I’ve learned so much about how woman work and how the world works from this sub but I feel like I’ve lost touch with myself.. in every situation I pretty much ask what would a TRP guy do instead of just following my gut and being myself and I feel like it’s hurting me how can I get outta this?

redhawkes · 2019-07-28T18:48:16+00:00

It's not the natural instincts that are wrong, it's the conditioning. You've been given the wrong manual. Now, you're rewiring your habits, that have been ingrained into you your whole life.

Another thing, that prevents you from internalizing the tenets is your ego investment in the matrix. That's why you feel like you're not being yourself, aka the imposter syndrome along with cognitive dissonance. There's no sitting on the fence, you'll only get deeper in depression.

What you need is practice and experience, that's how you internalize things. Keep on.

ostboll057 · 2019-07-28T21:44:02+00:00

I've had this before a few times. The first time was the worst, because I didn't know how to get out of it but when I heard through the grape vine that a few girls liked me I realised it is not what I'm truly looking for. I realised that I'm looking for romantic love and I don't care about sex if there aren't any feelings involved so I just dropped the whole charade and just tried to have a good time with my friends. That way I just behave as myself and if the right girl likes that, she likes me for me instead of liking the methods I apply, you know?

When I notice that and I like her back I can step in and occasionally pick out some of the tools I've learned playing the pick-up game in the past, just to keep the raport going and recognizing the steps of attraction, the IOIs and IODs, etc. just to enhance my own personality.

RoccoPinkman · 2019-07-28T22:48:47+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with making mistakes, learn by them