Want to pass my situation by you guys....I’ve been married for 5 years and with the same girl since I was a sophomore in college (15 years total). We broke up a few times in our relationship and I had a few short term relationships during those times.
We got married and soon my marriage was coasting and not exciting anymore. We went to counseling and my heart wasn’t in it. I felt doubt even getting married in the first place. About last year at this time I got involved with someone from work and we just clicked. I knew I was going to cheat right off the bat. We went on work trips together and had a blast.
I knew these feelings weren’t going to last forever because of the guilt I felt. After about 5-6 months I told my wife and came clean. She was and still is very devastated. It was brutal. However my feelings for the girl at work kept growing and she assured me that I could take time to sort things out and she’d be there.
A few months passed and I mentioned to her that I was going to get a divorce. My marriage wasn’t repairable. Over the last month or so the work girl began distancing herself and becoming very cold/not affectionate. I knew something was up but she wouldn’t express her feelings. Finally last week she says that she is tired of being in a relationship that isn’t completely open and her feelings have changed and that she’s met someone else.
This was and is devastating to me. Instead of just grieving the loss off my ex wife I’m now heartbroken over the work girl. I’ve been popping Xanax nonstop and can’t sleep or eat. My buddy turned me on to trp and I’ve been reading up. Any help or advice would be awesome? I’m in a bad place, thanks.
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