I was too nice to my now ex and she took advantage of that. Definitely was beta,red pill way to move forward and be more alpha. Need to work on my best self!

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September 3, 2019

You read it I was a beta bitch with my now ex gf, I made her a priority, I validated her, texted her all the time by being available, gave her slot of compliments, gifts for her the whole beta shit. And before she ended things she was staring to act weird and be mean at times. And instead of laying it straight to her j wasn’t gonna talk that shit, I would ask what’s wrong and what not. She ended up ending things cause she didn’t feel the same as she once did. She told me the whole BS “nothing you did wrong, you were a great guy, treated me amazing, I want you in my life and be friends.” All that BS I denied friendship screw that mot being friend while you’re screwing other guys. And she also dumped me cause I didn’t have my career yet, despite her knowing I’m in school working towards that.

We had a discussion after I didn’t contact her and she saw I was doing alright, saw I was able to still go out and go to a bar and talk to girls. Saw this on social media. She got pissed I wasn’t home crying or whatever. And now she said maybe this can work in the future, and wants this to be a break. But she’s already talking to someone else who I assume she’s more money than me, so she’s trying to make me her plan “B” and I ain’t taking that haven’t talked to her since. And not looking back.

Need some red pill advice on how to just move forward and say screw it. I’ve been hitting the gym more already, been doing things I want to do and now I’m trying to go back out there on dates. But I don’t wanna fall back into the beta mentality but I also don’t want to become a complete dick either.

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Title I was too nice to my now ex and she took advantage of that. Definitely was beta,red pill way to move forward and be more alpha. Need to work on my best self!
Author eliteomegabc
Upvotes 75
Comments 57
Date 03 September 2019 12:29 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/251591
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/cyxiym/i_was_too_nice_to_my_now_ex_and_she_took/
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[–]caneyfan64 points65 points  (3 children) | Copy

Before you do anything else, stop all contact. She dropped your ass for greener pastures. Don’t let her have it both ways. Block her number, social media, and whatever else. Focus on your goals and establishing your career...also, that bitch dumped you with that guy she’s talking to already in the picture. Branch swing tactic 101. “It’s not you it’s me”, followed by met the guy while she was “focusing on herself”...yeah right. Next!

[–]eliteomegabc14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

100% don’t have her in social and haven’t contacted her since our last convo in person, she dumped me over the phone. She’s a monkey brancher I know this wasn’t some dude she found a week later, he was there and I’m she will do the same to this guy. Girl likes too much attention and validation by other dudes. I should of called her ass out for snapping other dudes, caught her ass read handed one day, but I didn’t want to come off as insecure!

[–]caneyfan15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

Would’ve just been wasted energy and got your blood pressure up for nothing. The outcome would’ve been the same so why replay it with could’ve done this or that? Finish your school and kickstart that career. You’ll barely remember her in the grand scheme of your life.

[–]eliteomegabc5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Definitely still a young man got still in my early 20s

[–]Schhwing10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy

The only answer here is to invest in yourself above all else. That means emotionally, physically, mentally, career, everything. She left you because you were invested in her more than you were yourself/ or more than she was in you. You operated in her frame and were not leading.

Set a strong frame and lifestyle and women will be attracted to you. If you get in another relationship you have to be more invested in yourself and less invested in her than she is in you. That is the key to a good relationship. One in which you lead with your desires, and if hers align with yours then she follows. Good luck and work on yourself.

Suggested reading: “models” by Mark Manson

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

That’s the plan, unfortunately I was like that person in the beginning when I drove her in and then got complacent once we started hanging more, and then fell off and stared to make it about her

[–]Schhwing1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

A weak man makes his life about his woman

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yup I can’t be doing that anymore, they don’t care they can’t love or care like men do it’s facts

[–]Darknessblinds21 points22 points  (3 children) | Copy

Keep being a dick they love it. Besides do whatever the fuck you want ignore their reactions or whatever they want you to do. Keep spinning plates and work on your goals.. make your goals your top priority and not girls.

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good advice, my goals are my priority right now this break up was my wake up call, i made her the prize and gave her what she wanted. Ultimately leading to a fall of attraction, cause she couldn’t get enough of me in the beginning of things so it was once there.

[–]Darknessblinds1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're the price. Remember that.

[–]TheNincro10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Sad_Sleeper6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Hard Next, forget she ever existed.

My ex wanted me to light her spark up again. I told her it won't happen. Took all my belongings and blocked her everywhere possible. She started fucking her best male friend.

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yup she basically told me she didn’t feel the same, came up with the excuses and that was that. First week of the break up I hit her up twice. Even asked her if there was another dude, not even sure why and she told me people are interested but she isn’t at the moment. Well i knew this was a lie and told her I won’t be contacting her for awhile. She then tried crying and saying she wants me in her life. How manipulative can one be lol

[–]Sad_Sleeper0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Mind Games. The funniest thing was that my ex called me for my birthday 5 months later. And all of our mutual friends stopped talking to her when she broke it up with me. Because they figured out how shitty of a person she is.

Hit the gym hard, work on yourself. Start loving yourself again and put yourself first !

You are the prize and she lost is.

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yup that’s my mind set, cause at the end of the day i have a feeling I will be hearing from this girl again in some form of fashion. By then I’ll be long gone

[–]DerpJungler2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Always remember the Iron Rule of Tomassi (#3):

It is always time better spent developing relationships with new, fresh, prospective women, than it ever will be attempting to reconstruct fail relationships.

Next her. Go fuck other girls. Live your life. She's already chosen, it's your time to choose.

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s the mindset I need right now

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

What's your question?

[–]eliteomegabc3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Basically how to keep that attraction and not fall into the blue pill love like I seem to do. I know how to attract girls but long term it fades it seems

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Nothing is better than creating OPTIONALITY in terms of pussy. Lift, invest in your career, and be interesting. The abundance of pussy will naturally block the beta-cuckness to invade your mind.

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is what I need to just make my self the priory

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read the sidebar

[–]saif_tidux1 point2 points  (20 children) | Copy

Same problem here. My girl totally stopped contacting me probably cause I was too clingy. I am trying to move on. Girls are weird creatures man

[–]eliteomegabc2 points3 points  (19 children) | Copy

They say they want a nice guy. Be nice Ohhh let’s be friends.

They say they want to be loved and have someone who cares ? Ohhh this isn’t going to work for me

You get the point women don’t know what they want. It’s free game out there women are always single, it’s just your turn at the moment. As soon as she sees someone with more money remotely interested she’s out the door half the time, until she gets screwed over and the guy bangs her, doesn’t want a LTR and she tries to come running back to the other “nice” guys feet eventually saying how sorry and wrong she was. The fact is women cheat wayyyy more than men.

[–]saif_tidux0 points1 point  (18 children) | Copy

I swear to God man. It's so frustrating man. I genuinely liked this girl cause she's so pure and beautiful. And one day just like that she decides to stop talking. She hasn't even told me why. I hope not ALL girls are like this cause it sucks man

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (17 children) | Copy

I hope soo too, I just had that real connection with this last girl I dated for 6 months everything was great then on day shit just started going south. And I’m assuming cause she met someone out, I started to see signs here and there a guy was hitting her up. Long and behold two weeks after she broke up with me there’s a dude commenting on her photos like he’s dating her and she’s replying back like she’s dating him

[–]saif_tidux0 points1 point  (16 children) | Copy

Ouch man that must hurt alot. I doubt if true love is a thing looking at these girls. I hope you and I get over this

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (15 children) | Copy

It’s rough man trust me, only been two weeks for me. Living my life and not sitting depressed but still she’s on my mind constantly. Even though at the end she treated me like garbage and was heartless she dropped my shit off and all the gifts I gave her at my freaking doorstep. Like the gifts meant shit to her.

[–]saif_tidux0 points1 point  (14 children) | Copy

Funny cause this happened to me two weeks ago as well lol. It's frustrating ik, I have moved on better than I thought but I occasionally remember her and that's sad. I didn't expect that from a pure person. I got answers from Redpill books but I don't know if all this is healthy for long term relationships

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (13 children) | Copy

Single girls are redpill in their early years once they hit their 30s they know the clock is ticking and that’s when they hit up all the blue pill guys or find the blue pill guy cause they they 30 is it for them in most cases, they know they want marriage and kids but once 30 comes they’re hitting the time threshold. Which is why you see some women in their 40s no kids or husband cause they never left the redpill stage and it’s too late.

[–]saif_tidux0 points1 point  (12 children) | Copy

Well I see. Hopefully we move on and find a genuinely caring person if they exist lol

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy

Girls are jealous creatures so when we do find that person and they hear or see it meaning our exes. Don’t be surprised if they try and reach out.

[–]_iisu1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

How to say "screw it"? Walk in the bar, point at the hottest girl there and say "I wanna screw it" in a confident tone.

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Confidence is key like obviously looks are important but a mildly attractive face with confidence will always get the girl over, male who’s the best looking but beta as shit

[–]sebastianconcept1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

She made you her plan B. Don’t be anyone’s plan B. Next her for good by finding who is making you her plan A.

With a group of friends we have a whatsapp group named “Contatinhos numero um 😈” which is portuguese for “little contacts number one 😈” where the rule is that you are the first contact she calls when they want to fuck or you are out of the group. You get the idea.

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yup fuck a plan “B” I know my worth, and I’m already back to what I gotta do. Hitting the gym focusing on school. And just connecting with new people.

And that’s awesome haha that’s how it should be, them contacting you and you not having to contact them. That’s how you know you’re the plan “A”

[–]sebastianconcept0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I mean, they can contact you or you them (good balance is always a good sign), but the important thing is you become their favorite one. When you fuck them to sleep you are on the right track. Also keep sexualized conversations. They love to be playful, so have fun with a vibe of sexualized playfulness during interactions. Girls love when you make them feel girly so a good one is to play with the idea that they have to be discreet and well behaved in public but a total wild slut in bed. If you are the one that can make them feel they can do that, they will love it and you are a total winner for her.

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s some damn solid advice when you think about it

[–]liberty11270 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Women want the finished product. They dont give a shit if you're in school or working on being better etc. If you aren't where you need to be to keep them around in an LTR, it's much easier for them to throw you to the wayside.

[–]_iisu0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Nope, she just gave him a bs reason why it's his fault not hers and he bought it. Women want men. She was just bored of her li'l Billy B and dumped him.

A man should never be a finished product cause that means stagnation.

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup, and screw it cause now I’m going to be a successful man without her ass. I have plans for my self and am working towards them without her. She something better and jumped shipped? Well guess what she’s gonna do the same to the other dude and monkey branch through all of the jungle

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well I can see me being the completed package if I was closer to 30 but I’m still in my early 20s, she knew I was in school not like I was a drop out. She left cause she saw something better I know the reason now.

[–]eralbossi0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

same here, just focus on your purpose. This is a wake up call and for sure it's also a lesson. So for you next relationship [ if you want a relationship ] you will be ready and you will not fall into your beta male version again.

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Yeahh I gotta move forward just sucks cause this girl was fucking cool man, we got along soo well like it was natural. Sex was good too. And she was hot. Gonna be her loss in the end though just wait.

[–]eralbossi0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

yup same here, whenever I was with that girl I had the best time. Been with her 1 year. But I think that is just in our head man. Now our brain starts to make her look like the perfect one. It will pass after a while. Just think of the bad side of her, I'm sure she had one.

Start dating again if you are ready. But make sure to date chicks that are the same level or better looking than her. If you date ugly chicks you will only miss her.

Work in your purpose if you found it. Go to the gym. Take a lot of pics and post them on social media. It will make you look "'cool" and attract a lot of girls once they see you having fun. " Fake it til you make "

And if you start missing her just think " Is it really worth losing your life thinking about someone who replaced you?" Like you worked so hard in your life, been through shit and now a girl comes and you just left everything and think about her all day. Not worth it.

I know it's hard , I'm dealing with this on my own but I'm sure it will pass soon. Good luck .

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Good luck to you man we will be alright trust me, putting yourself first is the best thing. Honestly I gotta get back out there, it’s just soo fresh I went to a bar last week. And saw 3 girls I previously talked too that didn’t work out, and they came up all excited to see me and hugged me. Could of hooked up with any of them that night but I just couldn’t bring my self to do it. Still felt like I’d be cheating in her since it was so fresh.

[–]eralbossi0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

yeah man, made the same mistake. Had some hot girls that I could totally hook up but I blocked them since I didn't want to cheat. I regret it now, stupid mistake.

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yup man, like you wonder what could of been done differently in our relationships like if we didn’t care and treated them like shit would they still be here. Cause my ex dated an abusive dude for 7 months and stuck with him even though he made her cry everyday

[–]askmrcia0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You read it I was a beta bitch with my now ex gf, I made her a priority, I validated her, texted her all the time by being available, gave her slot of compliments, gifts for her the whole beta shit.

If you posted this on other main subs in reddit (relationships, twoxchromosomes) they be praising you for this.

According to women all your beta tendencies is exactly what women look for in men

[–]eliteomegabc1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Finally dawned on me women can’t love, women don’t care, women have no real emotion for anyone. THEY ONLY LOVE, CARE AND HAVE EMOTIONS FOR THEMSELVES. They only care how this benefits them and what they can get out of it. Then they’ll monkey branch once they see they can get a better ride out of someone else. Hell women will put down her own family if it means it will benefit her ass. They only look out for them selves. Women cheat more than men, look for the next option more than men and can’t love or care more than men.

Women say all guys are the same, no they gotta look in the mirror all women are the same. We gotta start acting like them we have to not care, love or show emotion like we usually do. We have to do exactly want women do, they don’t know what they want. They can have it all husband with steady job, big house, nice cars, kids, great sex, a lot of love and care from their husband. But a guy comes around making double her husband, can provide double her husband, double the better sex than her husband, double the looks her husband has. She will monkey branch faster than a hamster on a wheel. It’s sad but true women are narcissistic. I’m done with their needs it’s my needs that matter now. Fuck that shit. And fuck women they’re all the same.

[–]saif_tidux0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Ik. Hey I think we should update ourselves given that we are on the same boat lol

[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s the plan! Hitting the gym more again to get even more in shape, focusing on my self, worrying about me and my needs, doing what I want to do, and not looking back.

[–]lonelythrowaway012 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

While you was validating her, she was on her back with her legs spread getting fucked and cream pied by genetically superior men

[–]_iisu2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]eliteomegabc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Guess so

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