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I’m a Gay Man, don’t call me Queer or LGBTQ+

by TomKeynes | July 15, 2019 | altTRP

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I’m not a member of the “queer community”, I’m a gay man. Many gay men, myself included, grew up being tormented by the use of the word queer. We got called queer and faggot while we were being knocked around.

Gay men have felt the pain and actually worked for equality. Were the ones who died of AIDS through the 80s and 90s. We still get beaten in the streets at alarming rates. But because women (many of whom are in fact straight) want another identity to feel “victimized” over, they’ve forced this word on gay men.

Now we’re all part of one happy queer community, and the experience and identity of a gay man means nothing.

I’m not going to take it anymore. I’m gay, not queer or LGBTQ+, and I don’t care about lesbian bullshit. I’m not here to help women get ahead at my own expense.


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Title I’m a Gay Man, don’t call me Queer or LGBTQ+
Author TomKeynes
Upvotes 30
Comments 8
Date 15 July 2019 09:32 PM UTC (12 months ago)
Subreddit altTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/245600
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/altTRP/comments/cdnsr6/im_a_gay_man_dont_call_me_queer_or_lgbtq/
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[–]TomKeynes4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

The “community” is a fucking disaster. Everything today is centered around trans people, gay men get told to sit down and shut up until they want our donations. Trans-women need real medical help, but “non binary” and trans-men are just attention seekers playing dress up.

[–]BoredBadger1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

How are trans-men and trans-women different in that respect?

[–]kinglucky131 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I felt like they just meant most trans men are fake and not even actually trans. At least I hope lol cus I do see more ftm wannabe's and never seen any mtf wannabe's. Probably because society treats AMAB a lot more harshly. Definitely tougher to be MTF

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[–]48151_623420 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I agree. I personally hate the word queer and always avoid people who self-identify as queer. Not because I think that word is bad or a slur (I'm not from that generation), just because it's an intentionally vague word that I cannot relate to or identify with, nor can I relate to the experience of anyone who identifies with that word.

I agree completely that LGBT (forget the stupid +) has been taken over by trans people, who, again, are another group I have 0 in common with regarding their gender/sexual/body dysmorphic experiences.

I am happy to see that a lot of lesbians are realizing this as well, that trans people are dominating the LGBT spaces and crowding out gays/lesbians/bisexuals. I think we need to establish our own space so we can finally have our voices heard again. Let trans people have their own space as well. No need for us to talk over one another; we don't have much in common anyway.

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[–]chastityBoy4You0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed. I honestly do not care about any other letter in that stupid acronym. Gay male. Could not care less what lesbian, "bi," trans, queer, whatever other crap is there. Their struggles are theirs, I cannot relate to trans at all I dont even try, waste of a good dick or just creating a gross wannabe man imo, and whatever the hell queer means now it still means different and "other" to me. You hit a few notes with me for sure. Gay community is a dumpster fire I do not respect.



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