Just had an HB7 Ecuadorian girl flake on me, after her eager obliging throughout the week up until and including the day before. We’ve been flirting on tinder for a week and sent each other pics, I have her number and everything.
I looked up online and found two possibilities. One idea is Ecuadorian women want to know that the guy likes them and pursues, so it is standard practice to flake on the first date. Just standard protocol for any girl with self respect to flake on first date. I guess a part of their courtship culture.
The other thing I found is more cynical. The claim that Ecuadorian girls make a sport of flaking and are “aggressive” flakes. Meaning, it’s not merely basic white girl with lots of shit going on and she just finds something better to do last minute. That’s passive flaking. This would be more of a deliberate enthusiasm to confirm to me she wanted to see me and then just ghosted the day of, and it’s just ego boosting to her. It’s a sport.
Maybe doesn’t matter, many of you will say soft next her. But we had good rapport and I was looking forward to meeting her. If this is standard and they expect you to pursue beyond their first flake as a form of courtship, then I would consider that.