I feel like a child. Starting again

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July 24, 2019
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Hey guys, I'm new to married red pill. I've been reading the recommended materials and have begun improvements. It's been years since my wife and I had sex - since the birth of our youngest child. This has partly been influenced by long term breastfeeding and an late life pregnancy. Another part has been that we didn't have the same exact values on sex before marriage although we are both Christians. Our stopping premarital sex put sex in a place for her that was no longer fun. Finally, I also developed some beta tendencies as we entered parenthood. She said she had absolutely no desire for sex, but that she loved me and wanted to be with me.

Having adopted some more alpha habits and self improvements we've become more flirtatious with each other. She wants to "regain her mojo." I feel like a child. I haven't attempted initiating sex in a long time because of the pain of rejection. Now I'm not sure if either one of us know how to start back up. The sexy banter and play from time to time has been refreshing. Our kids are always in the way (literally), but a deliberate, planned time away to attempt sex seems too contrived/clinical and that it would kill the fun vibe. We've stopped having "the talk", which has been good, but it riddles the mind with doubts.

Need some help figuring out how to break the ice. I say that I feel like a child because I feel like I've forgotten how to initiate, and maybe I never did. Maybe I was just a good looking guy who just seemed to fall into pussy. Lol. Constructive thoughts?


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Title I feel like a child. Starting again
Author Nomoreexcuseman12
Upvotes 6
Comments 24
Date 24 July 2019 08:23 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/246485
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[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

You listed a bunch of excuses before finally admitting the truth here:

Maybe I was just a good looking guy who just seemed to fall into pussy.

That’s a start. There is absolutely no mention of lifting in your post. What is your weight, height, and lifts? Hit both of those hard - become attractive physically and frame, and the sex will come. In the meantime, ramp up the kino, and work on the 10-second kiss. Start with 3-5 seconds maybe in your situation. Physically, you needs to get to the point that she literally quivers when you kiss her neck.

Not to brag, but to give you hope if you give the work, my wife literally quivers when I kiss her neck. This morning I came up to her with my shirt off, pulled her in tight for a kiss, and she said “you sure are so damn sexy.” She wasn’t saying that when I had dad bod. She used to get annoyed if I tried something like that

Become attractive

[–]i-am-the-prize1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Become attractive

Yup, because when she's taking that long shower with the removable/hand-held shower head, she's thinking of someone, might as well be you.

[–]IncitingDramah8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yay, another faggot.

Let's get this rolling, shall we?

It's been years since my wife and I had sex

You have a SHIT load of work to do. What made you stop being attractive? Also, how much bigger in your jerk off arm than the other arm?

This has partly been influenced by long term breastfeeding and an late life pregnancy.

I dont speak spanish, wtf does this even mean?

Another part has been that we didn't have the same exact values on sex before marriage although we are both Christians.

Oh, it means you're a pussy. Fun fact, women value sex. It's their currency dude.

I also developed some beta tendencies as we entered parenthood.

I'm going to say bullshit. You probably developed them long before that. ITS BEEN YEARS SINCE YOU FUCKED YOUR WIFE!

She said she had absolutely no desire for sex, but that she loved me and wanted to be with me.

Translation: "I dont find you attractive or want to even give you transactional sex, but I want you to pay for things and be my provider beta bucks." Good work, she doesnt find you attractive at ALL.

Having adopted some more alpha habits and self improvements

Again, I'm going to call you out here. Are you lifting? Are you identifying and passing her shit tests? Are you even getting shit tests?! Are you taking care of your business? Are you leading? Are you your own mental point of origin? Do you offer any value aside from beta bucks? Wild guess, I bet the answers to most if not all of these are no.

She wants to "regain her mojo."

Translation: "I wished you acted like this more often, then I'd want to fuck you but you're still a beta bitch"

I feel like a child. I haven't attempted initiating sex in a long time because of the pain of rejection.

You understand this is partly why you're weak, unattractive, and a beta? You're not taking what you want. You have fear. This is what is known as bitch think. Youre thinking emotionally, wtf is rejection going to do to you? Will you die, or do your fee feez just hurt because she doesnt value you like your ego says she should?

Now I'm not sure if either one of us know how to start back up.

Not her job. This is your job, as the man. LEAD AND SHE WILL FOLLOW.

We've stopped having "the talk", which has been good, but it riddles the mind with doubts.

Good. Talking is for women. Men do, women talk. This is also an area you need to build confidence. Assume attraction, assume she wants you to stab her with your flesh sword.

Need some help figuring out how to break the ice.

Again, I dont speak Spanish. Wtf does this even mean, shes your wife... I'm going to assume you put those babies inside of her, WHAT ICE IS THERE TO BREAK?

I say that I feel like a child because I feel like I've forgotten how to initiate, and maybe I never did.

You probably didn't judging by this post. Solution? READ THE SIDEBAR!

Maybe I was just a good looking guy who just seemed to fall into pussy.

LOL. Post your stats pal, community can for sure help you destroy this illusion.

You need to pull your head out of your ass and follow the basic directions. STFU, lift. Read sidebar. Stop thinking, stop analyzing, realize you're a beta whose using bitch think, and not being attractive.

[–]FoxShitNasty835 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha "stab her with your flesh sword"

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

Constructive thoughts?

Stop talking and stick your dick in her.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Cut right to the chase dont you?

[–]hack3geRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sometimes it’s that fucking simple - OP is literally scared of fucking his wife.

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

<spits coffee on monitor>

+1

[–]Cmvplease25 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

haven't initiated sex.. fear of rejection

You need to get to a place where you give zero fucks if she rejects you. ZERO. You're not there. Not even close.

Stopped having the "talk"

I'm guessing by the "talk" you mean you stopped complaining like a whiny bitch about not getting any of mommy's sweet ass. Good. One rule of mrp: less verba more acta.

You have clearly done no work. Read the side bar. Lift. Post weekly in OYS. Shut the fuck up (to your wife). Get to work bitch.

[–]weakandsensitive3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

On the bright side, he posted in the right place

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I know, right. No banhammer this time.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Start with the gym, audio versions of the sidebar, diet, cardio, and lifting.

Next go to the hardware store and pick up a roll of duck tape. Put a big piece across your mouth.

That alone will keep you buisy for ages.

Your post was just to much to stomach. You have been programmed to emote like a woman.

She wont fuck you because your unattractive. You have kids, have you seen jumanji 2? in that movie, a regular kids gets transformed into the body of the rock.

If I did that to you right now, and you walked in the door at home as the rocks likeness, the big beautiful bald stack of pure masculinity that he is.....

One of the first things she would say is:

"How big is the rocks dick" then "let's try sex with this new body you have".

It's you.

Your unattractive.

I have been there myself

Sidebar, lift, tape over mouth.

[–]Rifleshoot2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Check of r/RPChristians for sure. I don't know what your physical stats are, but if you are out of shape, get in shape. That's the first component you need for desire. Your wife clearly feels no desire towards you and is bored of you. Read the sidebar, come up with a plan for improvement and start posting to one of the weekly "Own Yourself" threads to keep track of progress. It's helpful each week for you to stop and reflect on how much or how little progress you've made towards your goals.

[–]samwiser921 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Whoa, you need to read MMSLP ASAP. Also, NMMNG. You’ve got so many problems, far beyond what a bunch if strangers online can help with on a single Reddit post. You have a lot of work to do, get working!

[–]CarelessBowler51 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Head over to r/RPChristians.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good one. OP will get destroyed here.

[–]jjj25761 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yikes— this post smells like an Irish fish market, pussy.

What have you read in the sidebar? I would recommend The Book of Pook, if you’ve read any of the other starter materials. Real solid text on how to actualize your internal value as a man. Also LIFT and STFU.

Not initiating sex with a woman is something a eunuch would do— are you a eunuch? Go clean your fucking house, and figure out where the hell you’ve misplaced your balls. Hopefully your kid didn’t toss them under the couch. Check your wife’s purse. And the fridge— people always leave weird stuff there.

Now after you’ve done that, try to initiate sex with your wife. She’ll say no, because in her eyes, you are a weak willed eunuch. Don’t get butt hurt. Move on with your day. Lift. STFU. Sidebar. Try again. Get rejected. Don’t get butt hurt. Lift. STFU. Sidebar. Rinse, lather, repeat.

You’re wife will reject your advances. That’s okay. Get okay with being rejected, eunuch. Go find your balls, and start the journey.

Remember: Getting butthurt after getting rejected makes you a bitch. Are you a bitch?

[–]samwiser920 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Whoa, you need to read MMSLP ASAP. Also, NMMNG. You’ve got so many problems, far beyond what a bunch if strangers online can help with on a single Reddit post. You have a lot of work to do, get working!

[–]nantucketghost0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just take charge. Send the kid away with the grandparents, or get a baby sitter, or whatever.

Give her some money and tell her to get a nice dress as you're going to take her out somewhere nice and afterwards you plan on having your way with her. I mean, literally tell her that you plan on having your way with her.

Or, skip dinner, have some drinks at home, and tell her the same, or you can even beta it up a little and tell her to take off her clothes and you're going to enjoy every inch of her.

it's a demand, not a question or looking for permission. you say it as if that is what is going to happen.

Rejection? No. Should not be any. She rejects you because you have no teeth. If you don't stick to what you say, then she will never believe you. She will always have power over you because you give in. If you say you're going to do something, do it. No matter what.

This way when you get rejected and tell her that it is time to change now or else you're going to keep the kid and send her out the door, she will believe you, and be ready and willing to do that.

Lift, start running, get some new hobbies, smoke some cigars, and be ready for a life change. She stopped caring about you a long time ago despite what she says. Words do not equal action.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“how to break the ice”

Do you have any balls left?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Need some help figuring out how to break the ice.

Just tell her you'll stick the tip in.

[–]Nomoreexcuseman12[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Wow! Thanks for the locker room hazing and the snap out of it slaps in the face. Appreciate y'all talking the time to respond, and I know I overthink things very often.

To provide more details on me. I do lift. I'm 5'11" 205 pounds. I'm benching 235 and squatting 245 for 5 reps each, and I'm working to slay the dad body. I'm a Christian, and I also grew up Baltimore city so best believe I'm not a pushover. But yes I've run the nice guy routine with women and I'm learning to break those cycles.

I'm reading through SALSM, MMSLM, No More Mr. Nice Guy, the book of Pook, and the Sex God Method. These have helped me change my attitude and behavior, and have become less needy. Been on this path for a few months and it's caused positive shift in relationship - more flirting, more playfulness.

I'm beginning to realize how much I've depended on covert contracts for sex. Time to man up.

[–]CarelessBowler51 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Me too. So many covert contracts. Sex. Finances. Parenting. Everything. Classic Nice-Guy Syndrome over here. It's absurd and embarrassing.

I've been initiating every day. Getting rejected almost every day. A couple of handjobs thrown in there, but the bedroom hasn't been properly revived.

I'm basically one month in. I've lost a ton of weight. The wife notices the new muscles. I'm getting IOI's everywhere I go. All the assertive methods from WISNIFG are working wonders in all kinds of areas of my life.

Whether I like it or not, I'm feeling that confidence from having options. If my marriage weren't to improve and it spiraled all the way to divorce, I see a life ahead of me even just for myself that looks awesome. Every day, my desire for sex feels just like an accessory instead of the main goal like it used to.

But jeez do I have a long, long way to go.

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If this is starting over, don't start over as a beta bitch. Why not start off as a guy that fucks when and how he wants to. No, don't say that... Just know that you are that guy and put in the work it requires to make it so.



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