Warning SPOILERS for those who haven't watched the show or read the books. This question is obviously inspired by Game of thrones Ned stark, Catelyn stark and Jon snow situation. For those who have watched the show or read books... you already know the story.

I lived with my parents close family friends for 4 years in my teens when my parents separated and had a crisis and the mother was emotionally cold and distant towards me even in my difficult times. The father treated me like one of his own and the mother hated it. I don't hate her or love her so i'm curious to what women think about this situation.

Hypothetically speaking we're in the middle ages and you're a highborn lady betrothed or already married to a Medieval Lord of another powerful house/family, and he not only brings back his bastard baby boy from a war but also raises him in his castle over the years. The bastard's mother is dead from childbirth and he has no mother in his life. All he has is his father (Your husband and lord of the house) and possibly other male role models knights, warriors etc, but has no mother figure. Will you step in?

How would you treat him generally and compared to your children? Will you be the mother in his life or will you be cold and distant as well? or Will you be just cordial and respectful without hating him nor loving him as you own flesh and blood?

Will you be angry at your husband and how will that affect your relationship? If you're married then it's infidelity as well, you'll have to deal with your husbands infidelity and raising a bastard in your home alongside your children. How will you handle it?