For context: I’d never say at this point that I have fully swallowed the red pill completely. I’d said, I am RP-aware and try to apply it to my everyday life:
- Martial arts (and competing)
- studying to improve job opportunities (about to switch jobs in a few weeks into a higher position and 40% pay raise)
- reading RP material
- healthy diet and so on
Ok so this just happened a few hours ago.
Was seeing this girl for several months now. Before that: months of Intensive vetting, „a lot of green flags“ , mentally stable, good and ambitious in her job, high EQ yada yada yada.
About a few days ago she went to her home country to visit her parents and to attend a wedding (about 500 km from where we live). Shortly before she left I noticed a first smaller „not telling“ the truth phenomena (read: lie). When the wedding came up for the very first time, she tells me that a friend of hers is getting married, but that suddenly changed to her being the „plus 1“. Called her out on it immediately. She first tries to spin the story, but I cut that sh*t down immediately (pretty bad experience with gaslighting during my BP-years, so I react pretty allergic to such things) Short shit show - she was apologetic and I made clear that this is the first and last time this shit happens. (Maybe I should have dropped her here already?)
A few hours ago we were on the phone. Suddenly she tells me that she is sleeping at a friends place (this is news!) after the wedding. I ask who the friend is. She’s reluctant to answer. Tries to switch to another topic and makes proposals on what we should do once she’s back. I repeat my question. She tells me that it’s „just a guy-friend“ from university back then and that she is his „plus 1“. (In my head: I f*cking knew it). I hang up and go to work.
The following hours she blew up my phone with calls and messages. I don’t answer/reply (ffs, I am at work!). After work I go through the messages. A lot of BS like „I know I should have told you before, but I didn’t want to have a scene after last time etc.“/ looks to stay at one of her gf-places/hotels & makes again proposals that we should go out for dinner once she’s back and so on.
I text her that she should have known that it wouldn’t have made difference if she intended to sleep at that guy’s place in the first place and that it’s over. Blocked her from my contacts.
The reason why I am writing this is, that I had pretty bad time with abundance mentality and trusting people after I got cheated on in the worst possible way during my BP-years. And I am obviously not eager to go through that shit again and to let history repeat itself.
But I am wondering if I have overreacted on this? Or if I misunderstand abundance mentality at this point?
Thanks a lot in advance!