How do you approach them go to sleep?

IncitingDramah · 2019-07-15T04:29:56+00:00

I'm confused on this question.

If you're having trouble going to sleep, go lift. Exhaust yourself physically. You should already be doing this...

If you're trying to articulate you need pussy and to get off before sleep, that's some pussy shit right there. Learn self control and grow up.

If you're asking about what to do being rejected by your wife while making a wimpy attempt to initiate sex, then theres some work to be done. Develop IDGAF, being rejected shouldn't shake or collapse your frame to the point of pondering your cosmic insignificance.

stoicstephen · 2019-07-15T07:29:58+00:00

I struggle with getting myself to go to sleep at a decent hour (something I'm working on) as it is.

Can't even control his schedule. Check.

The advice around here seems to be, if you approach at bedtime and get a hard no, roll over and go to sleep.

That's not an advice, that's a remedy.

The advice is, game your wife all day long, initiate in every room of the house in a playfully and teasing way, not in a desperate and needy way.

Why? What's the purpose?

Another one that doesn't read the sidebar.

Go read the 12 Levels of Dread, and basically all the top posts in MRP.

And How? I end up staying up and thinking about my life, just like every other night.

That's because your life is all about getting validation from your wife, either from sex or little scraps of attention.

Look, I also think a little about life when I go to sleep, but when I do, I think of all the awesome shit I'm gonna do the next day. How I'm gonna crush them weights, how I'm gonna eat like a lion, how I'm gonna enjoy my books, and my dogs, and my cats, and my family.

When I go to sleep, I sleep like a baby because I know that I am following my mission and that I am aligned with my purpose while doing so.

ReddJive · 2019-07-15T13:17:40+00:00

Why? What's the purpose?

It's because you don't understand what you are supposed to be doing.

And How? I end up staying up and thinking about my life, just like every other night.

It's anxiety. It's realizing that you aren't doing shit. your hamster is running wild and giving you reasons why things are the way you want them to be. it's really an admission by yourself that you aren't working enough.

When 10pm comes around I am almost beat. From the gym, work, or home projects whatever it is I am up at 5am and it's all go until sunset. If you aren't struggling to stay up at the end of the day you have not even worked hard enough to earn your sleep.

SBIII · 2019-07-15T11:25:05+00:00

33 years old, 6ft, 25% BF.

You're a fat fuck

I took 1.5 years off from lifting

Who used to lift

my 1RM were , Squat 200, Deadlift 240, Barbell row 165, Bench 140, OHP 100.

Like a little girl.

And now, because your wife won't fuck you, you spend your nights laying awake, questioning yourself and your life.

Quit being a fucking faggot, start lifting and instead of wasting countless hours posting pointless arguments about politics on Reddit.. read the fucking sidebar.

red-sfpplus · 2019-07-15T12:18:53+00:00

Take an Ambien. Fall asleep. Give zero fucks about bed time sex.

Bed time sex is the most low effort sex there is.

Onein1024th · 2019-07-15T14:09:43+00:00

This is a poorly written question (2 questions really) but here goes...

Getting Better Sleep

Sleep is important. Make time for it. Are you lifting? Are you owning your shit? Are you exhausted at the end of the day? I know I am. OR are you sitting around all day, no exercise, eating like shit, and not doing anything but staring at the retard screen?

I've gone through bouts of sleeping too little (for different reasons). It sucks.

You have anxiety over you life. Which means something is causing your brain to ring in alarm bells - even when it should be in a low-stress place like your bed. So how do you solve this? You figure out what your anxious over. My guess is it's a lack of living up to some external expectations - parents, wife, kids, society, whatever. You have to drop those and figure out your own worldview of right v wrong (i.e frame). Once you do that and you live it in, anxiety goes away. You need to STFU - not to your wife but to your own hamster. Don't engage that line of thinking. Tell your Beta Shit Goblin to shut the fuck up. Tell yourself YOU'RE THE PRIZE.

If you're not owning your shit - start owning it now, that will remove tasks your brain to focus on.

You need to listen to your body, if it's tired, go to sleep. A set schedule is best, but guess what's more important? If you're exhausted at 9:00, don't go drink coffee and force yourself awake. Go the fuck to sleep (this is always a hilarious book narrated by Samuel L Jackson).

OI/DNGAF with Hard No

First of all, this should be a slow burn throughout the day. You should CONSTANTLY be gaming your wife. If you don't know the ins and outs read some some more -> Bang, Day Bang, Models or even MMSLP. While the first 3 are tailored to single guys, you can start to understand how the female hind brain responds and gets turned on. Don't only initiate at night (full disclosure I'm guilty of this too - working on it). During the day, in the morning, whatever.

So you've been gaming her all day. Great! Guess what? She may still give a rejection. Paint it in your mind as HER problem. You're giving up your time/attention/your dick to fuck her. It's a gift FOR HER.. She rejects you, whatever, go do something else, read, sleep. Do not get butt hurt - try to fake it if you have to but I believe they can smell butt hurt on you.

MrTrizzles · 2019-07-15T18:48:59+00:00

I took 1.5 years off from lifting

I struggle with getting myself to go to sleep

gettingmymojoback · 2019-07-15T11:58:02+00:00

Fuck, here I am struggling to stay awake past 8:30pm most days....waking up before 4am with 2 and 3 a days in the gym will do that to you.

Have you tried being legitimately tired?

How many hours did you spend lifting last week? How many miles did you put in?

Onein1024th · 2019-07-16T00:15:31+00:00

Train Jiu jitsu in July without ac. You will have a hard time staying awake.

I used to get rejected at times and lay there seething in anger. If that is you, just get up and go read a book until you are tired (more sidebar). I also used to go to bars and game women but that proved to be a little expensive and counterproductive to my sleep, however it is good for building abundance, confidence and causing dread.

If you can't game random women don't expect your wife to want to fuck you either. Use that anger and direct it towards yourself for being a fat faggot and become the man you want. Anger is excellent when properly harnessed.

screechhater · 2019-07-16T00:54:31+00:00

Lift like a mother fucker.

Game from the time you get up

A hard no at bedtime is nothing especially when you quads or pecs are screaming

Get on a fucking schedule

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2019-07-16T04:25:49+00:00

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been so tired from the day that I’m dozing off while we’re on the couch watching a show. It might even be close to midnight when we go to bed. But when I slide under the covers and she’s naked and pushing back into me I am suddenly very interested in fucking for an hour or two. A few times I’ve gotten up early after that long night and we fuck again.

Depends on the relationship you establish. My GF and I sleep naked. Period. If she’s wearing a thong when I’m in bed, I’ll just snap it once and she usually is like “oh, sorry, I forgot” and then takes them off. I assume if she’s in my bed and naked that sex is on the table. Some weeks we have our kids and other weeks we’ve got no kids. I’m already getting sex when I want, but I generally like bed time sex or early pre-wake up sex. That involves a 90min+ session because she’s freaking hot and I like fucking.if we can’t have sex for longer than an hour, I usually pass.

Hard No is like a shit test. I’ve had one or two of them. Means you’ve pissed her off earlier and have done NOTHING to prep for we throughout the day.

Why are you getting Hard No’s and how are you waiting until the end of the day AND clueless that you’ll get a Hard No?

Title	How do you approach them go to sleep?
Author	Onein1024th
Upvotes	5
Comments	58
Date	July 15, 2019 4:00 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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