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Recently Cheated on and Broken up with after 7 Years... What the Fuck do I do?

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August 15, 2019

I should preface this with the fact that I am not and have not been married. But after 7 years, 5 or 6 of which we were living together, it felt like it. I know it's not the same— but I posted my story here, and one of the few comments pointed me to this sub.

TLDR: After noticing my girlfriend acting suspicious, I found her Reddit messages. She'd met a guy online and they'd been talking / having online sex / dirty-talking for around a month. They also talked about me (by name) and my inadequacies, including the fact that apparently I've never given her an orgasm and she's been faking for years. When I confronted her, she admitted all of it. She said it was over and had been in her mind for a while. I moved in with my parents.

I'm at a loss of what to do from here. Apologies if I'm monumentally ignorant; I've read a bit of TRP sidebar, but my head is just spinning. It's hard for me to convert that information into a plan for myself. I am completely lost. I never thought she'd do this in a million years. And the worst part is, I just want her back still. I can't stop texting her.

What the fuck is wrong with me? What the fuck do I do?


Edit: POSITIVE UPDATE: I really appreciate all the responses. Especially with me charging in here as ignorantly as I did. I needed all of it. I needed the telling-it-like-it-is, the tough love, the advice, the "sorry, dude"s, even the people just roasting me— all of it. I honestly value all of the responses here, even the ones that stung to read at first. I'm taking it all to heart. I've stopped texting her except for the logistics of getting my shit out of the old house. I got a new job with better pay. I don't have a gym membership yet, but I will get one, and in the meantime I have some dumbbells and will do as much at-home exercise as possible. I'm reading NMMNG and cackling at how accurate it is. I'm actually working methodically through the sidebar rather than scanning through it in panicked grief. A good friend took me out for a goddamn steak dinner; we drank bourbon and talked about all the bad things about her and how I'm better off. I've actually internalized and BELIEVE the idea that she did me a favor, that this is a unique opportunity to focus on myself and the man I want to be, without having to actually go through something like a divorce. Rather than foreign thoughts I have to concede, I FEEL it in me that I deserve and can achieve BETTER, and that it's my duty to actually fucking TRY. It's hard to explain, but it all just kind of clicked. And I have you guys to thank. Christ, I can't thank you enough.

(Special shoutouts to the effort put in trying to help my sorry ass by u/Escape_From_Betacraz, u/JudgeDoom, u/InChargeMan, u/RedRedux, u/red-sfpplus, u/RedPill-BlackLotus, u/LongRoad518, u/TheLitz, u/RedJive, u/Two_kids_in_a_coat, and u/red88lobster. You guys were especially helpful.)

Update TLDR: OP is a faggot

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Title Recently Cheated on and Broken up with after 7 Years... What the Fuck do I do?
Author barelyevenhere000
Upvotes 30
Comments 76
Date 15 August 2019 01:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Escape_From_Betacraz58 points59 points  (6 children) | Copy

First thing to do would be to stop fucking texting her. You're not getting her back by supplicating her after she cheated on and broke up with you. And you shouldn't want to get her back anyway. Every time you contact her the clock to get over her restarts. So stop doing that. And have some self respect and decide to not take her back even if she wanted you to.

Secondly start reading the sidebar and start lifting. Lifting will help you too, as you can't be sad during a heavy squat.

[–]JudgeDoom6920 points21 points  (4 children) | Copy

start reading the sidebar and start lifting

u/barelyevenhere000 remember, "The best revenge is amazing success". You need to go no-contact with that filthy whore and make sure the next time she accidentally runs into you, you're in great physical shape, loving your life with amazing friends and hobbies, and seeing one or more younger, hotter women.

Congrats! You're at the bottom and it only improves from here if you put in the work.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Congratulations indeed.

The coming struggle for this weak, weak boy.

Weak like the scared, dense, slow, and inferior hunter of 300,000 years ago, when homo sapiens first started roaming the savanna. That ancient man's boy's DNA died out, but not before it trickled over the generations into OP's bloodstream.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP has no idea how good of a situation he is in at this moment. He got out of a likely doomed relationship without getting divorce raped and no kids, but he gets to bring the heartache and life lessons with him while he builds himself into a man who has a life worth living.

Lucky guy IMO.

You listening u/barelyevenhere000

[–]RoccoPinkman2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Whats the saying...? Oh, yeah

survival of the fittest

thats the one

[–]screechhaterRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy














[–][deleted] 31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

I read your other post. That's rough. Here's a custom plan for you if you want to follow it that will change your life and get you where you want to be instead of the shithole situation (emotionally and otherwise) that you're in now:

  1. Your emotions are going to suck for a while. They'll suck for a much, much smaller period of time if you follow what I'm about to lay out.
  2. You absolutely must stop talking to her. Cut off all contact other than whatever is strictly necessary for sorting out anything still at your old place, and even then, keep it as short as humanly possible. You have no chance to get back with her, and even if you could, you shouldn't want to after all of this. Have some self-respect.
  3. Start lifting, start reading and start forming a plan to get out of your parents house (this will also be covered in step 8). I'll cover what to read below. I assume other comments will cover the lifting portion.
  4. There are three books to read in the following order(ignore the slight cringe in the names, they're both older books): No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover, When I Say No I Feel Guilty by Manuel Smith, Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 by Athol Kay.
  5. No More Mr. Nice Guy (NMMNG for short) will answer your question of, "What the fuck is wrong with me?"
  6. When I Say No I Feel Guilty (WISNIFG for short) will teach you what to do about it in your personal interactions.
  7. Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 (MMSL for short) will answer your question of, "What the fuck do I do?"
  8. In MMSL, you'll develop something called a M.A.P. that will act as the personally customized structure for improving your life and getting to exactly where you want to be.

You're in hell right now, but if you do the above, it'll be the best thing that ever happened to you. Good luck.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red32 points33 points  (11 children) | Copy

Sorry buddy.

Realize Chads dont stay with cheaters. We pump and dump. You will win in the long run.

Morn the loss of the relationship. And rejoice in your new freedom.

Accept the fact you will not see a vagina for 3-6 months.

Realize that a vagina is a low commodity item, easily replaceable if you are a high value man.

Breakup gains are real. Use the anger to fuel your body transformation.

Dont use substances to cope. Drugs, booze, porn, etc.

Cry a few times if you need to then man up.

For fucks sake you are 28. If I can do it at 40......

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret4 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy

You, sir, are a beacon of hope for the young.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy


[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

I don’t know what that means, but how the fuck are you?

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Lol. It's a spanish thing. You only learn that when you marry a spaniard.

I'm good dude, life goes on, the globe keeps spinning.

I'm an absolute unit, 'cuz I'm obsessed with being so now.

What about you?

I think of you often when I log onto this cesspool, and as usual I hope you are well.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Life has smiled on me generously in many ways. ($$)

I made a splash last night with a poster.

I hope he makes it.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's great dude. Glad to hear it. Keep rockin' and rolling'.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

marry a spaniard.


Going to show my ignorance. Do you consider a spaniard the same as a Latino?

Reason I ask - fitchick is half Latino. Honestly before she told me, I just assumed she was tanned AF. Afterall, she is juicy AF, so tanning goes with that. Anyway she said last night her mom is Spanish. She was born in New Mexico.

Anyway, she is cool as fuck and me being Italian - I 100% jive with her attitude.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

What I think is irrelevant. I'm a gringo from New York (new-evaye-york) - though I've been in Miami Beach (and Spain) for a couple of decades.

This is the hierarchy:

  • Spaniards are at the top. I've taken maybe 1,000 ubers and so many drivers talk about how the Spaniards are at the top, if for no other reason than their beautiful, perfect language. Plus, I post occasionally about the hottest place on earth and it really is - seriously - Ibiza.
  • Argentinians are next, though the Spaniards look down upon them.
  • Brazilians are next - in my book - though largely forgotten by Spaniards - perhaps because the Brazilians - in my experience, are fiendishly fun. The whole hierarchy of Europeans and South Americans seem to forget the Brazilians. It's clearly because they're jealous. Brazilians are amazing.
  • Cubans. Shout out to them. Take North Africa and mix it with the Canary Islands. What more do you want? Add on an innate and inbred ability to dance - and sweat - and you have, well, fun.
  • Central and South America next. Nicaragua at the bottom. Que Cera Cera.

That's the general Miami-based view of the Latina - "a" not "o" - world.

Not according to me - a fluent Spanish-speaking gringo - but instead - according to the latinos, lantinas, and others here.

p.s. New Mexico is a state of our union, dumbass. You're thinking Mexico.

With that said, I'll take a Latina any goddamn day - alongside a Spaniard - over an American. Holy hell yes.

Then again, I'm kinda biased.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Appreciate the info. But I have no idea what you are talking about here:

New Mexico is a state of our union, dumbass. You're thinking Mexico.

I was saying fitchick was born in New Mexico. She moved to Dallas with her family as a kid. I assume her MOTHER is from Mexico. We didnt get that far in the conversation.

I'll take a Latina any goddamn day

All you needed to say...


[–]redismyfuture0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Spot on, just would add that Cubans and Puerto Rican's are close but Cuban's have slight edge. Brazilian's are ignored by Spaniards bc, well, Portugal.

Also, Latinas are all crazy as fuck and will stab you in your sleep.

And Mexicans are technically Latino. But ask anyone from Cuba, Puerto Rico or Dominican Rebecca and they'll tell you Mexicans arent Latina.

Source: half of family is from Puerto Rico and some still live there.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Latinas are all crazy as fuck and will stab you in your sleep.

Many of my gringo friends share your sentiment.

My take was kind of from the social/class perspective. You are spot-on with your comment. Population-wise, in Miami, Cubans rule all; they're more than half the total population. And I think there are more Puerto Ricans in Miami, after Cubans, than other Central/South Americans.

You know, so many people everywhere don't like Mexicans. It's a shame. Then again, it's pretty goddamn dangerous and I think has taken back the "most dangerous place in the world" title.

I also left out Columbians.

Miami is a big-ass melting pot, just like NY.

And I love it.

I know there are plenty of uppity, xenophobic assholes who don't love it - or even like it - and I'm glad those fuckers don't come - and just stay home - hanging out in their cornfields, raving about "indigenous" and "immigrants" while banging sheep instead.

They're probably fucking fantasizing about 'dirty dark people' while deep inside their family's prized cow.

Some fucking asshole orthodox jew spit in my cleaning woman's face weeks ago and screamed "indigenous."

The irony of all these assholes and their own ancestors emigration to the United States. "Nope, let's just cut it off now," I'm sure they think, "now that my family and I are here the rest can fuck off."

Fucking assholes.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your 28, not married, no kids.

This is gift.

Just pull your head out of your ass, read this and get a gym pass.

This is the best thing that's ever happened to you.

Thank her.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your 28, not married, no kids. This is gift.

B-b-b-but ... he’s in loooooove

Op says he read some sidebar, and the lie detector test determined...

That was a lie

[–]FoxShitNasty8328 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm sorry, you were acting unattractive and I took my chance.

Lots of love and hugs,


[–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is all in the /r/marriedredpill sidebar but here's the cliff notes:

#1 - realize this is all your fault. Also realize she did you a favor because you know how shitty you are.

#2 - start lifting heavy weights a minimum of 3x per week

#3 - read the sidebar

#4 - STFU - STOP FUCKING TEXTING HER. IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU WANT, ACT LIKE SHE'S DEAD TO YOU. She's laughing to Chad that her faggot ex is still begging to come back to her between choking on his dick and getting fucked in the ass by him. She cheated on you, she SHOULD be dead to you; that's an unforgivable transgression in my book.

Get out of your parents' house, be attractive, and don't be unattractive.

[–]RPMorpheus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

realize she did you a favor

Doubt he will but this is the truth right here

[–]The_LitzRed Beret8 points9 points  (14 children) | Copy

You got most of the advice already, I would just add, instead of starting with NMMNG etc, kick off with Rollo's Rational Male.

Reading that will give you some insight into the female psyche and will help you get over the break up.

BEWARE BEWARE BEWARE! Do not get into a relationship for a long time. Chances are you will repeat some blunders if you dive straight into another relationship.

Fix yourself. Then move on.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Do not get into a relationship for a long time.

Disagree 100% with this.

Do what you want, fuck bitches, become committed, be poly, monog.

Use another human to fill the void in your heart like I did. Sleeping alone at night sucks at first. Not having someone to text sucks at first. There are plenty of desperate women out there OP could put on a leash for a bit.

They are nothing more than a tool to assist in sculpting a man.

I learned alot by nuking my marriage, fucking hoes, falling in love again, ignoring red flags because pissing on her was fun, until I got bored, then dumping her ass and now moving onto others.

Only difference between OP and I is that I have fucking frame.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP is a lost puppy, you were a dog. Main problem is OP will share all his feelz with the first woman he meets and start the relationship on faggot mode.

Does not matter though, he will delete or abandon his account before the day is over.

[–]PillUpAss1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

got bored

Is this the endgame for you - piss on a woman, run out of ideas for new dopamine rushes with her and move on? Or were there other red flags and reasons to move on beyond sex?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, there were plenty of red flags.

piss on a woman, run out of ideas for new dopamine rushes with her and move on?

I dont know the answer to that question.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Good advice. He 100% won't listen.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Or join the MGTOW circle jerk.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Or join the MGTOW circle jerk.

Lol well said. B-b-b-buuut they are bettering theirselves. and then they are going to slay pussy after their 1-yr “monk mode.” Shit.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

kick off with Rollo's Rational Male.

By far the most valuable book on the sidebar, but I don’t think OP is ready for those truths yet. Honestly, it took me 6 mo-year for me to be ready for it. Now, over 3 years in, it gets better every fucking time... the truths in that book are so deep that you need to experience a lot through the RP lens to get them. More is revealed each time I read it. I’m currently reading it again... probably my 8th time. It makes me cringe when men tell me they listened to TRM on audio. Too much information is missed IMO. I’ve seen guys I know personally listen to it multiple times and it’s like they didn’t hear even the main messages. It’s like the Bible... should be read slowly and carefully

Ok, rant over haha

[–]PillUpAss1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Starting with Rational Male leads to Rambo many times - it did for me. So fucking angry until I realized it is foundational knowledge for success, valuable largely because most don’t know or believe it. It took me a good 6 months to get out of raw anger mode afterwards. I may have faired better had I read something softer like NMMNG first.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Rambo is A-OK when a bro is single.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Starting with Rational Male leads to Rambo many times - it did for me.

Yeah, I’d suggest Married primer or even book of Pook befor TRM. I once made a huge mistake by recommending TRM to my wife’s grown son because I swear we were on the same page. Long story short, he googled it or something and read all the feminist reviews about how it was a woman hater book, and he relayed that to my wife. Of course, these days I don’t much care what my wife thinks about what I read if she happens to get a glimpse over my shoulder

[–]PillUpAss1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can relate. I’ve recommended TRM a few times in can’t miss cases - they all missed. Fat friend gets divorce raped at 54 after 25 years of marriage. What caused it? Victim puke his pastor suggested he share with his wife “to be open and honest” (wtf?). It immediately killed any remaining attraction or even tolerance she had for him and away she went. Even after that, the dumb bastard still didn’t understand TRM and wrote it off as woman hating. I told him it actually teaches women are great once you have them figured out. “Don’t wish things were different, wish you were better.” He says no, he’s done with women for good. You can lead a chump to water...

[–]The_LitzRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, he is not ready, but he is just here to share his feelz and get over his loss, not improve.

He is still trying to figure out why she left his ass. RM will spoon feed him on the why.

In a way I hate Rational Male, it took the blinkers off me and made me a little too cynical, but I see the truths of the book play out in front of me on a daily basis. Can't unsee some shit.

Agree on the audio books and when guys speed read the sidebar in one weekend. This stuff needs to sink in over time.

[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It’s like a bucket of ice cold water to the face - will sure is fuck wake you up and it sucks in be moment but eventually you realize you are better for it.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

I didn’t read the other post. Doesn’t matter. She cut you out you should not have an issue with cutting her out. It’s done and over why give it more then it was worth.

How could she? What she is thinking is that you were never good enough.

It's hard for me to convert that information into a plan for myself. I am completely lost.

All normal. You’ll figure it out. Cut the harpy out of your life. Block if you have no self control. Otherwise don’t answer her. There is nothing good that can come from it.

Get your shit together. Figure out your mistakes in this and improve. Move forward always forward.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also is your girl ugly? Who meets on Reddit who isn’t gross?

[–]nantucketghost5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Move the fuck on. Texting her makes you look weak. Next thing to do is to become a man. You working out? You have kick ass hobbies and a job where you are going places? No? Get working on that.

Women want to be able to brag about their man. Was she able to brag about you? Your job? Your hobbies and accomplishments? Or was she the girl that didn't dare talk about you because you didn't give her anything to brag about?

Living 5 or 6 and not married? She wants kids, a house, family, etc. What the fuck was the plan? I was married 3 years in. Best girl. Still married 20+ years later. You either have the right girl or you don't.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and go start making some changes.

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lift, block and sidebar.

Sounds simple, anyone who’s been in your spot here will agree that’s the only and best way to move on. Don’t go through the trash to bring her back. Your goal is to be a man that pulls much higher quality then your ex.

[–]weakandsensitive5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

Give yourself a swirly. it might clear your head.

Guys - you can't help people acting emotionally. If he comes back in a week with emotions tempered, maybe then. No use trying to plan reconstruction in the middle of a fire. You're better off getting some chocolate, marshmallows, and making smores.

[–]bowhunter67 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

You’re on to something here. Dude is just starting the grieving process. He should allow himself a short time to wallow in his misery, get drunk, bang some strange if he’s capable. Then, get himself together, make a plan and move forward. Bang 10 more to forget or go monk mode for a while, depending on where he is physically and mentally.

Of course, he absolutely needs to ghost this bitch.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

he absolutely needs to ghost this bitch.

But he won’t. On a 1-10 scale of ONEitis, he’s currently at 11

[–]bowhunter60 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sadly, you are correct.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Guys - you can't help people acting emotionally. If he comes back in a week with emotions tempered, maybe then

You getting soft on me WaS? Not you????!!

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My impotence is being blown on twitter.

[–]johnn20152 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wtf is online sex?

[–]hibloodstevia1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Improve the areas of your life that need improving.

Repeat if necessary.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

What the fuck is wrong with me?

You are a highly estrogenic, beta butthurt little bitch with no abundance, no outcome independence, low self-esteem, little confidence, and a severe lack of understanding of inter-gender and inter-sexual dynamics, evolutionary psychology, masculinity, and men and women in general.

In short, you are an ignorant little bitch and you are now paying the price and feeling the pain of your ignorance and your laziness.

The good news is that you're probably not stupid.

The difference between ignorant and stupid is meaningful.

Ignorance can be overcome with knowledge.

You can't fix stupid.

What the fuck do I do?

Calm the fuck down, sit the fuck down, and shut the fuck up.

Don't be a whiny little bitch. Every moment you are making some kind of noise, your eyes and ears aren't learning anything.

It's time to man the fuck up and grow the fuck up.

Start here:

[–]rp-d20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I just fucking love this place.

[–]go-RED-go1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

These guys took their time to give you some valuable advice. In your head you probably have a lot of resistance to it, but it's the solid stone hard truth.

The sooner you accept it, the closer you are to getting better.

I'll highlight few most important things for start:

  1. The girl you knew for 7 years doesn't exist anymore. She is dead. Stop trying to contact her. Block her on everything. She's dead and she's not coming back from the dead. If you start fantasizing about you getting back together, kill that thought immediatelly, couse that aint happening and you are not hooking up with a dead person.

  2. Join a gym. Start lifting heavy weight (google stronglifts 5x5). Be active , force yourself to go into the world and see new places and try new things. Being active makes you process your emotions faster and more easily.

  3. Read the sidebar. It will help you get a clearer perspective on how you were led to believe an illusion.

  4. In few months you will start to realize that life without her is not that bad at all and that she wasn't that great of girl at all. Many guys have been in your situation and most of them grew into wiser and stronger men after that. Be thankful for the opportunity.

  5. The girl you knew is dead and you are not getting back together. Ever. Abundance of hotter women are waiting for the better and stronger version of you to fuck them. Get stronger and better - and then do it!

[–]WolfofAllStreetz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You hit the lotto before you married her.

Be sad for a week, then lift, and fuck hotter girls.

[–]RPeed1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Download bumble.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't think that's going to go well for OP based on his level of faggotry. Maybe Grinder would be better for him?

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Location = parents house. He better be a looker.

Spoiler alert: he isn't.

[–]RPeed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s all relative: his ex is a Redditor that likes cats.

[–]weakandsensitive3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy


Dick advice.

Kicking a man when down.

Most guys on online dating arent redsf

[–]additionalpie40 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yep it happens, happened to me and a bunch of others. It will happen to you again unless you change. Future interactions with her should be zero, it you must interact always just wish her the best. Maybe slip in a go be successful at whatever you do if you cant tape your mouth shut. You are the fucking prize (at least you should be or will be if you follow simple instructions SIDEBAR – LIFT - STFU). Go get a gym membership today. Take everything that she put you through into lifting heavy things and read until your eyes bleed. Go find your guy friends and do guy shit. Not fucking hard. Be a bigger fish in your ocean. Read your other post, keep therapy!

[–]red88lobster0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Some good advice here, I hope you take it onboard.

Here are some of the books you will be needing .

You can play them with Google books and have a Sexy robot voice read them to you like an audiobook :)

[–]470_2_700_nm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well if it makes you feel any better I know a guy really well who was in this position and his woman convinced him to stay by telling him she was sorry and made a big mistake and that it just happened. He even took some of the blame.

Now 12 years later and with young children she’s been sending pictures of herself to some dude from work. And prefaced the reason why because of what husband was doing. AWALT. They are all beautiful. But they are all that way.

Wish that guy had MRP 12 years ago its a lot more complicated now mother fucker.

Listen to these men.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Next. Ghost.

I understand your situation more than you can imagine.

But guess what ? You can stoically improve, and move on. Don’t let this define you.

Gym. Lift. Lift every other fucking day.

[–]shadowentityrising0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read, lift, stfu and start creating your life map, when you're heartbroken and feel worthless go lift some iron, it helps trust. Start mma or boxing as the pads n punchbags are a great way to release anger. Eventually you will start to realise that you've had a lucky escape... Move on and upwards with life. Also buy the sex god method.... Sounds like your not as good as you thought. Bless.

[–]Neilio_Heilio0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Defeat yourself, pay no mind to the lingering love you have for her. Keep your head held high and do not give her any attention and hit the gym and keep your cell phone in the car while doing so.

[–]civilizedfrog0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She stabbed him once in his back, so what is the problem in giving her the knife again?

[–]SoyTanto0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I went through similar. As millions of other people. It feels like it’s the worst situation possible, but it’s actually really fucking common.

I wish I had realized I wasn’t getting her back sooner. Because you aren’t. And even if you did, it would be temporary. The shit you saw will be engrained in your mind.

Anyways, my reading recommendation is definitely, The Rational Male. Which I consider the Bible of TRP.

[–]Cyprian_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You mentioned you have a house with her? As in you own it?

Do you share any financial accounts with her?

Credit cards?

[–]WesternhagenWinner0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

my inadequacies, including the fact that apparently I've never given her an orgasm and she's been faking for years.

This is the "lightswtich effect" in action.

When a woman is no longer attracted to you, she rewrites the entire history of the relationship such that the sex always sucked and you were always an abusive asshole.

[–]Non_Merger0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you follow the advice you've received here, in about 6 months you'll realize that you have recently WON THE FUCKING LOTTERY

Or you can seek conventional advice and double down on fucking your life up.

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You’re welcome

[–]Rogue68486-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

What's wrong with you?

You've been programmed and chosen to be a beta

What the fuck do you do?

Learn to be more alpha

And stop texting this girl. Its beta as hell

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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