I posted in here a few days back about my wife shit testing the hell out of me regarding parenting styles and philosophy. I'm not going to go into details, but I encourage any guys that aren't familiar to read the post and comments. Btw, thanks to all for the feedback and thoughts. Appreciate the advise and the constructive criticism.
Here's an update and a new question. The day following the pissiness from my wife, she continued to shit storm and be a bitch. I used AA and AM. Joked with her, teased her, and occasionally touched her and smacked her ass. She raged more, then started to calm down. After a few hours, the kids went to bed and she approached me and says the famous, "we need to talk..." So, I said, "ok, what's on your mind baby?" She proceeds to vent and tell me how much of an inconsiderate asshole I am, citing an example Saturday morning about how I got up early, kissed her good bye and told her I had to meet a guy that was buying a forklift from me I had advertised online. I told her where I was going and when I'd be back and left. She blew up my phone and I ignored her until I was ready to answer. I completed the transaction and came home right when I said I would. She bitched at me and vented her feelings. I actually sat and listened and fogged the hell out of her. She then went upstairs to read and to "process" the conversation. I admit, sometimes I tend to be be too much on the prick side and I do often struggle with providing adequate blue pill comfort. But this time, I think I got it right.
The next day she was pleasant as pie, in my frame, and was super sexual and we went several times last night and again this morning. I love when she behaves this way and I admit, I show weakness to you guys when I point out this validational behavior I see from her (but I make a point in my following question).
Here's my dilemma. I see alot of guys in here that struggle with adding alpha, BUT I think I'm lacking a little blue pill comfort at times. She's right, I can be a "selfish prick" (her words). How do you guys find that ideal balance? I want to find the balance between being a strong and comforting oak, without being a cold heartless asshole. Advice / comments?