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Anyone have experience with Ecuadorian girls?

by scissor_me_timbers00 | August 05, 2019 | askTRP


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Just had an HB7 Ecuadorian girl flake on me, after her eager obliging throughout the week up until and including the day before. We’ve been flirting on tinder for a week and sent each other pics, I have her number and everything.

I looked up online and found two possibilities. One idea is Ecuadorian women want to know that the guy likes them and pursues, so it is standard practice to flake on the first date. Just standard protocol for any girl with self respect to flake on first date. I guess a part of their courtship culture.

The other thing I found is more cynical. The claim that Ecuadorian girls make a sport of flaking and are “aggressive” flakes. Meaning, it’s not merely basic white girl with lots of shit going on and she just finds something better to do last minute. That’s passive flaking. This would be more of a deliberate enthusiasm to confirm to me she wanted to see me and then just ghosted the day of, and it’s just ego boosting to her. It’s a sport.

Maybe doesn’t matter, many of you will say soft next her. But we had good rapport and I was looking forward to meeting her. If this is standard and they expect you to pursue beyond their first flake as a form of courtship, then I would consider that.

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Title Anyone have experience with Ecuadorian girls?
Author scissor_me_timbers00
Upvotes 1
Comments 18
Date 05 August 2019 08:50 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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[–]pointster_VSK3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

Her being Ecuadorian has nothing to do with her flaking.

You met this girl on tinder. She’s not yet comfortable with meeting you in person.

It all boils down to her level of attraction.

Do you think if it was Romeo Santos she had matched with, would she be flaking?

[–]scissor_me_timbers00[S] -4 points-3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Maybe you didn’t sufficiently read the post. She eagerly said she wanted to meet multiple times. And we were just meeting for a drink and chat, nothing more (I didn’t include that part). But I mentioned how even the day before she confirmed she wanted to meet. And she initiated that contact.

So I don’t think you can just chalk it up the way you’re doing. Maybe it has nothing to do w her being Ecuadorian, but maybe it does. I’ve read numerous accounts of guys’ experience w these women saying it’s a trend.

[–]pointster_VSK5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Have you read any of the sidebar material?

[–]scissor_me_timbers00[S] -3 points-2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Of course. I understand attraction plays a role. If i were Brad Pitt she wouldn’t flake. But she was very consistent in texting me and setting up plans. So all indicators were that she saw me as sufficiently high SMV.

[–]pointster_VSK1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

So then you should understand what an orbiter is. What beta bait is and why you’re displaying that you have oneitis.

FYI im latin. I’ve dated Ecuadorians before and not only that. My brother is married to an Ecuadorian.

If she truly saw you as high SMV, she wouldn’t be flaking on you.

[–]scissor_me_timbers00[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good points. I didn’t think I was orbiting but it seems she was stringing me along for her ego. I guess the beta bait sneaks up on you.

[–]mrbasic-3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe doesn’t matter, many of you will say soft next her. But we had good rapport and I was looking forward to meeting her.

How do you have oneitis for a girl you haven't even met yet? Smh.

Anyways, listen, man. It happens. There's been many times I've built rapport and been looking forward to meeting a girl from an online dating app only for her to go ghost. Even if you have the perfect form and timing, every shot you take isn't going to go in.

From what you wrote, it seems your ego took a hit. Take time to assess the situation and move on, man. Go game other baddies. You got this.

[–]scissor_me_timbers00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I wouldn’t call it oneitis. But yeah it’s frustrating. She seemed to go out of her way to also build rapport with me and enthusiastically agree to meet. It was an aggressive flake, not a passive flake. Those passive flakes are easier to comprehend. This less so. Hence the culture difference question in my mind. Thx

[–]acp_rdit1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Ask her if the water in her toilet spins clockwise or counterclockwise when she flushes it

[–]scissor_me_timbers00[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

How is that relevant? Are girls from different regions different? Or is this just some form of jerkboy game?

[–]acp_rdit0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

It's a science joke

the guys in these videos are a bit soy but it will give you the gist https://www.smartereveryday.com/toiletswirl

[–]scissor_me_timbers00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No I get that it’s an equator thing. And Ecuador straddles the equator. But I don’t see how that furthers my prospects.

[–]KamelMedia 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

My buddies getting dicked by one now. He supported her ass through her studies, now she has a masters degree and is nearly esrning as much as him and suddenly wants a divorce. He didnt play her right from the beginnig and now could stand to lose half his shit after benevolently supporting her through her studies. Sad.

[–]scissor_me_timbers00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do they have a lower moral education? This is probably naive but I assumed the remnants of traditional culture, gender roles, and Catholicism would make them better to deal with than vapid American whores who are at a disgustingly low moral level.

[–]Bilderbergerwcheese 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Oh I feel like those articles are not based off any concrete data but mores so just to gain ad revenue from views, for the owner of the site. He's marketing it to sex-travelers maybe or expats looking for east sex with a low smv women.

[–]scissor_me_timbers00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah maybe I don’t know. But I’ve basically just accepted she played me for attention. I was confused because it was quite different from the way a basic American girl would flake. So part of me was holding out on the notion that this was some courtship coyness ritual where I’m supposed to continue to pursue because it’s expected she will flake on date one. But the cynical answer is usually the correct one, meaning this was just sport and she enjoyed the setup and the letdown with no intention to ever meet.

[–]riggedved-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

I think it is a good idea to not generalise women (and people) on the basis of their nationality.

Coming back to Ecuadorian women, I've been friends (actual "friend") with benefits (later on) and then friends again with one such Ecuadorian since way back in 2007. I was in university (not in my country). She was in on an exchange program. We hung and chilled a lot, partied together, genuinely had a great time. Explored literally all the night clubs in the city we were in. At times when I didn't have money she would cover for me, and never even asked back (partly because she the kind of person I was, I wouldn't freeload or exploit anyone). I returned the favour too. We helped out each other often, and covered for each other.

After graduation I moved back to my country. Years later she got a job in my city. Again, we hung and chilled a lot. My entire family knew her, and they liked her too. She worked in my city for 2 years and then moved back. I visited her city, she made me stay at her house. One thing led to another and By Joves it was the best sex I've had.

Post our sexual chapter, we actually dealt with our friendship pretty well, which from past experience I can say is not an easy job. But with her, well, us being genuine friends worked in our favour. Till today, we're still friends, and momentarily we keep talking to each other, sharing advices etc. She even tells me that she misses sex with me, without being emotional, like how girls usually get.

So in my view, this Ecuadorian girl is great!

[–]scissor_me_timbers00[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ok I don’t see how that sheds light on my situation.

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