Hey guys, I'm new to married red pill. I've been reading the recommended materials and have begun improvements. It's been years since my wife and I had sex - since the birth of our youngest child. This has partly been influenced by long term breastfeeding and an late life pregnancy. Another part has been that we didn't have the same exact values on sex before marriage although we are both Christians. Our stopping premarital sex put sex in a place for her that was no longer fun. Finally, I also developed some beta tendencies as we entered parenthood. She said she had absolutely no desire for sex, but that she loved me and wanted to be with me.
Having adopted some more alpha habits and self improvements we've become more flirtatious with each other. She wants to "regain her mojo." I feel like a child. I haven't attempted initiating sex in a long time because of the pain of rejection. Now I'm not sure if either one of us know how to start back up. The sexy banter and play from time to time has been refreshing. Our kids are always in the way (literally), but a deliberate, planned time away to attempt sex seems too contrived/clinical and that it would kill the fun vibe. We've stopped having "the talk", which has been good, but it riddles the mind with doubts.
Need some help figuring out how to break the ice. I say that I feel like a child because I feel like I've forgotten how to initiate, and maybe I never did. Maybe I was just a good looking guy who just seemed to fall into pussy. Lol. Constructive thoughts?