Long time lurker on TRP subreddit but never really posted anything, just replied when I felt compelled to.
I’m single since January, was in couple for about 4 years. As long as I can remember, never really been blue pill and pretty much naturally red pilled, even if I did have a PUA phase in my first year of college before I realized it was pretty weak and that the whole goal was to improve my life, not to get more pussy. Pussy just follow when you maintain frame and have your shit together.
As for me, I’m 33, have a Masters degree, a good career, a nice little place, a motorcycle, I workout, yada yada yada. I’m fairly good looking but on the short side (barely 5 feet 9).
I have 2 goals in this post. An affirmation followed by my question (hence AskTRP).
1. Tell those who doubt it that having more pussy won’t make you happier.
2. A question : for guys who got a lot of pussy, how do you prioritize? How do you make the most of your time?
1. Having more pussy won’t make you happier. Ok so like I said, since January I’m back on the meat market. I was living with my ex so let’s say I had to live with my parents in February and only got my new apartment in March so that’s when I got back on Bumble. I live in Montreal and women here are usually pretty cute. It’s easy if you have a good description and good pictures + are funny. Well in the first month, I fucked like 12 new girls very easily. Usually I escalate to sex real quick in the texts, find a nice bar around my place, go there and grab a couple of drinks then leave to my place. It’s not hard if you’re used to it, it’s a routine. Women respond to the same stuff and I was already OK with it before I met my ex so it came back naturally real quick. I also started to just invite girls to my place for a glass of wine, skipping the bar entirely and most of the time, when they come here, we fuck.
Fast forward to today, I have a whole new problem, which is time. I work a 9 to 5 job in a bank and time is my most precious resource. As I’m writing this I’m spinning 6 plates and this shit is EXHAUSTING. And before you comment on those girls being low quality, these are college educated girls, about HB7 to HB8.5. Very good looking girls. Yes I love sex, I’m high libido (I left my ex because she was vanilla and the sex was sparse) but the thing is it’s consuming most of my free time. And yet I still feel like I HAVE to fuck when a girl text me. Of course now I deleted Bumble cause I can’t fuck more than I do but still, I fuck almost every single day a different plate. The consequences are that I can’t focus on my workouts, my social life isn’t as good as it should be, it’s hard to cook because that takes time, don’t have time to read anymore, I lack sleep, don’t see much of my family, have trouble finding time to ride my motorcycle, etc. When you think about it, spending all this time on pussy actually makes me a lesser man. And it really feels like a second job sometimes, as I could just jerk off and be done in 10 min then go on with my shits instead of watching Netflix with a girl I don’t give a fuck about. Bottom line : more pussy won’t make you happier.
2. My question for this community : for guys who got a lot of pussy, how do you prioritize? How do you make the most of your time?
Like I said, time became my most precious resource and I feel like I should maximize it instead of spending it on pussy. My rational brain knows it’s the thing to do but I guess I’ve been conditioned to think I have to fuck girls to « be a man » or to be happy. Must be an ego trip or some shit like that. And a quote from the book Zorba the Greek really stuck with me :
“If a woman sleeps alone it puts a shame on all men. God has a very big heart, but there is one sin He will not forgive. If a woman calls a man to her bed and he will not go.” ― Nikos Kazantzakis, Zorba the Greek
Please share your experiences on this issue if it happened to you. How did you realize you had too much? Did some of you intentionally broke your plates to make sure you have more free time? How did you do it? Did your happiness level increased?
Thanks for your feedback!