There's two disagreements that are on the horizon. All 3 kids are in public school. She's always wanted to homeschool and is telling everyone she's going to do it. She knows that I'm not ok with it. I know the answer. "Say no and leave it at that. Why do you care what she thinks?" She's also wanting to build a house. Which we could afford if she continues to work full time and we save for a few years. But those two desires are mutually exclusive. She can't homeschool and build a house. I'm planning on saying no to homeschool and if she wants to work and save the cash for building a house I'm not going to stop her from doing that.
I know what I'm going to do so I'm not asking for advice on what I should do. I'm asking for your experiences. When have you had a really big disagreement and how did that play out when you said "no"?
Examples include when to sell the house, which city to move to, which house to buy or build, where to send the kids to school, homeschool vs public vs private school, whether or not to have kids or whether or not to have another kid. Perhaps something she's passionate about but for various reasons you had to put your foot down and say no.
Edit: /u/Redpillbrigade17 hit the nail on the head. Crazy how insightful you guys are going off so little info. The issue here is strategy vs tactics. I have the vision but I'm just struggling on how to deal with the situations as they come up. I know there's arguments in the future and need to be prepared on how to deal.