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I'm in a bad spot mentally. I feel trapped. I have a very good work from home job but I feel like it's destroying my social life and my SMV.

by drumandtheywillcum86 | August 02, 2019 | askMRP

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I have been working a work from home job for a year now. I make a good amount of money in this role, but I feel like it's destroying the attraction between us. I own my shit at home, but I don't really get out like I used to other than going to the gym to lift. I've been so caught up in taking care of everything at home and making sure the kids are happy that I've forgot who I am. Any good books you would recommend to help me with this?


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Title I'm in a bad spot mentally. I feel trapped. I have a very good work from home job but I feel like it's destroying my social life and my SMV.
Author drumandtheywillcum86
Upvotes 22
Comments 29
Date 02 August 2019 06:17 PM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/248745
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[–]Onein1024th28 points29 points  (2 children) | Copy

get a remote office

If you've got a buddy at a small company, you could probably work something out to use an extra desk

[–]helaughsinhidden11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

This!

I worked out of the house myself for over a year and it sucked. Home didn't feel like a relaxing place anymore and it was difficult to be productive while working. Now I shell out $300 per month to rent an office out of the house from my friends business and we share a breakroom with a pool table, 3 TVs, leather couches, pinball machine, and a 3 door beer cooler.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Better yet: private office at a co-working space if OP is in a city

[–]Tbonesupreme16 points17 points  (11 children) | Copy

You don't need books - you need friends and a hobby.

[–]drumandtheywillcum86[S] 2 points3 points  (10 children) | Copy

Thanks man. I do have hobbies. Vinyl collecting, going to concerts, playing guitar, hiking, camping, working out , reading ect. I think the problem is I'm just not happy with the bitch I'm with lol. Is there a way to lead her and guide her out of the funk she is also in? She's stuck in what I call the motherhood trap. She goes to work, comes home and has to be a mom until she goes to sleep and starts over the next day. She rarely takes part in her own hobbies which includes crafting and cooking.She just spends a lot of her time being negative as fuck .

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

She is as shitty as you let her be. She takes the shape of your shitty frame. Calling her a negative bitch is a cop out and you should be calling yourself a shitty Captain who is simultaneously a faggot. You want a nice woman? Lead mother fucker.

[–]Rifleshoot5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her that. You’re the captain and it is your job to look after the well being of your crew. Talk to her and let her know that her lifestyle isn’t mentally healthy for her, and because she will want outright guidance, tell her how she should change.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

“ She's stuck in what I call the motherhood trap. She goes to work, comes home and has to be a mom until she goes to sleep and starts over the next day. ”

Welcome to the long game (marriage) faggot.

You aren’t special. You decided to get the state involved and bet half of your future net worth on her loving you the rest of your life. You now see her losing attraction for you.. what a big fucking surprise.

MRP will save you. Get to work.

[–]FoxShitNasty834 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nightmare mode!

[–]helaughsinhidden3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Get a babysitter, go on a date, ply her with adult beverages if necessary. Oh, and she is following your lead, so quit being negative yourself.

[–]callmeanubermensch5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

You should also take your wife out on a date and get her drunk too, not just the babysitter.

[–]i-am-the-prize1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

zing

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ya. It's all her. Fuck that bitch.

Go get a thot.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like a fucking excuse bringing up get being negative as fuck

This is why we preach read the sidebar. Fulfill your obligations to 50% of the load and start the kids on chores and responsibilities

It really is all about frame, mission and what you choose to do with your life. It is not up to you to make her happy.

Move the office out as others suggest

[–]Ketonian_Empire1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Does she have a gym pass? Get her a gym pass, new gym shoes, workout program, etc. Chicks need the gym as much as we do.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Train a martial art. I do BJJ and its a fantastic outlet. It covers all my bases for mission, health, fitness, building frame, dread etc. It's one of the best things I have ever done.

Edit: Do you have boundaries during the work day? I have a simple rule. From 9-5ish Daddy is dead. Don't talk to him or interrupt him unless it's critical and time sensitive. As long as I keep this, we are good. Even when my cute little 6 year old pops in to ask me to do something with her tablet I tell her I will help her after work. Pat on head kiss on forehead and off she goes. Just need to make sure I own my shit and do it later. Everyone is good about it now. Because we both stay at home she acts as my front desk and tells people I am unavailable becsuse I am super busy.

Also, do you day game? I fuck my wife between meetings all the time. Be attractive not unattractive, the normal routine.

[–]Iammrp27 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

I'm in the same boat. I built an office in the external garage. It's like my own mini apartment. Once I did that I noticed a big difference.

I think the wife just gets sick of your ugly face all the time. Try to take all your coffee and food in your office and don't come out until the day is over. And when the day is over, head to the gym or go hang out with some buddies.

Also, work at Starbucks or the public library occasionally.

[–]drumandtheywillcum86[S] 6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Thanks man, I'm actually sitting in a coffee shop right now. Dreading when I have to go home lmao.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yes, get out the house. Is she there too? Fuck dude.

She needs to know that you are somewhere -away from her-where a potentially hot chick will find you attractive - assuming you got your SMV high right now.

If she knows you’re sitting at home every day, she doesn’t have any competition anxiety (the great DREAD)... despite the good money you’re making, it does nothing for building attraction. You’re just supposed to provide that- what she’s thinking.

Find other locations, come home with fun and exciting stories (involving other women) that happened to you that day. Start talking about your new work wife - just so happens she’s fresh out of college and new to the city..See where I’m going. Use it wisely. Called passive office game.

A healthy relationship needs some competition anxiety. Sitting in your home office everyday jerking off to the screen isn’t helping.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's because you're always home.

Stopping doing that.

Women don't like that.

[–]romeomikewhiskey4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have been mostly working from home for the last decade or more. It makes a huge difference - I don't recommend working from the spare bedroom often. I am currently in the library and earlier was in a coffee shop. (Didn't want to spend the money on a co-working location, and haven't gotten around to setting up a proper home office in my shop yet.)

Although on the rare days when the kids are not in the house but my wife is, there can be some ... benefits.

[–]ProfessionalBit33 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Rent a space at a co-working office

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

So first it’s because you don’t get out enough, which is easily fixed by hobbies/groups... etc

Then, it’s her fault.

Your post read like a chick wrote it.

OYS and hit the weights and sidebar.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck...

I feel like I just witnessed a driveby but I'm not sure what I saw. There's a grassy knoll and some poor fucker with a camera named Zapruder. Let's go take a look...

You skipped the "cut the shit" post at the top of this sub and chose not to give us any information about you.

This is not a walk-in clinic. This is a long-term care facility that requires a tremendous amount of work on your part to cure you of being a loser, beta, useless, cuckold piece of fucking dog shit. You have to swallow the pill if you want the benefits of being self-aware.

I'm having a slow night so let's see what there is to know about you.

From your handle, I'm guessing your a 5'10", 206lb, fat, white, agnostic ass, about 33 years old. And I would further deduce your Muslim Lebanese LTR of 2.5 years is about 30yo, since you have complained about her using being cursed/possessed in her 20's as excuses for her 'fucked up life.'

Are the children you mention in your OP from her? Or a previous relationship of one of yours?

In 2.5 years you have met ONE of her 6 siblings, and neither one of her parents. Shocking to consider you have children with a woman from one of the most conservative religious/social cultures in the world, you are not married to her, and you have not met the parents.

You're working from home and the problems it is causing your relationship is symptomatic, not problematic, of what the fuck is actually going on here.

Your life needs surgery, and you come in here looking for a bandaid and some ointment.

Fuck you.

If you truly want to fix your shit, and lead your woman, then you will commit to the program. One year and 500 hours will get you started.

This is not a 12 step program.

This is a 12,000,000 step program. A step you take every fucking day. For the rest of your life.

Now, if you want to become a man, that other men want to be, and other women want to fuck, then ask for the red pill. We will give it to you.

If all you want is some advice to continue your pathetic, mediocre, whining existence with a shit paradigm, then GTFO and head on over to r/advice.

I personally don't give a fuck.

But I am all in to help someone unplug from the gynocracy, take charge of their life, and become a fucking MAN.

So...decision time.

Life's full of choices.

Make good ones.

You can take the red pill, and

GET TO FUCKING WORK.

OR...

You can take the blue pill..

and GTFO.

What's it going to be, little drummer boy,,,

[–]Ketonian_Empire1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

To understand what is going on give this look: https://theoatmeal.com/comics/working_home

I have been working from home for the past 3 years. And I can assure you without a doubt, you are becoming socially autistic. Your wife is in fact sick of seeing your fucking face. I suggest getting a remote office, or friends office/strip club, or finding a library or college library they often times have private study rooms where you can talk loud in a office atmosphere. You at least need some gym time to tell the bros about grabbing a female in the pussy, that way you won't go fucking nuts.

[–]jjj25762 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If only there was this bar on the side of the subreddit that could give a faggot like you a good book recommendations. The mods should really make sure they add that to r/marriedredpill.

Start on the sidebar, faggot. Since working from home has made you an intolerable jagoff who is incapable of doing research to identify what text is best for your needs, I’ll spoon feed you this. Let me know, if you need me to fuck your wife for you too. I imagine you don’t know where to place your dick, since your also incapable of doing basic research— look up book summaries for the sidebar, and read what will best fit your needs.

As for me? I started with Rollo Tomasi’s “The Rationale Male.” It’s a great introduction to RP theory. Once I had the basics down, shifted into “The Book of Pook,” as I felt my game was lacking— great text for internalizing your value. You need to read “The Book of Pook.” Reading “When I Say No I Feel Guilty” now— its a higher level read, but the techniques here are invaluable for passing Shit Tests. Read the smaller posts/articles in between other sidebar texts.

Lift. Sidebar. STFU.

[–]WolfofAllStreetz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I vote for remote office. If i was with my wife 24/7 and working id probably off myself.



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