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Hung out with a girl, she ghosted me for a week and I deleted her on Snapchat. She just messaged me, was this the right way to respond?

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September 8, 2019
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I'm 20 and shes 18 in college for reference. I honestly don't know what I'm doing so help a brother out


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Title Hung out with a girl, she ghosted me for a week and I deleted her on Snapchat. She just messaged me, was this the right way to respond?
Author itshighdune
Upvotes 87
Comments 105
Date 08 September 2019 11:38 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/252388
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/d1itl9/hung_out_with_a_girl_she_ghosted_me_for_a_week/
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[–]Hamlet_Prime172 points173 points  (7 children) | Copy

Lmfao this comments section is so trash.

If those are the rules you want to play by, stick to them. If she ghosted u for a week, you weren’t the first priority. It looks like you don’t want to be side dick so you drew a line.

I wouldn’t have added extra flavor and said “I don’t play games” hahaha that’s 22 year old single mother language.

[–]idontmiind60 points61 points  (0 children) | Copy

22 year old single mother language.

haha

[–]morphite6515 points16 points  (5 children) | Copy

Wow I once literally heard this from my single mother coworker...No time for games after playing them for so long (multiple fathers involved)

[–]Sylvester_Sterone9 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy

Tinder is full of that crap language and demands. "I don't play games" "Looking for Mr. Right not Mr. Right Now" blah blah blah blah.

[–]RPthrowaway12310 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy

"so sick of being hurt" "if you can't handle that then swipe left" 😂 so much bullshit!

[–]Sylvester_Sterone5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

I remember one photo I had to share with my buddies.

It was some 23 year old saying "If you're not willing to buy me a fish bowl and be my sober driver then..." The picture also included her baby.

[–]RPthrowaway1234 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Was she very overweight? Just from that I bet she was overweight.

[–]Sylvester_Sterone1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That one was a typical party girl.

The overweight one looking for Mr. Not Right Now had a profile shot of riding a lawnmower while pointing in an authoritarian manner. Fuck that.

[–]rizzyfromthe961 points62 points  (1 child) | Copy

You never “tell” a girl you “don’t play games”

You show them.

[–]doublecup__169 points170 points  (6 children) | Copy

you thought you were being the big alpha man by saying "i don't play games blahblah" but really all you did was show how butthurt you are.

a few options:

- ignore and change subject

- ignore and don't acknowledge

- A&A "yea i hate you so i removed you"

[–]itshighdune70 points71 points  (5 children) | Copy

I used to just let everyone walk all over me so this whole new way of interpreting everything is new to me, in hindsight yeah it looks like I went overboard

[–]Protocol_Apollo77 points78 points  (0 children) | Copy

You overcompensated for your previous ways.

[–][deleted] 23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. But you were closer than any blue pill guy.

you made valuable yards this time.

[–]agjrpsl10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, you did the right thing. Ignore her and just move on with your life. If you engage in this type of disrespectful behavior. She will walk all over.

Edit: she playing games and thinks she's slick by her comment....." unless you hate me" Chics use this line all the time......" why do you hate me so much".....

sauce: Real life experiences. Don't let them treat you like a doormat.

[–]javascript_dev1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No biggie brah, overcompensating at times is a sign of pushing your boundaries

[–]Gordon-G1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Watch AMS Alpha Make Strategies videos. Also listen to old Tom Leykis clips as he peels back and exposes true woman nature.

[–]FinancialThanks136 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy

You already decided you’re done with her so it doesn’t matter

[–]SemperPrimus66 points67 points  (6 children) | Copy

Sorry I think you came across butthurt in this. I wouldn't have unfriended her in the first place.

[–]realname319 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

I wouldn't have unfriended her in the first place.

Unless you're playing the long game,
why would you keep her?

[–]SemperPrimus20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

costs nothing to keep her. After that week could have gotten your dick wet. If she actually ghosted a date that would be annoying

[–]realname32 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Gotcha. I agree about the butthurt, thanks for explaining your reasoning.

[–]OfficerWade5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah but it worked

[–]Sickem_roy-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

When does ghosting someone not come across as butthurt tho...

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal-9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

The only way to learn and grow from this is to first be honest with yourself.

You’re most likely posting this because you are feeling guilty about trying to be a hard ass, when it was really you being upset that she ghosted you. You’re now probably wishing that you responded to her differently.

I would wager that you’re looking for a LTR while claiming you want to spin plates. If you truly wanted to just spin plates you wouldn’t care that she ghosted you, and would’ve just banged her when she reached out. During that time of her going silent you should’ve been chatting up other girls and not caring what she did. You were a bit outcome dependent and your mood was clearly impacted by her ghosting you.

Preferring an LTR is fine, but it’s not ok to deceive yourself. If that’s what you want, great, if not, also great, but pretending you don’t when you do is counterproductive. It’s very, very important to establish what you want at this current time in your life.

This girl unfortunately is done with. However be optimistic that you’re armed with new knowledge going forward.

[–]ayres880 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What are good approaches for someone looking for a ltr?

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

To acknowledge with yourself honestly that you might be better suited for an LTR rather than spinning plates. Neither one is morally superior to the other. Some men are just wired for one over the other and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Once you’ve acknowledged that, let it go and stop seeking it. Go do other shit related to your passions and your mission and forget about it.

Date casually and let things unfold organically. Just because you’ve acknowledged that you as a person might be best suited for an LTR does not mean that you NEED one. You don’t NEED anything or anyone. Outcome independence, always.

[–]Twenty_league_boots37 points38 points  (2 children) | Copy

I mean, why be such a hard ass? I would have just rolled with it and gone out and banged her. Who the fuck knows what was going on in her life?

[–]HIJKelemenoP12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Meh.

[–]HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's exactly how you get strung along and never develop self respect. You guys never learn because you're never willing to walk away. You'd do just about anything for pussy

[–]OfficerWade7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

I think you handled it right. I think she might just be checking to see if you are still down. Girls do this are interested and will fuck. Think of these out of the blue messages as a proposition. She’s not saying no.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's not saying yes either. And if it's not a concrete yes, it's always a fuck no

[–]Protocol_Apollo57 points58 points  (17 children) | Copy

Never tell a girl to fuck off.

Deleting her off snap was too far, if she ghosted you, be high value and move on.

No need to punish her and you’ll never know if they’ll hit you up again randomly which in this case, they ACTUALLY DID.

Then, after “teaching her a lesson” , you wanted to shove it in her face by saying you were busy (were you actually busy or was this your way of saying no?) without offering a reschedule.

Then, you wanted to do it AGAIN by giving her the explanation of the block.

She was giving you a chance to give you plausible deniability, you could have said you wanted to delete someone else with a similar username or ignored it.

You sacrificed pussy just to look self-righteous.

You fucked it.

[–]Autistic_Reeeeeeeeee40 points41 points  (8 children) | Copy

You sacrificed pussy just to look self-righteous.

It is like you worship women or something.

You never want to come across as upset or desperate. At least he got the desperate part somewhat correct.

No need to punish her and you’ll never know if they’ll hit you up again randomly which in this case, they ACTUALLY DID.

Who cares if they contact you again? Thats why we "next".

His mistake was deleting her snap. His next mistake was showing he actually got upset.

Stupid mistakes but for the right reasons.

Sacrificing pussy is perfectly fine. Why would I fuck a girl who ghosted me for a week then suddenly wants to hang out. No thanks I am not desperate.

[–]Sickem_roy7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with this guy

[–]Protocol_Apollo1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

“Who cares if they contact you again? That’s why we next.”

His mistake was deleting her snap. His next mistake was showing he actually got upset. “

So basically what I said.

“Sacrificing pussy is perfectly fine.”

As a sexual strategy, sacrificing it in this way was sub-optimal.

“Why would I fuck a girl who ghosted me for a week then suddenly wants to hang out.”

See that’s the issue, you are attaching your ego, your self-respect over a petty thing: some random girl GHOSTING you and now you really want to show her what the alfa you are:

  1. She didn’t flake on you last minute before the date.
  2. She’s not a LTR.
  3. It costed OP nothing that she ghosted.

The point nothing significant really happened against OP.

Yes, If OP was still chasing her, still initiating conversation despite the ghost then you can play your self-respect/self righteousness card.

[–]Autistic_Reeeeeeeeee0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

His mistake was deleting her snap. His next mistake was showing he actually got upset. “

Agreed.

As a sexual strategy, sacrificing it in this way was sub-optimal.

Depends if you want quality or quantity. I am selective.

See that’s the issue, you are attaching your ego

No, I don't like women who behave in this way. I don't care that it was me or any other guy. If she ghosted a different man that I knew I would probably do the same.

Not for ego but because I don't condone that behaviour. It should not be rewarded with my attention or time.

The point nothing significant really happened against OP.

Correct but the behaviour should never be rewarded.

Like another poster said, responding correctly and letting her hamster run wild would have been good. And a suitable punishment. But women like that are not worth my time. At least not any more.

I have a series of boxes that need to be ticked for me to sleep with a women. If she does not tick most or all of those boxes then shes not who I want to sleep with.

And yes personality traits are important when enjoying sex. Nobody wants to fuck somebody they don't like.

[–]LordFa90 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

I dont say no to such 2nd chances unless the girl is a major flake or psycho

Looks like you are almost as self rightous as OP

[–]Autistic_Reeeeeeeeee9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

I am married with kids. Im past the spinning plates part of the cycle.

It isn't about being self righteous it is about having self respect.

Trading self respect for pussy is a no on all accounts.

Why would you provide her with a second chance? Just for pussy?

I thought part of holding frame was standing firm? Maybe we have different levels of firm.

[–]LordFa9-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

For starters I wouldnt be butthurt and a total dick like OP was

Being firm and cordial helps, you might turn the situation around or you might not.

If I was in that situation, I would just play it off as spring cleaning of my social media accounts (which I do actually do) and be friendly. Once she sees I'm not butthurt, either I pass the "shit test", the hamster goes into overdrive (why didnt he reachout/remember me? He must have other girls) or she gets so apologetic she starts making more of an effort, so like the house I always win. Or at least a draw

As for the firm part: girls love trying to get you to admit you are butthurt or mad just to prove to themselves they can get under your skin or break you. So just keep rotating between (WOW lel) laughing it off, downplaying it and A&A. Staying firm in not giving in and letting her win nor losing your cool

My frame is IDGAF. So if she reaches out, great! Another shot at the basket for kicks. If not, well another bus will come soon enough. (Also you guys are thinking of sex already? A little forward thinking methinks)

Its not about any grandiose ideas like self respect to me and as for frame, well like I said above I'm in it

Anyways you are married and you seem to sticking to your vows of onegina so fair enough. But other guys may not be and probably shouldnt take your example as the way to go

[–]Autistic_Reeeeeeeeee0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

For starters I wouldnt be butthurt and a total dick like OP was

Agreed

so like the house I always win. Or at least a draw

Sounds good in theory. In fact it probably maximises the amount of sex you have.

But in this situation I wonder what the effects of sleeping with a women you dislike does to you.

It is not about ego. More so self respect. Shit tests or not I will choose which ones I want to pass and which ones I want to reject.

A women has no right to have her shit tests passed by me. I will choose who I sleep with.

Maybe I am a quality over quantity kind of guy. Rooting club sluts does nothing for me but I get that it is the starting point for many men. So I see your side of the coin.

I feel like when men transcend the whole need for validation it becomes less about getting sex and more about choosing who you have sex with.

girls love trying to get you to admit you are butthurt or mad just to prove to themselves they can get under your skin or break you.

agreed

Its not about any grandiose ideas like self respect to me and as for frame, well like I said above I'm in it

I would not say it is grandiose more of a step in the right direction. Choosing who to sleep with rather than trying to sleep with everyone. But whatever makes you happy.

I usually treat sex as a reward I give to women when they tick my boxes.

Anyways you are married and you seem to sticking to your vows of onegina so fair enough.

Yeah, i wanted a family and children. No amount of sex could steer me away from that life hurdle. I think being a father is a great learning and character building experience. As long as you don't let your wife break you like so many men do.

But other guys may not be and probably shouldnt take your example as the way to go

If your pussy hungry and want to root everything you can then you would be correct.

I got over that in my teens unfortunately.

[–]LordFa90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I can see the difference in philosophy here.

My thinking is simply I pass her shit tests because its a game to me. Overcoming the obstacle and seeing if I can "win".

If I lose, well I live and learn.

If I win and she's giving me the eyes that say "take me big boy" THEN I'll decide if I want to stick my dick in her.

Or I don't play if I'm not in the mood

Remember you miss 100% of the shots you don't take and you make it worse by giving yourself lame excuses why you didn't try (marriage vows and LTR promises excluded)

[–]sniper19059 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy

Crazy how TRP determines on the situation. One case you have people saying don’t have snap, on the other you have people saying deleting her is too far.

[–]2ndLion6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

It almost seems like there is no universal truth eh? Do whatever you want, just be a man about it.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The people saying that deleting her is too far are people who have not swallowed the pill and have not developed self respect

[–]Protocol_Apollo0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What do you mean?

[–]sniper19050 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

TRP is a toolkit for you to become the best top tier man. We define it as a sexual strategy, many think that this is in order to obtain women but in reality you must obtain yourself, again which is why we preach stoicism in this subreddit a lot.

However when you start reading a lot of these posts, sometimes there seems to be a contradiction between advice's and I guess there is more than one solution in certain scenarios. I guess you just gotta keep learning which is also preached as well.

[–]HurricaneHugues1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Deleting her off snap was too far, if she ghosted you, be high value and move on."

No point in keeping her around so she can see what's going on in your life. It's not like she was a real friend or had any other purpose aside from being a potential fuck. She's not interested in seeing you. Therefore there's no point in keeping her around.

You motherfuckers need to get off social media too

[–]Sickem_roy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Who cares..quit climbing up his asshole

[–]DAOcomment20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't think he completely fucked it. I mean, he did terminate the possibility of anything further with this girl. But think of how well this sets him up for future girls. He has practice walking away because he just did. It's good for a guy to just walk a couple times like this and get more options. Down the road girl's sense that walking is something you'll really do unless they're acting right. They only sense that after it's something you've repeatedly done. Girls want a dude that they sense had boundaries and a spine, and guys want to have boundaries and a spine. Win for everyone. Young man here just did his future self and partners a favor by exercising boundaries with this girl, even if the execution was a little miscalibrated.

[–]SICFJC5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

damn OP her main man fucked up, went to you, and you told her to fuck off.

RIP

[–]agjrpsl4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

He did the right thing. Move on to the next plate.

[–]2INNASKILLZ2K184 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Depending on your level of amused mastery, outcome independence and game you could have turned shit around.

[–]LeEbinConchShell3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

being 100% non-reactive or responsive to women's bullshit is a good default strategy in the future.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She was super excited texting you at first then you made the mood a little shitty. I hope you took long to answer and next time dont give so much attention to your past actions trying to justify them as it will make it seem like you care too much. Personally if I wanted to hang out I wouldn’t answer her for a day then I would just set up a time and place after ignoring her confrontational text in the first place.

Edit: I forgot to add that unadding someone on snap is a good way to see if they have interest in you as most interested people will message asking why you unfriended them. And no unfriending is not a butthurt action at all especially on snap

[–]xddm26532 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

if a girl reaches out to you after you ghost her, it generally means an easy lay. I don't blame you for how you responded but next time recognize the opportunity and throw out a straightforward request like "yeah been busy, you wanna come over?" The ball is in your court so she will almost always say yes

[–]HurricaneHugues-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

No, it generally means she's fishing for orbiters. She knows she used to get free attention from you, and she knows most men are weak with that mentality that you have right now thinking that just because she throws you a bone you have a "chance". You think with your dick and not your brain

[–]Look_Ma_Im_On_Reddit2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can smell the butthurt from here

[–]smirk_addict2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think you did right. These comments are pathetic. I call girls out on their shit all the time. And I’m totally ok with never seeing them again. I ghost them, or they apologize or sometimes they’ve even treated me because I had the balls to check them. Women play games like this because guys tolerate them just for sex. But then they have the nerve to talk down to you because you won’t. How the fuck does that work? Dude you didn’t fuck anything up. Keep pushing on.

[–]itshighdune0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Honestly I’ve just seen my friends get fucked over so much and be used as a second choice. The way I see it is if you actually have any priority in her life, you wouldn’t get a response so late, especially for a college freshman who has nothing going on. Even more so with how prevalent social media is, you know for a fact your messages are being ignored 90% of the time

[–]smirk_addict1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your are absolutely right. I agree 100 percent. Also, let’s look at this analytically. This chick goes radio silent for a week. Then double or triple text you out of nowhere and expects you to see her like nothing happened. She wants to know why you unfriended her on snap and tries to play some mind game by asking you if you hate her. She knows she was on some bullshit. So what are your options? You can respond immediately like bitch and smooth things out because you’d be desperate to see her again because you’re hoping for sex...(Be in her frame) OR You can slow roll and reply hours later to not look as invested and she’ll probably not even be interested anymore and have moved down her list of guys that can give her attention. You made the right decision. And it’s not like you seeked her out. So I don’t understand how you qualify as butthurt. If I don’t like a girl I let them know why. Otherwise they feign ignorance about their shitty behavior. Then I just feel stupid and fake as she and I both know I’m tolerating her shit.

[–]idontmiind8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

your ego comes before your dick, doesn't it? go around feeling like an alpha king with a dry dick

[–]realname318 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not to say you're wrong, do what you want to do, but that's why we're in this mess, men putting women ahead of themselves instead of themselves.

[–]idontmiind-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

there's 2 types of giving yourself value as far as I can see:

  1. Getting yourself to feel like a chad
  2. Actually get some pussy and be a chad

now if you can do both, more power to you. Op seems stuck on 1. Long term value vs short term ego burst

[–]HangsHeKing1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So do you put pussy over your own self respect?

[–]Totalherenow7 points8 points  (11 children) | Copy

I think you responded right. You don't play games, you told her. Why should you be her back up plans?

[–]Twenty_league_boots5 points6 points  (10 children) | Copy

It's not "playing games" when a girl doesn't fucking text you immediately, jesus christ. Let things flow.

[–]dsgk_9910 points11 points  (4 children) | Copy

She ghosted him for a week though

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal-1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

And?

If he was spinning plates, as girls do naturally, there shouldn’t be a big issue. After she didn’t respond OP should’ve just brushed it off and talked to other girls. And look, she came back for Round 2.

The default of men today is to idealize the Disney fantasy. They do it more so than women.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

There should be. It means OP is not a priority and is just an afterthought.

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

As she should be for him as well. The problem is that he valued her too much from the beginning and was dependent on a positive reaction.

[–]Twenty_league_boots-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's not "ghosting" when you aren't in a fucking relationship. People have shit going on, I've waited a week to reach out to girls I was interested in simply because of being busy.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

A week though? Is your self esteem that low?

[–]Twenty_league_boots0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

My self esteem? Dude, I'm texting so many girls that it'd be a fucking relief if one of them didn't text me for a week.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How many are you fucking?

[–]Twenty_league_boots0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

All of them, why the hell would I waste time texting girls I wasn't fucking? That would only happen with a new girl, and why would I care if she takes a week to text? It's not like I'm sitting around pining after her.

[–]Don_Draper271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best response is no response. You replied badly

[–]Ohboohoolittlegirl1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just something to point out. I have no contact with my plates unless we are having a meeting soon. This means I won't speak to them for 1.5 to 3 weeks. If you can't handle little contact, perhaps plating is not for you?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You sound butthurt. No need to DEER. No need to explain stuff. She's a woman.

[–]taurusbabee1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I honestly think you did the right thing. I think when anyone, man or woman, is truly interested in someone they wouldn't leave them hanging for a week.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Big facts. If it's not a hard yes, it's always a fuck no.

[–]animal-mother0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Lot of people have given you good insight here. As far as getting ghosted for a week, ffs she's probably not that busy but she could be, so give them two weeks to catch up their shit or hell, even a whole menstrual cycle and stop being so insecure over such a brief radio silence (it does mean you're far from top priority though.)

[–]HurricaneHugues1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Girls are on their phones 24/7. Give me a fucking break.

[–]animal-mother0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol I'm not saying OP is a priority in her life but if he was patient enough he could probably still start to spin this plate.

I'm just telling him to keep his insecurity to himself in the future.

I know it shows that she'll be held to zero accountability but fuck, he's clearly low enough in her eyes that any attempt to pin some onto her would result in her bolting. She's just a modern, promiscuous woman and I wouldn't fault her for fucking with TrenChad ProvironDick (just an example) first.

[–]ngyuhnang0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I only hard next one girl because I was having a oneitis and I had to. Soft next is enough if she ignores you, hard next does sound butthurt.

[–]BeeBopJoe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah u did good, keep ignoring her

[–]deathhandmachiavelli0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That was cringey how you passed up on an easy hook-up.

(Its not too late to recover though)

[–]-Skizzy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think you handled it well lol. Just friend zone and keep your distance.

[–]pro_cion0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well, if you don't have any plans for her - i'd say it's okay, but if you want to have sex/hang out/date her I wouldn't be that cold as it might turn her off.

So if you wanted to increase your value in her eyes and show that you're abundant and not needy you could do that in a less harsh manner.

[–]Sylvester_Sterone0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great experience for practice. Be busy. Most girls in this age do this stuff. Chances are that she is seeing other guys too.

Did you get anywhere with this girl?

Perhaps the best response was to ignore instead of saying that you don't play games; makes it sounds like you were upset and deleted her after just a week of no contact. She had this impact on you and makes her feel validated.

[–]bruiser180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You showed her you were super butthurt, but you don’t want her anymore so I guess it doesn’t matter.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The right way to respond was to not respond at all. Remember you deleted her and supposedly moved on? She just got closure from you. She doesn't actually want to see you

[–]Nekoaris0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You drew your line in the sand and that is good. If someone won't respond to you for a week then you can remove them.

[–]Kyutekyu0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I mean...something could've happened. She might've been busy, or swamped, or had an emergency or who the fuck knows - a week isn't actually that long.

Ghosting, in my experience, implies deleting off social media which she didn't do. Did you try messaging her at all during that week?

[–]MurkyArtichoke0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

To everyone saying deleting her from snapchat was a mistake:

If you can handle not hitting her up at all and just ignore her, then fine, keep her in your snap.
However, if you feel like you won't be able to ignore her and move on (oneitis..) then you need to delete.

Learned this the hard way. Girl i had oneitis for kept playing with me and stringing me along, while she was secretly still not over her ex. It was such a roller-coaster shitfest where i kept taking her bait. I finally deleted her one night, in anger, after she played me at a bar, and i've never looked back. I was such a different person at that time..

[–]Herdsengineers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good instincts, bad execution.

If you're really done, then no need to respond. Just be done.

If you respond, then just be lighthearted and tell her where to meet you.

Unfriending after 1 week is a bit quick. Leave her on there and let her show on your friend list. Social proof for future women.

[–]Whitefarmer0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

You did good and she is far from gone you got her attention now so let the game begin

[–]itshighdune0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Exactly how? From the comments if I feel like I fucked it so I’ll take any specific guidance I can get

[–]Whitefarmer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You have her trying to pick you up now that’s a win in my eyes half these clowns commenting don’t know what that’s like ! Why the fuck would she ask you out ? She’s into you because you are not like the rest of them. You are a man that won’t do anything for a lay

[–]Whitefarmer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A lot of comments are saying she’s gone . Why ? Ask if she tried sending nudes get her going a little and set up a date ! I think she respects you for not being a little orbiter Snapchating her all day that’s why she texted

[–]Incaahhh0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You essentially cockblocked yourself OP. Maybe if you didnt remove her from Snapchat she wouldnt have even messaged you. But she did give you a chance to bang her

[–]lord_ah-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bitch learned a lesson...

[–]wimpxd75-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

New phone who diz?

[–]H_Crush-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

"haha, hey trouble" "come join me at xx at yy pm. wear something cute"

[–]HurricaneHugues2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cringe



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