Brothers who have recovered and beat all their mental issues.

Hennythepainaway · 2019-08-18T21:10:18+00:00

I've had anxiety my whole life. It's very manageable when I'm doing well in life and got very bad when my life started to fall apart at one point. During the good times, whenever faced with problems I would tell myself 'it all works out in the end'. And for a long time that was true, until it wasn't. I saw how flawed that was and changed it to 'Even if it doesn't work out, I'll be able to handle that'. I also like to ask myself if I'll care about something 5, 10 15 years from now, that helps a lot. So it'll probably always be there in some capacity, but it reminds me to properly plan for the future. Note: never took medication for it.

As for depression, getting sun while riding it out and solving the problems that caused it.

AceBenedict23 · 2019-08-19T01:30:06+00:00

For depression, I was hit with the realization that the adoption of responsibility gave my life meaning. Without responsibility, you don't sit around in this bliss, you suffer horribly existentially, you need stimulus. It is carved deeply into your DNA through human reward systems to seek out challenges and difficult tasks and through that struggle, you realize that having a problem, and the answer to it is better than not having the problem at all!

AdeHMar · 2019-08-18T23:25:15+00:00

Depression since I was 14. No, never beat it. My doctor(s) want to still insist on meds but for some reason I will never take them.

I live a good life nevertheless. While I suffered in a lot of ways, luckily when I was younger I used it to study and work.

Ballyop · 2019-08-19T00:09:33+00:00

I had dreadful anxiety between 2014 - 16; out of fucking nowhere hit me like a fucking freight train. Didn't take any script for it just lived with it but it was not a good life. I researched all the scripts available in my country before considering them - wasn't worth it imo. Started to research psychedelics (primarily LSD) and was interested in both the recreational and medicinal side.

After three months of research I acquired some acid. The second time I did it I had an epiphany which basically cured my anxiety. I woke up and walked outside and boom, nothing. No voice, no anxiety, nothing. Okay it's just the afterglow I thought. But no, gone forever.

Of course this is just my experience and I don't advocate drug use, but I do advocate self help and harm reduction.

Prodigy999 · 2019-08-19T02:19:44+00:00

Anxiety/Depression: I have gone through ups and downs but when I limit caffeine and alcohol, and exercise and meditate daily I feel great.

lugrulo · 2019-08-18T21:19:28+00:00

Don’t try and shut off the chatters. Its not possible. However, you have the option of engaging them and making them worse.

It’s more important to direct your attention to things that are worthwhile. When you’re not doing anything, you will start to get existential and more depressed.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-08-19T00:23:40+00:00

No 'real' mental health issues besides ADHD and slight NPD, but I was falsely diagnosed as schizophrenic by a crazy girl from my past and a cunt aunt because they wanted to make an example out of me because one of her beta orbiters who had knocked up her best friend ended up stalking her. The mental health system is rife with potential abuse, be wary guys.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2019-08-19T02:39:31+00:00

Anxiety and depression.

I don’t want to be that guy, you should follow your Dr.s advice and take whatever medication they suggest, but for me both went away when I cleaned up my diet and got in shape. My anxiety went away when I cut all caffeine and 95% of sugar out of my diet and basically make my own food and drink mostly water. My depression went away when I forced myself to start going to the gym and I have daily goals I force myself to do. Plus focus on a true 8 hrs of sleep. That brought my Test levels back to where they should be. My anxiety gave me a drastic lack of sleep which in turn caused my T levels to plummet which brought on depression. Diet is not a cure all for everyone but it works for me.

kusoxu · 2019-08-19T09:52:17+00:00

I used to suffer and still sometimes do from anxiety and depression. It got so deep last year that I was on the verge of suicide. This was all going on despite what from the outside appeared to be a success story; oxbridge bound, good group of friends, family money. I won't go into what it was directly that created the problems I was facing but I can try and shed some light on what helped me get through it.

Therapy. This one I can't stress enough, especially here on trp. It's written in the sidebar that men have no respite and when they seek it in there wives there relationships fall apart. For me at least, that's the hole therapy was able to fill. It gave me room to talk about not what was happening around me, but what was happening inside my head. Its true, there's a stigma around it but nothing is as effective and direct at addressing the problem.
Meaning. This one can mean different things to different people but all it means is finding the real calling in life. One of the hard realisations we all come to is that suffering is a part of life. No matter whether you're on a yacht getting your dick sucked by a model or sleeping on a futon in some crack den, we all suffer our own battles. What makes it worth it in the end is your calling in life. Its the only thing that can give you a drive to fight through the pain and in todays nihilistic shithole of a world its the only thing that matters. I can't fully explain it but I urge you to read Mastery by Robert Greene if you want to know more.
Looking inside. One of the stem problems people have when judging the value of their life is by focusing completely on externals. If we find the value in our life by what's around us we neglect what's truly important, what's inside. Yeah it's corny but this one was the most impactful for me personally. The ways I found of reshifting this focus were meditation and philosophy. Meditating is self explanatory and is mentioned a lot around here but it truly is a miracle worker. Simply 5 to 10 minutes daily and after a week or two your mind begins to calm down when your out and about. The voices begin to quiet and you feel more relaxed. Philosophy on the other hand is a bit more difficult. The aim of philosophy is not to numb the pain but to give you the drive to fight through it. For me it was stoicism. I binge read Aurelius, Epictetus & Seneca till my eyes hurt. I can't say this will work for everyone but for me, when my depression gets the better of me I can hear them in the back of my head and it gives me clarity and a better viewpoint on all my problems.

I know this is a bit long but it's still a really personal issue for me. Just rember everyone's different and if these don't work for you then something else on the post will.

winjaturta · 2019-08-19T02:46:58+00:00

I struggle often but I still enjoy my life and welcome challenges as a means to motivate me to improve. I have all of the ailments you mentioned and I still keep on keepin on.

Maybe you can beat your mental issues, but it's more calming to think of it as controlling them. If youre obsessed with 'beating' them, you hold onto them even tighter.

I remember hearing an analogy; bad thoughts are like holding a ball with sharp spikes sticking out it, the more you want to push them out, the tighter you hold onto them, the more they hurt. Childhood trauma makes it difficult to just simply put down the spiky ball because you have certain ways of thinking that have been with you since you were young.

OP, I recommend looking at the cognitive behavioral triangle if you haven't already. It's a simple concept but it puts things into perspective. Your actions dictate your thoughts which dictate your feelings, which dictate you actions etc etc.

Good luck friend.

theloniouschonk · 2019-08-19T04:12:13+00:00

I had recurrent, severe episodes of MDD from childhood through college and GAD with comorbid panic attacks that occurred 15-20x/day. Now I only feel just a few depressive symptoms lightly, albeit persistently and I have zero panic attacks which is a world of difference and I consider it beaten although it is a battle you have to choose to win every day. Most mental health problems are caused by genes X environment and you can’t really change genes (although you can cause epigenetic shifts through some environmental agents). What worked for me was no longer interacting with toxic people whose attitudes perpetuated my depression, working out regularly, eating healthy, doing multiple therapy modalities, having goals and achieving them, sleeping regularly, working on developing healthy relationships, being social, and pushing myself to face fears daily. Learning to sit with and process feelings as opposed to subconsciously finding ways to avoid feelings is critical. I also prioritize relaxation and avoid getting too stressed as much as possible. I probably should have gone on meds but stubbornly refused to. Meds are good for serious disease.

Edit: also recommend avoiding recreational drugs, frequent binge drinking, porn, and serious dating until stable

MonkMachinist · 2019-08-19T10:52:53+00:00

I had depression on and off for the last 9 years. I often refused to take the medication prescribed.

I am much better now. I would not say I beat my mental issues but I am quite happy now with a good job, loving girlfriend and a circle of friends as well as being passionate about my side projects. I also put a lot of care into my diet and fitness. I work out at least five times a week.

It’s possible. It will never be gone but I have seen plenty of people who get better

ColdBeing · 2019-08-19T12:30:03+00:00

I suffer from all 3.

OCD I would say is the hardest one to overcome because it's all a mindset and there's no medicine that can treat it. I'm a hypochondriac. If I feel something weird in my body, like a sudden pain that usually lasts a few seconds, I become really anxious and that leads to a panic attack.

Anxiety hit me out of nowhere once I got out of high school. I didn't know what it was, my parents didn't know what was wrong with me and that was the worst of it. It's a good thing there's been more research in it in the past several years so a lot of people now understand it. You have to find out what is your triggers. Me, it came to be when I was in social situations (going to college and being surrounded by new people). I didn't do shit for an entire year because of this condition. I overcame it by forcing myself to get a job where I'm interacting with people constantly and I'm glad I did. I was always socially awkward and I've come a long way and have really good social skills now because of it. Learning breathing techniques is key for dealing with anxiety. I've only had one panic attack the past year because I've learned to calm myself down when I was frequently getting 3-4 very intensive ones that lasts a couple hours a week.

Depression is caused by stress and then it goes into a down spiral from there. Limiting whatever stresses you out will make you happier in the long run. I used to take depression medicine and stopped, I didn't like the side effects. I still have my high highs and low lows but things do get better; taking less responsibility and accepting things that's out of your control

Dark_janitor · 2019-08-19T07:15:40+00:00

I have a simple trick for that just think "I don't care" about the thing you are anxious with or depressed with. It helps me a lot just try it yourself.

mickey__ · 2019-08-18T23:08:08+00:00

Been ‘depressed’ for a long time

44361066 · 2019-08-19T03:32:21+00:00

Why is anxiety so relevant in the west? Or do people just not talk about it where I live

Alt_Mayday · 2019-08-18T22:15:48+00:00

ASPD and NPD here, not "cured" and probably never will. At least the Dark Triad helps with the lasses lol (short-term)

[deleted] · 2019-08-18T22:47:32+00:00

Hah.

How old are you?

Title	Brothers who have recovered and beat all their mental issues.
Author	ThrowayButNvrForgten
Upvotes	96
Comments	49
Date	18 August 2019 09:03 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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