, drop her. Accept no substitute for what it is you look for in a quality woman, and don't get desperate.

[–]uwotm8911 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lmao I’m with you, mang. Once the respect is down the toilet, that shit is gone forever.

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

i'm with you 100%. the guy already married her though. divorce is a bitch and i just gave him some options if he wanted to try them. personally i have never been and will never be in such a situation.

[–]WittyMuffin 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy

Thanks for your comment, it's legit impossible to unglue her from social media. I have tried dozens of different things. She doesn't want to deal with her addiction and has no interest in any kind of study or any kind of job.

[–]uwotm8911 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m sure you’re paying for everything, so you could definitely cut that shit out, but I’m also sure you like to chill and watch some Netflix sometimes, so fuck that noise lol. It’s true that you need to be the authority in the house, but when you have to treat your girl like a literal child by taking away her games, bc of her laziness, then fuck that shit.

[–]HurricaneHugues1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude, get a fucking divorce lawyer, move your valuables oit of the house, and go crash at a friend's place for a while. You should not be in any form of casual contact with her once u get that divorce lawyer.

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

no idea

[–]Daddy_ThunderCock 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

You didn't read the rules and you are a lazy fuck. You deserve to have a shitty wife faggot.

[–]JerryJewels1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hahahaa what the fuck man



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