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Guys kissing girls at the bar/club immediately after meeting?

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August 8, 2019

Was picking up my roommate who got drunk at a bar while she was hanging out after work with her co-workers.

While she's running her drunken mouth off about what went down, something that caught my attention came up, she is telling me this one girl, who's a solid 7 to me, and another girl who I've slept with before who's a 6, were kissing these two guys they'd just met at the bar. They're all getting drunk and having a great time when my roommate finds out the one girl has a boyfriend and the guy she's making out with and making plans to go somewhere later has a fianceé. The other girl I smashed previously, I don't care about, I ghosted her 6 weeks ago.

My question gents, is what are these guys doing to pull this off with women to get to this stage with them within minutes of meeting? I haven't known or met anyone whose ever been able to do this insta-bang or insta-kiss move, but I've seen it firsthand and I've heard about it from women.

We all know women aren't just okay with it, they actively encourage their peers to kiss guys, so long as the guy has high enough smv to warrant the confident move. But what's the guy doing in this scenario? Agree and amplify x10 speed? Is there a method?

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Title Guys kissing girls at the bar/club immediately after meeting?
Author MarvelousWhale
Upvotes 110
Comments 58
Date 08 August 2019 01:01 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]BlindingTwilight 1 points [recovered]  (12 children) | Copy

Girls give out kisses like they are candy. Kisses give a woman a world full of validation without the baggage of fucking. Don’t sweat it, if you want to get kisses from thots in bars it is not very hard

[–]askmrcia65 points66 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. It's very easy to make out with and kiss women in bars.

If they are on the dance floor and drunk, you just walk up to them, pull them close to you and let them grind on you.

Turn them around and start making out with them. That's the gest of it.

The hard part is getting these chicks to leave with you without getting cockblocked. Getting kisses and numbers are easy (as long as you're going for the right ones) and to be honest it's really nothing to brag about because the end goal is to smash.

But yea, if a girl is drinking and on the dance floor, those are the ones who you can kiss and possibly do more with little effort.

[–]Balea201911 points12 points  (7 children) | Copy

I have realized this is an American thing about giving kisses like candy. While in America girls will kiss easily but meant shit later on. In Europe and Latin America, seem to be rather conservative with kisses, but if they do it means they are actually interested. I am talking when in bars or in the public.

[–]Appex16 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

In Europe they give kisses like it's candy too. You can walk up to a girl at the dance floor and within 2 seconds you can stick your tongue into their mouth.

[–]clausternn0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Bruh what parts of latin america have you been to. Brazil has a 10x more liberal kissing culture than the US. Like it's not even comparable.

[–]bruh__bot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

bruh 😂😡😤😎😎

[–]clausternn0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Also in Brazil I would straight up make out with girls anywhere. Literally anywhere. At the airport, at the park, at the mall, outside the pizza place, or just out on the street.

Though to be fair to your original point, when I went to the Dominican Republic I got shot down by two girls when I moved in for the kiss, with them basically saying "not here."

[–]Balea20191 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

The Spanish speaking, to be fair I have not been to Brasil. Would you say Brasilians will kiss you, and mean absolubtely nothing? Like she is at least interested I guess, in the US I felt girls will do it but a few min later she will forget about you.

[–]clausternn0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes exactly.

I think you just got lucky with your specific location. I definitely wouldn't generalize your experience to the whole US. Whereas I would for basically all of Brazil.

[–][deleted] 90 points91 points  (5 children) | Copy

I’ll offer an alternative perspective. Kissing a random clubslut isn’t a challenge if you’re decent looking and straightforward. But it might not be the best option if you want to escalate further. Girls might lose interest since they already know you want to fuck them, they prefer the challenge.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn87 points88 points  (4 children) | Copy

It's also worth noting that girl could've been sucking a dick in the bathroom just moments ago.

[–]cluelessguitarist15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

yeah club thots are walking petri dishes

[–]its_going_down_9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Any girl you take home from a bar could've been doing that.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good. I hardly ever kiss them.

[–]whiffofass 1 points [recovered]  (6 children) | Copy

I remember going to a nightclub and I saw some girl leaving/walking past me. We made eye contact I immediately grabbed her hand and said in somewhat high energy "where are you going I'm right here!??" while pulling her closer. Bam, instant makeout. Then her friend dragger her away.

[–]ikeurbantraut88 points89 points  (4 children) | Copy

It's always the friend lol

[–]VigilantSmartbomb24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

They be jealous af lmao

Edit: ain’t no friend

[–]_Last_Man_Standing_38 points39 points  (2 children) | Copy

and she's always fat

[–]TheWalkingNightmare27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy

And a feminist.

[–]red__Man5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

because she's fat

[–]Jugurthajones8735 points36 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was at a grocery store one night years ago and this solid 9 in fishnets and skirt who’s blitzed out of her mind starts coming onto me big time in the parking lot. She was practically ready to go home with me after five seconds, I never saw anything like it. Before I even have a chance to say anything, her sober friend dragged her away.

It’s because they know their friend is there to drag them away that they give themselves the freedom to do whatever they want with a guy. They don’t really want it to lead to anything and the friend gives them an excuse to break it off before the guy can really do anything. If the friend wasn’t there, she never would have put herself in that situation to begin with.

[–]nobody_thinks36 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy

it's just rapid kino escalate.

sometimes a girl will give you this look like "I want u to fuck me right now" and you can pretty much do with her as you wish.

[–]Foolishoe 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

You just go for the kiss like it's natural. The thrill for you will wear off quick when you see how easy it is. You do some light chatting, get them laughing, move in with kino, maybe pick them up or dance a little with them. You move towards them and get close with lots of eye contact and fun and bam, you are close enough to kiss and grind and squeeze them all over.

Why do people go to a public place to spend too much on drinks and tables? For the thrill of engaging with other people. If they had good solid home lives, they would drink at home with the strong long established social circle they've had for years.

Women with boyfriends and fiances are not married. All sorts of people take 'single type actions' when they start getting fucked up away from the partner they claim to care and love so much. The issue is these people, are not ready to settle down and they either don't know it, are afraid to go home alone and live alone and have a life alone, or are shitty fucking people. They could be some combination of the three, they could have fucked up childhoods or some mental issues. In todays world it isn't shocking.

Most people need support they haven't gotten yet. They need someone to carry them through some very important life lessons that mom and dad never took the time [or had the time] to teach them. They went through life raised by the screen, the media, the advertisers and the dumb fucks around them at school. They are brainwashed and they don't even know how bad they have it. They don't know they are about to destroy things, ruin future relationships. In movies so many people so often get away with little cheat sequences and passionate flings.

In reality you get caught. Almost everyone gets caught unless they are dating a moron that doesn't pay attention.

[–]askmrcia9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely love your comment and it can be easily it's own post.

You're definitely spot on that these people settle when in relationships, but they love the extra validation they get when going out, partying and sleeping around because they are afraid of being boring. But they cheat and stay in a relationship because they know they always have a backup plan.

Women especially can't be truly single for too long. They always have someone on their radar. They are not like men. I know guys who will date occasionally or in a dry spell, but truly don't give a shit. They are just fine being by themselves. Women for the most part can't do that. They need some guy in their lives to give them validation.

In reality you get caught. Almost everyone gets caught unless they are dating a moron that doesn't pay attention.

If you cheat, chances are guy will get caught. And the effort you put into not getting caught (deleting or black listing text messages, avoiding areas where you may see someone that knows you, constantly lying where you are, putting on an act like nothing happened, ect...) will take a strain on you.

Most people know that their partners are cheating, but refuse to take action at the red flags slapping them in their faces.

Movies especially romantic ones are truly the worse. Cheaters get away with it, cheaters get forgiven, cheaters get back together and everything is fine and all those tropes don't translate into reality for most people.

Hell I saw a stupid romantic movie on Netflix where this basic ass chick fell in love with a drug lord who killed people. But that criminal put his entire life on hold by using the money he got from crimes to take this girl on these expensive trips.

If women think that is reality than they definitely need to get their heads examined

[–]WIA20XX16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

If we are talking about the States...

- recognize high buying temperature.
- assume attraction. (As opposed to building attraction)
- invade her personal space.
- push on the kino for arousal.
- kiss.

PUA 101.

To bang, he has to get her out of the public view, keep the arousal high, handle her hating ass friends, and logistics are locked up tight.

A girl will jump knee deep into a gang bang if the vibe is right, everyone is doing it, and there are no problems. She will only worry later.

[–]CainPrice31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

Women make out at bars and clubs all the time. It's a major confidence booster for them.

If a woman gives you the look, walk over right away, smile, say hi, and put your arms around her. If she leans her face close to her, kiss. If she pulls her face away and giggles, while her friends giggle with her, smile bigger then talk for a bit before making out.

Just keep in mind that women like that will often make out with lots of strangers in bars, get really horny, then go home without you and text a safe fuck-buddy. Kissing a woman like that and actually scoring with her don't always go hand in hand. Sometimes, but not always.

[–]askmrcia11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

This 100%. I basically made a similar comment but you're absolutely spot on especially with the safe fuck buddy when they leave.

It's really nothing to brag about to make out with girls at the bar. The end goal is to smash and these girls will kiss multiple dudes there and go home with no one other than the friends they came there with.

In tourist destinations you can increase your chances on leaving with them, but your local city? It's not as easy to get them home especially when their friends are there

[–]warthundersfw22 points23 points  (3 children) | Copy

I've grabbed a girl in a circle at the club with dudes turned her around and kissed her. She's totally down but then feigns not when the group gets mad at me and she doesn't want to look like a slut. They love aggressiveness. At a certain point the girls don't care. They just want the guy that wins.

Another great move is when a line of girls is walking by, put your arm around the last girl and pull her in front of you. She will fucking love it and her friends won't intervene if she looks that way.

[–]MarvelousWhale[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Would an appropriate thing to do in that case be to be aggressive back and take the girl and show dominance or would you have shyed away/moved on to the next

[–]warthundersfw9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

I gave the white knights an earful and the girls in the group pulled the girl deep into a crowd and they pulled the guys away. I did it because it was fun to me, but thinking back it's kinda funny. A dude walks in on your group, makes out with one of the chicks which I'm sure the guys are into. They defend and then the dude gets mad at the dudes for defending her lol. I made out with another girl shortly after, was just having fun that night bouncing around.

So I wouldn't bring negative actions like that if you're trying to get laid. This is more of a "cut-loose" action, which suited my mood at the time. I would move on to the next, no shying away. You already got something for free and they're pissed and you're not.

One time I called a girl a cunt after charging through crowds at the bar. A dude made a faggy remark about language, and I shut it down hard and loudly. The dude got scared and slunk very hard. The girl he was with was smiling and just staring with amazement on her face. So you can do it if it's a girl and a guy. If they're there together, you only need to beat a single guy.

[–]Warren_Bateman9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cutting-loose is vital to building frame, but if you’re running asshole game, LIFT!

[–]Slut_Slayer90009 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

I've done this before multiple times, the common denominator in all instances is literally not thinking about it, or premeditating that I'm going to kiss these girls its just me seeing someone I find attractive, seeing they are having fun and me going up and and acting like we've know each other for years (implying comfort, but this is not something a noobie can do, I have comfort because I know im hot, and I know I'm a good kisser, and I have lots of experience to back this up). Kino starts at the opener, and I imply attraction and I look into their eyes and if they give me those big ole anime eyes I just say something to the effect of "you're really cute" with a smirk then go in for a kiss. Don't make a kiss a big deal its just something you do.

The key to look for is if she reciprocates your kino, if she does you're golden. Dancing is really good for this as this raises both of your vibrations, go in for the kiss at the climax of your experience when both of you are feeling it, wait too long and it feels unnatural and forced. Now this is WAY easier for girls below your SMV, girls higher then you will shit test you off the bat more then likely (make you work for it), also they naturally will not want to be making out with a dude that is perceived below them in public, unless they are wasted.

Just know that kissing usually either happens in the first 5 minutes of the interaction or it doesn't happen (a good meaningful kiss, that can get you laid). My best experience with this was chilling next to a girl waiting in line to ride a mechanical bull, I just looked at her and said she was cute, and while we were talking I just started making out with her, next thing we know I was like we are going back to my place, I smashed and didn't get her name til the next morning. The key? I lead the entire interaction, I didn't plan it to be that way, its just who I am. If you can't see yourself doing this RAISE YOUR VIBRATIONS. AKA let loose and have some fun. As corny as this sounds bringing good vibes to interactions will get you laid often, and is a staple in my game.

ANOTHER MAJOR KEY: Maintaining strong eye contact, you can literally bend the will of a girl with killer intense eye contact. During this eye contact your subconscious should be telling you that you're gonna kiss/smash this hoe.

[–]wavysig0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How do you raise your vibrations/let loose?

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

They are just escalating quickly. You have to be good looking or have baller-level game to pull this kind of shit off, but it happens all the time (especially in bars/clubs).

[–]Endorsed ContributorFereallyRed11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

You inspired me to write a post on the main page.

It's titled;

"Don't Make out at the Bar".

[–]DiggerClam0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you. I've been fucking up with this. Exactly what I needed to read.

"Lets get the fuck out of here."

[–]uptimex4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

For them it is "just a kiss". In some cases not even an IOI. Could be just stress coping. Like they went out with friends and kissed random guys and talk after that with each other "it was such a crazy night" etc. To get additional self-validation/dopamine. I mean it can be fully solipsistic. Guys in this case just need solid eye-contact skills.

[–]Madhatter7472 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I remember going to a house party, back yard turned rave, lights, loud rnb. Some random guy wearing all brand new clothes and a "modern" haircut just started making out with one of the girls i was with. No words, just kissing. He left after 5 minutes to kiss other girls. What the fuck.

[–]Ohboohoolittlegirl2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Really isn't that hard to be honest, but you need to know how to game, how to read body language and how to escalate and that in a state of inebriation. I would recommend any guy to start learning about body language. It's getting little attention here, but perhaps the best way to see how well you are doing..

I'm at work so can't find it hear, but search for the layguide and bodylanguage and you are bound to find great information on body language and IoI's. For me, that was the last thing I needed in order to learn when to escalate.

[–]wavysig0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do you have any links?

[–]DiosJ1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you do this i would after max 3 min ask her if she wants to continue if she say yes say lets go outside i dont like doing this in front of so many people. When you both outside ask her if she wanna come home to you. The chance of success increases depending on how late it is. Most girls who are in club after 3am are ready to fuck.

[–]sozzos0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’ve had a few of incidents where i will be 5seconds into talking with the girl and already making out with her. Onetime i was standing outside a club in Vancouver and this group of Irish girls were smoking and i asked for a lighter one of the chicks looked up to me and smiled the her friend was like kiss her and i went for it. Another time i was out with friends at a pub this girl was standing with her friend who happened to be talking to some guy I approached her and was like what’s ur name? I was drunk af lol she asked for my name and i was like kiss me and i will tell u. I don’t remember if i told her my name or not but it was a golden experience lol.

[–]yungplayz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'll suggest it's the trials and errors. Try to pull the move 100 times, fail 95, that won't matter because the other 5 times you done did it

[–]daddydickie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Reminds me of a clip RSDTyler put up about approaching women just going in / out of clubs. He followed one of them home and got cockblocked right outside her door.

[–]BoredOverlord0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Literally just be near them. U can either wait for IOI’s to grind with them or approach and talk regardless of IOI’s. You could grind without IOI but that can come across creepy.

After about a minute of dancing it should be pretty obvious ur both keen so u can kiss.

[–]1XXXMersenne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

[–]ikeurbantraut0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This ironically is my highest success. I suck at talking and day-game. I can't put it to words really, it is all just primal instinct I guess. They love physical aggression and dominance

[–]Irtotallynotrobot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Literally just be drunk, start dancing with them in a crowd, and make out. It's easy if theyre "not counting" it.

[–]JedYorks0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy


[–]Foolish_ness-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Worth it for that unwrapped 6/10 wet pussy

[–]Alexisonfire24-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good looking guy makes out with a 21 year old club whore- first day at a club?

[–]SimplyFishOil-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

  1. Make them feel important. Doesn't matter if you think so or not, make them feel that way.

  2. Make them feel comfortable. The easiest way to do this is to make them laugh, laughing loosens everyone up.

  3. Flirt non-verbally to feel it out. You can sometimes tell before approaching, but while talking to them pay attention to their body language, and if they're flirting with you, flirt back. Then you just make the move.

This won't work all the time. It's all about finding the right people at the right time. Don't expect to do this once and have it work

[–]deathhandmachiavelli-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

I've done this.

This is how it went down.

I show up at a club with my friend, we meet some other guys who also got there early. I never knew these two before. We decide to get a VIP table between the 4 of us (its a concert).

Half an hour or so later, one of the guy's girlfriend shows up. She is with a friend, the friend is smoking motherfucking hot.

I'm just sitting at the table and looking around. Once of these guys tells me "my girlfriend's friend likes you."

I played it cool and didn't do anything for about 5-10 minutes, then I started talking to her, got her name, introduced myself.

A few minutes later, I take her by the hand, she gives me her hand, I can sense the chemistry, so I just lean in and kiss her.

We end up dancing together and kissing the whole time there.

My friend, not to be outdone, started talking to other girls in the club. I don't know how he did it, but he was soon sitting down with a girl making out with her.

[–]deathhandmachiavelli0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

lol, I got downvoted. Damn haters.

[–]Unlucky_Leader-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

literally titled: kissing strangers.

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