Would you sleep with a man knowing his has a girlfriend/wife?

Reisiluu · 2019-04-25T20:08:37+00:00

I would not participate in hurting someone who hasn't wronged me in any way. How a person treats those who he doesn't benefit from tells a lot about his character. Homewreckers are scum.

Texastentialism · 2019-04-25T19:54:59+00:00

I never had sex with guys I didn't consider relationship prospects. So having a wife or a serious gf would rule him out for that reason. I wouldn't want to get involved with a guy knowing it likely wouldn't go anywhere, plus I wouldn't want to deal with the drama if she found out or get a reputation as a homewrecker.

Has nothing to do with loyalty to the woman.

87AudreyHorne · 2019-04-25T19:33:14+00:00

I wouldn't see it as a moral issue because if he wants to cheat, then its as if he already cheated and it has nothing to do with me.

However I dont think i would be interested in a person who is a cheater even if its just good fun. And the fact that he is sleeping with someone else while seeing me would be a turn off physically, even if Im the one he is cheating with

carrawayjames · 2019-04-25T19:29:32+00:00

You're never gonna get a woman to admit to that 😂

flamingoinghome · 2019-04-25T19:18:41+00:00

Absolutely not (possible exception: poly people, but even so).

One: I think cheating is immoral, and I don't want to do immoral things. Two: I am looking for a relationship when I'm going out with new people. Why the fuck would I want a relationship with someone I am now 100% certain is a cheater?

LeaneGenova · 2019-04-25T19:22:42+00:00

I would never sleep with a guy who is in a relationship. I'm not a homewrecker. Plus, any guy willing to cheat on his partner is a sleezeball and completely unattractive.

I think people who sleep with a person in a relationship where they are aware the person is in a relationship are shitty people.

FinchRosemta · 2019-04-25T22:59:41+00:00

90%+ of my clients are married or otherwise commited. So I sleep with married men in that situation. We even talk about their wives and kids.

In my personal life, no I would not. I may be a ho, but I'm not a messy ho. If I'm going have sex in my personal life, it's because I'm looking for a relationship. So if he's not relationship material (ie single), I have no use for him. I don't fuck for free.

ThisIsJustATr1bute · 2019-04-25T19:13:59+00:00

Nah. Too much of a hassle.

I have found that the majority of people who do this don’t actually care about the person, they just have this juvenile belief that if someone cheats to be with them, they are somehow EXTRA hot and sexy. Instead of realizing they are just easily manipulated targets that make good side chicks/dudes.

sublimemongrel · 2019-04-25T20:21:28+00:00

No I find that behavior morally repugnant.

Edit: no I don’t think I owe any strangers loyalty in that regard it is more about how I would be disgusted with myself.

[deleted] · 2019-04-25T19:35:13+00:00

I have a list of people I would totally sleep with knowing htey are married or dating someone else. I don't care. They're all famous though.

Orange_Paisley · 2019-04-25T21:44:38+00:00

I have no interest in sleeping with a man who is committed to another woman, and it would make me think less of him if he tried to sleep with me while in a supposedly monogamous relationship.

Unless it was an open relationship 3-some kind of thing.

Maybelowsmv · 2019-04-25T21:59:52+00:00

knowingly, no

i follow this girl on twitter who does. she finds it hot but was once naive enough to fall for one married man who subsequently dumped her after being found out and threatened a restraining order. based on how suicidal she felt, it isnt worth it

starfox863 · 2019-04-25T22:09:53+00:00

I would not knowly sleep with a woman who has boyfriend or husband.

slavicgypsygirl · 2019-04-25T19:41:01+00:00

I have & do bc I am not the person who is responsible for honouring a commitment

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-04-25T19:29:04+00:00

what do i care unless shes my friend. especially a "Girlfriend" which is a non existent thing

DXBrigade · 2019-04-25T19:36:04+00:00

Nope.

crystal_wb · 2019-04-25T20:54:13+00:00

Basically no. To me it's just a really bad feeling, I mean I could be fucking her and future relationships up by causing trust issues. Now I know I wouldn't be the actual reason for it, it would be the guy. I just don't want to take a part in it.

But I also think you can't generalize these situations. There's different kinds of cheating. He could be drunk and take home some chick. He could be sober and fuck his secretary. He could be having an ongoing affair with her best friend. Every relationship is different, has its ups and downs.

Now I know that you said it doesn't count when he didn't clarify it. But I once had sex with I guy I had had a crush on for years and he didn't really seem opposed to flirting with me. Anyway, I found out a day later that he was now in a relationship and to my surprise it didn't bother me at all. I didn't regret having sex with him, I didn't feel bad at all. I don't know if I would've still slept with him if I had known, but I think it's a yes. But I think that's because it was HIM. I'm not sure if I would've felt the same way if it had been somebody else.

Anyway, I don't know if this adds anything to your question but I guess my point is that in my opinion it really depends on the situation. I'd like to give you a clear answer, but I can't just generalize cheating, no matter my morals.

TheMarbleSlab · 2019-04-25T22:32:41+00:00

Nope. Because I am a woman and not a man, I have a moral compass.

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cattermelon34 · 2019-04-25T21:07:11+00:00

I wouldn't if I know before hand but if I found out afterwards I wouldn't beat myself up over it.

In the end it's not my problem If they cheated on their spouse. It's their baggage

ayeayefitlike · 2019-04-25T21:09:29+00:00

Ew ew ew no. It’s an instant gut reaction, even before I consider the morality question. I’m just not interested in sharing so it’s a complete turn off, even before you consider he could be a cheater - and on top of that I do think if the other woman isn’t aware it’s not a good thing to enable someone to betray their partner, and not attractive of him to betray his partner either.

GridReXX · 2019-04-25T22:12:37+00:00

Knowingly, no.

Though, I do know some chicks who used to feel that way, but have slipped and ended up fucking their ex at some point. Even when the ex was with a new person.

This also seems to happen a lot with people who have kids. Not saying they're always going to fuck their baby daddy/baby mama, but the relationship is already intimate because they share kids or a kid.

KikiYuyu · 2019-04-25T22:21:33+00:00

No because I'm not a horrible person.

[deleted] · 2019-04-26T00:04:35+00:00

No way. I can't sleep with someone who is a piece of shit. I'd also try to tell his wife if it was possible.

LifterofThings · 2019-04-26T05:41:32+00:00

No. I have (some) morals, and I've always been able to find unmarried dick of suitable quality with like... a bare minimum of effort.

This isn't out of some sense of loyalty to the hypothetical dude's wife, it's a matter of personal integrity.

shoup88 · 2019-04-26T06:40:51+00:00

If I were single and I didn’t know her and it was a one night thing, then yeah, probably.

If it’s not me, it would be someone else.

quantum_prostate · 2019-04-26T13:17:25+00:00

I don't think I'd be easily attracted to anything so invested in labels but let's assume that there's some individual that gets married with all the labels and sexual exclusivity stuff that I want to have sex with and that individual wants to have sex with me too then yeah I probably would but I wouldn't go out of my way to hide it either so you're on your own if that gets you into trouble: I don't care.

Do you think you owe the woman any loyalty?

Nope, absolutely not. I have very little respect for this whole label and exclusivity craze.

bonusfruit · 2019-04-26T15:13:29+00:00

You might as well ask for people to comment as to whether they think of themselves as a shitty person. Who the hell would admit to this. Yet it happens all the time

doctor_trucks · 2019-04-29T19:56:26+00:00

No. Thats gross. Why would I want to do that? Why would I want to sleep with a scumbag?

TopOccasion29 · 2019-04-25T19:14:33+00:00

I probably wouldnt care

ItWasBrokenAlready · 2019-04-25T19:33:27+00:00

Nope. If I weren't into him that much, then there's little sense to engage in so much possible drama. If I were seriously into him, then the idea of sharing would fill me with disgust and rage. If he broke up with her, poked her eyes out and brought me as a proof of his feelings, that would be ok though ;))))

redgirlthrowaway · 2019-04-25T19:48:00+00:00

Yes, I would.

Loyalty to his wife is his obligation, not mine. I don't know her. I can't really picture a scenario right now where I would be picking a married guy to hookup when so many guys are single but if I found him really attractive and the situation presented itself, I would do as I'd like without guilt.

I speak from experience. I've done this once and I still pleasure myself at the memory of taking what wasn't mine. I felt really powerful and the sex was incredible. He had everything to lose and I was still able to walk right in and take it.

Title	Would you sleep with a man knowing his has a girlfriend/wife?
Author	TopOccasion29
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Date	April 25, 2019 7:04 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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