"I want to be with someone who has an income. You have no income."
Of course I have no income. Because I started a business 5 months ago. One that she encouraged me to pursue, and she actually planned it with me. It's been an uphill struggle for me this whole time. One can't simply pull a business out of their ass. But I have savings and I pay my bills. Though she has been left paying for 3/4 of our dinners out, which are usually her idea, and the bulk of our weekend getaways, which are her idea as well.
When she said that comment to me I lost my frame, and said weak things like "So I'm not good enough for you?" "What happens if I fail at this business and go back to my regular 9 to 5 job. I'll never make as much as you."
The whole thing started because she had mentioned that she has always out-earned her partners. She's in the top 5% of salaries. She was reminiscing that it used to be her dream to have a partner who out earns her, or earns the same amount of money, but that has never been the case in any of her past relationships including this one.
I can't lie, she is part of the reason that I started a business. And maybe my hearts not in it, so I'm falling. Perhaps it was foolish to expect her to support me in a time like this. I don't mean financially support me, I have savings. I mean she shouldn't be kicking me when I'm down. She's not always like that --it's rare. But sometimes at night those harsh comments slip out of her mouth, and she becomes surprised when an argument comes out of it. She declares again: "Oh look we're arguing again!!". Of course were arguing again... because you said a shitty offensive comment.
I don't know what to do. I really want to continue pursuing this business, but if I continue to fail I'll continue being weak and vulnerable to those comments by her. She's clearly resenting the fact that I am struggling to make this business happen. I don't even know how to approach her today, because her comment hit me at my weakest spot.