I'm back on my grind of getting a number a day from a chick, and also speaking to a few guys every day (on the elevator, bus, street, class etc.) to touch up on my social skills. I've noticed that the way you speak to girls is almost the same way you'd speak to a guy, except with more of a "risk" involved, and more tension.
Today, I started off the day by speaking to random people in my class and being kind rather than "nice". If someone helped me, I would appreciate it, but I wouldn't grovel. Of my own volition, I would repay them the help tenfold because I wanted to. It's hard to put this into words, but fuck, it feels amazing. It's like I'm seeing people on a human level now. I even spoke to a girl in class and ranted about how fucking monotone the prof was and was wondering why she was scrolling through on her phone in the back of class. Her SMV was low af, but I'd have never done that before.
Anyways, I went to this marketing meeting and got a chick's facebook and also introduced myself in front of the club. I was nervous af but I grabbed the opportunity by the balls so I could build my frame and toughen myself. I also joined a group convo and went right for the chick and introduced myself, thenspoke to her for a while without cowering (though there were moments where I felt pressure or might have fucked up my expression a bit, like puckering my lips randomly or making my expression where I look up when I'm thinking), and I also sparked up a conversation with one dude when that same chick tried interjecting and I pretended not to notice while speaking to other guy (I respect the people I'm talking to). I kid you not, I felt like she mentally put me higher when I continued the convo with the guy and focused without getting distracted from her trying to interject. I wish I could verbalize this**. This might be a fucked up way to approach, but the only way I can see myself getting chicks right now is if I treat them like the guys who are distant at first, but end up following me when I bring my energy, and then I need to maintain their lower status by staying as the leader. I'll probably have to change my tactic in the future, but right now, I feel like it'll get my foot in the door and get me comfortable.** I asked the chick for her snap or number, and she seemed stunned since I was so forward rather than ask for her linkedin, but then she ended up giving me her facebook. Ngl, my heart jumped when she reacted that way, but I tried to stay unreactive. Though, I don't see how I can flirt with a chick on facebook that I met at a club (don't shit where you eat), but we'll see where this goes.
TL;DR Anyways, I'm getting better at getting numbers/info and being social with girls, now I have no fucking clue how to escalate. I'm complete trash at this. I've literally read the sidebar tons of times, and other books on theory (from mark manson, david deangelo, neil strauss) but I'm asking for a step-by-step from your personal experience once you get a number, and what helped you succeed. I'm too socially autistic to successful apply the sidebar, and I realise that I learn from simple examples and constant practice