"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." Matthew 7:1-6
I say this for a couple of reasons but most importantly judging others harshly is not good for you or your mental health! Plus it's just ugly when women do it to other women. Yes, this includes the feminists and SJWs. I don't care how crazy they are, it's just not worth the mental/emotional baggage. When you judge others you judge yourself.
Shame drives women to judge each other. Shame is our fear of not being good enough. This could be in a lot of everyday things like our femininity and what it means to be a woman, how our body looks, age, social status among our peers, education or lack thereof, the number of people we've slept with, mental health, RMV/SMV etc. Some of these expectations are placed on us by feminists/patriarchy/social media whatever you want to call it. You do need to be aware of these silent expectations being whispered into your ear.
Now there's nothing wrong with having "standards" but there's no use in bashing other people or yourself with it. It's not productive and it's not helping you or the people around you.
When you find yourself judging another woman for her choices in life, ask yourself why?
It's usually it's because this woman is "triggering" one of your deep unconscious insecurity you have about yourself.
- Her n count is higher than mine/She's not a virgin, what a slut/ she rode the cock carousel who's going to marry her now. (I don't feel so good about not being a virgin but at least my n count is lower than hers. I feel insecure about my n count, who's going to marry me now?)
- She's a SAHM, she must be lazy/doormat/no-personality (I wish I could stay at home and do something I really like. I need to have a job to seem interesting and be relevant)
- She's a working woman, she must be a horrible mother/wife (I feel insecure about my own parenting/wifing abilities so it makes me feel better when I judge her as being a worse parent/spouse than me.)
- She's loud/rash/unfeminine (I wish someone would accept me for the way I am. I wish I could speak my mind sometimes. I wish I could dress the way I want.)
- ...
I have exaggerated some of them but you get the idea.
People use shame to change others or to protect themselves from confronting their own inner insecurities. And as we all know shaming people to change just doesn't work or bring any lasting change but It does damage your relationship with the other person permanently.
TLDR:
Why you should stop: Because it's not good for you or for the people around you. When you stop shaming/judging people your relationship with both the sexes improve. You're happier and more care-free and people will want to be around you.
How do I stop: Give other women the benefit of doubt, empathize, put yourself in their shoes. I'll cover more in another post if people are interested.
EDIT:
Since it wasn't clear before:
- I am talking about a very specific situation or instance where women "judge" each others characters/being/worth as a person because of imo superficial traits like n count, age,sex etc.
- I don't think it's productive when we hold women outside RPW to these standards, if riding the cock carousel makes them happy then who am I to judge. I'd rather keep my head down and just concentrate on myself.
- I am NOT saying we can't hold people inside RPW accountable to each other.
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