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I asked out my oneitis and got rejected. Personal growth

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August 7, 2019
244 upvotes

I finally asked out my oneitis but got turned down nicely. It feels good honestly I thought about her all the time even ignoring other women. I think I can finally move on from it. Time to read the sidebar and continue pursuing goals.


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Title I asked out my oneitis and got rejected. Personal growth
Author Wobblewobblegobble
Upvotes 244
Comments 52
Date 07 August 2019 05:48 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/248513
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/cn91y6/i_asked_out_my_oneitis_and_got_rejected_personal/
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[–]frick-a-frack190 points191 points  (10 children) | Copy

I like this post. I thought it was going to go in a different direction.

Essentially, you grabbed the bull by the horns... it knocked you over. And now you’ll stand up and move on.

Had you not taken the chance on asking her out, you’d have continued to wait around for someone who didn’t want you.

Be careful about one thing. Oneitis girls tend to know how much you like them. If they feel they might lose your attention, they’ll sometimes do underhanded shit, like offer to finally “date you, but take things slowly.” The purpose of that is to remove other females in your life that DO have your attention AND to NOT fuck you (“slow”).

Good luck!

[–]Wobblewobblegobble[S] 33 points34 points  (1 child) | Copy

I appreciate it, though this wasn’t a question I believe it can serve as “you’ll be okay” for anyone that really likes someone and hasn’t taken their chance.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The next step would be to stop ignoring other women for someone who may not even want you. Everyone should be on equal footing in your eyes. Crushes are for kids.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Had you not taken the chance on asking her out, you’d have continued to wait around for someone who didn’t want you. that was unresponsive to your game, and thus wasted valuable time to learn gaming girls that might actually be interested in you.

FTFY

[–]soundspoon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you for this reply man. I needed to read this shit!

[–]supersonic-turtle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Solid.

[–]Greek-God-Brody0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oneitis girls tend to know how much you like them. If they feel they might lose your attention, they’ll sometimes do underhanded shit, like offer to finally “date you, but take things slowly.” The purpose of that is to remove other females in your life that DO have your attention AND to NOT fuck you (“slow”).

Wow, this is painful to read, those were exactly the words my oneitis used: 'take things slowly'

[–]YoungPhoooo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You broke the wheel Round and round it goes The city burns in the end

[–]3chazthundergut70 points71 points  (8 children) | Copy

Good for you. 80% of game is just taking your shot. Keep improving and moving forward

[–]iwviw21 points22 points  (7 children) | Copy

I had my first solo trip out of the country and my success rate when approaching women here was so high that my fear of approaching went away. It’s because I’m in a 3rd world country so as an American I’m exotic and perceived as higher status even though they don’t know my net worth they assume. Plus I’m tall and muscular and the men here are not. I approached more women here than and other time in my life. My success rate was high.

If I approached this much in the USA my conversion won’t be anywhere as good but I’ll get probably triple or quadruple the amount of women I usually do because of just more approaches. If you approach 10 women and 8 diss you that means you got 2.

[–]Clifford_Blake9 points10 points  (6 children) | Copy

What 3rd world country?

[–]iwviw17 points18 points  (5 children) | Copy

Mexico City. It’s crazy here. The women are freaking beautiful here. Like it’s next level the quantity and quality of them. Easily making out and getting 6-8 numbers a Friday/Saturday night. I usually get 5-6s. Out here I’m getting 7-8s

[–]Call_Me_Foch18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy

Mothefucker. Stop stealing my whaaaaamen.

Jk. Enjoy your stay, fellow redpilled gringo.

[–]MyCarFlies6915 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

He’ll be killed soon.

[–]SilenceIsGolden3211 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha les encantan los gueros wey. No hay pedo, acá ando en gringolandia y me voy a desquitar con unas gueritas.

[–]AlleyFrog960 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuuuuck i gotta slide to mexico

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is it possible they have hired women at the bars to either pretend to be interested or they’re actually hookers (or scamming wallet stealers)...

Not to bed negative, but there’s usually a reason when things are too good to be true

[–]Wobblewobblegobble[S] 33 points34 points  (2 children) | Copy

Turns out she actually has a boyfriend. She posted it just now on her story lmao. I ultimately decided to remove her off of my social media. My advice to anyone reading is to never take too long man.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

My advice to anyone reading is to never take too long man.

Literally just said this. Glad you're realizing the important lesson.

[–]soundspoon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Removing from social media really helps!

[–]thatguywhatshisface26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nice man, keep up the good attitude. Irony is she’ll come back once you’re in a better place and you won’t give a fuck lol

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten39 points40 points  (2 children) | Copy

Good for you and keep it up - but this place is for questions or theory clarification.

[–]Wobblewobblegobble[S] 17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

Understood

[–]TheGillos12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also beware of that obsession coming back if you get your shit together.

Please consider returning the favor and nicely reject her once your SMV goes up in a year or so of determined personal development.

She had her chance. You don't need a kryptonite woman.

[–]knucklesandblood4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let's fucking go bro! Keep striving.

[–]Carboneraser4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Everytime somebody says side bar it makes me jizz. Such a good resource.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

rejection > regret

well done op

[–]uptimex2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I got you man, my oneitis fucked another guy, and told me about it, that was my breakpoint.

[–]RedPillAlphaBigCock1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a very good thing. There is NOTHING worse than regret - it was a NO anyway if you did not ask . Jut keep it up and she will be coming around the mountain

[–]needz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Where's the question?

[–]Adtrisbest921 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep growing bro, you got this

[–]Foolishoe 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

What? No question?

......

Wow.

[–]Wobblewobblegobble[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Don’t need to ask a question when you already know what to do

[–]zboo1h1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, good job. Now you can fucking do anything. I remember years ago around the time I discovered TRP I worked up the nuts to ask out a girl I had a gay childish crush on, she politely declined for ____ reason, and I was surprised by how much I actually felt good about it. I didn't care that she was too busy with school or whatever her reason, I just felt so good that I made a decision and acted on it, you know, like a Man.

Lift.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly the right step. You knew this was going to happen but you stepped up.

Get out of her orbit entirely. Don't block but don't ever chat over text or meet. Be busy.

You need time and space to work on you. Start with the physical. Time to lift. Learn meditation and discipline yourself. Focus only on you and not on women. Do some monk mode for a while. Work out hard for a while.

[–]RedSkeller1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude way to have balls. Now you'll never grow old wondering about the 'what if'. Don't be surprised if one day she hits you up after years of self improvement and all she's done is gain 20 pounds and drop a kid out. I'm so proud of you dude, half the kids who post here are afraid to take a dump with the lights off without reading 20 articles and watching 4 hours of youtube vids on how to do it.

[–]guywhoisambitious1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Congratulations buddy. I know it probably took a lot to do that. It sure did for me when I asked out my Oneitus a while back. Good on you! I know it might be difficult, but I think cutting contact completely is best. That is what worked for me. Took a couple of months but things started to get great after that.

[–]SerbianChadnik0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stay away from oneitises

[–]downvotesanimals0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds about right. You're on the right track: less oneitis, more approaches. Play on!

[–]Fuktiga_mejmejs0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thats the right attitude.

[–]nester79-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Oneitis usually is when you're already in a relationship with someone no? If you have to ask her out, that's not oneitis is it? Wouldn't that just be called you're obsessed over someone you don't have?

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

There's two types: Beta orbiters that have oneitis and guys who actually get with the girl and then develop oneitis.

[–]nester790 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Man I didn't know there was a new low. An orbiter with oneitis.

I mean shit, I've been desperate before being a short male and all but I've never been that desperate!

[–]Project_Zero_Betas1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Almost all orbiters have oneitis. You can tell because they gave one girl, and only that girl, all their attention. You don't see beta orbiters with a bunch of female friends, but a single girl with a bunch of beta orbiters.



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