I (28 USA) met this girl (25), from a non-western culture, and her and I got on really well. She is highly intelligent, confident, from a good family (great relationship with mom and dad), motivated, flirtatious, fun... green flags all around. She isn't even my usual type, she is average hot, (8/10body, 6/10 face) I've dated way hotter girls but something about her. A few things:

  1. She is super cautious and wouldn't let me kiss her until the 3rd date. I stayed over her house the other night, the most intense kissing all night topless, like some of the best hooking up I've had, but she wouldn't go past hooking up topless. I stayed over a second time, and the same thing happened, but this time she rubbed my dick a bit. I kept trying to escalate, like 10 times, nothing. She kept pushing my hand away from her panties... so I asked her if she was a virgin as a joke. She laughed and then said no, she then said she doesn't have sex until she is in a committed relationship and until she is sure she loves the guy. Sex is a big deal for her, n=2 (apparently).

  2. She invites me over, cooks for me all the time, always free to meet up, is interested in my hobbies, buys me gifts randomly.

  3. I am dating other girls but none of them keeping me nearly as interested as this girl.

I am now so fucking confused and I get this feeling this girl is playing me really really fucking well.... She knows I'm a pretty top tier guy (smart, good looking, keep fit, good job, stable, funny etc..) and she is winning in my books. She is making me give up more of my time, and she is giving me NO sex. IF I can fuck her without dating her that would be ideal situation, but I do not know how I can see this happening without asking her out.

Questions:

  1. I don't know if I just want to fuck her, or I am getting feelings for her and really want to date this girl, how can I tell?
  2. Can I play this situation so that I can fuck her without committing to dating her? Do you guys see this as a possibility?
  3. Am I doing a good job so far or am I getting played and what can I do to do a better job?

I am coming over to her house in 12 hours, so if you could give me advice on how to handle myself and fuck her later please do.