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I lost frame last night. She hit me at my weakest spot.

by raw-with-love | August 26, 2019 | askMRP

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"I want to be with someone who has an income. You have no income."

Of course I have no income. Because I started a business 5 months ago. One that she encouraged me to pursue, and she actually planned it with me. It's been an uphill struggle for me this whole time. One can't simply pull a business out of their ass. But I have savings and I pay my bills. Though she has been left paying for 3/4 of our dinners out, which are usually her idea, and the bulk of our weekend getaways, which are her idea as well.

When she said that comment to me I lost my frame, and said weak things like "So I'm not good enough for you?" "What happens if I fail at this business and go back to my regular 9 to 5 job. I'll never make as much as you."

The whole thing started because she had mentioned that she has always out-earned her partners. She's in the top 5% of salaries. She was reminiscing that it used to be her dream to have a partner who out earns her, or earns the same amount of money, but that has never been the case in any of her past relationships including this one.

I can't lie, she is part of the reason that I started a business. And maybe my hearts not in it, so I'm falling. Perhaps it was foolish to expect her to support me in a time like this. I don't mean financially support me, I have savings. I mean she shouldn't be kicking me when I'm down. She's not always like that --it's rare. But sometimes at night those harsh comments slip out of her mouth, and she becomes surprised when an argument comes out of it. She declares again: "Oh look we're arguing again!!". Of course were arguing again... because you said a shitty offensive comment.

I don't know what to do. I really want to continue pursuing this business, but if I continue to fail I'll continue being weak and vulnerable to those comments by her. She's clearly resenting the fact that I am struggling to make this business happen. I don't even know how to approach her today, because her comment hit me at my weakest spot.


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Title I lost frame last night. She hit me at my weakest spot.
Author raw-with-love
Upvotes 17
Comments 67
Date 26 August 2019 12:54 PM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/250693
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[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret42 points43 points  (1 child) | Copy

All the validation you need comes from within. You give a fuck what she thinks, you're living your life in her frame.

[–]JudgeDoom695 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

you're living your life in her frame

u/raw-with-love this is all you need to read. You need to think of yourself high-value man on your own mission, and her criticism should be like the buzzing of gnats to you. It's just another shit test, and you need to learn to just laugh her shit off and not get rattled.

Now that she knows you will react to that comment, she will surely use it again, so next time be ready for it.

If she wants a man "with an income", you should be indifferent to that, because you can get a better woman any time you want one.

[–][deleted] 27 points28 points  (9 children) | Copy

"I want to be with someone who has an income. You have no income."

  • Well don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way crawling back.
  • Sounds like a personal problem.
  • You should hook up with Serena Williams and bring her back for a three-way. I've always wanted to fuck a black girl (replace with whatever race as necessary).
  • Yeah well I want to be with someone who isn't a cunt, but here we are.
  • If you want to fight, then stick your head up my ass and fight for air.

Basically, do anything but DEER.

When she said that comment to me I lost my frame, and said weak things like "So I'm not good enough for you?"

Noooooooooooooooooooo...

"What happens if I fail at this business and go back to my regular 9 to 5 job. I'll never make as much as you."

...oooooooooooooooooooo...

I can't lie, she is part of the reason that I started a business.

...oooooooooooooooooooo!

As for practical advice, if you haven't read WISNIFG, then you should, and if you have, then you need to read it again because you haven't been applying what you read.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah well I want to be with someone who isn't a cunt, but here we are

So good

[–]unnaturalcontrol3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good reply. Enjoy the “noooooo........”

[–]rnsbrum1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Whats WISNIFG?

[–]roughestashlar4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

When I Say No I Feel Guilty - its a book from the sidebar.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

It's about wanting meat.

Read the /r/marriedredpill sidebar or this. That's all the help you get from me.

[–]ice_walkerHead Negotiator0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yea those are good replies for someone who has frame already, but in OP:s case they will most likely just come off as butthurt, he is better off just STFU for the time being

[–]creating_my_life19 points20 points  (4 children) | Copy

Geez, you don't even know how to swat down a simple shit test?

"I want to be with someone who has an income. You have no income."

"I want to be with someone who has boobs. You have no boobs. We all settle."

"Me too!"

"No income? You haven't seen anything yet. Wait until I burn through all our savings, too."

You know she's not talking about income, or work, or business, right? She's crying out for you to have a shred of self confidence and MAN THE FUCK UP.

She doesn't care if you succeed or not. She doesn't care if you make money or not. She cares that YOU CARE AND ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT YOURSELF. Which you're clearly not.

You listened to her words, not what she was saying. Men speak overtly, women speak covertly.

She's clearly resenting the fact that I am struggling to make this business happen.

She doesn't give a shit about the business. She resents that you're a pussy.

I don't even know how to approach her today,

I'd suggest from behind

because her comment hit me at my weakest spot.

That's the point. Don't let it be a weak spot. She wants you to be stronger.

[–]proplfax6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

"I want to be with someone who has boobs. You have no boobs. We all settle."

this isn't passing that shit test. she'd perceive this as you being butt hurt and attacking her 100%. kind of ironic you're giving him shit for failing a "simple" shit test. nothing simple about someone you're bonded to hating on your harshest weakness.

Wait until I burn through all our savings, too.

this seems optimal

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Like everything else in life it depends how you say it. Verbal communication is only around 10% of language. Tone, body language, a wink and a grin completely changes the context from butt hurt to AA... the important thing is where you are coming from when you say it - are you intending to hurt her or simply think it’s funny and humorous?

[–]proplfax0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ure right i suppose, but that's a super hardmode line to not come off as attacking. women are more insecure about that shit than dudes are about their hair

[–]DeanMaverick13Uncle Vas Sectomy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agree and amplify

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (6 children) | Copy

This is like a neutron star density level of faggotry.

I really want to continue pursuing this business, but if I continue to fail I'll continue being weak and vulnerable to those comments by her.

Does not matter if you do the business or not - you'll still be vulnerable - with her, without her, doesn't matter. She can't hurt you unless you let her.

This was a shit test - you failed the shit test, then you came and DEER'd on here.

The only question that matters is: "Will continuing to do this business make me happy?". If you're doing it for her -> bad reason. If you're doing it for you -> good reason.

You have several strikes on here.

One that she encouraged me to pursue, and she actually planned it with me.

Did you want to do this? Yes or no, no explanation, no DEERing... Yes or fucking no.

Though she has been left paying for 3/4 of our dinners out, which are usually her idea, and the bulk of our weekend getaways, which are her idea as well.

There is so much wrong with this sentence. Your job to lead the relationship and dates. You don't need a lot of money to have fun dates.

When she said that comment to me I lost my frame

Let me stop you right there... you did not lose frame. You don't even have a wet paper bag for a frame. You're so far into her frame I'm surprised you even posted without checking with her. Fuck man - you're doing everything this woman wants - WHY?

, and said weak things like "So I'm not good enough for you?" "What happens if I fail at this business and go back to my regular 9 to 5 job. I'll never make as much as you."

No frame - you're not the prize. You're trying to convince her (any yourself) that you're worthy. Fuck her - she can gtfo if she wants.

The whole thing started because she had mentioned that she has always out-earned her partners. She's in the top 5% of salaries. She was reminiscing that it used to be her dream to have a partner who out earns her, or earns the same amount of money, but that has never been the case in any of her past relationships including this one.

This is not a red flag to you?

I can't lie, she is part of the reason that I started a business. And maybe my hearts not in it, so I'm falling.

Do what YOU want.

Perhaps it was foolish to expect her to support me in a time like this. I don't mean financially support me, I have savings. I mean she shouldn't be kicking me when I'm down.

#1 - you're a faggot. #2 - I was going to say she's a bitch but I think it's just because you're a faggot she acts like this - she may or may not be a bitch, but I have no fucking idea due to your superhuman faggotry.

But sometimes at night those harsh comments slip out of her mouth, and she becomes surprised when an argument comes out of it. She declares again: "Oh look we're arguing again!!". Of course were arguing again... because you said a shitty offensive comment.

Did she hurt your little feelings? Does mommy need to kiss you on the forehead and make it better? Fuck that, YOU cause the fucking arguments. This is ALL your fault. ALL OF IT. EVERY LAST OUNCE OF IT. First off - don't argue, that's pointless. Read WISNIFG to deal with this.

Of course were arguing again... because you said a shitty offensive comment.

I just need to emphasize this again. This is YOUR fault for engaging. Learn to STFU right now.

She's clearly resenting the fact that I am struggling to make this business happen. I don't even know how to approach her today, because her comment hit me at my weakest spot.

No she's resenting the fact you're acting like a faggot expecting mommy to help prop you up and take care of you. You're a man - no one is there for you but yourself.

I don't know what to do.

Lift, STFU, and read the Sidebar

This is you. This was me. You suck. Go fix THAT problem

[–]proplfax1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

weren't you the guy being an emotionless rambo 2 months back? i learned so much from that thread about myself. this sub is badass.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Damn straight. That was me.

Don’t go Rambo.

[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Fuck I think Rambo is exactly what is called for in OPs situation. Wife thinks he has no balls and maybe she will get a little tingly if he fucking burns it all down.

Rambo is only such if it’s not calculated and intentional. I definitely went Rambo but there was no other option I saw then again I didn’t give a fuck if she left or not.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I don't even think OP is married.

My Rambo 'worked' with the wife for about 6 months... then bad things happened because she was scared as fuck I was going to leave, cheating, going to cheat. Finally - fucking finally - she spilled it all out this weekend. That she's scared that when I travel or go to a work dinner, or go to Muay Thai or hell go to the store I'm trying to pick up other women to cheat on her with. It has been dread to the extreme with zero comfort.

This Athol Kay post was spot on with what happened in my situation.

http://marriedmansexlife.com/2014/07/why-being-asshole-alpha-works-for-about-six-months/

then again I didn’t give a fuck if she left or not.

If my past week is any indication - this is the point when everything changes in the relationship.

[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That is when things change but you still have to lead her to the right changes - some women still won’t get to where you want and the hard part is deciding if it’s your inability to lead her there or her inability to follow.

[–]proplfax1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

that part of rp was very counter-intuitive to me. you're sort of taught to become rambo to get as far away as possible from the beta-- stop supplicating, stop giving a fuck, frame control everything, pass shit tests, be a mother fucker. you get this ego. and then you gotta provide a little comfort and emotion and play into her frame just a little.. and yet again nothing makes sense haha. it's such a fucking comical process. reading through old posts and seeing dudes here evolve is the best entertainment i've had in awhile.

[–]ellifino3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m scrolling through and I see most comments with 0 karma, meaning I think OP went through and downvoted each one of them.

OP, I’ll lay it on you nicely. Take a deep breath, take a step back and try to remove yourself from the situation. This sub tries to help men - first act like men, then become a man. Having a penis doesn’t make you a man. It makes you a boy.

Being a man is what makes you a man. So what does being a man mean? It means DGAF. When people on the internet are mean to you, DGAF. When your wife is mean to you, DGAF. It’s harder than it seems for someone that is skilled in it. What does DGAF mean? It means kill your ego.

It means that you don’t need to DEER on things because your ego doesn’t give a shit if your wife is a bitch to you, kicking you while you’re down. You’re a man with a mission, on a mission, given to him from the highest source - himself. He will stop at nothing to see that mission to completion. He will cut out anything from his “vision” that is not of his own design. He will take the time to do this properly, and to explore what a real vision is. It’s his MAP and a good one will take you months to craft. It will be your guidepost that you compare all decisions against. “Does this fit my MAP?”

You’re told to STFU because you are new, and you haven’t developed the vision to understand what DEERing is and why your wife hates you for doing it. You’re in a hole, and we’re telling you to put down the shovel. We’ve thrown you the step ladder of DGAF and STFU and you can just barely see out of the hole. You need a ladder though, and we can’t and won’t give you one. If we could, you’d dig yourself another hole deeper than the first and wonder what went wrong.

You build your own ladder through reading and lifting heavy weights. You can half ass it with one or neither of those two, but you should get comfortable in your hole if that’s the case.

Get to work, OP. Downvote internet commenters if it makes your ego feel better, but to me, it shows you know nothing yet.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You know you have it easy, considering that you know exactly what your weak spot is. This makes it really easy for you to remedy. “What you resist persists, what you look at, dissipates.” Write us an update after you’ve amused and mastered yourself around all of her shit-tests. You got this.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

This is a perfect example of how women love.

Oppurtunitically. They cannot love a man as he expects to be loved (unconditionally).

Some have a higher metric others not. Some are. Monetary. Others are not.

Still it leaves only one outcome.

She don't like it? The door is right the fuck there.

Do you really want someone like this in your life?

Sure as hell if you fight and she stays. Your business becomes a success she'll crow how she was right there with you how the both of you made it work and....

Well. She may or may not stay.

You just found out what your little snowflake thinks. Whatcha going to do?

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Do you really want someone like this in your life?

My read on this is that these are shitty comfort tests since this guy is a frameless bitch trying to run a business. She is screaming for him to stand up and lead, stand up and WIN!

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

True enough. It could go either way. His frame and how fast he builds will decide the outcome.

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would. Just on my own. I’d be meeting lawyers next week

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Men with options are just as opportunistic as women.

If not more so.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That is a good point.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Building a business and building frame are quite similar. It's like climbing a mountain - you do it one step at a time and with each step, you ram a hook into the stone and climb. Sometimes the hooks come loose and you fall back a bit. If that happens, you sure as fuck make sure it stays in the next time.

Sometimes the woman who is behind you on the 1000ft of rope, yanks the rope. Sometimes it loosens a hook and you fall back a bit. If that happens, you sure as fuck make sure it stays in the next time.

As you can see from my terrible knowledge of rock climbing terminology, I have never rock climbed. But I have built a business and I have built frame. Neither of those things were easy. They took hard work and dedication. If you're not willing to do the work, then don't even bother. If you're going to bitch and whinge every time she tests your hooks, then you're never going to get anywhere. Focus on the prize, ram those fucking hook things in as hard as you can and get to the top of the mountain.

What's at the top of the mountain? What difference does it make - you're at the top of a fucking mountain.

[–]RP_PO4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

You’re playing the fucking victim here. “It was mommy’s idea for me to start the business” “she has the ideas for going out on dates”

Christ, go do what YOU want to do. Dont listen to her shit. And dates are gay. Go do some awesome shit and allow her to come with you. Going for a day swimming in the river is free, and a shit ton more fun that whatever shit she comes up with

[–]unnaturalcontrol0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks. This is what I was thinking. Do shit that’s free. Stop this spending money bullshit. There’s no need for it.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

“Perhaps it was foolish to expect her to support me in a time like this.”

I should call you a faggot but I’m not. I feel sorry for you. Women don’t love us the way mommy does. How many times do we have to say that?

5 months in and you expect profit ? Ha. Wtf.

Starting a business is no joke. Most businesses fail. It’s over 90%. You thought you were different?

She isn’t going to understand- not does she give a fuck about:

Profit= revenue - cost Profit margins cash flow marketing Break even analysis Customer acquisition
Everything fucking else

Women get off on the idea of starting a business because it feelz good. They see the reality stars all doing it and watch shark tank and think it’s realz.

By acting out, it was a huge DLV.

“I mean she shouldn't be kicking me when I'm down”

Awalt. They’re all programmed to act like that. It’s how they weed out the Betas (you).

She doesn't need to support you, she can just wait at the finish line for the winner.. she doesn’t want to see the wizard behind the curtain or need to know how the sausage is made- she doesn’t give a shit about hard work- she just wants a winner. And it isn’t you.

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’d focus on becoming one and end this marriage

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I couldn’t make it past the 2nd paragraph. You are a big boy and mad a big boy decision to start the business. It doesn’t matter how or why or who influenced you. Own it. Also, if she isn’t happy, the answer is always “the door is right there.”

It’s obvious you haven’t read much of any sidebar

[–]Perfectinmyeyes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks

[–]rnsbrum1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm sorry but you already lost. You are the commander of the ship and she is the one supporting you in your journey. If she doesn't feel like thats her role, you gotta let her go and move forward.

And dude, man the fuck up, have some trust in yourself.

[–]MrTrizzles1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don’t think it’s your finances. Not saying it’s not a problem, but it’s not the problem.

Talking about money is hard because money represents our effort. There’s a reason people with money say to never talk about money. It never ever ends well, period, forever amen.

This includes family.

She’s been making money, and from what I can tell from your post possesses some amount of class in good times, so my guess is that she’s perfectly aware of the pitfalls of discussing money.

Yet she weaponized the money question against you in short order. She knew it would cut. That tells me she was already unhappy. If all your other shit was on point, I don’t think this would be a big issue. It wouldn’t be a wonderful issue, but it would be manageable for a time.

Not much advice but maybe a new starting point. Good luck.

[–]wkndatbernardus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Haha, what all this "she should" BS? I'll tell you what it is, it's a covert contract. "If I start a business, she should support me, even if I'm a fuck up". "She should" cannot be in your vocabulary. It's "she will" or "she won't". If it's "she won't", you're probably at fault and you either show her the door or you fall into her frame because you are a vagina. If it's "she will", then she earns more time with you because she is adding value to your life by supporting your mission. The fuck are you letting this trick talk to you like that?

[–]ice_walkerHead Negotiator0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She, she, she... it seems more important to you what SHE thinks about you and your business than the actual business.

Ask instead, after five months, why isn't you business profitable? What is missing? What can you do differently?

If you have saving, a solid plan for your business, are OK woth all outcomes, including going back to 9-5, then just carry on and give less fucks.

Good luck

[–]SelectAirline0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I really want to continue pursuing this business~~, but if I continue to fail I'll continue being weak and vulnerable to those comments by her~\~

There were a whole bunch of useless words after the comma so I fixed that for you.

Women will test you when you're at your lowest. This isn't a secret. If you don't want to hear it, just spend less time with her and more time trying to grow your business. Unless you're afraid that mommy won't approve...

[–]Imaginary_Historian0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So you're with a woman who earns bank -- so what? If you feel like less of a man because of it, that's your problem, not hers. Your bitch wants you to be a man, that's all. She's topping from the bottom, or trying to, because you're being a whiny bitch and not leading, so she's attempting to lead you into leading. And that is fucked up.

What the hell do you do that earns zero income, and why didn't you keep your day job, or at least kept up with earning reliable income while getting your new gig off the ground? Successful people usually work their asses off. Most businesses owners work 70+ hrs a week. Be a man and don't half-ass it.

[–]RicoDunne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tuck a dollar in her granny panties next time and walk away

[–]JameisBong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would agree and amplify to no end. Show her that you are a busy man and therefore don't have time for her bs. Withdraw your attention,and keep your focus on the business.

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Personally I’d focus on my business and set her free to go find her mr big

[–]DeanMaverick13Uncle Vas Sectomy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Here's the thing, I once lived in a beat up single wide trailer with my brother and my bed was just a mattress on the floor, I had a lamp on the floor beside me to read. I worked in the sporting goods department at walmart at $9 an hour, 30 hours a week. I worked out, I did whatever I wanted, I got drunk af when I wanted. No, I had no vision. My vision at the time was to be free (just out of an LTR of 5 years).

I had no income, I had enough for some Axe spray, my car, hair product, planet fitness membership, food and the family pack of condoms. I still had girls over that wanted me. I've always been an attractive guy, I wasn't ripped at the time, not fat either. But I kept the IDGAF attitude about everything. Before that, my LTR told me the same thing yours told you. She gave me an ultimatum. I chose me. Your mindset is far greater than your paychecks.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No, she gave you a dose of reality and the truth hurts your fragile ego and soft hands. You sound like you’ve got no reason to continue if your business isn’t making any money and you need your girl’s validation.

How much does she earn? Saying top 5% could mean $75K? And what’s your business and why do you think you’re going to earn anywhere your GF’s income level?

The bigger issue is that you haven’t been making money for 5mos but you guys are still eating dinners on the town and doing weekend getaways?! Yeah, that sounds smart and financially responsible. That’s what your girl is telling you. She’s not saying you need a better paycheck as much as she’s telling you she can perceive that you aren’t handling money/ business/ Life decisions well.

[–]Iammrp20 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy

she shouldn't be kicking me when I'm down

According to who, you? Yes. According to your blue pilled weak ass frame.

Yes she should be kicking you when you're down. She's a woman and you're a man. This is the way things are. Quit being a woman.

of course we're arguing again because...

Because you're a faggot. That's why. If you STFU there would be no arguing.

I don't even know how to approach her today. Her comment hit me at my weakest spot.

Your weakest spot is you and your frame. You have none. You are seeking validation from mommy. What do you want out of life? You are doing this business for her so you can earn as much or more than her. She's saying to herself "I make a lot and I still want beta bucks. He's beta but where is his bucks!?" To her you're neither alpha nor do you provide her comfort with money. So she is wondering what value you add to the relationship. What value do you add?

It's time to give up hope on blue pill living. Take the red pill and jump off into the deep end.

  • What do you want in life?
  • Forget about her. Don't let her answer the previous question for you.
  • lift
  • read the sidebar
  • learn how to not give a fuck and become outcome independent.
  • don't go Rambo

Put the work in or get the fuck out faggot.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

Yes she should be kicking you when you're down. She's a woman and you're a man. This is the way things are. Quit being a woman.

You should be GLAD she's testing you. The problem isn't her, it's OP. These shit tests he's getting are so easy to pass too... I bet after about a week if work reading the sidebar (especially WISNIFG) he'd be able to pass them.

[–]Iammrp21 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

You should be GLAD she's testing you.

She's still wanting him to step up. That's a good thing for him and he doesn't realize it. He's not only failing these shit tests but it sounds like he's going to fail at life. 6 months no income would be a tough hole to come out of. Maybe he has revenue and good cash flow and will make it in the future. He didn't say.

[–]raw-with-love[S] -2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy

Failing at life? Did you read my post? I can stop this business venture any time and go back to my job.

[–]Iammrp21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I can stop mooching off my wife playing pretend business man whenever I want and get a real job! You hear me! I can get a real job! Besides, she wanted me to do this! It's her fault!"

Oh, I'm sorry. You're right. You are a success in life. I can see that now.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you think money means you’re successful in life then you have some hard lessons to learn.

Stop living your life for other people.

If you think you fail at this business venture means you’re a failure - you also don’t get what being successful at life is. You fail - you learn - you do better. And fuck anyone else who tries to bring you down or get in your way.

You have an ego - that’s bad. That means you don’t realize yet how shitty you are. Maybe you’ll get angry at the comments on this post and be back here in a few years when you hit rock bottom. Or there’s a very small chance you start the hardest work you’ll ever do.

There’s a new own your shit thread tomorrow on the main sub. I recommend starting to post in that and start looking at your weaknesses and a plan to fix them.

[–]raw-with-love[S] -3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy

The issue was that the shit test..her comment.. hit me at my weakest spot. I've been stressed about trying to make this business work, and then she shits on me with that disrespectful comment that questions my decision to try something new.

We can't all be some tv sitcom character replying to every annoying comment with a witty remark. I have days when I'm low and vulnerable. I'm only human.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There’s an amazing thing we talk about here. It’s pretty simple. You simply shut... the... fuck.... up.

When in doubt stfu. Read those books. Then you’ll be better equipped to deal with it.

You’re just me 10 months ago. Do the work... or don’t. Your choice.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You won’t find sympathy here. Guys have been through way worse than a failed business venture. We all have our struggles. It’s not the struggle that defines you - it’s what your reaction to it is.

Hey - you were weak. That’s great you recognize it. So what are you going to do to make yourself mentally stronger in the future?

[–]BluetoGreentoRed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

We can't all be some tv sitcom character replying to every annoying comment with a witty remark. I have days when I'm low and vulnerable. I'm only human.

You're right that most of the comments here are those perfect comebacks you think of in the shower. It's why STFU is the first advisable response instead of grandmaster level shit test passer.

When you're low and vulnerable and she inevitably calls you out on it, STFU and go do something else. Honestly, I'd rather my wife be tough and give me a shit test I'm not prepared for than give me the pathetic fake-display-of-sympathy-pat-on-the-head comments.

Imagine how much worse you'd feel if she gave you hug and said, "I'm so sorry baby. It'll all be okay."

That's not what successful men receive from their sexual partners. You've got to toughen up. We're ALL in situations where life is hard even when things are going well.

[–]resolutions3160 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hey moron, by the way:

My business made money in month one. And I could do that again anytime I want.

My guess is that if you needed to make money to eat, you’d find a way.

Stop making excuses.

[–]tdreampo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If your heart is not in it stop now and go back to work.

[–]Redpillbrigade170 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hahahaha it hits you but it should not. Of course she longs for a man who makes more than her. She craves to submit and provisioning / financial resources are a way to keep track. If you make more somehow (she thinks) she gets the tingles and starts respecting you more.

But that’s bullshit. Your goal is to laugh her out of the room, when she throws these shit tests, and be such an alpha dog that she showers you with gifts and resources, takes you out to fancy dinners, and sponsors your ass- ALL WHILE YOU’RE doing two key things: (1) fuck her silly (face in pillow, multiple orgasms, ass, face etc she’s your sex toy etc) and (2) you pursue your mission relentlessly, which includes launching your business or whatever. That’s priority number one in fact.

If I were you I would tease the shit out of her and enjoy every single penny she makes. Make it in your head a display of your mother fucking high value that she’s putting money up your ass. Play games where she’s the hot earning corporate fat cat, you’re the pool boy, gigolo whatever and fuck her silly. Leave her in a pool of fluids, cuddle for a bit (after care etc), then go to work!! Who cares what she says.

Good luck. You have it better than you think. Pull your head out of your ass.

And also, never argue with a woman. Duh.

[–]Rifleshoot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, I would just point to door and tell her she’s free to leave if she likes. No anger, no emotion, just let her know that if she has nothing helpful to add (value), then you don’t need her.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

She she she she. You say you really want to continue pursuing your business - that’s all you need to know. Do what you want.



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