I have been Falsely accused of Rape and kicked out of University

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September 9, 2019

Not sure how you guys can help me or what advice you can give me. But I have just been accused of raping a woman when I know for I fact I did not. The most we did is make out and I touched her boobs, and for whatever reason she reports me 3 months later to the University claiming I had raped her. I guess this post is mostly to vent to people who can see the reasons behind this and the bigger picture. I am 19.

I'm in a terrible mood, I've had mental health issues for years and am thinking about hurting myself and all other people. My life feels as if it has been taken away from me and all I am left with is anger and hatred. I had just met a woman who I had a genuine connection with (call me blue pilled but that's how I feel) and now I can't even speak to her. My friends, my rugby and basketball team and my home have all been taken away.

I'm gonna contact my dads lawyer tomorrow and see what we can do. What do you guys think I should do? The gym I use is at the University, I was making very good progress and it shows, I have already started to get fat, I have great pain in my heart, what the fuck should I do??

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Title I have been Falsely accused of Rape and kicked out of University
Author Dhahill
Upvotes 355
Comments 133
Date 09 September 2019 05:57 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/252414
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[–]youcancallmedada246 points247 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s awful. Sorry brother. Get in contact with a lawyer and keep doing your shit unrelated to school and just lay low for a while. Have some time to relax and think.

[–]AnxiousProof175 points176 points  (5 children) | Copy

The burden of proof lies with the person making the accusation. Not to say people don't jump to conclusions, assuming guilt without evidence... legally there are precedents for things just like this. Most likely it would be in your best interest to pursue legal settlement. There are a plethora of U.S. court cases showcasing just how hard judges can shaft universities, and they will, provided you have evidence and/or a better argument on your side.

Your father's attorney may or may not be able to help you, but if he can't for whatever reason, I recommend seeking out the counsel of an education attorney. As a paying student you have a lot more rights than the university want's you (or any student to know). It may seem like you're fighting an uphill battle, but I recall reading a court transcript where a student sued a Colorado medical school because they did not disclose to him that he would only have one opportunity to pass or fail a test, prior to administering the test. When the student failed and couldn't retake the test the judge ruled in his favor and ordered the university to let him sit for the next available exam.

Here's something that's a little bit closer to your issue, taken from an article which I will link down below:

"...But then John took a step that is becoming more common among students who believe they have been harmed by tough policies aimed at combating campus sexual assault. He hired a lawyer and took the university to court, maintaining his innocence and charging the school had denied him even the rudiments of due process, specifically the right to question or cross-examine his accuser.  

And in the preliminary legal skirmishing that has taken place so far, a federal appeals court thunderously rejected the university's motion to dismiss John's lawsuit...."

Don't rollover, fight back and file a lawsuit against the university. You've got a good chance to win, and when you do win make sure to file a lawsuit against your accuser because a false allegation against you of a serious crime, such as rape or murder, can be the basis of a defamation of character lawsuit in and of itself. She caused real damage with her statement, your life is on hold because of this. Don't. Roll. Over.

Link as stated above: https://www.realclearinvestigations.com/articles/2018/10/24/reversing_the_verdict_campus_sex_assault_cases_and_the_courts.html

[–]coloredzebra33 points34 points  (2 children) | Copy

The problem with school systems, is that they have their own set of jurisdictions. I recall back in school, friends of mine got into legal trouble, however given school grounds policy, their rights were expunged completely.

Although I do agree, don't bend over backwards, and fight for your constitutional rights which have been violated.

[–]AnxiousProof41 points42 points  (1 child) | Copy

More and more courts are now recognizing the flaws in these unprofessional kangaroo courts we consider "Campus Judicial Systems". Deciding that these cases are in an environment that is highly politicized and discriminatory.

The more social pressure that campuses experience to expel accused students, the more you’re going to see successful cases brought by accused students.

I remember hearing of ten or so pending lawsuits very similar to OP's circumstance back in 2016 alone, some of them won, some dismissed, some still pending. If anybody is interested I'd be more than happy to find any supporting court transcripts or rulings shining a more positive light on the matter.

If this happened in 2011-2013, OP would be straight-fucked. However time's are-a-changing and from the sound of it OP, you don't have much to lose at this point.

[–]AloofusMaximus3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I thought I remembered reading a case where (but I want to say it was a discrimination case), where if the school is substantially funded by tax dollars (which is a lot of them) then all applicable government regulations/restrictions apply (such as US and state constitutions).

I'm a few years out of school (and also not up to speed on current case law), but I'd imagine the largest factor would be public v. privately funded.

[–]ducaati3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

+1 to that. Once you're cleared, come back with those guns blazin', don't hold anything back. Only way ro win a fight.

[–]moomoocowbrow0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah and I would add, just read this shit every morning because I couldn't have said it better.

[–]SheriffBart4258 points59 points  (1 child) | Copy

I don't want to dictate anything to you. But, FUCK THAT SHIT!!!! If I were in your position, I would fight that with every inch of my being. I'll be fucking damned if I let some dumb feminist bitch ruin my reputation with no evidence. You should make that university sorry for ever having fucked with you. Don't discount your own power.

Obviously, you should lawyer up and I see you're on that path.

Beyond that, you need to collect as much information and proof that you've had normal relations with that woman. What did she text you after the night in question? Get fucking organized! Sherlock fucking Holmes. Let's go, young man! Strap on your boots and take it to them.

Would Crocodile Dundee take it like a bitch? NO! Would Steve Irwin? NO! Fight. Back.

[–]TusharDua3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly man, strap up! Stand up for yourself against that bitch.

[–]PlanKash30 points31 points  (3 children) | Copy

the only, ONLY advice you need: do not talk to the police

[–]Fiendorfoes10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely DO NOT !!!! Unless your paid lawyer thinks it may be helpful but only if you agree and he or she is with you!!! But for real, don’t talk to the police!!!!!!

[–]79rustyk101 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the main thing everyone should know from the time they begin to venture out away from their parents.

[–]Mister_Lymon_Zerga1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the most relevant video.



[–]Redditgoodaccount26 points27 points  (0 children) | Copy

Document all your pain all you are going through now , if you are innocent she'll have to pay it all.

See a psychiatrist

[–]Drakane118 points19 points  (9 children) | Copy

what country are u in

[–]Dhahill[S] 22 points23 points  (7 children) | Copy


[–]ank_the_elder17 points18 points  (5 children) | Copy

They can just kick you out without any criminal charges? I’m in Australia too. Which university?

[–]Dhahill[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Newcastle uni, yea no criminal charges

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm also in Australia at uni and this guys story really doesn't sound right. There must be more to it.

EDIT: Australia really isn't a "guilty until proven innocent" far left type place, even at universities. People are fairly conservative and an accusation at uni would certainly result in an investigation before anything else. I'm not saying OP is necessarily full of shit but there's probably a lot he isn't telling us.

[–]Productivity1013 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm from Australia and at university and I would say the Universities definitely are far left.

[–]ogkushinjapan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Most universities across the globe are far left.

[–]PayneGreyWolf2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

In the US too. The school isn't the entity that presses charges.

[–]coloredzebra22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Guess "innocent until proven guilty" clause has gone out the window.

[–]I-am-ed13 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy

no messages or proof of logistics you can use as evidence?

[–]Dhahill[S] 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

Nah man I really wish I did

[–]trpppp1235 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you had text messages previously and deleted them, maybe you can call your cell phone provider up and get records of text messages sent and received. Most companies have those I think.

[–]MultiMidsets0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

True i think that will work as long as they know its for legal use

[–]I-am-ed2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

damn, man I hope things get better

[–]krizzywizzy48 points49 points  (9 children) | Copy

bro. make a video about it on youtube. grab people's attention but dont play victim. this shit is very impactful to your life, so might as well make it a positive.

that's how what i would've done.

in return i get the following;

-cleared my name -express my concern and emotion -become a hero to those who share my frustration -become famous (status) -meet new people -be on tv.

idk what your goals in life are man, but regardless in this way.. you are acting courageously, that's the bottom line.

Watch tupac's interview somewhere on youtube where the interviewer opened up the topic of his rape accusations. He spoke with CONVICTION, you can see it in his eyes and his whole being that he did not do such thing. Alot of people felt that and they would feel you as well. I already feel a connection between u and me even tho i've never been accused of rape but i see it a bit, in deceit full women and whiteknights do so upon me and alot of guys i know... which is complete BULLSHIT. They're playing the power game. Play the game! beat them.

[–]battlebrothercain12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

I actually full heartedly agree with the post above. Prep an outline, make a video 3-4 minutes fully explaining the situation, and dive deep into how false rape accusations affect young men. Seriously play the game. Post it on reddit, social media, youtube, conservative new networks etc. Shit would go viral. Set the precedent and the record straight.

[–]unn4med2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed. Hit people with the emotion you’re going through. Make them relate to you, connect with you, truly understand what this burden is like. Don’t play victim, but make people think for themselves and realize the horror of the accusation on their own.

[–]throaway6940415 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

Underrated Comment. Put a video titled 'Falsely Accused of Rape' and make it public and it will go viral within seconds and you will be able to beat them much more quickly.

[–]Erikacoleman10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well share it on social media.. Well help it get famous

[–]cdh10032 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

People like Ashe Schow have done a good job on Twitter and print media in highlighting false claims in US unis.

[–]benmarvin8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Um. Definitely talk to a lawyer before you do this. And consult with them if it's actually a good idea or not.

[–]KilgorrreTrout3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, I agree with you and think the above is actually terrible advice. Speak to a lawyer first. OP will likely want to sue the school and the accuser. If that's the case, talking about it on social media can only hurt. Post a video about it after the case is won.

[–]Mister_Lymon_Zerga0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'd also show the video to a lawyer before you post it to make sure no one can come after you for defamation.

[–]Look_Ma_Im_On_Reddit8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lawyer up immediately. It is okay to feel angry but focus that anger onto clearing your name, not into hurting yourself or others. Do not speak to anyone unless your lawyer is present.

[–]TheWalkingNightmare8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Post this to the 'legaladvice' subreddit as well.

[–]pro_cion7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't get it - how come they can kick you out of uni without evidence of the rape?

You definitely need to have an appointment with a lawyer.

About the gym - the one in your uni is not the only one, you know that.

About getting fat - it's not about the gym, it's 95% about the diet, so stop blaming everything around you and start taking responsibility for your life.

[–]Cientocincuenta6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Could you go in a little detail in how was the whole process, from they informing you you were in trouble to the verdict? What she did present as evidence? There was a "sexual misbehavior protocol" imposed at my uni last year, and it could help in not getting blind sided with an accusation. Thanks for sharing. Hope the best for you.

[–]Dhahill[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

It is literally just a he said she said, the uni didn’t even give a time or name or anything

[–]Cientocincuenta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Holy fucking god. How is that the rule of law? It's an academic Avada Kedabra.

[–]Fukboi13996 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

take it easy brother, listen to what the lawyer has to say, accept the fact that u have to fight this . Don't stop gym , keep making progress.

[–]Autistic_Reeeeeeeeee13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

Make a formal complaint. Get in touch with a lawyer and see what your options are.

If you are in Australia the first thing you do is contact these guys and with the help of your lawyer make a formal complaint. He might have other suggestions.

Call the local police station and ask them what can be done about false rape accusations leading to you getting kicked out of university. The lawyer will obviously know how best to proceed.

You simply can't let this go because it will be permanently on your record and may come back to haunt you later on in life. Like if you ever got a public or political job.

You can't be lazy about these things. If you are 100% innocent you absolutely need to contact a lawyer. Most of them will have free consultations.

As soon as the girl who accused you gets wind of how far you have taken this she will either double down on her claims or the more likely option is she will be forced to admit she was wrong and exonerate you of any wrong doing.

Then you can take legal action against her for defamation and against the university.

Either way you are innocent until proven guilty and they can't prove you are guilty. So worst case scenario is she gets away with it. Best case scenario she gets charged and the university has to pay you a settlement or for the damages and grief they have caused you.

The law works a little differently to how I put it but you get the gist.

Now is not the time to be lazy.

[–]Dhahill[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

thanks i'll actually do that

[–]Nergaal4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have you talked to your parents or a therapist? What sort of feedback did they give you?

[–]2stoned0jaguar9tre3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

No kino on campus

[–]mustache_ride_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love this post. In decades, antropologist will have mountains of evidence from online posts like this to understand the period we're dealing with today. Folks, we are under assault by she-devils. Countless innocent men have had their lives destroyed in the last 2 decades by these demons. They are everywhere.

For every high-profile celebrity you see online going down in flames there are hundreds of thousands of cases you don't see because they're not news-worthy. How many are legitimate assault cases? How many of them fabricated? Record all your interactions with women, keep a paper trail, witnesses, and as much evidence as you can. These are dark times to be men.

p.s: if there's any she-devils lurking here reading this thinking her actions are justified because "this guy was like really mean and doesn't treat women with respect so it's like totally justified I ruined his life", nobody appointed you judge, jury and executioner.

[–]bakamoney2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep your texts / calls ready just in case. Dig out all the app logs.

[–]1InformalCriticism2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have survived false rape accusation. It sounds like you're surviving, too. Continue to survive and never forget how it happened.

[–]Lateralanouncer2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I can’t imagine what you are going through. A 40 man would struggle to deal with this and your only 19. I’m sorry that you have to deal with such a cruel life lesson. If you handle this property and don’t let them beet you emotionally it will make you stronger. Lawyer up and fight, but don’t let it define you, let it make you.

To other people reading this. Old trp used to talk about recording every sexual interaction with woman.

[–]beachbbqlover2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If the accusation is false and you haven't gone to any sort of trial, sue them for libel, for a refund of your tuition, and defamation of character. They're claiming you've done this, but you clearly haven't in the eyes of the law.

[–]vicious_armbar2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Be happy!!! This might be the best thing that ever happened to you! In the United States men who are kickes out of a university without evidence of a crime being committed are getting multi-million dollar settlements after hiring a lawyer.

[–]boom_bostic2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don’t hurt yourself, brother. It may not seem like it now...but this trial will only make you better going forward. What matters most, is how you respond when tested. We don’t think of it this way (because we’re too consumed with societal codes) but we should be thankful for hardships that don’t involve either us or our loved ones being killed. It’s not too often that we meet a true challenge in life. (When I say challenge, I mean like when you go up against something that truly test the fibers of who you are.) So you should be thankful for this rare opportunity to make yourself better, more resilient, stronger and most of all...more complete.

[–]Dhahill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks mate

[–]Bilderbergerwcheese 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

What country is your university in?

[–]Dhahill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Leave the west. I had similar thing in the uni but nothing came out.

[–]NeedRealityShock1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Any idea why she did it?

[–]againstsinglemothers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Coz she had a stinky cunt

[–]Hedser911 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sue her for slander and what not, and the university too.

[–]jzekyll41 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pm me

[–]OfficerWade1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hmm. I’m not going to go in to the gory details and steal your post, needless to say I went through thus at my school. Girl tells parents, parents tell school, boy gets kicked out of school. It sucks. Make new friends....

[–]morgandavies8341 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Been there seen it done it.

Ride it out. I too felt like it was the end of my life but ultimately if you didn't do it then you will be exonerated or you wont be going to prison at the very least.

Now with that out of the way, get ready to fight. prepare any evidence that will exonerate you and build a case. See a lawyer, see a psychiatrist get anyone who is still one your side and surround yourselves with them. If your family are still onside then go back to your family home if not then fuck them, they weren't any family of yours to begin with, offer no forgiveness when this is over, friends too.

That was how I did it, it was the toughest period of my entire life and yet here I stand, happy, fulfilled successful.

There is life after these things.

Also go read Marcus Aurelius' meditations it will teach you how to be an emotionally closed circuit despite the chaos around you.

Good luck.

[–]Nighthawkdragon81 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is really tough man, I'm not going to sugar coat it. The only positive I can say is that you are going to have to go past your reputation etc and find happiness from inside yourself.

[–]MultiMidsets1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep us updated

[–]nexther1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s getting herself into some real trouble...

[–]Balea20191 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What do you study?

If is not a STEM degree, maybe re-consider not going back to Uni as an option.

If you are innocent, then keep the fight on man. Your concience is the last thing you should lose!

[–]ilovevidya3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just keep turning up to university. They have no right to cancel your education over the words of another student.

I've been falsely accused before as well and all I did was protect my name at all costs.

Don't sink into resentment like you are doing. Seems you want to believe that the world is unfair and unjust to take responsibility away from yourself, and this situation helps you justify that world view. It's not. Go back to uni, if they say a thing just say you aren't quitting on your education because of a false accusation. Unless they can prove otherwise I'm sure what they're doing is illegal.

[–]its-mystery1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If there’s some good lawyer on this sub, please help this young man

[–]SirAttackHelicopter1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

There is a reason why boys are dropping out of schooling at record numbers, why boys are starting to avoid college bars and frat parties in droves, why boys are refusing alcohol during dates, etc. The world just isn't fair, and so many women are claiming rape as if it was the lipstick color of the day. There was never a patriarchy, and there was ALWAYS a matriarchy. The sooner you can come to terms with this and put yourself and your career and your bros before hoes, the happier you will be.

Remember, TRP didn't make toxic femininity. Feminism made TRP.

[–]AceMav210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]RPthrowaway1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm sorry man, there's nothing easy in this situation. Contact a lawyer, you have options and definitely will at least get your day in court if they threw you out of school with no evidence or police report (if you're in the US, where our admin has been rolling back some of the campus kangaroo court bs).

Other than that...just take care of yourself right now. You've been handed a steaming pile of shit, no doubt about it...turn off all the social media and shit for a bit and just take care of yourself out there man. Good luck. You'll be okay.

[–]Sylvester_Sterone0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get a lawyer. Don't speak to anybody until you get a lawyer; don't post anything on social media.

Save your texts.

Have you been summoned to appear in the university court system?

[–]PayneGreyWolf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, get your priorities straight. Fuck everything besides getting past this false rape accusation. Go over to the legaladvice subreddit and get some counsel from a lawyer. This is the rest of your life on the line.

[–]1sweets0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read your inbox. Ignore all advice from these comments until you have read inbox

[–]escapethesolarsystem0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

See this as an opportunity to take your life in a different direction, change is a good thing, don't be depressed. It's cliche but for every door that closes, another one opens. Look for the open doors and go through, you still have a bright future, don't sweat it.

That being said, burn down that fucking university down with your dad's lawyer (legally, of course). Embarrass them in the media, make them and the girl pay. Get every charge you can against them - hit them with every form of criminal and civil liability.

[–]wr4l0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get a lawyer. Fight the case. Sue for defamation.

[–]battlebrothercain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Only way you’re going to come out of this semi-unscathed is to hit people in their emotions.

[–]mustardplug10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lawyer and don’t write anything that will hurt your position in court. If you’re innocent you should fight and win this

[–]Truedemocracy50 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Count your blessings as you can potentially sue the school and make $$$

Obviously don’t hurt yourself or others

[–]super7up0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would recommenced not writing stuff like wanting to hurt others if you’re going to pursue legal activity, either.

Good luck and definitely go after the school and her if what your claiming is true.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"What do you guys think I should do?"

Get in contact with your dad's lawyer. You're gonna have to sue the school and the girl.

[–]kellykebab0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sue the school. Sue the girl. It's pretty straightforward.

[–]luccisanolean0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

practice seminal retention and nose breathing. That will give you courage and tranquility to face whatever you need to face. I've been falsely accused via social media, it will pass.

[–]JohnPettimore0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have been falsely accused in my career of sexual harassment three times. My advice is simple: call an attorney right now. You're looking for a plaintiff's attorney who specializes in false accusations of sexual assault. If, in fact, she lied, you can sue the school, and her. And win.

[–]Kabuki4310 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lawyer up and make sure you burn the bitch and university down. Make an example, get support from local mens right group. Fight fiercely

[–]SaharaFatCat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Most of this is good for any criminal charge type issues:

  1. Don't make any statements about this incident to people, even if you think they are your friend.

  2. Speak to a lawyer. Google lawyers from your country with experience in this particular field and read about cases similar to yours. Show nothing to police/school officials without your lawyers consent. Many have experience suing for damages.

  3. Document everything you can. Text messages, etc. Between you and anyone involved. Write a timeline and reference attached documents. Only give to your lawyer. Find witnesses to anything that may have happened. Get signed statements with dates and times if possible.

  4. Get a job... Even a shitty job. Save all your money. You will need it for a good lawyer.

  5. Be careful with drugs and alcohol. It can make your mental health issues worse.

  6. Be hopeful.... It may be a small chance... But u might get paid for this. Transfer if possible.

Edit: Also stay off/delete social media and print screen anything from others accounts from that time frame. You might find photos etc. Don't use your accounts for this. Stay away from the girl at all costs.

[–]Polojames1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When did a kiss and a boob grab become rape?

These idiots were in such a rush to get "Cosby", that they've redefined rape, you don't even have to 'touch them'' anymore, thanks fat ass Louis C.K. and Weinstein for that.... idiots.

(I mean, yes she may not have wanted it(allegedly), but that would be like "oh, I didn't like him, he tried to kiss me, gross" is what girls used to say, now it's a full-blown "rape"? what? Just my take on it, I don't trust these hoes)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

ooh ooh aa aa

[–]olinvomibo1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If any kind of important evidence fact comes into your mind, immediately write it down, other wise you might forget them, then collect them and give it to your lawyer, count your losses as well

[–]cdh10030 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Previous comment was removed by moderator bot. To reiterate: there is a 'SupportForTheAccused' sub which might help. Lots of stories similar to yours.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stick to what the lawyer says, you have to change the university, make sure you get a clearance and "clear character certificate" from the university to join a new one. Relax yourself

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

For others doing self-progress:

Do not Fuck during the Process

[–]immikeyiiirock0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Too much information lacking for any of us to make a judgment one way or another - at least from our perspective on Reddit, this is truly a he-said-she-said situation. If that's the case, really you just gotta work with a lawyer, school, family, friends, etc. to do what you gotta do to present yourself in the best light. Unlike perhaps most Redditors here, I'm not going to immediately jump on the calling the woman a liar band-wagon as we really don't know the details from your vague description of what happened (what does she assert you did to "rape" her?). I'd suggest you also don't come at this from the angle of generally attacking women who come out with these sorts of accusations as liars - it's going to make you look bad in that many women DO indeed face these sorts of horrible situations. Wishing you the best.

[–]BluBlac590 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Admit nothing and Sue them. The reason these cases have dropped out of the news is that the schools are being sued and the schools are losing. It's your word against hers there's no proof. Do don't even admit to touching her. Sue !Sue ! Sue ! Sue for reinstatement and get as much for damages as you can and get a public apology. She's lying to hurt you there's no harm in lying to save yourself.

[–]redlizard30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Treat it just like you would the cops: don't say anything (especially don't admit to anything) and then fight it. Luckily, most universities will not kick you out unless there is some sort of evidence.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (17 children) | Copy

First off, go for a very long drive, just let it soak in, let yourself process your anger.

I'm telling you now, it'll be ok. Focus on the future and not the past.

[–]SICFJC10 points11 points  (8 children) | Copy

that's completely unhelpful advice.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy

K. I'm not going to let a 19 year old actually ruin his life based off the action of one attention seeking whore.

[–]Captain_Quick 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Getting into a road rage incident might ruin his life.

[–]realname36 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

am thinking about hurting myself and all other people

First off, go for a very long drive

I don't think so chief

[–]SICFJC0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

how does "processing his anger" have any benefit on the university and the girl, and possible charges?
What he needs to be doing is suing the girl and the university.

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy

It doesn't. It helps him not kill himself.

He's already seeing a lawyer. Don't make him the scapegoat of your anger, he has a life to live.

[–]SICFJC2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lmao you're trying so hard to be deep.

The dude needs practical advice. This could ruin his life and you're just saying it'll be okay just ignore it.

He needs to face this head on and solve it.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm not asking him to ignore it. He's already seeing a lawyer. He doesn't need legal advice from me rn, he needs personal advice. Thanks for your comments! Have a nice day :)

[–]throaway694040 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

You really expect him to focus on his future and pretending things will be ok then when his whole life is fucked - no uni, no gf, reputation is fucked?

[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points  (6 children) | Copy

It's like you guys want to be depressed and angry, for the rest of your lives. Incel horde, strikes again!

[–]throaway694040 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Nope,but if he pretends everything is well and doesnt do anything to beat the people who falsely accused him his life will become worse.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

He's literally saying he's meeting a lawyer, what more can he do except take care of himself for a minute and get prepared for what's coming up. You think if he gets 10 lawyers and wins the case, that's going to solve his problems? His teams, his friends, his girls, his reputation, the stigma, his anger? He needs all the legal help he can get, but he also needs a life after this and needs to move on. He'll only be defined by this if he lets himself be, and you yahoos are acting like that's all he is. Don't make him the scapegoat for your anger, and he'll get all the legal help he can, but he also needs to live an actual and long life after this

[–]throaway694040 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

If you asked him to actually do something instead of going on a long drive it would have been a better idea. Yes lawyers can do shit, but he also needs to gain support for his case or else he will lose. He can do this by posting a video on social media and we can help in that cause. Also theres a very high chance he may become more depressed and kill himself if he goes on a drive.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy

None of you understand how either sexual politics works or what it means to blow off steam. Incel horde, strikes again.

[–]throaway694040 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

sorry for voicing my concerns against your unhelpful opinion. A man like you has probably been accused numerous times for sexually harassing other women thus knows how 'sexual politics' work.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Listen kid, you don't know what you're talking about. Don't make it worse for yourself by being unwilling to learn. At some point, you've got to switch off the computer and head into the real world, and it doesn't matter what Internet comments there are then, you might as well be prepared and happy. Cheers.

[–]ThrowsSharksAtBirds0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

This story smells. You cannot get kicked out like this. OP is also replying very vague for someone who is having shit. Sounds to me you’re not being honest here.

[–]cdh10031 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You've not seen enough of the Title IX nonsense that goes on in the US, clearly. loads of cases where guys have been suspended on merely the word of an accuser.

[–]McVaghunter0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

am thinking about hurting myself and all other people

someone in Australia needs to alert the authorities asap

[–]Anitaliandude-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

"Never fuck crazy"

You need to develop an eye and ear for the right bitches to have sex with. Tame ones. If you fuck dodgy nasty ones you gotta make sure you have evidence like audio or video to cover your ass if she decides she wants to masturbate with the thought of ruining your life.

Welcome to the real world, you just got fucked ahaha

[–]Alkenko 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

How the fuck is this helping? This shit can happen to anybody out of the blue

[–]Anitaliandude0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're not wrong

[–]Wjourney-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]lonelythrowaway012 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

This is why I don’t go outside, this is your first mistake as a genetically inferior male

[–]throaway694040 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Is that why your lonely?

[–]Thorondor_Rising0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

@Mods. Ban this faggot troll already.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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