I've been successful dropping my reactivity to the petty irritations in life like people being obnoxious in traffic, in line etc. But when confronted or antagonized my dad's rage still comes through.
I'm not doing the whole health professional visits, I'm pretty self sufficient with most things if I can work out a plan. This issue is one that cuts deep though. Have you other former hot heads been able to tone down your explosive tempers? If so how did you go about it and what tips do you have to offer?
Here are a few things on my list
- Reflect on what the trigger was, and what about it upsets me (this one really helps especially done at home in my journal)
- Catch yourself carrying anger around, that's when you're most vulnerable to blowing up on the next thing
- Being cheery about something helps in the other direction. Probably good in the long term to correct being overly triggered by stuff. I have a hobby writing jokes which makes me more sensitive to the comedies hidden everywhere in life, when I adopt that mindset I have a much easier time laughing about dumb shit.
- When all else fails I try to breathe for 5 while blanking out my mind and focusing on the breaths