Today, I failed. I thought I was doing everything right, but she ended up telling HR that I was making her “uncomfortable”.

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September 10, 2019

1.) call me an idiot because I tried to flirt with a girl at work. I get it.

2.) call me an even bigger idiot for flirting with her knowing she had a bf. I also get it.

Ok, let’s begin.

Just met this girl for the first time today. We work as community safe keepers, so we’re to report any danger we see.

We are usually paired with a partner, and are area is pretty private/quiet. Who we work with changes everyday, and today, by the luck of Jupiter’s cock, I was paired with a beauty.

I had just read “how to slay like a warlord” on this subs side bar, so I was like “fuck it, what can go wrong”.

Initially things are going great. She digs my confidence, she’s laughing, blah blah blah.

She then tells me she has a BF, and that she’s pretty happy. I say something a long the lines of “poor guy, he doesn’t know who he’s dealing with” or something like that. She starts going crazy laughing, touches my shoulder.

I poke a little fun at her relationship, and we continue talking.

She then asks me to walk with her to a place that’s absolutely abandoned. At this point I’m wondering if I’m about to rail this broad right here.

She even lifted up her shirt, clearly showing her amazing abs/flat stomach, and making a comment about “her pants are too big” and how “you can see her underwear.”

Nothing happened, but not because I didn’t make a move. It’s because we weren’t isolated after all, as more of our coworkers ended up showing up.

Later in the night we’re able to finally be alone again. She’s different this time though. She’s on her phone the whole time. Is acting very quiet. Complete 180.

I keep talking/acting as if I don’t know it, or not aware to how quiet she’s being. Hoping that it’ll end up changing (like the warlord thread says).

Nope. She continues to be quiet, and giving me one word responses. At this point, I tell myself “fuck it just walk away”. So i tell her, “I’m going to go chat with some other friends, be safe.” And I walk away.

This wasn’t the first time that night I drew space between us. I had done it a couple times earlier and both times she walked up to me and made an excuse to come talk.

Anyway, you’d imagine my surprise when..

I get back to main base at the end of my shift to see her in there and a supervisor telling me that “we need to talk.”

They start telling me how I made her feel very uncomfortable. How she told them I was a nice guy, but she thought our conversations were inappropriate for work.

Idk guys, Idk how the fuck this happened. I was embarrassed. Told the supervisors that nothing inappropriate was said, and that this catches me totally off guard.

WTF. Never again, man.

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Title Today, I failed. I thought I was doing everything right, but she ended up telling HR that I was making her “uncomfortable”.
Author throwitaway1112344hs
Upvotes 65
Comments 32
Date 10 September 2019 08:40 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Abnull81 points82 points  (4 children) | Copy

Hahaha, sorry bro, sounds like a shit situation.

You learnt a lesson so, all good. Don’t date girls at work.

Personally I don’t think the flirting was a big deal, she seemed into it. You likely didn’t end the convo soon enough though. Better to exit at the high than wait for the low.

If you really want to date or fuck a girl at work, take things slower, let her find out your a cool cat before you turn things sexual.

Also remember that woman go with the flow and do tons of things they don’t want to, to fit in. She could have been responding to your flirting automatically without actually wanting to do and say the things she did (because of boyfriend). It means your flirting is good, but discretion and a laid back attitude is required.

My final recommendation will be no surprise though. Unless you have “fuck you” money. Don’t fuck at your workplace.

[–]curvedbymykind8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

Why would having “fuck you” money allow you to fuck at your workplace? Because you can afford to leave or get fired?

[–]Vouch33r16 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy

Exactly my man

[–]DerpJungler5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Even then, its reckless and risky to flirt at work even if you have shitton of money. Unless you are planning to leave anyway. And even then, "sexual harrassment" at workplace could ruin a mans career, no matter how much "fuck you" money he has.

Always think long-term and don't sacrifice career for a pussy

[–]flipdoggers1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also if you're working there while also having "fuck you" money, you must legit enjoy working there (or have some other reason), so it'd still be a loss for you to get fired

[–]AloofusMaximus18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy

I had a similar situation happen to me. There was a girl at work that over the course of a couple of months, seemed to be really digging me. I ended up giving her my number, and then getting hauled into the office the next week. It was actually strange because my boss read me the email she sent to her HR, and she'd both asked that I didn't get fired... But also lied.

I managed to smooth everything over, but it was not a fun situation I'm ever going to repeat.

So here's the thing... You absolutely can get shit canned for just an accusation (luckily neither of us did). Your boss will likely fire your ass in a second to avoid any bad PR.

Women absolutely will flirt with you at work for attention, the second it gets real though they can do a 180. If I had to guess from your scenario, what set her off was talking shit on her BF/relationship (or that's maybe how she took it).

It's fine to flirt a little (non sexually). Don't ever cross that line of being too personal though. No talking about sex, and nothing too intrusive into their personal lives.

[–]claykiller20102 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I ended up giving her my number, and then getting hauled into the office the next week.

Did she ask for your number? Or did you just give it to her?

Not saying you did anything wrong if you did, I mean I see no issue having your co-workers numbers, well at least at my company.

[–]AloofusMaximus1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

She didn't ask for it, I wrote it on a piece of paper with "Yes, you can buy me a drink". We're not actually co-workers either, which is why I (at the time) thought it was alright.

I don't think I did anything"wrong", because what's wrong about giving an attractive woman my number. I made the decision to do it, and dealt with the consequences.

Obviously moving forward I won't be doing that again.

[–]claykiller20101 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah, I feel you.

It's tricky man. It's cause of stuff like this I'm not as out going as I use to be in college and it sucks because as young guy in a major city who does go out, I could be meeting all sorts of new women but I feel that I have to be waaaay more careful now.

[–]AloofusMaximus5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah there are some people out there that will make a big stink about things. I've personally never seen it (in public, or anywhere else for that matter). It's easy to get a bit of a slanted view from reading too much (blogs/Reddit/forums/etc). In all reality I think those instances are pretty few and far between.

I've seen YouTube videos of women having a melt down cause a guy smiled, said hello or good morning. Still doesn't stop me from doing it.

There's just mentally ill people out there, and Im not going to change how I live; due to the possibility that I may come across a crazy person.

[–]laserdicks18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like she got caught out by someone. That's usually a cause for that type of behavior.

[–]cuztrp20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'd recommend that you practice with girls at work but never go as far as making out or taking them on a date or anything really 1on1.

Push pull. Don't touch. Tease. Dodge their shittests. Have fun. But never ever see a girl outside of work settings or take things further than a flirtatious/friendly banter. That'll be a shitting where you eat situation and you don't want that to happen.

Why not? Because girls at work have all the power to buttfuck you with a single report to HR like this one did with you.

You need to understand that TRP teaches you that society is working for the benefit of women. It sides with them in everything they do.

Here's a small example, although not significant, but just to show you how much people would favour a girl over a guy.

I was at a party organized by my company and this colleague of mine after small banter tries to snatch a lighter off my hand. A bit childish but I resist it. She clutches on my wrist and inserts her nail which left me scars. Well, I do the same. My scars were bigger than hers.

After we finished, she turns to the rest of our colleagues and says, "Look what he did to me!"

So I simply also show my wrist and say, "Look what SHE did to me. She started it".


I'm like wtf... Okay.

[–]Alok4utoday1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ohh I so agree . Infact I almost got fucked at work. Honestly I was new to a firm right after my MBA. Had way more money than I Imagined and people knew about the new folks who joined and our approx salaried. There was this crazy chik who joined on the same day . We became friends but she was way below in salary and cadre. She started shit testing me asking me to take a trip with her and that If I dont do it I am not man enough. Finally I thought what the hell. I went with her. We had a couple of drinks and made out. The next day she said we cannot be friends and I have to date her else she would tell the HR head of the firm that I had raped her. I was dumbstruck. I pretended to date her. Found another shitty but equally paying job and moved cities. Those 3 months were the most traumatizing period of my life.

[–]idontmiind6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

from what I've learnt, communication with these women must be absolutely minimal. Try befriending them or being around them and the asd starts to bubble inside them. Your persona must be left to their imagination, not be familiarized. You're in the fantasy realm(cheating = imagination so she can have plausible deniability to herself). Don't sober her up.

Anyway, avoid the unknown if you don't want trouble(esp without a proven skill of bagging these kinda girls). This shit could misfire in many ways. Not worth for a girl with only 1 pussy.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your main mistake was continuing to act cool/cocky when she withdrew. You've got to learn to calibrate when you're running game otherwise you're going to keep running into situations like this. Also, keep your emotions in check. Your success or failure with women should not affect your emotional state or personal view.

[–]flipdoggers1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can you elaborate on that kind of calibration, or point me to somewhere where I can learn more about it? I haven't heard anyone say before that you should change how you act (e.g. no longer act cool) if the girl gets quieter, in fact that almost sounds like not holding frame and allowing the girl to lead you.

[–]throwaway1999131228 points29 points  (4 children) | Copy

Redpill isnt to blame here. Your lack of knowledge of basic redpill principals are (you shat where you ate and went for a girl with a bf in a non private place letting her asd fire off).

You can say never again and thats completely fine. Its your choice whether you swallow the pill or not. No one gives a shit.

[–]throwitaway1112344hs[S] -2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

I’m not making excuses. I know I shat where I ate. I’m not in trouble, thank God, but help me out here

We were private for most of the time. When we ran into other coworkers, we acted normally. Plus, like I mentioned, we were paired so nobody expected any “funny business”.

[–]throwaway199913124 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

You say you get it but yet you are still making excuses.

Stop. Own it. Learn from it and move on.

[–]jsphere2562 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like you understand what you did wrong and learned a lesson from the experience. Good work, now everybody else go and do likewise.

[–]GoyInTheStripedPJs2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't shit where you eat, period. It's almost never worth it.

[–]civilizedfrog2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can get laid with coworkers easily. However, what happens afterwards is what no one wants to talk or even care about. People like you don't realize that the "don't shit where you eat" is said for your safety.

[–]cdh10031 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Similar(ish) experience. One girl I worked with, we used to walk home together after work. She'd wait for me, we'd walk, would usually give me a peck on the cheek when we parted. We flirted fairly openly; I even asked her explicitly whether I flirted too much and made her uncomfortable - she laughed and said no.

One night the two of us went for post-work drinks and ended up at her place (she invited me back). I didn't act on the various EoIs, however; even whilst drunk I figured it would be trouble. Next day she was cold as anything and completely blanked me. Could never work out whether it was because I ignored her come-ons and she got offended, or because her BF found out I'd been there, or something else. But it made me realise that dating a colleague was off-limits: too many women will pull a 180 for no apparent reason and suddenly jeopardize your career.

[–]Destroyerof_Souls 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

Woman hate to see a man ill, in fact, they want to run away as if they were watching a dead. That is biology the Red Pill(Men's) rightly describes. It just comes out, involuntarily. Another thing, babies don't trust their dad more than mom. Why? Because, in nowhere, in the animal kingdom, commitment is a measure of sexual fitness. From manosphere, by the way. Men should just Pump and Dump chicks & Hens.

[–]El_Serpiente_Roja0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Youre a fucking idiot it sounds like and obviously have scarcity mentality for trying a chick at your job but you live and you learn. What matters is if you learned your lesson.

[–]ModTheRedPike0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]htbf0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She punished you for not pulling the trigger on her. It IS uncomfortable to heavily flirt with someone, bring them right up to a kill (the underwear moment in your case), and end up with absolutely nothing.

[–]McVaghunter-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy


[–]11-Eleven-112 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

An autist among autists

[–]Polojames123-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she has a boyfriend and it's at 'work', leave her alone you weirdo, virgin.

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